TTC First Baby. Anyone else?! New Post

[Delilah7]

Hi ladies. We reached the max posts!! @BambiOnIce80 I'm feeling ok, just feel abit silly. My flo app says I'm due tomorrow but I am always 28 days and always have cramps which I don't have yet. How about you xx

Morning ladies.

I might have to come off here for abit, unsure of how I feel. I feel you guys are having such positive experiences and normally post positive things and every time I post it's just negative and not ignored but hard to respond to. 😔 xx

Don't leave us @Delilah7! Obviously you're free to take a break, but you're so, so welcome.

Plus, I'm always on here whinging about my back and telling you all about my jizz syringes. I don't plan on going anywhere. ❤️

@ValidUser please don't think this is a dig at ANYONE. I guess I just find it hard to be involved in conversations as I'm always so bloody negative. I get why people wouldn't wanna respond 😂 just having a down day xx

You're integral to this thread @Delilah7! Not everyone has a magical TTC journey filled with rainbows, unicorns and kittens - mine has most certainly sucked so far! Whilst I appreciate it's important to try and stay positive, we're only human so there's no way we can manage it the whole time. The whole reason I'm on this thread is to be able to seek a bit of support when I need it and I really want to return that to everyone else on here.

You do what you need to do lovely, but please don't stay away just because you don't want to bring people down. You won't.x

No dig perceived! Just we'd miss you. But you need to do whatever is right for you. X

@BambiOnIce80 @ValidUser thank you. I guess I'm just feeling abit down and don't wanna drag others with me. Means a lot you guys would miss me! I dont want to go anywhere I guess I'm just worrying xx

@Delilah7, after all that you've been through recently it's no surprise that you're feeling the way you are 😔 We're here if you need us.x

@BambiOnIce80 thank you... I'm not trying to dampen the post or distract us from the amazing BFPS. I'm just feeling abit low. And the fact I have no idea what's gonna happen this month. We have DTD twice in 3 day's and apparently I'm near my ovulation even after I put my miscarriage ( put these in as a period ) dates in Flo. Just feel there's no point trying this month xx

@Delilah7, I totally understand. The BFP's are fabulous news, but there will be a few of us on here for a good while yet no doubt. My frame of mind keeps yo-yoing between really positive ("you're doing everything that you can, so you stand a chance") to totally negative ("you're unexplained primary infertility has followed you into this relationship, so what's the point"). Total head f🤬k.

I cope with stuff by being a bit of a planner, so if conception support vitamins, fertility lubricant, OPK's and DTD every day this fertile window doesn't end up with a BFP at the end of this month, I have a cunning plan for next cycle... 😉 Helps keep me positive 🙂

@BambiOnIce80 thanks lovely. My doctor has said that she thinks I should try it natural for a few months before OPKS and lube etc... which is like to. But I know I'm going to get really impatient 😂 I'm hoping I'm ovulating when Flo says as I'm doing good if so! X

Hi everyone, I'm not actively trying for my first yet until next month (in fact still using condoms!), however I'm usually on a 28-29 day cycle, and it's now 32 days and no period. Do you think I should do a test, or wait a few more days just in case? Was going to go get a pack of the £1 for 2 Freedom tests in Asda.

@starkid welcome lovely. worth a test I'd say, have you used condoms every time? any splits? Xx

Hi @Delilah7 thank you!
Yes we've always used them even when I used to be on the pill. No splits that I've noticed...

Ok I'll get some at lunch, might as well if I'm going to be joining you all next month anyway! I've already been warned I may struggle due to previous surgery near that area and therefore scar tissue, but you never know.

Hi all!

I hope you don't me joining in, im currently on cycle #2 and 6dpo - the ttw struggle is real!!
Its my husband's 30th birthday this weekend and have a family get together planned. So even though it will be early im hoping to test on Friday or Saturday so I know if I can have a glass or two, as well as also being the best birthday present!
Felt we timed things well this month and so are in with a good shot but not feeling any different so have convinced myself this isn't my month. Will anyone else be testing around the same time?

@starkid you never know lovely. just buy some cheap ones. If you're normally regular that's defo a tell tell sign. Xx

@Penny04 Hi welcome :) sometimes having no symptoms is the best symptom. Keep positive but also think it's only cycle 2 so it might just be your body changing! never know though. Fingers crossed xx

Delilah. You shouldn't feel you have to stop posting unless you think you would feel better for being away - if that makes sense! I'm more of a lurker but you seem like such a lovely and supportive person and I'm really sorry you're going through a thought time. Un-Mumsnetty hugs your way.

AF just came for me... end of cycle 6. Stupid but it feels like a milestone and not a good one. I really wish there wasn't the whole 1-year minimum thing on getting a referral if under 30 -- it just feels really dispiriting going on for another 6 months if, e.g., DH's sperm count is low or my luteal phase isn't long enough etc.

Anyway, there you go -- I have far less excuse than you do, Delilah, but I'm being negative too!!

@TakingtheLeap thank you lovely. You guys keep me going so no I wouldn't like to leave. Just feel abit meh. Oh hun :( I understand how you feel. Every cycle seems to get longer and longer. It'll come, when you least expect it ❤️

Welcome @Penny! I'll be testing this weekend too if AF doesn't arrive. Don't feel like I have any symptoms to speak of either, just a bit tired.

Also ladies I keep leaping between here and the other TTC first baby thread! Not sure which one is best to use

Happy Monday everyone 👎
Delilah7 god knows I do my fair share of moaning haha don't feel like you have to leave just because of that! That's the point of this thread 🙂
Sorry for AF TakingtheLeap 6 months for me too, I know what you mean, I keep thinking that statistically it should have happened by now!
I got a flashing smiley this morning, so fingers crossed my ov date might be a bit earlier this month!

@RanchoRelaxo I know just wanting the negativity to go away now. 😔

Here's a question for you ladies.
So nearly two weeks ago I miscarried as you well know. My flo app tells me my ovulation day is tomorrow based on me putting in my miscarriage bleed as a period. Now, we DTD Friday and yesterday and since Saturday I've had the mucus in my pants and on tissue again. I now have pain which I would class as how my old ovulation pain felt like. Could I really be ovulating again this soon???

Welcome new ladies 👋

Fab news @RanchoRelaxo that the whizzy OPK's are looking good 🙂

I hear you @TakingtheLeap - it's very frustrating 😔 I'm on cycle 4, but I did 39 cycles with my ex 5 years ago. I've being reading up on what has changed since the last time I went through the NHS process and it turns out there's quite a lot! Turns out whether your under or over 36 years old, you've still got to have been trying for 2 years before you're entitled to IVF... I guess that gives them a year/and a half to get all the testing done and investigate what's going on 🙄 This is purely for "just in case you were wondering" purposes - you've still got plenty of time to be one of the 84% that get their BFP in the first year 🤞🍀

Sounds pretty hopeful to me @Delilah7 🙂 Can't hurt to DTD to cover your bases 😉