TTC after pregnancy loss- thread 23 🐧🐧

[Boboelephant]

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Here's the new thread. This is a lovely supportive thread for anyone who has suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately known as the penguin huddle- this is the place to survive the ups and downs of this crazy journey.

Kicking off with a roll call:

Boboelephant
Age: 35
TTC #2
DS 2.5
MMC at 10 weeks in December 2017. Ectopic rupture in November 2016.
Cycle 6 post MC. Trying since September 2016.

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@Lilimum4 hands up for the crochet gang🙌🏻
Iv made a girl blanket, next will be a boy one.
Hopefully i will get to use them one day.

@TedLife im cd 7 so we are pretty close.
I know how you feel, you are not the only one who feels like this, i often have little sulks of frustration to myself.

Going to try smep this cycle too.

@Boboelephant uhh grapefruit 🤮never liked the stuff.

@Bobzybaby welcome to the group, you are definitely not alone.

@Secondtimelucky1980 what a time you're having. Have you been tested for natural killer cells?

Congrats to all the lovely posts with BFP!! Awesome news 😊

@hidcat thank you that’s really sweet of you ❤️ When I had ds (previous no good twat) I had a good pregnancy lots of the usual stuff heartburn, carpal tunnel, piles🙈 you name it I had it but almost embraced it if that makes sense!! Even though my relationship was doomed my baby being born was so exciting for me & my family are the best ❤️ Unfortunately I had complications & ds had a major op at 2 days old & was in neo natal but we are both strong & ds is turning into a real charmer of a young man (14 in August) I decided to concentrate of being the best mum I could & sacked off relationships & pretty much excepted that I wouldn’t have anymore dc’s (obviously being single) but then I met dh 2 years ago & he brung my dream alive again (dh has no dc’s, loves my ds like his own❤️ ) to have a bub together, I was very upfront with dh about my complications & despite what my body has been through having ds I’m in good shape even docs are surprised!! And being the ripe age of knocking on the door to 40 in January 🙈🙈 I have a lot of hurdles to jump even without 3 previous mc’s but with all the will in my heart & I’m “high risk” I am determined to become bloody usain bolt & get hurdling!!! I’m not gonna lie I am shiting myself but I guess that comes with mc territory & I know you inspiring ladies know where I’m coming from but I came to the conclusion that it shits the hell out of me more to not be a mummy again than to throw in the towel, it’s just not an option I’m willing to accept ❤️ I’m trying to be brave & I’m sure I’ll have my wobbly days but I know I and all of us on here will start our journey & reach our destination TOGETHER ❤️❤️

@Limum4 I'm not really sure. The reports that say it is useful for implantation generally recommend eating it until 5dpo. I've also read one article that said you can have it for the rest of the tww. They do say that you should stop if you get a bfp and also not eat it between af and ovulation. However lots of people eat pineapple and get pregnant so who knows!?
@Lovemysparkle wow it sounds like you have had your share of tough times! I'm so glad that you finally got your bfp and keeping everything crossed for you. You deserve it!! Also please do stick around!
@Funkyemzie no idea what's happening on your chart i'm afraid. I can't see another o point either but the continued EWCM is confusing. Hope you get an answer soon.
@Bobzybaby welcome and I'm so sorry for your losses. Hope you get your rainbow soon.
@HidCat ooh I have everything crossed for you.

Is anyone testing tomorrow????

Does anyone know if its harmful to keep eating the pineapple after 5dpo

@Lovemysparkle - what! No DTD?! for how long ?! Surely only in first 12 weeks?? 😬
I've never heard of this rule! I might ask dr S what he thinks?
But now I think if/when I get pregnant again I will be a big nervous to dtd after hearing this rule from your professor!
And please do stick around! We need your sparkly presence! And would love to hear how it goes- hopefully we will all be joining the pregnancy thread with you soon! 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽
Ah**@Lovemysparkle* I just saw your response to @Boboelephant* ! 40 weeks with no JKS!!!! How will you survive!!!! I mean I don't know about you guys but! I was mega horny when I was pregnant with my dd! Ahh! You're going to have to invoke your inner nun! ( somehow-?!? do we all have one?! I think mine is very well hidden if so!)

All the rest of you ladies invoke your inner sex goddesss ! always! Even if it's not fw remember JKS is a way of life - not just for fw!

Wait wait @Lovemysparkle sorry just saw your last post! Woah- you have been through so much! You truly are a warrior ! I have a really good feeling about this pregnancy for you- I can imagine how nervous and anxious you are but we will be here cheering you on! Any time you have a wobble or need a rant we will be here!

Sorry @strawberrye ! I hope it's just too early and your temps go up! But I know that feeling!

@TedLife I'm so sorry you're feeling so down. It's just really shit - sending penguin 🐧hugs
Also! I must add that periods in and of themselves are so shit. Even without this added TTC disappointment- so it's like hormonal overload and a dose of bad news! No wonder we all get so down about it!
Anyway our time will come we just gotta JKS and (try to) enjoy the ride

@Boboelephant fx for temp jump for you and bye bye grapefruit! Hello 🍍 ! As usual have everything crossed for you!

@Bobzybaby welcome to this wonderful huddle of warrior women! You have been through a lot and I really hope your rainbow baby arrives soon! Any questions on acronyms just ask! It took me a while to get used to this whole thing too!

Fx to everyone in tww! Let's hope this is a record month for bfps!!!

Sorry don't know why that came out all in bold

Sorry for being so lurky... rubbish work situation and generally struggling to cope. Fortunately have a very supportive GP but trying my best to limp on through the last 14 school days of term. 7/8DPO and a bit of spotting yesterday / today so convinced it's all over. Not helped by the fact my cycle has been properly all over the place this time (ovulated 5/6 days earlier than I really should have etc..).
Anyway wishing you all lots of babydust and will try to check in occasionally.
Daughter's near-death sepsis, Redundancy, Mum's cancer diagnosis, daughter's second bout of serious gastro issues, Mum's suicide, Gran's death, miscarriage (on birthday of baby due on Mum's anniversary), inquest all laden with an undercurrent of workplace bullying. That's just 18 months of my life. Not hard to see why I struggle to believe that I'll ever have a healthy, happy, pregnancy again! Sorry, feeling very grumpy today.

@Lilimum4 I don’t think it does any harm. In my last PG (I MCd) I ate pineapple core 1-5dpo but this cycle I have been travelling a lot and hardly at home so I’ve been taking bromelain tablets every morning instead (bromelain is what’s in the pineapple!) im 7dpo and still taking them so we’ll see lol!

@YellowDaffodils86 I’m 7dpo too! This is going so slowly...

Haha @zarala your post made me laugh!!! 😂😂 Not sure I have an inner nun either!

Hello All, just checking in for the day to see how you all are. I love the idea of knitting blankets. I'm a novice knitter but I find it a great distraction so may give it a try. Congratulations to all of you with BFP's, it gives me hope and lifts my spirit to hear your happy news. Hello to my fellow newbies, I'm sorry we've all found ourselves in this situation but so glad of the support

@zarala
JKS is a way of life - not just for fw! That has to be the funniest thing I've heard yet. And I think my inner nun is hiding really well

@Lilimum4 eating pineapple is fine. It's just that the core is full of extra special goodness that help with implantation. There's sold wives tale that pineapple is bad but it's not.

@Pampl3m0usse That's an awful period to have gone through. I hope things are starting to look up for you.

Just saw something on TV about chocolate and felt instantly sick. So weird!

@Pampl3m0usse sending hugs. I'm so sorry you are having such a tough journey. It's just not fair. I hope you have some support. Keeping everything crossed that your luck will change x

@HidCat please test tomorrow!!!!!

Hi ladies, I'm still lurking. Quick note if anyone else is on 3 mc's let me know as will set up separate thread as we go through any testing.
Stats:
Age 39
Ttc#1
Mc sept 5wks, dec 5wks, may 10 wks
Cycle #2 post last mc
Just about emotionally stable again, going to start ttc again this month as cycle nicely times with holiday. Yippee!
First gynea referral thurs 12th...
Really pleased to hear @littleemma cycles are sorted for wedding!

Congrats to the other bfps and baby dust to everyone x

@zarala you really made me giggle with your post😁😁 you gals always make me smile & I know it must be hard to prop others up when the chips are so low but that’s what makes us penguins 🐧 a remarkable bunch, I can just imagine us in RL all in a bar together going from snotting & being emosh to giggling like schoolgirls with what we’ve made our other halves do😂
I was surprised at what professor said about not dtd but he just point blank said No sex at all & we both came to agreement that when a man with as many letters after his name says that he mean NO SEX🙈 it is really hard as me & dh have always had a very active dtd life!! But we will do as we’re told & I will become nun sparkle with other ways to touch & caress lol!!! Sometimes I don’t know where I get my inner strength from I guess it’s from my mum bless her she was with me when I had ds & she never left my side & she is my inspiration & my rock as well as my dh he is one of a kind I have never felt such love from another human being ❤️ & my dear ds he is the reason I get up every morning all he’s ever wanted is to be a big bro, he’s brilliant with kids & his new baby/toddler cousins love him!! I guess when I’m having a fuck the world day I look at what I have & I know some people will never experience love like I have in their lifetime, all I want is our little rainbow 🌈 to join our wonderful family & all of your rainbows to come to you all❤️❤️❤️

Omg @Lovemysparkle that's so nice, pretty much brought a tear!

@Hidcat I'm going to be on here first thing in the morning to see if you caved! Do you normally give blood it that why you want to test?

Well I think I have my answer, just got some yellow/pinky mucus (sorry tmi), never had it before but must be start of af surely? If not then might pop in to docs to check it's not an infection or something with temps staying high.

Just to change a subject, my house absolutely stinks of smoke, got bush fires up on the moorlands near where I live, we're actually quite a way away but the wind has changed direction so had to close all the windows...its going to be a very sweaty night me thinks! 😧😳

@Funkyemzie yeah, haven't donated since before my last pregnancy and not given since due to having so many blood tests over the last 6 months! The smoke must be awful, the humidity is bad enough without that. I hope there's not too much damage up your way?

@Boboelephant I think I'm resigned to testing tomorrow lol.

@Hidcat that's very decent of you, I keep checking if there's tests you can have yet because I can't give blood due to having a transfusion when first DD was born over 10 years ago. Surely they're all my own blood cells by now?

I'm keeping literally everything crossed for you!!!! Xxx

Sorry for being a bit behind-off on jollies with my fella seeing friends in Brighton before our posh hotel stay win in Richmond. Depending on when I take AF as starting (initial gush, or full on flow day) then I'm either cd8 or cd10...last month had positive Opk cd13 and 14...my opk today was negative but I've had lots of ewcm (and I mean loads!) admittedly we've bd'd twice today as were on hols and in the mood but that wouldn't affect things would it? Wondering if I might ovulate really early perhaps? Will do an opk tomorrow morn and see what it shows. Would be great if I did o early as we have the fab hotel tomorrow and my fella is looking forward to his "posh bonk"!!!

@laney79 sending baby dust for your posh bonk. Have a lovely time x

@hidcat sending positive thoughts for your test tomorrow. Keep us posted and I have no idea how you have managed to hold off until now, serious will power!

@@lovemysparkle what lovely news, very happy for you and your family.

@pampl3m0use sorry to hear you've had such a horrendous time. I hope things are on the up xx

So I've been talking to my best friend tonight. She knows what's happened earlier this year because we talk about everything. She's just given birth to a beautiful little girl and has called her the name that me and DP were going to chose had we not lost the baby. She knew the names we chose as I was discussing them with her.

She told me that it was such a lovely name not to use it. Almost as if she was saying "well you're never going to need it". Anyway we kept chatting and we got talking about ttc,. I asked her what she did, temping, OPK's etc, thinking it took her ages because we were talking about it this time last year and assumed it must have taken her a while.

Her reply was that she talked to her other half about it a couple of months later, got very drunk and they conceived that night. Wtf!!!!!

I'm so pleased for her that she hasn't had to go through anything like this but equally I want to punch her square in the face for everything she's told me about tonight. Especially the name.

Sorry, I'm being silly about the name but I feel like she's stolen it from me even though we lost the baby. I'm just having a vent and feeling so useless and sad. 😢

@Lovemysparkle haha Nun Sparkle. 😂 I can't even imagine but it will all be worth it for baby sparkle!
@HidCat are you awake?? Any news??? 🤞🤞
@Laney79 I hope you do ovulate early and enjoy your posh bonk! Although as @zarala says do it anyway as jks is a way of life- not just for fw! 😂 not to be a Debbie downer but are you sure it was ewcm and not sperm? They look remarkably the same. Although fx it was ewcm and fw is starting! You may not get a positive opk for a few days, I get EWCM for 6 days before a positive- but it does mean you're fertile! 👍
@Funkyemzie oh I'm so sorry. This is tricky as I don't want to say anything bad about your friend but stealing your name was bang out of order! I would be furious. Especially as she didn't tell you or ask if you minded- of course you will go on to need a baby name! I hope you got some sleep and feel better this morning but you're definitely not being silly.

@Funkyemzie I'm so sorry, it's very inconsiderate of her. I think when you've not had to try or go through Loss you don't understand the magnitude of things like that. Hope you're ok this morning.