The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

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CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

@Bubblegum89 sorry to hear it reached that point but so glad you're back to enjoying life.

@Booksandbaths1 I'd just stick to guidelines for drinking and avoid getting drunk. Drink til it's pink lol

HellI! Can I hop back over here from the June bus please?

Think I’ve had a chemical this cycle, two positive frers and faint lines on ics since Tuesday, bits of bleeding, now negative tests and what feels like af beginning. And some bleeding, so definitely af beginning.

This was cycle 12 for us so feeling pretty sad today. Already had a scan and day 21 bloods last month which came back fine and was convinced this was our month.

Helll?! Obvs that was meant to be hello...

Uuggghhhh another fucking baby bomb today. These friends are beautiful, successful, and fertile so now I feel even more like a fat useless dried up old prune. Really struggling with it this time.

I've just had a whole weekend of being told how excited my mother is at finally becoming a grandma and how amazing my brother is going to be at being a parent. "They tried for two months to get pregnant you know and both smoke and drink so it wasn't going to be easy" both ha e done amazing giving up smoking and I've never been prouder of them. Yes mother. This is the son who once stole your car at 15 to go see his mates - were you not proud then? Ohhhh maybe it was the drugs and breaking and entry that made you proud! Damn right they should give up smoking!! That's not something to be proud of that's a necessary thing to do! Not to be harsh but two months isn't a massive struggle getting pregnant it's just a case of not getting lucky the first time! Oh and I hope he is a fantastic father because he's a shitty uncle who has never once sent his nephew/godson a present, card, phone call etc in the last four years! So congrats mother on FINALLY becoming a grandma. I'll be taking my son home now and fading into the distance!

Sorry 😢 it's been a rough weekend.

Lurker of previous threads so thought I'd introduce myself, I hope you don't mind.

TTC #2, on cycle 10. I am just about to start temping/tracking ovulation as so far have tried combinations of guessing my FW and DTD every 2-3 days and not worked so far.

Spanner was thrown in the works last month when a smear test came back abnormal and I need treatment for pre cancerous cells. (As if I wasn't frustrated with my reproductive system enough.)

@Spottyyellowdress I think hell was totally appropriate to be fair hun.

@SparkwoodAnd21 I'm so sorry. Just remember that no matter how perfect things seem, there will always be something in their lives that isn't.

@nearlysummer2018 omg what an inconsiderate list of things to say! I hope you're ok?

@Tisfortired I hope the treatment was successful and there's no left over complications for you! So sorry. xx

@Bubblegum89 ahhh love it's nice to hear from you xxx

Happy gin day...currently tucking into one I deserve it!

Still got lower back pain and trying not to Google it as a symptom argh!!

@SparkwoodAnd21 oh no I hate baby bombs and I'm about to get another one this week. I know she's pregnant because I can tell...i have a sixth sense now about these things!

God, a lot of stressful times on this thread. Baby bombs suck, sympathies and more all round.

Tisfortired that must be extremely frustrating, I hope treatment did what it needed to.

Sorry to hear of your chemical too spottyyellow.
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Bubblegum* I'm glad to see you're about still, and so happy to hear stopping ttc has been positive. I'm good. We've discovered we're having a boy, and the news seems to have finally settled a lot of my awful anxiety. For now anyway.

I really don’t know what possessed me to take a pregnancy test early this morning, considering I know I’m not ovulating, or why I was irrationally upset about it being predictably negative. I guess the optimist in me thought maybe there’s a chance I ovulated without knowing while we were overseas and got lucky with the timing and the sex. Even though the doctor part of me knows that’s incredibly unlikely.

I’d also just like to say thank you to all of you on here, though you’re (mostly I assume) on the other side of the world from me here in Sydney, you all make me feel like I’m not alone in this horribleness.

First appointment with fertility specialist on Wednesday.

Awww love @BGDino I did that before I went for my appointment just yo be sure

I'm thinking of testing Friday or Saturday been baby bombed today by someone trying for 2 months! Yes 2! And I'm so mad about something I found out she took drugs whilst being pregnant. Life is so unfair

Oh no so much cake required for all of us!

@Owlpatrol sorry to hear about another bomb. I got told at the weekend by a school friend that another one went to the GP thinking she might be pregnant and was already 5 months gone! Can't imagine that.

@nearlysummer2018 can't believe what was being said..! People have NO filter sometimes 🤬

@BGDino urgh your post resonates, I've done that before. Daring to be positive then realising life is too much of a bitch for positivity to help ☹️ hope Weds goes well, let us know how you get on?

So many baby bombs! Urgh. So frustrating when people say they been ‘trying’ for 2 months. That is not trying! 🤬

@nearlysummer I hope you’re ok? Sounds like a v stressful and upsetting weekend.

@sparkwood I think I know and hate these people! 😂

@limp congratulations! So happy for you and you can finally relax a bit more and enjoy the pregnancy. Wishing you well for the rest of it and hope you both stay healthy throughout 🎈

@tisfortired I’ve had that treatment a few times, infertility experts not concerned about it so I hope it’s all over and done with for you now. And welcome! Hope you’re not here for long- if you know what I mean!!

I’m at the start of fw, currently on holiday which makes dtd easier. Last fw we only managed 2 sex sessions so we’ve got to do more this cycle! TTC has wiped out mine and OH sex drive.

Hi all, wondering if I can join have been a lurker for a while and you all seem so nice.

Age 24, ttc #1 Cycle 8 - which I realise isn't long really. But each month is getting harder especially when this month period has arrived 9 days late, should have known it would have when tested at 1 day late and got a BFN but I stupidly got my hopes up as each day went on. Cue tears in the toilet at work

DH is possibly going away with work for a few weeks and with being 9 days late we will have no hope this month. More tears, feeling stupidly sorry for myself I'm not usually like this.

Being 24 I stupidly thought this would be easy. Stupid me!

@Countrygirl94 I'm 26. Feels like life is a right bitch doesn't it? Meant to be in our prime yada yada. I've been TTC about the same time as you. Not long compared to many on here, but long enough to torment yourself and be resentful when people manage to fall pregnant as easily as I sneeze

Thank you Lexie, me too!

Countrygirl and Orcinus it sucks. Whether you are a fresh twenty something a slightly more, ahem, mature 40 something. TTC for longer than a couple of months is a bag of shit. Which is why the yam threads are so great - we all agree it is a bag of shit and you can own up to the poas at 10pm on 8dpo and that you secretly hate everyone. We know you don't really :)

Am devastated. Second SA is abnormal with 0% motility. Am so confused as the first test was pretty much normal but the second one has seriously plummeted. Gp said to wait until we've been trying for a year and then he'll refer us for ivf. Has anyone else experienced inconsistent Sa samples?

CD20 here and have only managed to DTD once this FW as my HSG was horrific and I was in agony and bleeding for a week afterwards! Thank you for whoever warned me; I think it was @FairyAnn ?

@OrcinusOrca feels like I've been lied too.
Doesn't help that after getting married last year everyone asked "thinking of babies yet?" I know they mean well but brushing it off now is getting hard.

@LimpLettice I've followed your journey for a while (honestly I'm not a stalker). Congratulations, I hope your having a totally boring pregnancy.

Hi @Hopeislost, yes that was me. Sorry you had to go through that too. Some of us seem to feel it worse than others.

We've just been told our referral appointment has been pushed back a month, so that's another month of waiting...

@bridget33 no my dp won't even do the test. I could slate him for it but I can't he really doesn't want to and because he's got two from previous doesn't think he needs to plus he's the sort of man who is very stubborn. So I have to keep gently reminding him....whilst feeling totally un pregnant. This ttc sucks!

In other news the baby bomb I've got I actually feel happy for her. Which is weird when I was first ttc I was totally green eyed monster maybe I've turned a corner or something.

I feel so un pregnant today I'm so mardy as well because my job sucks and I can't do anything about it

Official mad yammer alert!!!! Just checked IF I was pregnant this month id be due on my birthday. Clearly just jinxed it. Please tell me I'm not the only one who checks my due date ever month? permission to slap me with a wet fish

Ho ladies, a weird question as to when Late is late. I'm cd26 and have zero anything except a cold. My fp has, for the last 6 cycles been 24-26 days long. Does this mean tomorrow is late if it doesn't appear? Or do I go by the longest cycle I've ever had and was till day 86? I'm only 12dpo if that helps as I got my clear blue digital peak on cd 12 and 13.