The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

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CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

Hi all feeling really crappy this morning, bfn again and I'm sure af on its way now, why why why did I have 3 days spotting 5 days before af due. Life is so cruel

@owlpatrol... Im sorry to hear that. :( That really is cruel.

Af arrived I have no idea why I've randomly had a 28 day cycle! Anyway I wish I could say onwards and upwards but I really thought I had IB but alas not to be had. Onto a massive all day breakfast for dinner and eat my sorrows with sausages and baked beans

Oh crap, I'm so sorry @Owlpatrol My body quite often does random annoying things like that to get my hopes up (and then dash them). Get yourself a lovely glass of wine/tasty chocolate/long hot bubble bath/favourite film to watch.x

@Booksandbaths1 thanks chick, I'm going to mention it to the doctor when I see her next

Sorry @Owlpatrol, that's rotten. Same happened to be a few months back and I wondered whether it had been a chem. My FP due tomorrow or Wed, and just been baby bombed by incredibly unhealthy, obese, much older cousin. I feel like a total bitch because all I can think of is 'how can she manage but not me?!?!'. Maybe she struggled for years, I don't know (so I should be kinder!). Even though FP isn't here yet I had a gin.

@Chooklass ah me too, no alcohol in the house so all I could manage was a chocolate hob nob 😂

Sorry your back at CD1 owl patrol. Here's to a luckier cycle for you 🤞

I've gone on some weird obsessive fitness crusade and it wasn't until I came on here straight after an "i ate cake earlier workout" that I've realised why. Hopefully it actually helps x

Ladies, I think I’m going mad.... day 31 and according to Ovia, now 2 days late. I’ve had an awful taste in my mouth all day and when I eat everything tastes overwhelmingly strong in flavour. Im terrifies I’m just convincing myself of that though?!

Can’t bring myself to test in case it’s another negative.....
Can someone please be my voice of reason?!

Hi ladies

Just catching up after a few days off mn, sorry to hear it’s all still crappy TTC for the yammers.

@maddiie I can’t believe you have a 40min session, I am seriously impressed with your OH. We’ve had a few non finishing episodes, the guys are also under so much pressure and having to perform on demand is proving very difficult in our house!

So frustrating for you @owl I agree we’re so in tune with our bodies and watching/feeling every tiny change. I had a chemical last cycle and am now feeling my sore boobs constantly to see if they’re as sore as last month or just normal sore pre FP. 🙄 I swear I’m going insane.

Sorry about the baby bomb @chooklass

@teacher what’s the longest cycle you’ve ever had? I can’t bear to see a negative and would hold off but if you can face it then test. 🤞 for you!

Thanks @Lexiejean. Im pretty regular and often start the day earlier than the app says. My only exception was my initial week-late period, 18 months ago, that sparked the broodiness.
@Massive - 40 minutes??!? Wow!
Baby bombs are hideous @chooklass. I’ve had loads in the last few months 😔

Good luck @Teachermummy83 I hope it's your month.

I had my hycosy this morning - it took almost an hr what with ultrasounds too. I'm certainly glad it's over with - apparently tubes seem clear. We had an ivf appmt yesterday too. Had bloods for HIV and hepatitis as they have to check them before any treatment. Quite daunting. Oh and we're moving house tomorrow to a place we've bought. All change at the moment!

@LexieJean oh sorry to hear about the chemical - did you get a positive test? That must be so gutting.x

Good luck with the move @Booksandbaths1 and bet the IVF appt was scary but atleast things are in motion!

Feeling particularly low about it all today, feel like I'm surrounded by people getting pregnant without even trying (another one of my friends this morning announced her "massive little surprise") and I confided in another friend last night about my issues ttc and all she said was "you're 24 how are you struggling? Should be easy at your age" aaaand now I feel 400 times worse.

There's just no one I can talk to about this in real life, all of my friends either got pregnant with no trouble or are still so young they're not even thinking about it yet.

So sorry @owlpatrol that FP got to you.

Im thinking that we are out this month too.. currently curled up in bed feeling rotten! All that partying has caught up with me.. shouldnt have had such a f*ck it attitude. How on earth is a baby meant to implant when im fighting this. [Sad]

I'm so sorry to hear all the baby bombs this sucks! I'm so sick of hearing about how pregnant this girl at work feels, literally she's even pinned a picture of her scan to work work notice board! Really!?! Who does that!

@Booksandbaths1 house move sounds good, good luck tomorrow and have a cheeky celebratory wine!

I've actually surprising had a good day, it's a relief when af comes because the week build up is so brutal. But I'm on v heavy I have literally had to go to the loo every 2 hours!

Gah! I really really want a coffe but because I’m in my 2ww I’ve banned myself. So bloody irritating as no doubt my FP will arrive next week and I’ll have forgone a tasty coffee for nothing. TTC sucks.

@Owlpatrol I love when AF eventually turns up cause atleast its a clean slate. Hoping this next month will bring us all BFP 

@LexieJean Not tempted by a nice decaf?

I had my blood tests this morning, find out results tomorrow and if they come back clear I'm back down the docs for some hormone tests. Atleast the balling is rolling eh..

Anyone else seem to be right in the middle of this storm? DH left the windows down on his car over night and I'm still in work so haven't seen the damage but from the language in his texts I'd assume it's pretty bad

Good luck with the tests @maddiie Hopefully they give you an idea of why your cycles are so long and you can get some next steps to making it easier. I saw your comment about the friend who said getting pregnant should be 'easy at your age' - I bet you were fuming. So insensitive!

Yes @Owlpatrol dh and I cracked open a bottle of bubbly last night as first night in new home. It's a bit stressy as feels quite like a 'family home' and I'm sure his parents will make a comment about why aren't we having a baby when they visit this weekend. Stuff it, it's a lovely house and if no baby in the coming years then it'll be a dog and a massive fuck off wine rack 😀 (tbh maybe them anyway)!

Ha! @books I think you’re onto something there: what to do with the spare rooms we naively thought would be filled with children

@maddiie my acupuncturist put the fear into me saying she’d rather I had a proper coffee once a week than decaf because of the chemicals they use to make it decaf!

Oh my god.. I just paid for our IVF cycles! I feel sick.. Due to start in a couple of weeks.

Feeling sick and very poor.

Eeeek @pinkemi that's big news! I might be in a similar position next week as we have scheduled a pre ivf start appmt. Do they ask for full payment up front?

@Booksandbaths1 yep! We had to pay the full amount two weeks prior to the cycle starting. Its to make sure they can order the medication etc and make sure it gets to us in time (incase FP starts early for some reason.)

Im glad someone is excited about it.. I'm not! haha Went to our injection teach this morning and felt a bit woozy just looking at those needles. Really am not great with them.. Hoping DH can help out!

Yes @pinkemi it must feel really daunting. Are you paying for a few cycles or just one? I know you can get deals if you pay for a few in advance but I think I'm a bit too hesitant to go for that. Plus we should qualify for our nhs cycle next spring.

So because of the amount of medication i will need (cries), 1 cycle would cost us something stupid like £7k.

The clinic im going to do a package for 3 rounds at just under £9k plus any extras you want like egg freezing etc.

Seeing as the consultant was so doom and gloom about it working first round , we decided to go for the multi cycle... hence why i now feel so poor! Haha there goes our rainy day fund.

Sadly i dont qualify for NHS.. not until i lose about 3 stone and ive really really struggled with that. Especially now.. i seem to have this "F*ck it attitude" which i cant seem to shake... which is bad! Im close to the cut of BMI at the moment.. i need to work hard the next couple of weeks to get it down to a more comfortable position so they dont cancel before we have even started.

Good luck @Pinkemi. Try not to fret about the injections. They're actually very straightforward.

I used pens (auto injects) for most of my meds and honestly it was fine, the anticipation was the worst. Even the ones that were needles and syringes were fine really. It stung a bit.

Do be prepared for how much it all fucks with your head though. It's a lot of pressure on you. I did a lot of mindfulness and meditation. Even so I fully cracked up half way through and regretted starting.