The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

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CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

@Pinkemi oh I am totally the same and everything you said resonates with me currently sitting here with a mild hangover after a bottle of wine last night, despite being in the tww honestly like most of us here I'm sure we've tried everything, drinking, not drinking, cutting caffeine, exercise and NOTHING works lol. I have been cutting down on carbs but that's not for ttc specifically that's because I could do with loosing a few pounds. I've lost about 5 pounds doing it.....dp is stricter than I am

Anyway anyway sore boobs alerting me to definate ovulation so I'm about 5 dpo. I've got some cramps as well I literally don't know what to do next cycle If I'm not pregnant, what I "want to" do is quit my job, be less stressed and worry about if I get pregnant when that happens....

Hi all. CD2 of cycle 10 and AF has me feeling like a failure. Mind if I join? X

CD1 sorry x

DH came home with a hire car from work to head North tomorrow, last three digits of the license plate are BFP. Is the universe taunting me or is it a lucky omen? 

Welcome @ImpatientMammy x

Awww @maddiie do you ovulate while your away? 🤞good omen. Where you off too? Sorry this is to big a thread to catch up on x

We saw an intrauterine gestational sac with a yolk sac! Measuring at 5+2/40 which is pretty close to the 5+4/40 from dates. Having a repeat scan on Friday to look for the heartbeat. Feeling pretty nervous about it tbh. Also feeling exhausted all the time...

Fully sympathise with missing alcohol, went to the hospital ball for my DH’s work last night and it wasn’t fun being the only sober one in the room!

Dino, that's really positive news! Everything crossed for Friday for you. I know what the wait is like, had to do it last autumn when I mc'd. Really hoping for you!

Great news so far Dino fingers crossed for a heart beat

@ImpatientMammy welcome!
@BGDino sounds positive, can't wait to hear Friday
@maddiie oooh sounds intriguing

I've woke up with a hangover (promised myself I wouldn't drink too much) and sore sore boobs, can't even wear a bra. Must not get hopes up, must not get hopes up. Boiler packed in yesterday so if it is our month, it will be a serious case of sods law. Either way I'm 6dpo so anxious to find out as eve!

Ooh fingers crossed 🤞🏻 BGDino!

Feeling nervous already and we havent even started.. just so worried about having to sort it out around work.. and then if it doesnt work. The doctor was pretty full of doom and gloom. Just blah.

@BGDino I'm keeping all of my fingers crossed for you!

@ImpatientMammy Welcome to the mad house.

@Owlpatrol very glad I was not the only one with a hangover on Sunday! haha

Now that i know we are taking the IVF route.. im almost counting down the days before we can start! what am I like. lol

Welcome @ImpatientMammy 😀 We can all empathise with the shitty feelings that a new cycle beings. Hope you are feeling a bit cheerier and are looking after yourself. Lots of self tlc required during this journey.

Thank you @OrcinusOrca and @LexieJean for the hycosy info. Work timings meant there was no sexy times during this fw anyway so hopefully I'm ok for the hycosy on cd23 next wk. Just hoping FP does arrive crazy early this cycle and scupper it as can't be done during bleeding. Did you guys take pain meds beforehand?

Welcome @impatient! There are so many crappy days when TTC but I hope you can find some support here- yammers rule 🤗

Yay! @BGdino 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞 for you

@pink I’ll be October ivf cycle too. Currently in fw- ov today but done nothing but argue with OH this weekend which does not make for sexy time! 🤦‍♀️

@Booksandbaths1 I haven't had mine yet, but my consultant said to take ibuprofen beforehand. She said it is uncomfortable. I don't have another consultant appt for four months so not hurrying to get it done

@Lexiejean ah good to know that someone i "know" will also going through it. sorry to hear about the arguing tho!

I think im coming into fertile week now.. day 10 for me and i used to ovulate between day 12 and 14 (although last cycle was day 16.) DH and I havent managed to DTD much yet and apparently hes away tomorrow (typical) so we will see. Not really bothered now that i know we are ivf-ing. Lol

So im having to use clear blue ovulation sticks without the holder..as the electronic holder broke and i refuse to buy any more! I was only using them to use them up!

Thank you so much for the warm welcome everyone. By CD2 I was feeling much better, hormones have a lot to answer for. Have many of you got children already? Do drs give you the time of day, I'm worried if we get to that stage they won't care cause I have one already x

@Pinkemi believe me I counted down every day until we started ovulation induction!

@LexieJean I’m ashamed to admit that I picked a fight with DH about whether his work would get in the way of OI + scheduled DTD before we started (not sure if I’ve mentioned before, he’s a surgical registrar so averages 10-12 hours a day and has to stay back randomly all the time).

Had to reschedule my 7/40 scan until Monday as I realised I’d only be 6+4/40 by Friday according to the previous scan... you’d think an extra couple of days wouldn’t make that much difference but boy!!!

Will be thinking of you @Booksandbaths1 and that hycosy goes smoothly.

@ImpatientMammy welcome! In answer to your question, first bubba for me and DH. Quite possibly our only as this whole process has been very challenging for my mental health.

@BGDino... you didnt get pregnant via IVF though did you? (I can't remember sorry..)

So today I spoke to my manager about possibly needing the time off for scans and a "day surgery" appointment. Im hoping that I can get the 8am slots so it wont cause any issues, but anyway I told her that I was having "womens issues which i didn't really want to talk about. It's not life threatening and ill try and not mess work around as much as possible." She went oh okay and left it at that. PHEW! Thats one weight lifted off my shoulders.

The only other issue I have is.. egg transfer may fall on the day that I am being a bridesmaid.... This is only if they do these appointments on a Saturday.. and if my FP arrives on time.

Gah.. nothing is EVER easy is it!

My DH thinks that I should warn the bride that I may have to pop out that morning for a "hospital" appointment but I just don't really wanna tell her. We aren't telling anyone else so it feels a bit.. weird to tell her.
I was going to wait and see how things turn out... as a lot of it depends on FP's arrival and how well I react to the medication. But.. at the same time I think if my bridesmaid was running away that morning, id want to know about it sooner than later.

Not really sure what to do...

Hey @pink happy that your boss was cool with your explanation- that’s what I’m going to go with too. Not sure if I need a doctors note.
I’ve heard mixed things about egg transfer and if you’re in any pain but I think that day is supposed to be better than egg collection. There’s loads of ivf specific chats on here so maybe get some advice then decide about telling the bride?

@dino I’ve resorted to texting ‘enjoy a drink after footie but then it’s showtime’. Ahh the romance! Last chance tonight this fw then the window will be gone. Argument on hold! 😂

@BGDino sending positive vibes, all sounds good to me for you and sending lots of baby dust to you and @Pinkemi for this next stage on your journey. I found it easier to tell my boss though I think she is treating me different now....

Planning on testing tomorrow I literally can't wait any longer I've been emotional all week, I feel like hormones are coming down and I want to drink at the weekend.

Been cleaning the house like a mad woman and I've been loving it! Also been hungry. I'll keep you posted, I know it'll be negative but I'm excited to see the result anyway as I know we gave it the best shot this month. And if it's not this month I am onto private ivf clinic researching x

@Pinkemi no IVF, I did ovulation induction with letrozole, plan was that we’d go to IVF if after 4 goes with the letrozole we hadn’t had any luck.

@Pinkemi @LexieJean @owlpatrol afraid I can’t be any help on the boss front as I’ve had nothing but support and care from mine... hoping there isn’t any awkwardness or trouble this fertility thing is hard enough as it is!

Good luck @owl

Good luck @Owlpatrol everything crossed for you.

Booked in DH sperm test yesterday, 3 month waiting list so back in limbo until then as they don't want to start any treatment until his results are back. Broached the subject of perhaps paying for it privately and he wasn't happy about that so just got to sit tight. On day 50 something of this cycle so just want AF to come so I know for definite it's not happened again and can start fresh, we've dtd every other day for about two weeks without fail and going to try and keep that up until his tests and see if we can get it to happen naturally. Really want to invest in the clear blue ovulation kit but it'll be so expensive with my cycles as I have no idea what's going on and when

Hi girls nothing to report, I had to let in a workman today and needed a wee so forgot to test! I randomly told this to dp then he got excited about me testing tomorrow, so I said it'll be negative so don't worry I won't tell you lol