The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

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CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

Hey @si1ver hope all is going well! Really good point about the ICSI included as with abc it’s an additional £1500

@Booksandbaths1 12?? mine is 3.3... theres no way I would be considered either. :( Sorry to hear FP arrived.. Mine also arrived on Sat.. one day late! (was beginning to get my hopes up too... stupid stupid.) Saying that London is pretty far for me to go for appointments etc.

@Si1ver that sounds really good! I just dunno what to do.. we have been trying for 15 months.. (now onto our 16th month) and i really wanna be pregnant naturally.. but maybe i should just bite the bullet and pay for it. We cant really fly away at the moment but its worth considering at least! Congrats btw.. cant remember if i said it or not. haha

Im off to google that clinic you spoke of though.. we are thinking about going to an open evening.. just to have a chat and see what its all about. Hopefully try and calm my nerves a little.

The biggest difficulty is that we seem to have A LOT of stress going on in our lives at the moment.. and I would hate to think that I was wasting all that money and for it not to work.. you know?

Urgh i dunno. this whole thing is a nightmare. SO fed up of TTC.

Hi everyone! I see some familiar names on here, hope everyone is as well as can be.

Hoping it's ok to join you guys, I know it's sad that i remember dates but today is exactly 12 months (13 cycles) since we decided to start ttc #2. With 1 natural MC at 10+5 weeks and 1 chemical (currently going through now) I know we don't have a problem getting pregnant, it's just keeping hold of the little bean that's the problem.

Just settling down now and hcg levels are back down to

Welcome @Funkyemzie ! Sorry for your losses - sounds like a tough 12 months

I have no personal experience of whether it's best to wait a cycle or not, but I'm sure some of the other yammers will.

I'm struggling to get back on the low sugar wagon! I did so well the first few months but now I'm lucky if I manage a few days at a time. How are the rest of the low sugar folk getting on?!

Morning yammers!

Welcome @funkyemzie sounds like you have had a really tough time, I’m sorry to hear that. I hope you can find some support here, there are sadly many yammers who have also experienced MC so I’m sure they’ll post to you soon. In the meantime look after yourself 💐

@chooklass every time I think about reducing my sugar I realise how hard that would be and chicken out so I haven’t even attempted it yet!

Hey yammers and welcome @funkyembzie I've no personal experience with mc but I've also heard about waiting a cycle. I'd recommend seeing how your body/mind feels in a few days and poss also calling your gp for their thoughts. Sorry to hear uv had such a rough year.

The no sugar is more like a low sugar thing for me. I'm trying myo-inositol supplement and it seems to really reduce my sugar cravings (I've read it's fab for pcos which I don't have but it was on discount so I'm giving it a whirl). Trying to switch my usual cake for nuts, fruit and 'healthy' banana oat cookies but not being religious about it. I'm more focusing on trying to up my protein and reduce carbs as I've read it's better for fertility and especially if we end up doing ivf. And I ❤ carbs 😆

Hi Yammers! Just popping in to see how you are. Sorry fp got so many of you, it really is horrible. Small consolation but we got our first bfp after 20 cycles, no idea why, I hadn't really done anything differently. I'd just started to look into fertility treatment too. So it can happen, but like I said, that doesn't really help. Just keeping things crossed for you all.

Funky, I had a mc last autumn. There's no medical reason you can't try again straightaway, they like you to wait a cycle for dating but no other reason. Just take it from when you feel ready. It took me 5 cycles post-mc to conceive again and, so far, all is well. Sorry for your loss.

Hi all, also still checking in now and again to see how everyone is doing. I didn't wait as long as Sooz but had 3 miscarriages / chemicals in less than a year and frankly a shit time, but am now happily 25 weeks without intervention.

Funky I echo Sooz, the wait is for dating purposes. I actually conceived a week after my last miscarriage without trying to which is apparently unusual. I was told by a midwife (in a non professional capacity) to try 75mg aspirin while ttc and low and behold this one stuck. No idea if it's a magic bullet but I'm still taking it, my consultant says there's no harm in it and she thinks it probably did help. Sympathies. Whether it's termed chemical or what, I still felt terrible grief when they didn't work out. My gp has even the 5 weeker noted as a miscarriage.

Not unusual sorry

Hey @LimpLettice and @SoozC ! Lovely to hear all is going well for you both and I'm glad you still check in now and then - your stories give me hope! X

Actually, I was taking aspirin the cycle I got preggers, on a doctor's recommendation (not anymore). Interesting you were too, Limp!

@SoozC and @LimpLettice - what dose of asprin did you take? I've not tried asprin yet so may as well give that a shot!

Thanks for the encouragement @limp and @soozc I often feel like the bfp will never happen for me so it is heartening to hear that after 20 cycles it still can. Send any tips our way! (rushes out to buy asprin) x

Hi @sooz and @limp 👋👋 so lovely to hear you’re both doing well, it also gives me the hope to keep on trying.

My maca tabs are about to run out- should I bother buying more or have they proven to be as helpful as yams?!

Hello and welcome to all the new Yammers and virtual hugs (and g’days!) to all from the Land Down Under.

Just popping in with an update. Friday 3/8 bloods showed slow oestrogen rise, repeat bloods this Tuesday gone 7/8 showed oestrogen is still rising slowly, will go back again tomorrow morning. Apparently it’s normal for the response to be slow with letrozole, at least according to the clinic nurses.

Treatment is almost all I can think about right now, I had a hot stone massage today as I had the day off, and my brain decided to amuse itself with different ideas for wordings for the “it’s time to do the sexy” text to send to my hubby. So far have come up with:

“Thunderbirds are go!”

“This is NOT a drill.”

“Do or do not. There is no try.”

“Unsheath your sword, sire, and prepare to enter the fray.”

And last but not least,

“The window of time for engaging in specialist physician sanctioned coitus has opened. Please expedite your return to our living quarters and impregnate me.”

(In case you can’t tell, I’m losing it...!)

Sorry BG that made me giggle.
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Chooklass* I was told baby aspirin which is not technically sold in the U.K., it's 81mg. I found some 75mg in B&M for about 30p so stocked up on that. My m/w advice came from my cousin as I was having third miscarriage - she is roughly my age and had just had her last baby but obvs isn't my midwife as such. I've read it can either help or hinder conception so pinch of salt. Still felt it was worth a shot as I'd get no help at 40 with a DD already.

It's shit and there's no denying it Lexie / Books. I hate ttc like poison, the intrusive thoughts and feeling of failure was overwhelming this time round. We need more yammer grads, and we will get them! Doesn't help having to time the shagging when its 12 million degrees and everyone's knackered and tetchy either.

Bold fail sorry!

Thanks @LimpLettice ! 18ish cycles here and no sniff of a bfp, so I'll give anything a shot 👍

There are some gems in there @dino 😂 let us know which one you go for! (Also- probably not the most relaxing thoughts whilst having a lovely massage but I totally understand it must be impossible to think of anything else right now) 💐

Yes it’s been way too hot for dtd! Although we did have a fun non fw related session the other day and the extra sweat was worth it!! it’s been a while since we had fun sex not scheduled sex 🙄

Those of your taking 75mg of Asprin.. is that everyday? Im thinking i should probably start too!

So.. we are booked in for an ivf open evening next tuesday. :-/ im nervous already.. which is silly as its just an information evening and nothing else. Bah.

Today marks the first day of the seventh month of TTC with no luck. I haven't posted on any of these threads as my closest friend was also trying and we had each other, she got her bfp three days ago and I am irrationally angry and feel like a terrible person and even worse friend. Obviously haven't shown that to her. Feel alone now and like I have no one to talk to. Sorry to butt in on your thread but ttc is shit and I fancied a moan. Wishing you all luck on your journeys

@pinkemi I felt nervous too but it was helpful and informative.

Welcome @maddiie It’s crap feeling so many mixed emotions when friends bfp- I have also felt frustration and anger then guilt cause I’m happy for them. It’s ok to feel sad about it, hopefully your bfp will come soon but in the meantime pull up a yam flavoured chair and join us. Moaning allowed.

Welcome @maddiie ! TTC is really shit, and the conflicting happy/ sad/ guilty emotions with every baby bomb are exhausting - you're in good company here 💐. I try really hard to remember that no matter how many friends/ colleagues etc get preggers before me, it won't change my chances of getting a bfp.

@Chooklass @LexieJean Thank you both. It's so disheartening. I feel like hitting 7 months I've got to that weird point where I can't really get help yet, or get it investigated.. but I've been doing it long enough to be really frustrated and turning slightly insane it's just awful. I do appreciate it'll only get worse the longer it takes as well though. She text me this morning saying no to be sad and maybe being around her will give me 'maternal vibes' and I can't even bring myself to reply So thanks for the kind welcome, the moaning will be needed.

Shitty baby bomb. My bro in law- accident which somehow makes it worse. I’m so upset and so pleased for them. First time I’ll be an auntie and I’m gutted.