The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

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CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

Here’s hoping this is a better week all round.

I felt sick last night which is waaaay to early to be a sign in my 2ww I know and is due to the prosecco I drank all afternoon and nothing else. But still....

@books that sounds really tough hon. It’s so hard to make new friends as adults and it’s extra disheartening to feel left out on top of TTC. 💐

The week isn't yet picking up for me. Went to see a fert specialist yesterday who described my ovarian reserve as that of a 40 year old (I'm 34 so felt like a slap in the face tbh) and told us to get on with ivf pronto but that our chances of it working are reduced. So feel like we're stuck between struggling to conceive naturally and poor ivf with time really not on our side. Hmmm. Hope everyone else is doing better. I'm so glad the sun continues to shine as that really boosts my mood ☉☉☉

Also wanted to send hugs to those with FP happening atm. It sucks but chin up ladies, we'll get there! @owlpatrol sorry that you and your dh had an argument. The stress of ttc can easily lead to that, be easy on yourselves and make sure you've got fun stuff planned in.x x

Oh @books that’s crappy! How did they determine that? Is that just from your amh levels?

On my way to gynae to get nhs ivf referral. Unless I’m too old since January.

Ah! Help yammers! Talk me down! I just checked my cycle and I’m cd25. Since I’ve been having acupuncture I have 26 then 29 day cycles, switching regularly (which apparently indicates one ovary slightly different to the other 🙄) and this should by a 26 cycle.
I think I hate this false hope just before FP more than I hate the FP actually starting!

@LexieJean yes I hate that hopeful waiting/debating/thinking/praying too. There is always a chance. I tend to give myself until at least 2 days after FP is due as a goal for when I can test. Or you could test now if you'd rather know either way... personally I wouldn't but I tend to know when FP is on her way anyway. Do you have any unusual symptoms? And yes, high fsh/low amh equals shit diagnosis for me.

@lexiejean, yep I’m with you, the building your hopes up is dire, I’m sure it makes FP even worse. Fingers crossed for you though!
@books, that’s a rough one, I’m 34 too and that would upset me too! Hopefully the specialists will have some suggestions though. Good on you for being brave enough to seek advice, I’m still at the burying my head in the sand stage, thinking ‘next month will be our month.....’ and too scared of what Drs will say if I go
Surely one of us will get better news next month - law of averages and all that??!

@LexieJean yes I'm with you too hun! And thanks for your support. I'm feeling better if not a bit deflated atm. Still on fp, it's so hot and sweaty and the last thing I can think of is dtd right now haha!!

Thanks ladies.

Yes @books I’m waiting at least two days- I can’t bear a negative pg test so I’m just going to wait it out. No chocolate cravings or spotty flare up as yet but I just know it’s my body playing a cruel trick on me. No poas until Saturday/Sunday. I’ve had plenty of 30 day cycles before I started the acupuncture.
In other news (ivf) we’re officially referred and just waiting for funding to clear as we went to a hospital outside our own ccg.

@LexieJean sounds like a good plan hun. Good luck keeping sane over the coming days, you got this. Similarly we go our nhs referral letter through yesterday. DH and I have been trying to wrap our heads around the fact that we need IVF this week. I had to explain the stats and how it often doesn't work 1st round as he hadn't quite taken in that multiple cycles may be needed. It's daunting but I'm glad so many options exist. Even donor eggs if my reserves are as low as the tests seem to suggest.

@Teachermummy83 Thank you. Yes starting the infertility tests was a bit scary at first but I do recommend seeing your GP if you've been trying for a year +. A few blood tests and a semen sample is all that's needed to start with. I felt that at 34 (33 when we started ttc) I would rather know in advance if we were flogging a dead horse (sorry, awful metaphor! 😂) and needed help rather than waiting and hoping in vain. Plus the testing process often takes longer than you'd expect. Fingers crossed that you don't have any issues and nature takes it's course soon enough, just something to think about.

I agree with @books @teacher Its daunting starting but it’s been over a year for us since we started having tests done so there’s no harm in having yourselves looked at.

Thanks @books I’m trying to stay calm and not turn myself inside out with wondering and hoping! I hope you guys are doing ok talking through the (really shitty) stats of ivf and which path you might be heading down.

@Books @LexieJean @teacher it’s such a big thing to wrap your head around, I think I actually went through the five stages of grief (denial/anger/bargaining/depression/acceptance... ok maybe I’m not quite at acceptance) when it was confirmed I’d need some form of fertility treatment

I’m on day 11(?) of an ovulation induction cycle - I started 7 days of progesterone on 18/7 to bring on a bleed, and I started 5 days of letrozole yesterday. Then I have a blood test on Friday (3/8) to see where I’m at, I think after that it’s more regular bloods and also US to see how the follicles are growing... at some point we’ll get the “you should do the sexy” text from the fertility nurses...

The drugs are definitely working... crazy mood swings... going from happy to depressed to irritable as fuck... on Thursday I pretty much lost my shit at my new/old boss (I’ve worked for him before this job)... not good and I’m lucky he’s the sweetest, most understanding man who knows what’s happening...

Sounds like an emotional rollercoaster @dino good luck with the tests and US. And of course the sexy time.

Stomach cramps for me yesterday and this morning. FP must be on the way. I consoled myself last night with a cheese board and wine.

Ugh, well ... HSG didn't work it's magic. FP arrived this morning. I tried not to get my hopes up but it's so difficult when even the nurses at the hospital keep saying 'loads of women get pregnant straight after this!'. And, to make things worse, we were supposed to have our follow up fertility appt next week (after waiting 5 months since last one) and got a letter saying it's been rescheduled to Nov!! WTF. After having lots of tests etc to focus on for the last 4/5 months we just have nothing now until Nov and it's overwhelming! Think today is the lowest point of my TTC journey so far.

Sorry for the woeful rant, need to get it out. Going to treat my self to all the lovely treats today - gin, cake, netflix, online shopping!! Then pull myself together tomorrow and carry on

Oh @chooklass that’s so annoying- why do all the shitty timings happen when you’re TTC?! Enjoy the treats you’ve got lined up and look after yourself. After having high hopes all week (much as I tried not to) I’ve had cramps for a few days and my friend’s boy 1st birthday yesterday. Great timing. That was fun. When we arrived I was the only non mother but thank god some others arrived later.

Yeah @LexieJean, it's just so tough some days! Also need to shop for two new baby presents! I'm feeling better already though - venting on here really does help sometimes

About time there were some more yammer bfps to give us all hope!!

Hell yeah @chooklass we’re overdue some positivity!

Glad you’re feeling a bit better.

Hi All.

FP due on Friday and Im getting symptoms of her arrival. :(

Have been in contact with a local private IVF clinic to try and find out a bit more information, such as how much time they think I would need to take off work.. costs etc etc.

Feeling pretty deflated I have to be honest. Diet has gone completely out the window again and I just feel overwhelmed with everything.

Trying to get my emotions back in check! Sorry to be such a Debbie Downer. lol

Urgh grey Monday and finally FP starts.

I wish I could cheer us all up! But I can’t.

Sorry @LexieJean and @Pinkemi 🙁. It's just so shit isn't it!

I'm having a really sore, heavy FP to make things worse this month. Going shopping on lunch break to cheer myself up! Be kind to yourselves yammers! ❤️

Hey yammers! It's soooo true, we're due for some god damn good news pronto - bring it on universe!!

@BGDino good luck with the letrozole, hormones, tests and sexy times. I've got a friend going through similar and she says that you become very used to the dildo cam 😂 She's had a lot of ups and downs from the meds so I hope it's smoother sailing for you.

@LexieJean ffs re the FP! Sounds like we're in similar positions re progressing with ivf. And poss @Chooklass too? I'm really hoping to do round 1 IVF in Oct whilst I'm still in between jobs but I bet the nhs cycle won't be that quick. And I found out our ccg withdraws funding if you've funded a cycle privately. So I guess we are at the mercy of the nhs system. @Chooklass you must be soo frustrated. The treats sound like a good plan. I endorse Queer Eye on netflix for a super trashy pick me up.

And yes @Pinkemi I hear you with the diet. I've had a blissful weekend in London staying with a single and childfree friend where we ate cake, drank cocktails and got pedicures. Sod the diet occasionally, this was so good for me emotionally. And a fab distraction from impending FP.

Let's not forget to live a good life whilst we traverse this ttc rollercoaster.x

True words @books (both yammers overdue some + and remembering to actually live whilst TTC) Sounds like the weekend off really did you some good!

Yes I think we’re at the same stage with nhs ivf- I checked and my local ccg allows 2 privately funded cycles. Although I did forget to ask how many nhs cycles we get. Can’t believe I forgot to check that 🤦‍♀️ But we’re going to wait for nhs anyway- hopefully it won’t be too long!

Hey ladies :-) Just checking in. How is everyone doing?

@owlpatrol How are you doing?
@bubblegum89. I don't know if you still log in but I hope you are ok :-)