The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

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CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

Oh for pete sake.. this month is definitely a write off. OH has been called away tonight meaning no DTD until late Sunday night. Currently sitting here sobbing. It just seems so bloody unfair!!!!

@Pinkemi oh hun that really sucks. Hopefully you'll ovulate a little late and it won't matter.

thanks @HidCat but i doubt it. Ive been TTC now for so long so I can tell when my body is ready.. and i'm getting the signs that its going to be the next couple of days.

I don't think i would be as upset as I am if it wasn't the last month of TTC naturally you know? I mean theoretically it is (the IVF clinic said no longer then 6 months) but actually realistically we will be trying for a few more months because we cant afford to go private and my BMI is too high for NHS.

So in reality.. I shouldn't be getting so upset.. but I just worry so much... the clinic really made me feel like Im running out of time!

On a side note... Last night i thought sod it.. and I ordered a book from Amazon. Its called "Is your mind fertility ready" or something like that. I'm beginning to wonder if my stress of not being pregnant is MAKING me not get pregnant. lol My reflexologist said on Wednesday that my adrenal gland always feels slightly inflamed.. and recommends I need to "relax" more. (Pfft) Maybe this will book will help. shrug can't do any worse! lol

@Pinkemi it certainly won't hurt. Have a spa day, drink too many cocktails and just say fuck it! We put our lives on hold for this and it really does take its toll. I'm really praying for a little miracle in the next few months whether natural or IVF makes no difference.

Yay @SoozC! Hopefully you can relax and enjoy your second and third trimesters xxx

Feeling for you @Pinkemi! Had an argument with hubby last night about the whole work getting in the way of TTC etc;

In other news 1) I’m still spotting brown dried blood 2) my fertility specialist emailed to say I need a rubella booster shot as my tests show I’m not immune, and I have to wait 4 weeks before TTC. I had a booster in November and it was probably my 4th one since turning 18 so I’m going to be spending the afternoon combing through the medical literature on poor responses to rubella vaccine. Our national vaccination handbook says if you don’t get a good response after a second shot there’s not much point keeping on giving further ones. The pessimist in me thinks maybe this is just another sign from the universe to tell me I’m not supposed to have children.

On the plus side it means I can drink the crisp Aussie white in my fridge without guilt (Petaluma Chardonnay if anyone’s interested)!

Well I've had some more cramps today and a BFN this morning so I'm having a little prosecco tonight. I really wanted that bfp for tomorrow but thinking unlikely now. I think cramps are getting worse as well so just waiting it out and trying not to get too down about it

@Owlpatrol I'm in the same boat as you re waiting for FP!

11DPO today, spotting since late 7DPO. It's heavier spotting than I think I've ever had. Wondering if I will even get FP, wouldn't be surprised if my uterus has already shed its contents! On the plus side my last cycle was 32 days and today is CD28 so hopefully I'm at least getting some regularity back. Very worried by such heavy spotting though. Seem to have such different issues all the time I think I'm full on broken

@OrcinusOrca oh that randomly happened to me last month I had no idea why!! It's so annoying I spotted since cycle day 20. Initially thought it was implantation but eventually went to full fp

@Owlpatrol what on earth is yo for us to get such weird issues like that?! People seem to say spotting mean slow progesterone and I don't think mine was especially high but charting and OPKs suggest I ovulate. Why is women's health such a stab in the dark?

@OrcinusOrca I don't know and my progesterone levels came back ok but I think if it tapers off weirdly one month randomly it can affect at the end. I just don't know what to do with myself my cramps have been getting worse.....wheres the chocolate

GIRLS have to tell you this funny story

Went into Anne Summers today. They had a sale on and I'm a cheap skate. So thought right I'll find something nice pretty not sexy just nice pretty so anyways went to get a nice bra than more than my nipple fits and thought....ooh wonder if they have any sperm friendly lube so anyways went to the "back section " and there were two old grannies looking at lubes so awkwardly pretended i was interested. Have you ever seen so many types of lubes !?!?! Then the shop assistant asks if I need help. So by this point I'm feeling obliged to buy something.....so I basically faff about for 20 mins then walk out. Low and behold there was no sperm friendly lube and dp can put up with Primark specials

@OrcinusOrca I had some monster spotting last month too! Between the spotting and my actual period I was bleeding for nearly 2 weeks! Weirdly enough I had a test for blood clots 2 days later (unrelated) and the consultant had warned me it would most likely be positive due to my weird period but actually it ended up confirming that my body had just had a bloody (literally) good clear out!

@Owlpatrol love it! I hope I still have a libido when I get to that point in life 😂

Love that story @Owlpatrol

Okay so I'm trying not to symptom spot but I am having something unusual to my normal behaviour - crying. I am crying at everything! I'm not a crier, and it may be due to stress, but I wondered if anyone else has ever had this?

@HidCat ooooh I might clutch that as my new straw. Body having super clearout 👌🏻 FP is here anyway! Oh well. This means I can scoff tonnes of carbs wahooooo

Morning Yammers. I'm having a clear out today and starting with the cupboards in my bedroom. I've got a bag of cheapy OPKs, some unused pregnacare conception and a nasal thermometer (never used). Don't like to waste if it can be avoided - anyone want them?

I have an unopened box of Wellman Conception, happy to post free to anyone who wants them.

BASAL thermometer!

Morning yammers it's a BFN for me again this morning so I'm not surprised. Really upset wanted to surprised dp this morning when he gets back from being away. Been crying on and off I know technically I still have a week before Af surely it would show something already as I'm 11dpo

@SoozC I'd love them if no one else has snapped them up

Ooh @wonky that would be fab! I wanted to try a basal (nasal) thermometer!

@LexieJean PM me your address and I'll pop them in the post for you x

Hope, they're yours! Pm me your address.

@Owlpatrol quite a few people on here don't get BFP at 11DPO, but let's be honest fate never likes things to go perfectly and that's what a BFP today would have been! What tests do you use? I've seen a few people find ICs really naff. Psychologically I could never visualise myself getting a BFP on one of them so I got rid. Same for the marginally more expensive one step ones in a proper plastic stick.

My FP has vanished. It's really weird I've had cramps on and off for dayssss. Think my body is mugging me off after a stressful week at work. If I had a stick I'd pee on one because that ALWAYS tempts FP into appearing. MIL and FIL we're talking about my nieces earlier and I found it sound hard to be interested in the conversation because I'm too exasperated by our inability to conceive thus far. Everyone I know around my age who actually is married seems to get up the duff in an instant.

@OrcinusOrca awww hun sending hugs it's so hard isn't it. I told dp I tested and he's been really good. I just use ic tests because I know I'm not pregnant really so it literally helps me to get to fp to pass the time. I have a few Superdrug tests in the house collecting dust now. Not sure what to do next my job is so stressful as well just have to keep going and go through the NHS has much as I can till they tell me they can't go any further. (I am aware that is terribly pessimistic but this is the yam thread Lol!) Not looking forward to work tomorrow. Hope you've had a nice evening xx

@owlpatrol feck sorry about the bfn. It's utter shit this long term ttc crap isn't it?
Interesting for me to hear about other folk's partners having low morphology as we've also got that issue. 3-4% normal... which surely isn't great, especially with lowish sperm count. Yet I've heard it might be ok if you can improve other parameters. Although tbh I think most of our issues lie with me and shitty ovaries.
@countrygirl94 I would definitely recommend requesting a 21 day progesterone test just to ensure you're ovulating.. you could always say you're worried about irregular cycles and think you might not be. It's a key thing to check.