Anyone else trying for DC3?!

[LittleTipple]

Can't quite believe I've just written that title...after a lot of indecision DH and I have decided to see where fate takes us. So we're not obsessively trying, but I know generally when I ovulate so we'll DTD around that time. Tbh we're still not 100% convinced we'd cope with three, but sometimes you have to take a leap of faith.

I've been thinking about it constantly and our ages mean it's now or never. We adore our 2 DC's and if that's what we're meant to have we'll be very happy, but if fate has other ideas, we're up for the challenge!

About to start AF and then off we go

Having a wee giggle to myself thinking of us all - dead exhausted trying to sexy it up to conceive DC3.

I swear I am so tired by bedtime! the thought of DTD every other day just wouldn’t happen in my house - Netflix and chill in my house is Netflix and fall asleep while it is still playing 😂

😂😂 my hubby actually woke up this past cycle to ensure we got our DTD in! So romantic! Or we sneak off whilst kids are playing and then panic that we might get interrupted!

Ha, yes it is definitely less sexy third time round. We were so enthusiastic with DC1 and took good advantage of DTD all the time in the name of making a baby. This time round the activity is a lot 'quicker' shall we say Two small children are exhausting and I'm all touched out by the end of the day!

@NoseringGirl No treatment for the sciatica, but I think I'll need to do something. The occasional pain now is bad enough, so dreading if I get pregnant. Last time my midwife said near the end of my pregnancy that she could have referred for physio, so I would mention it straight away this time.

I am worried about medical bits generally. Each thing seemed to be a bit worse with 2nd pregnancy, I just hope a third won't break me!

Mega87 we do that too!!

I think AF is arriving 😞 on the plus side my OPKs have arrived, no idea how they work tbf

@Megs87 did AF arrive? OPKs are a mystery to me but one assumes you pee on it and hope for a line?

@NoseringGirl 👋 I recongise you from the waiting to TTC board - trying for 3 makes us different to lots of others on the conception boards... I really enjoy this little thread cause we are all practically in the same boat.

What’s everyone planning to do re working once DC 3 comes on the go? I ask as I am very conflicted with my job as i am a teacher... I obviously don’t want to leave but find managing my job part time with 2 DC hard enough!

Hello @UntilTheVeryEnd 👋
I stopped working just before DS2. I do some volunteer work but am pretty much a SAHM. I absolutely love it. We're never actually at home, we're always out and about doing fun stuff. I sometimes worry about how I'll get back into work when the kids are older but I love my lifestyle now.

@UntilTheVeryEnd no not yet officially due on tomorrow so will see what happens then.

I still work full-time as I could find a part time job, I work as an accountant so there isn't much flexibility. I am hoping to go part time after dc3 as my work are quite flexible now :) I hate working full time and I would love to be a sahm however I don't think we could afford for me to not work at all :-/

@UntilTheVeryEnd I'm a SAHM now and for the most part love it. I had a good career and never thought I'd be happy 'just' at home, but I am. It feels the right place to be. I know it's not for everyone and some days I pray for bedtime to come quicker, but overall I feel lucky to have all this time with my babies. When I go back to work it will probably be in a different industry because I was working long hours and needed a lot of flexibility. I'd struggle to make it work with children.

CD 35 here. Pcos. Had a faint line the other day which darkened overnight but I think it’s a nasty evap. Had bfn of FMU with IC.

I’ve actually just applied for a job! If I get it would go back to work and put potential baby in Nursery as it’s a term time only job/gold dust! My other 2 are at school and school nursery so that’s childcare sorted .

@LittleTipple @NoseringGirl hope you don't mind me asking....how did you find dropping down to 1 salary? I'm trying to convince OH to let me stay at home but I earn the same as him so it will be cutting it in half

AF still not properly arrived and a bfn on an IC

@Megs87 it was gradual for us as I worked part time for a while after DS1 and then DH got a new job which meant I could stop working. I was the higher earned at one point so I've found it a bit strange to not be earning at all though.

@Megs87 TBH I was concerned about the financial side of becoming a SAHM because I've always been independent and hated the idea of being reliant on DH. I've got a savings pot that I use for bits and bobs, presents, paying for my car etc, but DH pays the rest. Obviously I miss my salary and feeling free to buy things without too much thought, but DH has been great and always said the money he earns is 'our' money and as long as I don't go mad, he doesn't question what I spend (it's almost always for the kids anyway). We paid off all debts before DC1, so we were starting from a good position. Yes, we've had to cut back, but what I've realised is how much money I wasted on tat, takeaways and unnecessary purchases. When there is less money it focuses your mind and I love looking for bargains now.

I think success financially very much depends on how you and your DH approach it. People have different set ups - some have a monthly allowance, some have joint accounts or credit cards that DH pays. I would definitely suggest a conversation to agree how your finances will work and ensure it is viable and that you are both happy.

I’ve always hated the idea of being 100% dependant on DH for everything - I know it’s dodgey to think negatively but what if for whatever reason we separated and I suddenly had no income to support my children?!
Saying this my hubby is now really good and says it’s basically “our” money and never questions what I spend. (I only work 1 day a week so my tiny wage is a pittance in comparison) He keeps saying he wants me to resign for like 5 years and go back (if I want to) when all DC are in school. This is completely contrary to how he used to be - very much into equal contributions.

I do enjoy being more or less a SAHM - this time with my DC has been so precious but I do sometimes feel a bit isolated- especially as my job is so intense and intellectual demanding going from that full time to only interacting with my 3 year old is taking some adjusting.

I was such a career minded young woman and now I’m having to watch my colleagues be promoted, and it’s hard! I feel very jealous but at the same time blessed that all the time in the world to focus on my career and only a short time with my babies - hence wanting to have DC 3 now to “get it all out of the way” at the same time.
Sorry for the moan...do folk understand where I am coming from tho?

Forgot to add... with work a joint account - both wages go into 1 pot and all bills come out of this account. We no longer use or need single accounts. I am in control of the savings pot tho - hubby would spend it all on tractors if he had unlimited access to it.
He is happy that I save but grumpy that he can’t see what I have saved. We are putting up an extension so funds are tight at the moment.

Hi ladies,

Can I join in this thread? I have two girls (nearly 6 and 3.5) and we’re after umming and aahing we’ve decided to go for it and try for number 3!

Hi @soelle I think we've all been at the umming and ahhing stage and then taken the leap! To make it less scarey DH and I aren't spending too much time actively planning, we're just leaving it to fate and that seems less daunting

Hi @soelle you are very welcome! It can be daunting making the decision but I promise this is a very safe space to air your worries 😊

In my journey to TTC acceptance I spent many long hours lurking on the larger families section of MN - I found it incredibly helpful in convincing me that 3 isn’t actually that big when some lovely ladies were conceiving their 6, 7, 8th child... plus there were some really helpful threads about cars etc

Love this thread and my MN buddies - I can’t talk to anyone in RL so having a place to talk here is just awesome.

Baby dust to everyone x

3 doesn’t feel that big to me either! I toldDH if it takes much longer we’ll have to go for #4 too 😂 he’s not so sure about that one. I’m so broody it hurts!

@UntilTheVeryEnd I’m a teacher too. I’m full-time at the moment as we’re in the process of buying a house. I have no idea how I’m going to manage 3 and be full-time!!!!

Does anyone know much about tracking cycles? I’m intending to go with the flow but the planner in me likes to know what’s happening! 😂😂

I track using OPKs and temps (I'm a bit obsessive because of how long TTC has taken us for the other two!)
I used to use a BBT thermometer for my temps and input it all into fertility friend but I use an Ava bracelet now.

Ladies I'm having a little freak out! According to Fertility Friend I was due to ovulate at the weekend, but looking back at a few things I'd noted, I had ovulation type pains on CD7 which was last Tuesday. We BD'd Wednesday night as DH was about to go away for a week and I thought ovulation was this weekend.

I've had 6 days of EWCM which is strange for me, but it makes the sensible side of me think I haven't ovulated yet. FF still showing as fertile, but I haven't done OPKs or temping, so not sure how much I can trust FF. The last two days I've had distinct pregnant type feelings and I'm just wondering is it possible I o'd on CD7 and caught the egg with BD the following night!? I know this is highly unlikely, but I just feel off - backache, gurgling tummy, gassy, TMI but I feel wet and last night I almost hurled at the smell of DCs dinner.

I'm trying to keep the symptom spotting in check but I am a bit freaked out! I'd have three DCs aged three and under

OK I'm calming down...have just googled ovulation symptoms and everything I have ties in. As I've still got EWCM I think I'm maybe late to ovulate. Not sure why the thought of successful conception terrifies me! It's what I want in my heart, but the sudden realisation that I could be a mother of three was a bit overwhelming!

Totally understandable freak out @LittleTipple - I think we all will “freak out” a little when we actually do conceive... it’s one thing to see how it goes and try but not try... it’s a very different thing to seeing the BFP! Breathe and remember it is what you want and yes it is scary as shit but after you get over the initial “holy shit” moment you will be just fine and excited 😊
Apps are great but not hard data, just predictions - maybe try OPKs to narrow down your peak? Or just DTD every few days and cover your bases (pun slightly intended 😉)