Anyone else trying for DC3?!

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Can't quite believe I've just written that title...after a lot of indecision DH and I have decided to see where fate takes us. So we're not obsessively trying, but I know generally when I ovulate so we'll DTD around that time. Tbh we're still not 100% convinced we'd cope with three, but sometimes you have to take a leap of faith.

I've been thinking about it constantly and our ages mean it's now or never. We adore our 2 DC's and if that's what we're meant to have we'll be very happy, but if fate has other ideas, we're up for the challenge!

About to start AF and then off we go

charliehen I'm so sorry. Hugs x

So sorry to hear this x

So sorry to hear charliehen. I know you said you will take a break. But while you are taking a break perhaps you could try things to help extend the lutheal phase? I wish I had started this month. This evening I’m going to buy yams, veggies and salmon. Plus take vitamins today and have some oranges. Will research more on the types of food to have and also if things don’t work out this month I will do acupuncture etc. I did this before when I was in my 20s and have 21 day cycles. I was able to get 28 day cycles for 10 years.

I am officially confused. CD16, AF stopped CD8. Wouldn't normally expect to ovulate for another couple of weeks at least and indeed I've had no symptoms. Except suddenly today, when I've had stretchy cm - but all red/brown, with one streak of blood. There's no bleeding as such, it's all contained within the cm. I've never had anything similar.

No idea what it is, but am panicking it's ovulation bleeding and I've missed the boat (tiredness and ill health meaning we haven't been up to much the last few days). So am going to have to jump DH tonight just in case . . . How romantic! PCOS is so frustrating, this utter randomness just feels like an extra hurdle

Wingingit3211, sorry you are feeling down. It is difficult when others are getting pregnant when you really want to as well. But also, if it is your friend she would tell you she was pregnant wouldn’t she? Even if you are struggling you are still your friends friend aren’t you? My best friend struggled to get pregnant with her first. We both were pregnant same time and she miscarried, but still was there for me and wanted to know how my pregnancy was going etc. It took her a couple more years to conceive her first, but now she has 3 beautiful dc and a 4th on the way! Fertility works in funny ways. My first two were conceived first try. Now I’m entering cycle 3 and worried about my fertility as I’m 5 years older. Wish my husband didn’t wait so long to agree for us to try for a third. But anyway, I know it’s hard this rollercoaster of trying and it not happening. But try to not let it get you so down when others experience positive news.

Yeah I am her friend. Just clearly a shit one for being upset by this. We also conceived dc1&2 very quick and number 3 we are on like month 10

So sorry to hear of your awful day @Wingingit3211

We two conceived one and two very easily. DS I conceived while on the pill and DD at the first attempt.

Now we can't seem to catch a break.

@wingingit3211 You're not a shit friend. It's natural to feel upset when someone else seems to get easily what you're desperately trying for. How are things going with your cycle atm?

@Wingingit3211 is there anything that has changed in your cycle or the way you live (meaning diet, exercise or lifestyle?). I suspect my bad habit of having one or more frequently two glasses of wine several times a week has caused my cycles to become shorter with spotting and effecting my fertility. When I was away for a few weeks and didn't drink much at all, my cycle magically returned to 28 days. So this month I am trying to eat healthier (I have also become less healthy eating), drink only once a week, take vitamins etc. Also, my partner told me today he has been drinking 4 cups of coffee at work....which I made him promise he would reduce to 2 max, as too much caffeine can effect male sperm. I am on cycle 3 now and it is an emotional roller coaster and I get down too whenever my period comes. But hoping these changes will help. And also, its normal to feel a little sad when others get pregnant, but what I meant was don't let it get you so down and that your friend probably didn't realise it would make you be upset, but also because she is your friend she probably felt she should share it with you. For example, when my best friend was struggling to conceive her first dc, I had found out I was pregnant with dc2 while dc1 was not even one yet. I obviously didn't go running to tell her, but when she told me that another mutual friend was pregnant, I had to tell her I just found out I was as well, as she would find out sooner or later and she would be hurt that I did not tell her early on, as that is the kind of friendship we have...and luckily 3 months later she fell pregnant with her first dc and with each other pregnancy, I was one of the first she told. However, there are some people out there, that might not announce these things to you in a gentle way, which isn't very nice. Or they might try to rub it in your face. Perhaps, if it is a good friend, gently let her know that at the moment its a hard topic for you.

I have pcos @mamabear12, so there is so rhyme or reason to my cycles. I drink alcohol maybe twice a week and exercise 3 times a week. Nothing new. If anything I’ve cut down in the wine. Should get some bloods done really as in pretty sure I’m not ovulating having just had a 45 and 50 day cycle. I’m just not ready to go down the medical intervention route. When do you stop.. when you can’t take it anymore or when you get a baby? I’m not sure I can handle it, so much pressure on my crappy body

Ah, yes, PCOS does make things more difficult. Did you conceive the first two easily? A close friend of mine has pcos and her doctors said it would be difficult, but she managed to get pregnant with her first two dc easily. She is now also trying for a third. Have you tried acupuncture? I am going to do that next week to help with my cycle. I did it over 10 years ago to help my cycle go from 21 days to 28 (not for fertility at the time, but because it was annoying always having my period!). It worked quickly. I also took some disgusting herbs to help and I had a clock work 28 day cycle for just over 10 years. Only the last couple years its gotten messed up at 25 days with spotting.

No problems with he first two, although that was 5-6 years ago Now. Not tried acupuncture, will look into it. My hormones are all over the place. Takes about a week for my period to come, 5-6 days of brown discharge (sorry tmi). It’s crap

Wingingit3211 I am in the same position as you, my last dc was born almost 5 years ago and I also get a few days of the annoying spotting or most recently pink or brown discharge leading me to think I might be pregnant w implantation bleeding...so DAMN annoying. Anyway, if you can do it, I would. It really helped me before with my cycles. I am hoping it will help again this time around.

Just realised that if I'm not pregnant this month that I'm on AF for a wedding we are attending. Noooooo 😩

I have never wanted this to work more than now.

Fingers crossed for you!

BFN for me and no sign of AF

Sorry to hear that @RandomUsernameHere any news?

AF came today which sucks as we're at a wedding Sunday so no fun adult time for us.

How's everyone else's journey going?

CD31 here. If my random bloody cm on CD16-17 was ovulation, then I'm late for AF (normal luteal phase 12 days). But I didn't have any other ovulation symptoms at that point, nor really since (though have had random blobs of ewcm). So I think this might be an anovulatory cycle. And I am really really frustrated by it!

Tested this morning just in case, BFN Not unexpected, but am now worried as to what that mid cycle (well, early cycle for me) bleeding was. And means I'm still just hanging round waiting to ovulate or start bleeding. We had this trouble conceiving our first and I'd forgotten how detestable all the tracking and wondering was. Feeling pretty low atm. Hope others are having a better time of it x

Sorry to hear that @Taylor22 and @BlackRibboner
Still no sign of AF here. Doesn't sound like anyone is having much luck at the moment

Just bumping.. name changed (was wingingit) but after 10 months I’m finally pregnant!

Just happened to see this thread, read your posts and congratulations are due @Napssavelives

Congratulations @Napssavelives!!!! That's wonderful! A healthy and happy 9 months to you!

Congrats Napssavelives! So glad you caught an egg, wishing you a very smooth pregnancy x

Congratulations!x