Anyone else trying for DC3?!

[LittleTipple]

Can't quite believe I've just written that title...after a lot of indecision DH and I have decided to see where fate takes us. So we're not obsessively trying, but I know generally when I ovulate so we'll DTD around that time. Tbh we're still not 100% convinced we'd cope with three, but sometimes you have to take a leap of faith.

I've been thinking about it constantly and our ages mean it's now or never. We adore our 2 DC's and if that's what we're meant to have we'll be very happy, but if fate has other ideas, we're up for the challenge!

About to start AF and then off we go

@LittleTipple I have looked at the multimac and it seems like a good option - my only concern with it is the minimac bit for baby’s. Been doing some research and it seems that to fit 3 seats in a “standard” car they need to be 43 width - a wee look in Argos has come up with a few (non plush) options of the Nania make. So it does seem doable if you get creative... I’ve planted the seed with DH about the car - I’ll bide my time and let him come to the idea on his own hahaha.

I think it’s funny how similar we are - I suffered from sciatica and severe PGP in both my pregnancies I ended up in a wheelchair. I figure hey, I’ve managed it before, once more wont kill me!

What are other people’s concerns about adding To their brood? Mine is defo transportation...

UntilTheVeryEnd my issue with a bigger car is that I'm not great with spacial awareness! I've got a small SUV at the mo and don't want to go too much bigger.

My major concern is being able to give them all the attention they need. I never want my two eldest to feel like we shouldn't have had DC3. I've read a few posts from people who grew up as one of three and they felt their parents couldn't cope and their childhood was affected by it. I console myself that we've managed well splitting time between the two we have, so we'd make it work with a third.

One of my other concerns with a bigger brood is holidays. I love to travel. I'm just not up for taking babies/toddlers abroad, so we've been holidaying in the UK for the last three years. I really enjoy it, but I can't wait to fly long haul again and have experiences as a family. It feels doable with two age 4+, but three worries me a bit. In terms of expense, logistics and not losing one of them!

I totally get where your coming from regarding holidays! We went abroad when DD was 11 months - it was fine but wasn’t really a great holiday cause we were so constrained with a baby. Since then we have bought an old caravan to go away with in the uk (5 berth luckily) and have been working away with that. It’s lovely but not really a proper holiday - I do miss the adventure and the sunshine. I am also concerned about the extra cost of abroad holidays with 3 but I figured that we may have to have less abroad holidays but I am sure that would make us appreciate them a lot more when the time comes. Plus the kids will always have someone to play with which equals more cocktail time for dad hahaha not me as I’m tee total but I’ll happiily pretend with a virgin one 😏

My biggest concern is cost of childcare- DS2 will start nursery in January and get his 30 free hours and this will save us significant money on childcare fees. The thought of another couple of years is tough. Plus clothes, nappies etc. We are thinking of our first holiday abroad in years for next year-
Could we afford it with 3? My friend has 3 and often struggles to find accommodation, resorting to hiring villas (more expense) or camping 😩 And as you say, cars. We have a Scenic but I don't think it would fit 3 seats. Plus I'm high risk for twins- over 40 and my mum is a fraternal twin which increases my chances! So potentially even more costs! Not sure what the exact odds are, must look at that!
My other concern is being outnumbered! But money is the main one.
Having said that I suppose you find the money and childcare costs aren't forever, are they? And an extra playmate for life for the boys. Will I forever regret not going for it?!

Well ladies - my appointment to have my coil removed is two weeks away 🙊 I also bought folic acid and vit D tablets today so it’s all starting to feel very real!
Anyone else any further forward with TTC plans?

Well I'm on CD6, with ovulation due CD11 ish. I've suddenly got cold feet and not sure if we should try this month or not! This humid heat is really getting to me and I'm a much less chilled out parent at the moment! I suddenly thought today, 'Could I honestly cope with another one?' Just wish they came out aged 5+, so I didn't have to deal with the toddler stage!

Glad i found this thread! Ttc number 3 atm, fell pregnant earlier this year but lost the baby just over 12 weeks. Was awful but we’ve moved on and ready to try again.
Fell pregnant with my two dcs first time of trying, now in my late 30s and its not so easy!! Will keep trying though as we’ve decided its what we want, but worried the mc has taken some of the joy out of pregnancy, don’t think i’ll ever relax if i do get pg again!
Af due thursday... so we’ll see x
Good luck ladies! X

Hi can I join? Currently ttc dc3 we have two dtd age 3 and 1
We always planned a 3 and were going to leave it until December to start trying and then at the beginning of the year I got massively broody when my youngest started walking.
We fell pregnant 1st time in March but then I misscarried.
I am currently in the tww and driving myself mad!
We have a 7 seater already as we needed the space for the dog too but I still don’t think 3 will fit across the back so eldest will probably go in the back seats if not. When I fell pregnant in March I really started questioning weather we would cope but since the mc I am desperate to be pregnant again even though I’ve had two terrible pregnancies with spd and been on crutches.

Hello @ithinkthatsenough and @Anyday88

It’s so lovely to see all these beautiful ladies trying for larger families... makes me feel comforted that I’m not alone in my madness 😂
@LittleTipple I think cold feet it totally normal! You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t question your decision- it is a big change and it’s one you can’t go back from but as we have all said on here that the regret of not trying out weighs the worry of upsetting the balance. Of course you will cope because we always somehow manage to! Just relax and see what happens in this cycle... you will never regret your children but you might regret giving up.

@Ithinkthatsenough I am so sorry to hear of your loss, it is beyond heartbreaking. MC will make you very anxious during your next pregnancy but hopefully as you progress past 12 weeks you can relax and enjoy what maybe your last pregnancy.

@Anyday88 I am also sorry to hear of our loss as well. I’m interested in which 7 seater you have!? I have convinced DH to go car shopping and try out cars before we change... heating your experiences would help. Also our DC are very similar in age and our pregnancies also seem similar. My DD is 3 and my DS is 1. I also had severe SPD in both pregnancies which was a killer... I do worry how I will cope a 3rd time with two kids and the nursery run (the doctor banned me from driving due to the severity of my SPD at 30 weeks 😪)

@UntilTheVeryEnd we have a nissan xtrail and we love it. It doesn’t seem much bigger than previous cars although it does have reversing cameras which has really helped.
Oh gosh that sounds awful, I was still driving when I needed too luckily but I was off work from 26 weeks. This is my biggest concern having two relatively young children reliant on me as I was told it would probably be worse each pregnancy 🙈

I didn’t realise how common mc was until I had one!

@UntilTheVeryEnd thanks for the pep talk! I'm going to go with the flow and see what happens 

@Anyday88 and @Ithinkthatsenough Sorry to hear of your losses, it must have been so hard. I'm quite surprised by how many ladies on this thread have suffered mc's. It really is more common than you think. Fingers crossed that everyone gets their little miracles.

Morning ladies, latest update is that we DTD last night, which will be our only chance 'in the zone', as DH is now away for a week. It's about 3 days until ovulation, so not expecting anything this cycle, but it will be fun to symptom spot!

Hi @LittleTipple! Any deed done in your fertile window could end in a BFP... so don’t count yourself out just yet 🤞🏻 I can’t wait for someone on our little thread to conceive DC #3 - I’ll enjoy symptom spotting with you hehe!

My DH is now away for 2 weeks - my app to remove my coil will fall while he is away so when he comes home we can commence activity with some real vigour 😂
I am really worried tho - he works away the same two weeks of the month - I have no idea how/when my cycles will sort themselves out - what if my fertile window is when he’s away? I was lucky the last twice that my fertile window fell in his leave but no definites this time - not really sure how we could solve this problem?

Hope all you ladies are well!

@Anyday88 thank you for the recommendation- I have added this to my “test drive” list for when hubby comes home. I had a tiny jolt of excitement in Asda yesterday when he took me to look at one the Harmony group 2/3 car seats he said “look how slim this one is, we’ll easy get 3 in the back seat with one of these babies”
Is it sad that this commen delighted me? 🤔

Hi ladies,
Can I join too? I have 2 little boys 4 and almost 3 and we have been trying but not trying since Jan. Starting to get a little disheartened so have finally ordered OPKs and Pro-Seed to see if this will help.
Total mixed emotions about a third as I am so desperate for another baby but anyelse have a sheer panic about the thoughts of cost haha! Xx

That's a difficult one @UntilTheVeryEnd, fingers crossed your cycle will sort itself out at the right time. If it got really troublesome, perhaps self-insemination, if your DH was up for leaving you with a little deposit!

Hi @Megs87, did you conceive your first 2 quickly? My first took 2 years and second took 1 try! So I have no idea if/when DC3 will happen in my 'before 40' timeframe. Hopefully the OPKs will help. I used them for several months with my first and found them useful for better understanding my ovulation. However, I just found I was getting too tense checking OPKs, taking temp etc. The month we just went with the flow we finally got our BFP. Oh yes, I worry about having a third a lot - cost, practicalities etc, but ultimately we're building our family and at the moment I'm letting my heart rule my head.

@LittleTipple our first pregnancy took a year but ended in a MMC, I conceived ds1 the cycle after the MMC and then ds2 was my first cycle after my periods returned after ds1 so both of those were pretty quick.
I agree with the temps I found it too stressful and it threw my cycles out. I just thought one month of actually knowing when I ovulate might help the other months.
How long have you been trying for? X

Hi and welcome @Megs87 - I am sorry to hear of your Mmc - I am very much like yourself I worry about the cost and practicalities of having 3 DC but I just can’t get the thought out of my head! I’m a planner and never In billion years thought I’d even consider the thought of a third but it’s funny how we change. I just look at my kids and think wow they really are the best thing I’ve done and I really want to feel that again with another child.
All this being said bugger knows how we will ever go on an abroad holiday but hey ho - can’t have everything!

I have never Temped or used OPKs but I used the app... I did promise my DH that I wouldn’t get obsessed this time but I can’t make any promises 🙊

@LittleTipple no sure how other half would be with leaving me with a deposit - how long would it keep anyway? Surely not 1-2 weeks?

@UntilTheVeryEnd totally the same with planning , I never planned a third but I'm not at all convinced my family is complete. Holidays abroad can wait for now 😂 camping is the same right?!

Hello! Can I join please? We're in our first proper cycle of TTC#3 (we've not been overly careful for the last couple of months though). Both our kids took nearly 18 months of TTC each so I feel like I might be in it for the long haul! I'm equal parts terrified and excited. My last pregnancy was awful (sickness, aversions, early onset GDM and then bad SPD). I also had PND when DS2 was born. Feel like I'm a bit mad to put myself through it again but we're all very happy now and would love another!

@NoseringGirl welcome :) good luck with your TTC journey and hope it doesn't take you as long this time round. Sorry to hear about your PND, hope you are ok now xx

@Megs87 this is our first cycle of going with the flow. We've been so indecisive about having a third, that we decided to leave it up to fate. Therefore I'm not manically tracking like I did for previous pregnancy's. We'll DTD when we can near fertile periods and see how it goes, but I'm desperately trying not to get too obsessive about it!

@UntilTheVeryEnd I've no idea how long deposits last, but probably not too long! Someone mentioned it on another thread, but I've got no knowledge I'm afraid.

@NoseringGirl hello! My last pregnancy was hard going too and I still get sciatica now. Part of me would love to be pregnant again (love a bump and feeling the baby), but I worry about the medical side. Just have to grit our teeth and get on with it!

Both my pregnancies have been terrible and had emcs with both of them so I guess at least I will know when baby is coming this time round. It only lasts for 9 months I guess :) can you imagine if all the pregnancies were complication free this time?!

Ah so exciting @LittleTipple I have everything crossed for you on first cycle success

I've been trying to ensure we DTD in the fertile period but never seem to quite hit on time as typically hubby is either working away or the kids play up 🙈

@LittleTipple that sounds very painful! Have you had any treatment for it? I'm looking forward to the having a bump part too. It's a lovely feeling and just about worth all the pain and general discomfort!

Thanks @Megs87 I'm a lot better now. I was luckily already under an excellent perinatal mental health team because I'd had problems when DS1 was a baby. So they picked up on it and treated me very quickly.
A complication free pregnancy would be amazing!

It's definitely a lot more difficult getting things done at the right time when you've already got two kids isn't it? We're always exhausted by the time we've got into bed.

That's really good that they picked up on it quickly for you.

Haha yes, one of us has a tendency to fall asleep putting the youngest to bed! And I'm not a morning person 😕 So glad I found this board...I couldn't keep up with those DTD every day around ov