Anyone else trying for DC3?!

[LittleTipple]

Can't quite believe I've just written that title...after a lot of indecision DH and I have decided to see where fate takes us. So we're not obsessively trying, but I know generally when I ovulate so we'll DTD around that time. Tbh we're still not 100% convinced we'd cope with three, but sometimes you have to take a leap of faith.

I've been thinking about it constantly and our ages mean it's now or never. We adore our 2 DC's and if that's what we're meant to have we'll be very happy, but if fate has other ideas, we're up for the challenge!

About to start AF and then off we go

@UntilTheVeryEnd congratulations!!

Fingers crossed for more bfp's on this thread soon!

We have finally made the decision to ttc I'm excited but still feel shit scared about the reality of coping with 3. On my period now so next week will throw out the condoms lol. Just wondering if anyone else uses lube when ttc? I used conceive plus with the last two but it's way past it's valid date and I'm not UK based so can't buy more this month. I've heard ky is to be avoided?

We use pre seed.

@Wingingit3211 - definitely ok to feel sad about it. If we can't get pregnant with dc3, I think it will be a big adjustment in my mind about what 'my family' is, and no matter how grateful I am for my two beautiful dc, it will be hard and sad to let that go 😞. It does make me wonder how many people get to that point, and you'd never know they were even trying...!

I’m trying to remain positive, we have age on our side. If I can just ovulate then we will be ok. DS was conceived after not having a period for 6 months. It is possible. Just a bigger age gap than we wanted. We have options, metformin, clomid. I’m just so broody it aches . Sorted through more of my older kids clothes earlier that don’t fit them. Found little baby clothes and felt a little what if.. what did we don’t get to do this again but I need to stay positive.

@sambababy exciting! Wish you a speedy and fun ttc!

I'm feeling very blue. My dh and I took so long to get to the point that we wanted this, and were both so excited about 'trying' for the last time... and only on third cycle- already I feel anxious about it and it's the feeling of excitement and joy is diminishing a bit. It's not helped that we have a house full of relatives who are staying with me because my grandad is dying, emotions are all high and there is 0 alone time. By the time everyone has gone, my dh's parents are coming to stay with us for 6 weeks.... I just want to cry.... I want some time alone with my hubby to connect and to talk about it. Before everyone arrived my work was winding up ( contract) and I had decided that I would take the couple of months off before my in laws came to try to get my health and my house and my life in order - but it's been totally hijacked with house guests....

Ah well... sorry for the self pity fest.... feels good to say it out loud. Bottling it all up and trying to maintain a stiff upper lip for the sake of being a good host is wearing me down a bit.

It does help to get it it out doesn’t it. It’s hard to not get frustrated about how long it takes. Plus having relatives stay when you need to find the time to have sex is hard. We had to do it oh so quietly on the flood (due to a noisy bed!) at my in laws at the weekend. Not ideal, needs must I guess!

@Wingingit3211, ah if time is a factor, that does make things more stressful. Its good your partner is able to preform under the pressure of other people in the house or being at the in laws! My DP gets performance anxiety and its so delicate, that he would not be able to preform when having family visiting or staying at someone else. Or if he is tired or if he has more then one glass of alcohol...are you testing for when you ovulate or just guessing? I am just guessing. But I am worried I guessed the wrong date! We only dtd once on day 13. But a couple months ago when I used the strips I realised I ovulated a lot later then I thought like day 17 or 18! Which is strange as online it says for 25 day cycle I would ovulate like day 10! So frustrating trying to guess the correct day.

On another note - I did another test this morning and negative. Its still early though as my period is not due until the 25-28.

@Wingingit3211 I think it’s natural to feel like that... it doesn’t mean you love your children any less by having more love in your heart to give to another child. It will happen for you soon - just keep going!

@sambababy yay! I know it’s taken a while to get to this point so you must feel a bit of relief now you have made the decision. Also we used KY every time with no issues and positive results

@Yuzuko it must be so frustrating - keep your head up love and keep going xx

I have pcos so I believe ovulation strips aren’t that accurate. Was meant to be temping this month but not actually got round to it, summer holidays and kids and busy! We are just having regular throughout the month, was a chore to start but actually now we are 9 months in after about 2 days of not having sex I want to do it anyway! It’s true the more you have the more you want

We decided to try and I had my implant taken out. I was pregnant before I got my period it happened so quickly.
9 weeks later the shock has worn off.

I don't mean to be insensitive to people who it doesn't happen so quickly for.
Just giving some hope that sometimes it does, and it shocks you.

@Mamabear12 I was crossing fingers and toes for you - don’t loose hope it’s still early doors x

@Wingingit3211 maybe thats a sign you are about to ovulate, about being in the mood for sex. I am sure you are right though, the more you did it, the more you want it. Unfortunately, my DP and I have gotten in a rut of not doing it much! We probably should try to be more regular, but he is going away for business so will have to wait until he returns...

@UntilTheVeryEnd thanks, will keep you all update! I should probably wait until at least the 24th before I test again! But knowing me, I will probably just test again tomorrow morning :) And as usual, which keep you posted if I do.

@Yuzuko I'm sorry about your grandad 

@UntilTheVeryEnd i felt so relived and excited when I decided! But now doubt is creeping in again and I don't know if that's a bad sign...

@Wingingit3211 it must be so frustrating for you. You're doing all you can having regular sex. Staying relaxed about it is easier said than done I know. I don't have PCOS but my last cycle was randomly 21 days instead of 28 so I don't know when/if I ovulated either.

@Mamabear12 we are also so lazy when it comes to sex. It's very rare there is a night where one child doesn't wake up so we're both just always knackered. At least I do have a sex drive in my fertile week!

Hiya, wondering if it's ok to join this thread? I'm 32 years old, we already have two sons aged 7 and 3 and have (after LOT'S of debating) decided to try for a third! I'm not going to lie I'm absolutely shitting myself, because sometimes I find my 2 too much, so god knows how I'd cope with a third! 🙈 But I feel like a third would complete our family and I think the stress of the first few years, will be totally worth it. I suffer with anxiety/depression too, so I'm a little worried about that, because the postnatal period is always a bit of a high risk time for me. I'm on cycle day 16, think I ovulated yesterday and we've been trying to do it most days for the last 5/6 days! Testing from 3rd September if I can wait that long! X

@thatshabbychick Of course, welcome! I feel so much better since we finally made the decision to try. I spent months and months with various scenarios going around my head and googling every known article/post on having three children. Although I worry how we'll cope, I know that we've made the right decision because I feel so much more relaxed now we're going for it.

I'm on day 6 of flashing smiley OPK, so my cycle is definitely off since the miscarriage. I am getting lots of ewcm though, so I'm praying for a static smiley soon!

Welcome @thatshabbychick I have exactly the same worries (my mental health doesn't do well when I've got a newborn) but as you say, it'll be worth it once we're through that bit. Did you get any support from the perinatal mental health team? I've been amazed by how good the support I got from mine was, really made a difference.

@LittleTipple Thank you! Wishing you lots of luck with your journey too. I feel like number 3 is such a life changing decision!! Number 1 is easy, number 2 just feels like the right thing to do, but number 3 feels so risky and also a bit greedy! 😬 I too have spent MONTHS googling, reading every single article/blog/forum etc going😂🙈 I kept reading a positive thread and getting really excited and thinking 'just go for it!', then I'd read one negative post about it and think 'noo don't do it!'. I am just incredibly impulsive and feel like life is too precious to be wasting time worrying about what if's, so we're just going to go for it and see what happens! x

@NoseringGirl Yeah I had help from them during my second pregnancy and they were AMAZING. I felt so lucky to be able to use their services. I've been trying to tackle my anxiety using natural coping techniques (diet changes, sleep, yoga, using oils etc) for ages, it's been making a bit of a difference, but I know that hormones are 99% to blame for mine, so I can't really do anything about that. My doctor actually told me that I had 3 choices to deal with my hormonal depression, one was to get pregnant (!), one was to go onto a contraceptive pill (which carries risk because I'm now over 30 and I'm overweight too) or to start anti-depressants (been on them twice before, they worked, but I felt too 'away with the fairies' on them). So I'm kinda hoping that pregnancy may at least be a slight relief from the crazy ovulation/PMS hormones for a while! 🙈😩
How long have you been TTC number 3 for?x

@thatshabbychick welcome! The decision IS a hard one!!! We took 6 years to decide. Also because my mental health was not fantastic when I had a new born. I feel so much more prepared for it now though - I feel ready to put everything aside and relax and enjoy it. I think that's partly because now I have a sense of how fleeting the time is. Mine are now 6 and 8 and it feels like they whizzed through those baby years and toddler years and now all grown up 😳. This time, if it happens, I'll try to savour the last time with a little one.

@thatshabbychick I'm into my 4th cycle now. I'm also looking forward to the break from PMT which I get really badly. My anxiety gets heightened in pregnancy though which is tough but at least I know the cause so I can sort of rationalise it.

Hello, please can i join?

I’ve got 3 days of pills left then I’ll be ttc#3 (after my cycles settle down).

I’ve already got two boys who are 10 & 6 but I have a new partner so this will be his first. I really thought I was done with the baby phase! I must be mad.

@Yuzuko Thank-you. Sending lots of good luck to you for your third try. I remember feeling broody immediately after having my second and have been feeling it on/off ever since. My first son (who is now nearly 8) has been hard work. He was a nightmare as a baby, hard work as a toddler and is an incredibly needy/anxious 7 year old now! He has never slept through the night, he still gets into our bed in the middle of the night and sleeps with us etc. My second is completely different, was such an easy baby and is now quite an easy toddler (in comparison to my eldest!). He likes sleep and has always been great at having a nap during the day. He does get into our bed in the middle of the night as well, but we've never really bothered to try and persevere with taking him back to his own bed, so it's our own fault. Luckily, we have a king size bed, but my about 1am there are 4 of us squashed in it!! 😩😂 If we are lucky enough to have a third, I have no idea where he/she will fit!x

@Yuzuko Sorry just realised I got carried away explaining what my children are like and didn't get to the actual point I was trying to make! 😆 Having our first child put us off of trying for a second, because he was so hard. So our second son didn't arrive until our first was nearly 4.5 yrs Second son is now nearly 3.5yrs and because he's been so much easier, it's given us the confidence to try for another! x

@NoseringGirl It's so hard isn't it? Did you have any ongoing help after having your children? I had the perinatal mental health nurse visiting me during my second pregnancy, but after that I said I felt ok, so that was it! I wish I'd have carried on seeing her, because I felt quite well, but I think I've just got so used to being a bit anxious all the time, that I just thought I was 'normal', but actually looking back, I could have done with a bit of support and probably still could! I've been a bit of a hormonal fruit loop by whole life, but pregnancy/postnatal/having children has definitely made it much worse. x

@LatteLover12 Hello :) I've only just joined this thread too and have been welcomed by a few lovely ladies already, its a very friendly group. I know how you feel about dreading the baby stage. My youngest is actually only 3.5yrs, but we've recently potty trained etc, so just as things are getting easier, we might end up going back to nappies etc again for another few years 🙈 Hope your cycles get back on track quickly x