TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

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@Blondcat thanks for your reply. Like many things on this thread, it's comforting to know that others have similar feelings.

Just checking in! Thanks for asking @YellowDaffodils I’m alright. About 90% nervous and 10% excited right now haha! I’m 4+5 tomorrow. Got the midwife on Thursday, counting down the days to 7 week scan but so incredibly anxious for it. I hope the relaxed approach works for you this month!

@Laney79 I hope the bleeding stops for you now hun! Hopefully you can get back to TTC again asap 🤞

@TedLife totally understand how you feel. I’ve got all these feelings right now, MC really does make pregnancy a scary, emotional and stressful time. I’m so up and down right now (and the hormones don’t help🤣) I hope that you get your BFP very soon and when you do, I hope it isn’t too much of a stressful experience for you!

@Boboelephant FX for ovulation!! I really want this to be your month, got everything crossed for you and for lots of June BFP’s I hope 🤞

@KnitKitty good luck for testing tomorrow! I hope you get a nice dark line. Feeling hopeful for you!

@SerenaOverjoyed I hope all goes well and hope you get answers soon!

Sorry for the long post. I’m still lurking in the background quietly sending you all luck and hugs!!

@TedLife I'm the same. I just had my fist pregnancy ending in mmc. I was so excited and feel now it's taken the shine of pregnancy. I so want to be pregnant again but know it won't be the same. I'll be much more anxious and guarded. I just hope I'm as quick to get a BFP this time again.

Evening ladies. I test again today and still a strong line but just paranoid somethings going to go wrong! I think I'm going to go and buy multiple packs of white pants for the next 8 weeks as just went to toilet and freaked as I though o had pink spotting in my pants. Turns out it was the pink butterfly patten showing through!!

@Pancakes7 It's such an awful feeling isn't it? A bit like the shine has been taken off the whole experience and it's one of the most important we get to do in our lives. We do need to try to be positive though, if we want something enough, we'll do anything for it - including getting over these negative thoughts

@maxiflump1 I'm so sorry for the worry you're having but please try to find some joy in your situation. You have your BFP, that's one step. Next step will be your first scan, just take it one day at a time and you'll get there xx

Just had a huge fight with my OH. He says he’s feeling the pressure of everything and couldn’t ‘perform’ and I’m now in tears because I def ovulated this afternoon but there’s absolutely no chance of anything happening. I’m so upset. This whole experience is just so horrendous.

Huge hugs @sweetpea0318 it is horrendous & hard on DP's too, think it can feel very powerless esp when we're crazed about timings etc. Hope you make up soon & can lean on each other, tomorrow's a new day xx

Thank you @passtheaftereights. It’s just so frustrating! Feel like we’ve been waiting forever for fw and now this. But yes as you say, tomorrow is another day x

Checking in after a couple of days away.
@serenaoverjoyed so bloody sorry to hear about the emotional rollercoaster of the last couple of days. Sending hugs.
@laney79 sounds like you might have got to the bottom of the problem really hope this means the bleeding will stop and you can properly enjoy your holiday.
Hi @pancake7 good luck for the wedding today. I had to go away for work straight after my 2nd mc. I was dreading it but actually it was fine. Getting on with it made me feel more like me. I just made sure I made my excuses and crashed out early in the hotel with telly and chocolate.

Well I guess I'm out for this month.

Still a line but no darker than the one on Wednesday.

@KnitKitty can you post pics

TedLife I totally get what you mean about not feeling excited about pregnancy anymore. It really changes your experience of it when you've suffered loss.
I hope the move is a positive fresh start for you and good luck with TTC.

maxiflump1 I stopped wearing coloured pants during my first pregnancy because I needed to know the colour of whatever came out as I'd had bleeding early on which stopped and started on and off. I'm glad it was just an innocent butterfly though! Stay strong. xxx

Lilimum4 there's no point really, it's pretty much a carbon copy of the first test and that barely came out on the photo.

@pancskes7 I'm only a week or two ahead of you on mc number 3. Bleeding stopped on Monday last week and I got a negative test on Thursday which was pretty quick. I'm back to poas for ov.

I've struggled a bit too emotionally and seeing people in groups but getting there. I can recommend acupuncture and Indian head message - really helps to steady the heart and mind. The masssge especially was like a release from all the thoughts going round in my head and ive been feeling more 'normal' since - then prob helped by hcg leaving too.

Lots of messages on here it's hard to keep up, glad bfps are doing well.

Got my gynaecologist referral through for 12th July... but we've decided we're going to crack on and see what happens.....

@Yukka Oh no I'm so sorry that you've had 3 mc's that must be so difficult. It's good you have got a referral and also good to carry on ttc.

@Pancakes7 I hope the wedding is a lovely day and a welcome distraction for you.
@SerenaOverjoyed that's crap! Do they not have on the day appts you can book that morning? The holiday is hard. I think I'd either look to move it or take a month off until you can see doc. It doesn't sound like it's hard for you to conceive so 1 month won't hurt and at least it won't spoil your holiday.
@KnitKitty oh no I'm so sorry hun. I was just posting to check on you. I hope it's just a slow one for you and it's still gets darker. Be kind to yourself lovely. What do you have planned for today?
@PassTheAfterEights 👍🥂 Temp has dropped this morning so hopeful for a big rise tomorrow and into the tww!
@TedLife glad that your cycles have gotten back on track, that must feel positive. I know what you mean. I fell immediately with DS and had a very easy and lovely pregnancy. I was so excited to be pregnant again. Now since the EP and the MMC it is so hard just to get pregnant and seems fraught with anxiety. Can't wait to get pregnant again but know it won't be as blissfully lovely as last time! Good luck for your move. You too @MrsLCW!
@MrsLCW and @weasledee where are you both in cycle?
@hayleyfx and @maxiflump1so glad to hear things are still going well. Sorry it's so hard with all the worry but we have everything crossed for you. And hope to be joining you soon! Go buy those white pants @maxi!
@sweetpea0318 that's so hard hun. It's so hard to keep it exciting and not make DH feel like you live by a sex schedule. I can understand how devastated you must feel though. I hope you have made up and as long as you have bd'd in the last few days you are not out!
@Yukka sending hugs. Glad you are doing some nice relaxing things. I did relaxation, yoga and acupuncture yesterday. Feeling very calm now!

@KnitKitty oh I am sorry big hug coming your way. How long until AF is due

@Boboelephant I'm on CD24 of a 29 day cycle. Got the biggest fattest negative imaginable this morning though so I'm out. Genuinely heartbroken, feels like another loss. X

@Yukka so sorry to hear you're having a tough time. Here's hoping the referral brings you some answers.

@sweetpea0318 I'm so sorry Hun. I bet your OH is gutted as well and I hope you manage to figure this out so it doesn't happen again.

@KnitKitty I really hope it's just a blip and that the line will get darker after all Hun.

@MrsLCW I'm really sorry that you think you're out. Is there any hope still? I know some don't get their BFP until after their period is due.

Thanks Boboelephant. I'm actually feeling fairly ok right now. I have work again today and then tomorrow is OH's birthday so going to be a busy weekend which should keep me distracted. Got told off by OH for testing again before AF is due. (Told off in a nice way). He said as part of the team he will allow me to get more FRERs but I can only use one again on Wednesday next week if AF stays away. After a bit of Googling I see that it can take tests longer to get darker, so not completely losing hope yet, but I guess I just have to see if AF shows up now and not getting my hopes up either.
Thank you Lilimum4 I think I'd be due Monday.

Still FEEL pregnant. Boobs feel bigger and very heavy and I'm still burping a lot, although I've not had any uterus sensations for a couple of days, but that came and went quite a lot in the first couple of weeks with my last pregnancy.

I slept horrendously last night. Had a headache from 4 o'clock onwards and was tossing and turning because I was too hot in the covers and too cold out of them.

Boboelephant I hope you've made a lovely ripe egg this month and you get some of the good stuff from your OH! Keeping all my fingers and toes crossed for you.

MrsLCW That's still very early to get a positive test, so don't rule it out completely yet. Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

@MrsLCW so sorry for the bfn and heartbreak. They are the worst! I think you just might be testing too early though hun. If you are day 24 does that mean af is due on Friday? If so then even a frer which is 6 days before missed period could only be used tomorrow and that's still only about 60% I think. Don't lose heart, you're not out yet!
@HidCat how are you getting on?

@KnitKitty I really hope it's a false alarm. I'm due on Tuesday and only had negatives so far so thinking I'll give it a couple of days. If the spotting I had yesterday is implantation then it'll need a few days before showing up so going to try to wait before testing again.

@KnitKitty glad you're feeling a bit better. I think it sounds like you are definitely still in! It can absolutely take longer to get darker before your af is due. DH sounds sensible! Sometimes we need them to balance out our crazy hey! 😂 fx for a nice dark line on Wednesday! And thankyou!!! I really really hope to be joining you guys in 2 weeks!!!

Ooh @HidCat fingers crossed for implantation bleed!!!!

I have everything crossed for you that it's implantation spotting HidCat!!! Do you normally spot before AF? If AF stays away we can be test buddies on Wednesday if you like?