TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

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@SerenaOverjoyed I'm so sorry! Do a test afterwards just in case though.

Thinking of you @SerenaOverjoyed

He'll @RedRobin7 , think I'm ovulating sometime end of next week. Ovia app says 8-13th and Fertility friend app says from 7--1th?? So I've just been to boots and bought the Clearblue digital advanced ovulation test where it shows 4 x days . And also purchased the fertility check fertility gel! Never used these two before but I'm all ready for next week - just hope DH knows what he's in for! I've taken being pregnant for granted before this had happened and it's really hit us hard! Normally my cycles are between 25-30 days so fx everything is back to normal! Hope you get your BFP in June , just keep baby dancing any chance you get!!! Xx

Hi all!

Lots of bfps on here now, lots of good news!
So sorry @SerenaOverjoyed, this happened to me last month and is truly shit!!

I am just back from holiday and managed to dtd a couple of times but I am now driving myself crazy in the tww. I think I am now 3dpo so still ages to wait!

Where is everyone at in their cycles? Anyone else in the tww?

@SerenaOverjoyed So sorry, thinking of you. Take another test in a few days just in case xx

@MrsGS76 It's so hard with all the guess work but my suitcase is full of clearblue digitals, internet cheapies, his and hers pre-conception vitamins and a persil washing cup to wee in each day 😂😂 My husband thinks I'm nuts! I've not actually packed anything else yet!!

@Maydot I agree, it's great to have the support of all these lovely ladies. It's not all doom and gloom either - often find myself laughing too! My husbands favourite phrase this year has been "are you on mumsnet again?"... been glued to it through pregnancy, miscarriage and now TTC! I didn't join MN until I was pregnant in Jan - didn't know there were TTC boards but thank god I found this one for the support!

Hi everyone! Have had a few weeks break after my wedding and honeymoon, it was lovely. So happy to see all the BFPs and everyone else soldiering (or shagging) on ! Recap - have had two early MCs trying for number 2, back to it next week with FW.....

Hello. May I join? I had surgery for a mmc 6 weeks ago today and AF arrived this afternoon. I never thought I would be glad to get my period! I'm 34 and ttc #1.

Sorry to hear of your mmc @edinbeezer I also had a mmc 6 weeks ago and got af on friday. It was a painful one but was glad to see my body back on track. Also 34 and ttc #1 are you sure you're not me? :p

Thanks for the support ladies. You are all such a lifeline.

It's pretty steady so I'm fairly certain it's just a chemical preg. It's so cruel, yesterday I'd have been happy to get my period. I was so happy today, despite myself. It's really crushing

So sorry serena, extra cruel really x

Evening ladies sorry to all those having a hard time today some days are just shit. I am just coming to the end of second af after mc.
Sending big penguin hugs to those in need 🐧

@maxiflump1 that's a great line!! Fx it continues smoothly! I'm pretty envious of your one time lucky I must admit! Your DH must be proud! 👊
@Maydot sorry you're having a tough time hun. Milestones are so hard. Use this board to vent and treat yourself kindly. I've been through many and you always come out the other side. For now- into the 🐧 huddle. You too @Lilimum4. Hope Monday goes well.
@PassTheAfterEights he's definitely a MN rockstar in my book! Last night as I was starting to tell DH your boots sorry I led with 'remember the guy cooling his balls in the snow...' 🤣🤣
@Pancakes7 welcome to the group and I'm sorry for your loss. As others have said, we have seen lots of people on this thread get their bfps after loss. There have been several in the last 2 months! Some fell quickly in the first few months and others are still waiting but it's a lovely support network and we're all hopeful everyone will get their rainbows!
@Martydog I'm so sorry hun. Mine is coming up in a few weeks too and I'm dreading it. Sending you lots of love. And yes I agree about the ovulation pain!
@SerenaOverjoyed oh no!!! I'm so so sorry. I wish I could take your pain away. It's so unfair that you only got the line today. Sending so much 🐧🐧 love xxx
@Tefiti2 welcome back!! Hope you had an amazing wedding and honeymoon!
@Anyway88 I'm waiting for ov. Reckon it'll be tomorrow or Saturday. 🤞
@MrsGS76 I just bought the gel today too. Let's hope it's the magic potion!!
@RedRobin7 haha I took a pee cup away last month too! 🤣 I am also thrilled to have found MN too. Didn't know about it until my MMC and it's such a lifeline for me. My DH hugely advocates it because he can see how much it has helped me.
@edinbeezer welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad your body is gettingback to normal. Haha @Mistymeow there's two of you! 👭

That was the longest post ever that took an hour to write around cooking dinner and across three pages on my phone so sorry if I missed anyone. Sending you all hugs xx

RedRobin7 Don't forget to pack some clothes!!! Hahaha!

SerenaOverjoyed I'm so sorry. That really, truly, utterly sucks. Hugs xxx

Welcome to the newbies, join the huddle.

I've had the shittiest day at work and I honestly nearly walked out half way through the day. (Can't remember if this was before or after I had to have a sit down for 5 minutes because I felt faint ). Now I'm worried the stress is going to affect if little bean continues to make a home inside me and I'm bricking it for AF due day. Daren't test again to see if there's a line there still or not. Feeling wobbly.

@RedRobin7 that's so funny, I'm starting to build up a collection and 'introducing' it to my DH slowly. He's got a busy few weeks ahead of him!
@SerenaOverjoyed so sorry ! Damn that AF!!
@edinbeezer , so sorry for your loss! I was glad of my first AF too which started on Monday so feeling positive for the month ahead x
@KnitKitty it's not nice to have a shit day at work because you have to appear to be carrying on as normal! When it certainly isn't!! Sending you hugs xx

@Boboelephant , yep good luck with the gel, I've never tried it but I read on one of these posts that it was useful so fx for both of us! Xx

ello ladies i had a mmc in February and contemplated trying again despite the mmc. On my ovulation day 25th me and my bf had unprotected sex using pull out method. First time he did not ejaculate on me but elsewhere urinated then had sex again but this time. Came on the top of my vaginaa, some cum tiny amounts went on my lips within 1 min (tmi) but i was really wet so maybe it could have went away. However 2dpo and 4dpo i have been cramping having stiff necks , feeling a lil sickish and mild heavy eyes with backaches. Is this pregnancy or infection

P.s i have zero STI’s checked three days prior to sex and if i am pregnant it wouldnt be an issue xx thanks in advance

@KnitKitty so sorry you had such a rubbish day. Is your work always stressful or was this a one off? Maybe time to introduce some yoga or meditation to help counteract the stress. Also I found with DS it was a good idea to have lots of crackers on standby for those moments when I felt faint!
@Babyblu1 sorry for your loss. It would be too early to tell but they are unlikely to be pregnancy symptoms at 2dpo as baby wouldn't have implanted yet. Maybe go to gp if you're worried about infection?

So- sorry tmi- I tried the fertility check gel last night and I'm not sure how much got to its intended location! It said it was best to use when lying down so I made DH read his book whilst I stealthily inserted under sheet. Haha romance is officially dead! It all seemed successful but then one second later seemed to all just have come out on the sheet. Is this normal? Any tips to stop this? 🤦‍♀️

@Boboelephant omg I had the exact something happen last night. So I defo ovulated yesterday with all the pain and fireworks I've come to expect post mc. So I though I'd give preseed a go as its the last day of fw ( for days early I might add) but I had the same problems as you. On that I've a question if i o'd 4 days early does that mean I'll get AF 4 days early too

@KnitKitty could you sign yourself off for a few days saying you had a bug?

Not used pressed myself but I have used other lubes before so I think it's very likely that some escaped. I wouldn't worry too much ladies.

@Lilimum4 if you ovulated late then either your Luteal Phase is shorter than you thought or AF will turn up a few days later than expected.

BFN for me this morning but only 9dpo so that's expected.

@HidCat thanks for that I'm assuming its the same if it all happened early too. I ovulated CD 10/ 11 instead of cd14/ 15 as I normally do.

Fx that you get your bfp in the next few days.

Yes if you ovulated early then you'd probably get your period earlier too. So much guess work it's no wonder we all go POAS crazy lol.

@Lilimum4 glad to hear it wasn't just me! Thought there must be some trick I'm missing! Woohoo for ovulation! And yes, your luteal phase should stay the same. So if you usually have say 13 days between ov and af, then af should be due in 13 days. If you use an app it should change your af date once it's confirmed ovulation.
@HidCat thanks. I'm kinda hoping that some shot to it's target before the rest! Sorry for rubbish bfn but still early days definitely! 🤞

Thanks so much all for the messages of support. You brought tears to my eyes, it's such a lifeline to speak to people who get it! 🐧🐧🐧

I'm going to call GP about RMC today as this is 4th loss (if CPs count?), all before 6 weeks, so it would appear ttc is not going to be straightforward. Has anyone been before? I feel a bit nervous about the idea.

KnitKitty sorry you've had a stressful day. It sounds like you are stressed about being stressed too! Argh! I'd second Bobo's advice but add that mindfulness is brill, it's a bit like guided meditation and it's a great lifeskill. The Headspace app is really good.

Babyblu1 welcome and sorry for your loss. Probably early days for pregnancy symptoms, I hope in 10 days you get the news you want

edinbeezer Welcome, so sorry for your mmc. It's funny the things we find ourselves hoping for: periods, bfns, morning sickness.. I hope AF returns soon and you can get a sense of normality back

Yeah my GP recommended headspace for me to help cope. I have just done my second day. I do feel very calm. Sp it's worth a try. I am still bleeding atm from mmc. So ttc is on hold. I haven't taken a test yet as they said to wait until bleeding stops which could be 2 weeks. So much waiting when ttc and even once pregnant. I never realised how hard it can all be. I was very naive until last week.