TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

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@funkyemzie glad that it looks like you caught your ov day! If I have another confusing month with the opks next month, I might start with the temps too...

Ek78 I've found the combination of the OPK's and taking my temp really useful. Once I've ovulated I see a clear temp rise, which remains high until you're period is due and you see a distinct drop. Worth doing I think x

@weasledee and @funkyemzie and @MrsLCW woohoo for tww! Fingers crossed!!
@SerenaOverjoyed haha collective fertility dance. Sounds like a plan! 😂 not sure what's going on for you hun but hopefully it's just the last month of your body regulating and next bubs is your sticky one.
@Anyday88 I don't know that app. Does it change from saying you're in fw to saying 'its ovulation day'? Either way sounds like you're in fw and you're covering bases so fx!
@Jessabean oh I hope not. It might just be too early still. Lots of lines don't get dark until after af would have been due. Did your temp drop below coverline? Fx you're still in!
@L1zz13 does DH want to stop completely? That's very difficult if so and I'm sorry that's a position you're in. I hope you can come up with a good plan together.
@BabynameEdie thanks so much lovely. I really appreciate your words and support. I'm thrilled you posted, i love hearing from you guys with your bfps! I actually started doing the yin yoga on YouTube and I love it. I'm doing the fertility one but we can do it alongside definitely!!
@hayleyfx thanks so much lovely!!
@ek78 I agree with @weasledee. The temps for me have taken so much guesswork out of it. And some of the stress!

Thankyou so much to all of you who have given me your love and support today. It has made my day!!! ❤🐧❤🐧
There have been a few days lately when posting has been hard for me as I've felt a bit lost and left behind. But I've kept doing it because I am genuinely happy for you but also it meant so much to me when I joined to have people respond to me so I'm so happy I have had a positive impact for some of you. xxx

What's this dance?! Count me in!
AF arrived so treated myself to some Camembert and a nice hot bath (haven't had a bath in three weeks to see if it made a difference) I'm going to try less this cycle just opks and SMEP again (if I can convince DH)
But I'll be enjoying my baths, not using conceive plus or eating pineapple core 🤢

I take folic acid and vitamin d already which other vitamins would people recommend?

@jessabean what a rubbish day for you!

RedRobin That really sucks, sorry hun! Hugs xxx

Jessabean it's not over til the fat lady sings. When is she due?
If AF does arrive try to see it in a positive way, you can take extra time to recover and you have a lot going on so you should be kept busy (although I understand it will probably suck not to have a pregnancy to distract you in a positive way, but we're here for moral support). Do you have plans for your first bean's due date?

SerenaOverjoyed I hope things get back to normal soon, it must suck being in this weird limbo of not knowing what's going on.

maxiflump1 that's hilarious! I'm surprised he couldn't see anything though! When are you going to test again?

zarala Good luck for Monday and TTC next cycle. Do let us know how you get on!

Boboelephant I absolutely back what the other ladies have been saying. Sending you cyber baby dust. Penguin cuddles.

weasledee good luck with your TTW, hope you've managed to catch a sticky bean this month!

MrsLCW hope that's a good sign. Fingers crossed for you! :)

Mistymeow Good luck to you too! Sorry AF was so painful. Fingers crossed for you.

L1zz13 hugs! You don't have to rush in to a decision about TTC again. I can understand your hubby not wanting to put you through that again. You may just need a break and time to recover before even trying to decide what to do.

DaisyMay25 Camembert sounds amazing. Drools

Thank you all for your kind words about the call I received this morning. I felt quite low most of the day and it got harder when I had two separate comments from colleagues.. the first asked me how my body is doing since the MC... seriously, who asks that? I said it's all fine now and back to normal (wasn't going to say I've been bleeding heavy and leaking 🙈😂) and then she said "great you can start trying again!"... the second person later in the day asked if we are going to start trying on our holiday next week... umm how does she know my cycle and that this is actually the case?! That's the downside to people knowing about the miscarriage. I didn't tell them the first time we were trying so why do they seem to assume I want to talk about it now? What do you all say when asked this question? I am a rubbish liar so I've just left it with, "we'll see"... that bit is true but not sure what else to say other than p!ss off, none of your business!!

This thread moves so fast. I'm feeling guilty that I don't have the time to speak to you all individually as it might seem a bit rude that my comments are all me me me 🙈 I hope it doesn't seem this way! I am reading every comment and thinking of you all. I forget who said what by the time I come to reply! I'm currently working over time to catch up from my holiday and also getting everything done ready for our second holiday on Friday but I will be more active once I'm back and look forward to getting to know you all more!

@weasledee yay for ov!!! Hopefully the TWW goes fast!!

@SerenaOverjoyed @DaisyMay25 @Boboelephant here's the fertility dance!!!

@ek78 defo give temping ago. I loved it. I actually miss doing it now I'm pregnant! 🙈

@Cakelaur haha!! 🤣🤣 Fw started today so dancing time for me. C'mon baby vibes!
@DaisyMay25 so sorry af arrived hun. Enjoy that bath and camembert!!
@KnitKitty thanks lovely!! x
@RedRobin7 I wouldn't even know what to say. Your colleagues are much more forward than mine! I think 'we'll see' is a perfectly acceptable response. And don't feel guilty! Enjoy your holiday!

Evening lovelies.

Quick update from me as you were all so kind the other day.

So I'm still bleeding and getting pains/discomfort...now 4 and a half weeks on from main physical miscarriage following Mife/miso med management. Spoke to my EPAU nurse.,.shes not sure if the heavy bleed last Tuesday was my period beginning or not...she says it could be or could be irregular bleeding. She's told me to speak to GP tomorrow, and I'm going to the unit tomorrow anyway (was meant to be a quick chat so I didn't always associate the place with horrible things due to my medical phobia) so she said discuss then.

Since that convo I've had more heavier bleeding-tmi but blobs dropping into loo and blood dripping, like day 1/2 of a period again.

It feels like it'll never end. Ugh. So desperate to be part of the TTC gang. My evil body won't let me. Xxx

Hi everyone just checking in! I’ve been quite busy and haven’t posted on here as much as I’d like to (I only posted once a couple of days ago but didn’t want to be a ghost!) pleased see some more BFPs. And FYI I would also love to hear success stories as they do give me hope. If anything it’s a numbers game and the more ladies in this thread that get their BFPs the sooner it could be you!

I’ll try and post a bit more over the next few days 😄

I would have been 12 weeks today so feeling a bit shitty all day. And @RedRobin4 the same thing happened to me! I called to cancel my MW appt and somehow the message didn’t get through. Cancelling it is stressful enough, it’s gutting when they ask “do you need to reschedule?” And all I could day was “no” before I got a lump in my throat and had to hang up pretty quickly 😢 hope you’re feeling ok xxx

@RedRobin7
I know exactly how you feel!
For a long time i wasn't ready to start a family, when we decided to ttc i didn't let on to anyone that was the case. So when we fell pregnant and told close family and friends it was a nice surprise.
Now after the mc some people now just see it as a given i will be pregnant soon and its dropped into conversation. I kind of feel iv lost my privacy in that area a little, if that makes sense.
I think piss off is a good start in your response though 😂

I’ve just taken ibuprofen for toothache without thinking!! Tried to sick it out but no luck. Cd15 think I’m about to ov. Hope I haven’t totally ruined my chances this month 😩

Ladies I'm massively freaking out.

I couldn't keep myself from POAS this morning. I think I'm 9 or 10 days PO. Last night I woke up as I rolled over in bed and felt a "stretching" feeling in my uterus, and I started with dry-mouth yesterday. Was taking it to make me feel more sane than anything because I have serious (what I thought were) deluded ideas of being pregnant again (and also because I had my last Pregnacare for Conception tablet last night and wondered if it would be worth getting another pack or the one for pregnancy. haha). I just wanted to be able to spend my day off work calmly without obsessing. That'll teach me!

Well, I took the test and a line came up within the time. It's vague, but unmistakably a line IRL. I can't seem to get a good picture of it though.

Could it be an evap? Could it be left over hormones from MC? It was 27th March and hospital confirmed not pregnant 4 weeks later but I never saw that negative test and I just can't believe my eyes - I have had a normal period since as well... just... WHAT?

I have attached pics, but I doubt anyone is going to be able to see anything on them.

Runs around like a headless chicken.

There's a chance also that this could be a chemical so trying not to get my hopes up. Gargh! Someone talk sense in to me!!!!

@KnitKitty I can see a faint line in the first pic. Keep calm (if you can) and try again in a couple of days! 🤞🤞🤞. Eek!

@KnitKitty that's a line that's a line!!! Omg!! How exciting!!! 🤞🏻

@KnitKitty I definitely see a faint line!! Retest in a couple days and hopefully it’ll be darker 😀 Fingers crossed 🤞

@knitkitty - looks like a line to me! Keep us posted! 🤞🤞🤞

@rdm10 - I've not heard of ibruprofen being an issue while ttc. I think it's just when you are preg but I may well be wromgnabout this. Either way I don't think one dose will make a big difference.

@boboelephant - sending lots of hugs. Hang in there! I keep telling myself a little mantra which helps calm me down when anxiety grabs hold 'you're on your own journey and your baby will come when he or she is meant to come'. It does help me particularly when I walk past the 10th preg lady of the day! (I can't seem to get away from them at the moment!!)

I'm cd 14 today - still negative opk but going to jks anyway! Thinking will try SMEP if we can (although it's always a challenge to not burn out too early!)

@KnitKitty I definitely see a line on the first picture. Getting excited for you!

@RedRobin7 I also have some very odd colleagues. Only a couple of them know about my miscarriage and after the initial email of "I'm so sorry" I literally had nothing. Four weeks later my boss sent me an email saying she hopes I'm ok. I work from home and they don't even know that I had surgery.

Quick question- I take folic acid but have been looking at the pregnacare conception tablets. Any recommendations?

@KnitKitty I see that line! If you go to your doctor with your concerns perhaps they can do a blood test to see if it's a new pregnancy although going by what you aid I've no doubt that it is! Tentative congrats! Test again in a few days, or tomorrow, or tonight, I'm test mad though!

@Mistymeow I had some combined ones but stopped taking them because I swear they messed my cycles up. I just stick to vitamin d and folic acid now

@Mistymeow I take the Seven Seas Trying for a Baby ones. £2.99 in Savers.

@rdm10 I agree, don't think one dose of ibuprofen will harm but I understand where you're coming from. At times like this we analyse everything!!
@KnitKitty I see a faint line so good luck xx

I'm supposed to be on CD3 but yesterday and today I've only got very light bleeding. CD1 was a moderate to heavy bleed. I hope this is normal and I'm carrying on with my cycle so fx! X

I agree Boboelephant you're a great support. I'm sending lots of good vibes your way for this fertility week xxx

@Mistymeow so I have just started seeing Dr Shehata at the recurrent miscarriage clinic (I've had 3 consecutives ones since August 2017)

Anyway he puts all his clients on the following:

Pregnacare max (the omegas are very important apparently)
Vitamin D 2000iu
Aspirin 75mg (with evening meal)- apparently this can help the uterus become a much more welcoming place for implantation and helps prevent miscarriage)

I also am taking floradix for extra iron and vitamin C 1000

HELP!! I'm still taking Pregnacare for pregnancy ad I had bought a few boxes, are these still safe to take during TTC or should I take the conception ones? X