TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

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Another thread for us all - I'm hoping I've got everyone's details in the list below, I copied it from our previous thread.

PassTheAfterEights 33 C6 TTC#1
BadBadBeans 33 C1 TTC#2 (1 cycle ttc pre MC)
hayleyfx 24 C4 TTC#1
Claire138 28 C4 TTC#1
Lovewinemorethanhusband 37 C3 TTC#3
Blondcat 36 C8 TTC#1
Sweetpea0318 38 C1 TTC#2 (7 months TTC pre MC)
Dulwichdays 34 C4 TTC#1 (4 cycles TTC pre MC)
Weasledee C3 TTC#3
BabynameEdie 30 C2 TTC#1
Yellowdaffodils86 31 C2 TTC#1 (1 cycle pre mc)
Boboelephant 35 C4 TTC#2 (9 cycles TTC pre MMC after EP)
Wellthisisunexpected 34 TTC#2 awaiting AF
Sloeberrygin 36 C1 TTC#2
Hidcat 35 C1 TTC#2 (3 Cycles TTC pre MC)
DaisyMay25 27 C8 TTC#1
Rdm10 34 C2 TTC#2
Zarala 36 (to be) TTC#2
SerenaOverjoyed 28 C1 TTC#1 (ttc 1 cycle pre mc)
KnitKitty 30 C1 TTC#1

@Cakelaur Cd 14 of approx 30
Test three times a day from about 11am onwards!

Roll call-
Currently in fw, cd14 of approx 28

hidcat you’re not out yet!

@L1zz13 ooh maybe in the next couple of days. If you've got a 30day cycle and an average 14day LP you should ovulate around cd16.
@HidCat defo not out!! For everything crossed for you!! 🤞🏻
@BabynameEdie eek hopefully soon!!

@Cakelaur I seem to recall my opks not going massively dark before mc. Jan was the first time I used them and I'm sure there were darker days but no where near as close to how they are described to change. That colour change back then fitted with what I thought was O.
With the timing being right and the O pains which I've always had (no mistaking them!) I'm sure I'm about to 'go'.

So had some light cramps on and off for last day or so and this morning seem to be bleeding and cramping. Only 24 days since mc bleeding started but assume it is af though still had a faint positive on Monday when I tested and was told by gp to test end of week so tomorrow. I did have 26 day cycles pre af but did have 24 days twice in the 7 months from stopping bc.
Hoping it is my body sorting itself out it is just sooner than I expected as thought it would be 4-6 weeks not 3 and a half?

Oops meant pre bfp not af

So, after googling all the blue hits I can read about opks. I will just be patient and wait for a darker opk!
Maybe I missed it in Jan.
I'm an old goat so maybe it's a blink and it's over surge! My Cm is certainly that way!

Thanks @YellowDaffodils86! Still getting little squinters so not sure I'm going to catch up. I'll be keeping everything crossed for you!
@BabynameEdie and @Lilimum4 agh mine are the same!!! Tiny squinty line day 9, basically nothing since until another squinty today- day 14. Getting impatient although I know ov prob won't happen for at least 3 days. I always start testing too early!!
@curlypop fingers crossed!
@L1zz13 and @smoothieyummy try and keep going if you can. It's probably just around the corner. If you're too shattered maybe take a day off so when you get the positive opk you can jump DH! @L1zz13 the last two months I've had a strong line at 11pm and then already lighter by the next morning. I usually o 12 hours after the dark line so also short surge! So it can happen overnight.
@HidCat Sorry for bfn. Hopefully it's just a bit early.
@Cakelaur in fw. Day 14 of possible 30-32(?) day cycle.

Really struggling today. The wave has hit and I'm not doing very well. Just want to speed up the clock!

@Blondcat I think they say 4-6 weeks tok everyone as that is the average. I found my af came 32 days after which is a normal cycle length for me. So your body probably just goes back to what is normal for you. Hope you can move on soon.
@strawberrye how'd the blood test go?
@PassTheAfterEights how are you?? Hope all is ok??

Internet has been down since yesterday evening and already so much to catch up on!!

Yeah girls I really hope it doesn’t come down to needing a sick bucket haha!! 🤢🤣

@YellowDaffodils86 super close! Also what a lovely picture 🌈
@HidCat sorry for the bfn, fx it was just a bit early 🤞

Good luck to everyone in the TWW! I wanna be in the TWW already but not even in fertile week lol! I’m CD6, fertile week starts next week hopefully. Just gonna start the BD’ing from this weekend onwards and hope it works!!

Thanks @Boboelephant

Fed up with it all. Mostly as I've not got myself covered ( not shagged ( soz I can't bring myself to use the Bd phrase!) since the 29th

I really do not want to demand sex just this purpose it's to demeaning for my hubbo.

Got back ache and feel premenstrual. What's that all about?!

Did another opk this am. Its even paler. Will do another this evening. More I think about it I'm convinced that was my surge!

@boboelephant had the blood test this morning and due the results tomorrow afternoon.

One of my friends messaged me yesterday to say she was pregnant with her second (we're both going to a hen do tomorrow and she wanted to explain why she wasn't drinking). She is probably the nicest person I know and has had some really difficult things happen to her, so I am really happy for her, but it also feels like a bit of a kick in the teeth.

Also just been sat in a cafe doing some work and a group of yummy mummies have just come in all with their 4-6 month old babies and are all complaining about motherhood. Gritting my teeth!

CD 7 here so FW next week. Fainted on the tube this morning, such a twat! I think it’s the stress but equally no water and a big winter coat didn’t help. This weather is crazy! Ahh well building work is progressing and work has been ok today. Going to have an early night tonight and try and put my feet up!!

strawberrye I’m sorry to hear how you are feeling and can definitely empathise. I know it’s hard but I try and remember when someone is moaning about motherhood that I don’t know their story. They might have struggled for ages to carry a baby then suffered post natal depression. I for one have sat in mums groups and muttered along when people are moaning even though I feel really grateful to have had one healthy DS despite 4 losses.

Thanks @cakeandcheese yes well looked after thanks. I’m sure it’s the last few months catching up with me but a clear sign I need to try and unwind a bit. It feels like my knobjockey boss is always on my case at the moment so stress levels sky high. Not a good time to TTC!

Good luck @hayleyfx!
@L1zz13 you can only do what you both feel comfortable with. My DH knows that around fw I want sex more than any other time but he is just happy for more sex! 🤣 and it's important to try and not make it robotic and just completely stop after ov! I'm sure you guys will sort it. Since mc I get back pain around ov now so maybe that's what that is.
@strawberrye aww hun. I'm sending hugs. It's just all crap.
@Eastend2015 definitely sounds like you need some r&r. Hope your boss lays off a bit.
@cakeandcheese where are you in cycle?

👋 @Boboelephant I'm great thanks my love, on mobile so can't write the catch up to everyone I want to write but having an ace time, CD14 ish (would be ovulating but for last cycle weirdness so predicted in 2 more days 🤷‍♀️), barely thinking about TTC which is v v nice, partly due to being away and partly a bit losing heart I think but just nice not to be obsessing for the first time in months. How are you??

Thinking of all you girls daily, can't wait to have a proper laptop based catch up on all news. Hope everyone's ok. Huge love 🐧♥️

PS thanks for all holiday wishes, pic from yesterday's hike at Big Bear (fortunately back in the shops/sea today 😅)

@boboelephant thanks hoping you are right as it would be nice to know where I am and hope they stay as they were before bfp as it was the cycle I was used to but who knows I guess only time will tell.

@eastend2015 hope you are OK and boss backs off a bit. Been there with the stress from work and knobhead boss! Not for a few years though thankfully got out and so much better for it.

Eastend2015 hope you're ok! It's that awkward time of year when you never know how many layers to put on, isn't it?!

Aww, strawberrye, it's so difficult when you want to be happy for someone but also feel like crap hearing the news. Hugs. xx

sweetpea0318 hugs for you too, ride the wave.

Well I am now day 37 post MC and cycle day 9 as advised by doctor, as that's when my first negative pregnancy test was.
I'm not officially trying this month and so thought I'd be able to stave off the crazy, but it's seeping over me and I realised here is the best place to let it out.

SO, ignore this; I'm just letting the crazy out in a safe place...
Only done the BD 3 times this month; on 24th & 26th April and yesterday. I have no idea where I'm at cycle-wise, and the official line is that I don't care either, because I'm just waiting for AF to show up post MC. HOWEVER; I had weird cramping for several hours on Monday and have had weird hormonal surges this week (one moment felt like punching a wall - never usually get like that, next I was fine, and then cried at an advert on TV), also my cat has stopped ignoring me and has started sitting on my tummy and kneading me (which she did throughout my pregnancy until MC and then stopped), had a stitch walking to and from work today, could smell someone's perfume really strongly at work all day, and my urine seems to be a lot stronger smelling at the moment even though I'm drinking the same amount I normally do.
I know it is waaaaaayyy too early to notice any symptoms even if by some miracle we conceived with the first BD after MC just over a week ago, but this is it: the crazy has been unleashed. I'm also aware my hormones are probably fluctuating and bodies can do weird things after MC with different pains and stuff, and someone probably just sprayed too much perfume on them today.

I'm just hoping AF turns up soon so I calm the F down again (until next cycle ), but the doctor said don't even bother getting excited about testing until 22nd May if AF hasn't shown up.

AND breathe.

I'm feeling you @KnitKitty

I'm so the same. Had my 1st but spent the whole time wondering what if! I'm doing it know. Hoping the cramping I'm experiencing now is pg related. How ridiculous. I've only just Ov'd or about to!

It's so difficult to not think of every ache and pain as a what if... isn't it @KnitKitty
My boobs hurt and have definitely grown which was my first indicator with my first baby and with my MC but I think I'm only a few days past ovulation so it can't be pregnancy related but I can't help feel... what if?!

I need to do a proper catch with whats been happening but just quickly these are my opks
Top - last night
Middle - today fmu
Bottom - tonight (long hold)

No idea what's happening, i do find opks tricky sometimes
Any advice greatly appreciated

@YellowDaffodils86 the middle one looks faint probably because it was fmu, they say not to test with it because it's inaccurate.
I think, but not sure that you probably ovulated today due to the darkness last night but I could be wrong. Try again tomorrow without fmu (late morning) fx you get that surge!

@Cakelaur I've had 8 cycles since the mc, but this is the first TTC cycle after what happened. My cycle has always been 32-35 days and I rarely able to track O properly lol probably because I didn't pay much attention to it until now.

@Boboelephant probably jump hubby one more time tmr and that's a wrap for this cycle. He's probably regretting asking for more intimacy last month lol.

To the ladies who also have ovaries/uterus/pelvic pain after the mc, does the pain happen often? It's been 8 months for me and the pain doesn't go away esp around mid cycle. Strange as never had this before the MC.

Also, speaking of overanalysing signs and stuff, I always get tender/sore boobs around CD18-20, however, this time around I'm now on CD 25 and don't have any soreness/tenderness. Does this mean something or I'm just way to delusionally hopeful?