TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

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Another thread for us all - I'm hoping I've got everyone's details in the list below, I copied it from our previous thread.

PassTheAfterEights 33 C6 TTC#1
BadBadBeans 33 C1 TTC#2 (1 cycle ttc pre MC)
hayleyfx 24 C4 TTC#1
Claire138 28 C4 TTC#1
Lovewinemorethanhusband 37 C3 TTC#3
Blondcat 36 C8 TTC#1
Sweetpea0318 38 C1 TTC#2 (7 months TTC pre MC)
Dulwichdays 34 C4 TTC#1 (4 cycles TTC pre MC)
Weasledee C3 TTC#3
BabynameEdie 30 C2 TTC#1
Yellowdaffodils86 31 C2 TTC#1 (1 cycle pre mc)
Boboelephant 35 C4 TTC#2 (9 cycles TTC pre MMC after EP)
Wellthisisunexpected 34 TTC#2 awaiting AF
Sloeberrygin 36 C1 TTC#2
Hidcat 35 C1 TTC#2 (3 Cycles TTC pre MC)
DaisyMay25 27 C8 TTC#1
Rdm10 34 C2 TTC#2
Zarala 36 (to be) TTC#2
SerenaOverjoyed 28 C1 TTC#1 (ttc 1 cycle pre mc)
KnitKitty 30 C1 TTC#1

Welcome to the huddle @Flossylolly85. Sorry about your BFB @Boboelephant and @Lilimum4

After my over dramatic post last night happy to say I have a smiley face this evening. DH is away on a stag but we did manage to dtd this morning before he left so fingers crossed it's enough!!

Sorry meant BFN x

Is it normal to still have pain three weeks after medical management? I've been spotting/passing sticky clots throughout but not very much...but I keep getting pains on and off. My Tum feels tender and heavy. This latest bout has been going about three hours...I'm on ibuprofen and a wheat bag...just feels wrong the pain coming back like this. Could understand if my period was starting but so far it's not. I'm a bit worried...anyone had this?

Laney I have no advice to offer other than call EPU (sorry to say this on a Friday night! X) I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, take care x

Boboelephant sorry she got you. You deserve better than this bullshit. I hope right now you're firing up that pizza oven (I have one too and I love it!!) and pouring the wine

Lilmum I'm so sorry, I'm surprised to see such a strong line go. As soon as there's a line there's a bereavement.. so much can be pinned on a bfp. Look after yourself Xx

I got a bfn with my frer.. meaning I've wasted twenty bloody quid on pee sticks! It occurred to me that poas is a bit like gambling, and I wish I spent that £20 on scratchcards..

@Boboelephant yup! That's the one. It's £5 delivery but worth every penny in my opinion. I'm so sorry AF got you! She's a total bitch!! Sending massive hugs. Also... OMG... pizza oven!!!! Well jel!!! 🍕

@Lilimum4 I'm so sorry! A loss is a loss! And it's not fair! We've all been through enough!! Jump in the middle of the huddle! 🐧

@Flossylolly85 grab an frer. That's the most sensitive test. I didn't get my bfp this time until 15dpo and this baby is growing perfectly at the moment. Strangely the bub I lost I got my bfp at 10dpo.

@YellowDaffodils86 good luck babe!!! Got everything crossed for you!! 🤞🏻

@SerenaOverjoyed sorry for your bfn. Maybe a new trend can start!! Instead of buying hpts... next month everyone buys scratch cards.. see who wins!! 😂

@maxiflump1 yay for Ov! 🤞🏻

@Boboelephant sending huge hugs xxx

@Cakelaur I'm loving the scratch card idea lol

Thanks @hayleyfx and @Blondcat. Where are you both in cycle?
@maxiflump1 thanks. Fx for you. When is DH back?
@Laney79 sorry you're still having pain. I agree about calling the EPU.
@SerenaOverjoyed thanks so much. It's a bit soul destroying but the pizza was delish! Sorry for the wasted pee sticks, definitely get scratchies next month!
@Cakelaur thanks mate. Bought it now.
@BabynameEdie thanks hun. How are you feeling? Has it sunk in?

@Cakelaur oh I was going to say. DH built the pizza oven. Get yours on it!! My DS loves it! 😀

@boboelephant I believe I am in the tww about 2-4dpo I think though not tracking and didn't get much ewcm so not sure if I even ovulated as wasn't tracking as is first proper cycle after mc. Hope you are ok today x

Thanks @Boboelephant And @SerenaOverjoyed

Spoke the the EPAU - thankfully ours is open sat/sun morning. The nurse says it's nothing to worry about. Bodies do strange things after MC-pain could be bits shrinking back to normal, or it could be body prepping for AF. Says the gloopy blood is also nothing to worry about. Just hoping it either stops or AF hits ASAP-then I'll feel a bit more normal. Opks have all been negative so far, only testing once a day though as I assume the line would start to get a bit darker the day before it goes positive?

Such a strange situation-never have I hoped for AF with such gusto before!

Good luck to all poas this weekend, fingers crossed and baby dust to us all. X

Hi everyone, I hope you don't mind me joining (I have read all 34 pages, what a lovely bunch you are!)

I had a MMC at 9 weeks 4 days. I actually started to bleed heavily during the scan, but two weeks later they found some lingering tissue so I had an ERPC. This was our first pregnancy, we didn't expect to conceive naturally (DH has existing fertility issue which causes low sperm count), so we were devatated to lose the little one. We started TTC as soon as the bleeding stopped (I felt ready and I wanted to capitalise on potentially higher fertility conditions). I took a test two weeks after the ERPC and it was a BFN thankfully. It's now been 3 weeks since the ERPC and I have no clue about my ovulation or when to expect AF! My breasts have becoming enlarged and sore the past day, my temps are raised but haven't seen any EWCM which is what I would usually see. I'm totally clueless! I can't BD right now anyway because of a UTI (booooo!). Obviously I'm yearning for a BFP and am symptom spotting like a crazy person, but I would be satisfied with AF because then I would know the body is getting back to normal!

Laney pleased all is ok. Fx it's AF and business can resume as normal soon x

Cakelaur I love the scratchcard idea!! So much more fun than angling a pee stick in the direction of different light sources

@Laney79 glad all is ok. Hopefully af arrives soon so you can know where you are.

@Mistymeow sorry for your loss. Things seem to be a little up in the air after mcs, hopefully you get an answer to where you are at soon. I understand your frustration.

So i cracked yesterday and did a boots own early pregnancy test. It shone a big bright whiter than white BFN! Have pretty much been sulking since.
Its 13dpo today and i have saved some fmu(glamorous) and am off to buy a FRER.
Im pretty sure AF is coming tomorrow though.

@Mistymeow I'm so sorry but welcome to the huddle. 🐧 🤞 for the fertility cape.

@Blondcat thanks. I hope your cycle returns to normal soon. I'm feeling ok. Still fed up but I'm getting used to that. Must remain optimistic!
@Laney79 I'm so sorry glad they've said it's not serious. Hope you get af soon and can start ttc again.
@Mistymeow so sorry that you've had to join us but you're very welcome. Hope your body sorts itself out soon.
@YellowDaffodils86 agghh sorry!! Bfns are the worst. Have you used a frer yet? Fx for better news.

@Cakelaur happy birthday!!!! 🎉🎈

@Boboelephant hey, used a frer earlier on, also a bfn. So waiting for AF now and i guess in to the next month.

Thanks @Boboelephant

@Cakelaur Happy Birthday 🎁🎉

Glad they said it's nothing serious @laney79
So sorry @Boboelephant and @lilimum4

First Af since the mc has just finished for me so currently eagerly anticipating fertile window! Looking forward to enjoying some time as a family on holiday too!

Good luck to those of you that are still in the tww.

Sorry @mistymeow and welcome 😊

Happy Birthday @Cakelaur 🎂

AF imminent! Phew. Don't need to paint a tmi picture.
Such a release of emotions. Been in a very dark place the last phew days. Of course I was hoping to be pg again but AF is second best for me.
Hope your all having a good weekend xx

Thank you for the warm welcome everyone. My immune system must be totally crap right now cos as well as the UTI I've got a cold, I'm like an old woman!

Also waiting for AF so I can at least have cd1 and start planning again. Still got that dream that I've managed to conceive but I think I would be setting myself up for disappointment.

Hi everyone!
So sorry for all your BFNs and huge hug and congrats to the lovely lady with a BFP!! Amazing news!!
I am in my fertile window just now and we DTD twice this morning
However I've been sooo down and truly bloody awful to my poor hubby! I keep snapping at him and being super grumpy and teary! Thankfully he totally gets it and is wonderful, but that almost makes me feel worse!
It's still so recently that we lost our little girl, I think I maybe need to give myself a little bit of a break, but I deffo need to give him a break too!
He's away for work Mon-Fri (annoying when it's our FW) so I feel we really need to make the most of our time together!

Ahh sorry for the rant everyone. Xx

@Boboelephant I’m in TWW now! 4dpo, planning on testing next weekend and so ridiculously nervous 🤦‍♀️😂
@Cakelaur happy birthday! Hope you had a fab day!
@L1zz13 sorry af is arriving however it’s great that you’re positive! I know what you mean, it’s a relief knowing that everything is getting back on track. Fingers crossed for the new cycle! 🤞

Hope everyone has had a good day, the weather has been gorgeous ☀️ I’ve been having a lovely day but a friend visited with her baby today and at the time I was happy of course, he’s absolutely adorable. However now I’m looking through my box of baby clothes/stuff, getting weepy at the “Born in 2018” onesie I bought and thinking about how I should be giving birth in about 6 weeks 🙄 why do I do this to myself!! I’m sure I’ll feel more positive tomorrow but you just get those days and moments don’t you 🤦‍♀️