TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

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Another thread for us all - I'm hoping I've got everyone's details in the list below, I copied it from our previous thread.

PassTheAfterEights 33 C6 TTC#1
BadBadBeans 33 C1 TTC#2 (1 cycle ttc pre MC)
hayleyfx 24 C4 TTC#1
Claire138 28 C4 TTC#1
Lovewinemorethanhusband 37 C3 TTC#3
Blondcat 36 C8 TTC#1
Sweetpea0318 38 C1 TTC#2 (7 months TTC pre MC)
Dulwichdays 34 C4 TTC#1 (4 cycles TTC pre MC)
Weasledee C3 TTC#3
BabynameEdie 30 C2 TTC#1
Yellowdaffodils86 31 C2 TTC#1 (1 cycle pre mc)
Boboelephant 35 C4 TTC#2 (9 cycles TTC pre MMC after EP)
Wellthisisunexpected 34 TTC#2 awaiting AF
Sloeberrygin 36 C1 TTC#2
Hidcat 35 C1 TTC#2 (3 Cycles TTC pre MC)
DaisyMay25 27 C8 TTC#1
Rdm10 34 C2 TTC#2
Zarala 36 (to be) TTC#2
SerenaOverjoyed 28 C1 TTC#1 (ttc 1 cycle pre mc)
KnitKitty 30 C1 TTC#1

@PumpkinPatch000 congratulations!

@Martydog it varies from person to person. Mine took 3 months but most only take a few weeks. Hope yours is the latter.

@SerenaOverjoyed a few of us have been caught out with that one so don't be too hard on yourself.

@Martydog I got my bfn a week and a half after the main miscarriage happened (medically management) - but I was still bleeding/spotting (and still am three weeks on). Totally get the urge to TTC. Fingers crossed we can both get back to it ASAP xxx

Morning ladies

Update : fmu today bfn . I don't know what happened. But that with teach me not to test to early in future. Sorry everyone

Lilimum I had the same last month! Had positives for 4 days but they were never very strong, but they were there...
Will try and not test so early in future but it's hard...
And don't say sorry!

@Lilimum4 oh I'm sorry hun. That's really shit!! You have nothing to be sorry about. Sending hugs.

I can feel myself sinking ladies. That temp drop feels like a final nail in my coffin. Permission to hide in the middle of the huddle. Any advice to pull myself out of the slump gratefully received!

I'm so sorry some of you are having a tough time. My fertile window is due to start on Sunday but I think I may be closer to OV than I thought as this morning I had the slightest bit of EWCM so will make sure hubby and I DTD as much as possible while he is home this weekend, and then again fri (estimated OV date) and sat and sun which are still in the window!

I am hoping with all my heart we all get our successful BFPs soon. I'm really rooting for you all! X

Ah perfect timing AF... bitch!

🐧🐧 @PassTheAfterEights I'll just squeeze in there with you. 🐧🐧

Oh no bobo it's just soul destroying isn't it :(
xx

@lilimum4 crushed for you, so sorry. TTC can be so cruel. Hope you have something nice planned for the weekend?

@YellowDaffodils86 Hang in there, still rooting for you.

@Boboelephant shuffle on through mate (pours the wine) 🐧♥️ slump-wise, I had the wine (thank you!), pizza, a pedicure and yoga. Cannot recommend the latter highly enough, my head just has better days when I do it (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFKE7WVJfvaHW5q283SxchA). All short term fix but passes the days until the next FW 🙄 are you up to anything this weekend?

It all got to DH a bit yesterday, finding it harder than he let on. Will try the OPK's and probably smep this month. Think we'll look at our options if no luck by the end of the summer.

@weasledee it is the worst. I just don't know how long I can keep being optimistic. I seem to have ended up with the double edged sword of both it taking ages for me to conceive and then losing them when I do. Feeling pretty sorry for myself today.
How are you? Are you coming to the end of af soon?

Hi All,
Hope you don't mind me jumping on this thread too.
I have a DD from a previous relationship, DH and I have been trying for over 18 months. I had an early miscarriage and then a missed miscarriage in quick succession last year, but we've not had any luck for over a year. We've had tests done and so far all my tests have come back okay, but DH has sperm issues across the board. We've started down the fertility treatment route and waiting to start our consent app for IVF ICSI.
I also have irregular-ish periods as in they vary in length from 24-27 days long and have a short LP, which is only roughly about 10 days long.
I know I ovulated this month and I'm now cycle day 32 and roughly 14/15dpo still no AF which I've never get a cycle this long. I also did a cheapie pregnancy test wed cycle day 30 (100 from ebay for £3 job haha) but got a BFN.
I keep having the odd cramps and funny feeling in my b__bs, but they aren't sore, getting bigger or anything.
Anyone else had this before and got any views on it, or more importantly think that I could still get a BFP?? i'm worried as this is how it started with my last missed miscarriage. Didn't get BFP until really late, but baby never developed past early stages
Thanks x

@PassTheAfterEights thanks love. All sound like great suggestions. We are actually planning on firing up the pizza oven tonight so pizza and wine sounds like a plan! Will defo try the yoga too. Thanks for the link. Seeing my girlfriends from uni on Sun so that'll be great. Will watch the wedding tomorrow!! And I guess before we know it, it will be time to start the whole thing again.
@Flossylolly85 welcome and I'm sorry for your losses. First thing I would do is go and buy a frer and test today. Two days can make a big difference as can the test brand. Good luck.

Oh I’m sorry @boboelephant and @passtheaftereights it really is so difficult trying to stay positive. Take this weekend to pamper yourselves...big penguin squeeze 🐧 🐧
@lilimum4 you too need a big penguin squeeze 🐧 So sorry you had to experience that.

Exactly what @claire138 said, squeezes all round!

Just on my way to first counselling appointment. I hope it helps! Last loss in February and still cry at the slightest thing. This TTC bollocks is enough to turn anyone into an emotional wreck!

@Boboelephant ahh im so disappointed for you, im so sorry.
You just never know when your month will be, it doesn't mean its not soon.
Pizza and wine sound like a good idea.

I feel like im out as i have no symptoms really, mostly wishful thinking if anything.
Just feel its not happened this month.
13dpo tomorrow and will test with fmu, if it bfn, im writing it off and will await AF.

Lots of 🐧hugs for you and @PassTheAfterEights

@Lilimum4 Ttc is a bitch, so many ups and downs and false hope at times. Sorry it wasnt this month but fx for next.

@Flossylolly85 Welcome and sorry for your losses

Thanks ladies. 🐧❤
@YellowDaffodils86 I hope you have better luck tomorrow! 🤞

@Cakelaur is this the cream??

Yeah bobo, just coming to the end of AF. Then we have this miscarriage appointment on Monday and then fertile week starts the very day we go on holiday, with family members.... typical

@YellowDaffodils86 thank you for the welcome and sorry for your loss too
@boboelephant sorry for you losses and thanks for the advice.
I feel like how you mentioned in your previous post and just don’t know how long I can go on. I’m so scared of testing again because a + or - feels like such heartache either way. If it’s - I’m I devastated and wondering what the hell is going on and if it’s + I’m instantly in panic mode that I’ll go for my scan to hear the words ‘I’m sorry’ again. It’s liter a year since my last miscarriage so the timing is ironic. And to top it off one of my friends announced she’s found out she is having a girl from her 20 week scan...she didn’t even tell me she was pregnant!!!!
I know I’m depressed and should go to the dr’s but worried it will have a negative impact on our IVF?
Sorry for the rant, it’s just so hard everyday at the minute. After losses and fertility issues, the best thing in the world becomes the most painful and worrying xx

@Flossylolly85 so sorry for everything you are going through. I can really relate. We've been trying for that long too. I had an EP 18 months ago, then it took a year to fall again. I had the early scan exactly one year after ectopic rupture, found out it was in the uterus and thought we were set. 4 weeks later we find out there is no heartbeat. 6 months later we're still trying and nothing. The process is unbearably cruel. I Also found out today that my other friend who was struggling is pregnant and I got my period. What a punch in the face.
I'll cross my fingers for a miracle for you. I think it's important that you do talk to someone about your depression. You're going to need to be mentally strong for your IVF journey. Rant away, everyone is wonderfully supportive. xx

@boboelephant that’s the one I used

@flossylolly85 I really feel for you. Perhaps it’s worth seeing if you can get on the list for some counselling. I have just come out of the assessment and feel loads better already. Turns out panic attacks, dizziness, palpitations, anxiety, sickness, backaches, headaches can all be symptoms of grief. Which is a bit of a relief actually as I was beginning to think I was properly ill!

Thanks @Martydog.
Glad it went well @Eastend2015.

Omg @PumpkinPatch000 congrats!! I hope it’s a very sticky bean 😊🤞
@Boboelephant aww I’m gutted for you! I so hope you get your BFP very soon, you deserve it. Enjoy the pizza & wine and fingers crossed for better news next month!!
@Lilimum4 oh no I’m sorry! You have nothing to be sorry for, it happened to me last month too & it’s rubbish! Hugs x
@Flossylolly85 I’m so sorry for how you’re feeling hun. Definitely talk to someone, go to doctors, just whatever will help. I hope you get the help you need. As for TTC, I’m so sorry how difficult this has been for you, I hope there’s a little miracle just around the corner. We’re all here whenever you need to vent. Sending you lots of hugs.

@lilimum4 and @boboelephant so sorry you haven't had better news today.