TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

[dulwichdays]

Another thread for us all - I'm hoping I've got everyone's details in the list below, I copied it from our previous thread.

PassTheAfterEights 33 C6 TTC#1
BadBadBeans 33 C1 TTC#2 (1 cycle ttc pre MC)
hayleyfx 24 C4 TTC#1
Claire138 28 C4 TTC#1
Lovewinemorethanhusband 37 C3 TTC#3
Blondcat 36 C8 TTC#1
Sweetpea0318 38 C1 TTC#2 (7 months TTC pre MC)
Dulwichdays 34 C4 TTC#1 (4 cycles TTC pre MC)
Weasledee C3 TTC#3
BabynameEdie 30 C2 TTC#1
Yellowdaffodils86 31 C2 TTC#1 (1 cycle pre mc)
Boboelephant 35 C4 TTC#2 (9 cycles TTC pre MMC after EP)
Wellthisisunexpected 34 TTC#2 awaiting AF
Sloeberrygin 36 C1 TTC#2
Hidcat 35 C1 TTC#2 (3 Cycles TTC pre MC)
DaisyMay25 27 C8 TTC#1
Rdm10 34 C2 TTC#2
Zarala 36 (to be) TTC#2
SerenaOverjoyed 28 C1 TTC#1 (ttc 1 cycle pre mc)
KnitKitty 30 C1 TTC#1

Thanks @Cakelaur. Chart stayed the same as yesterday but it's only sitting just above coverline. Don't feel any different than yesterday but I can never tell if af is coming or not! I seem to have different symptoms every month. Fx for May miracle but I'm not feeling very hopeful.

@Boboelephant ok here's the deal. I'll feel hopeful and cross everything and you have a lovely glass of wine tonight. I drank a bottle of wine the night before my bfp and I seemed to make my baby a sticky one! Haha

@Cakelaur ok you've got a deal. 🤣👍😀

Also ladies I'm convinced that I got my bfp cos of progesterone cream. I don't wanna push random creams and things on people so do your own research on it. But loads of ladies tried and tried and then got bfp first month with using it. It's called Well Springs Progesterone Cream.

I showed my private doctor (I only say private cos it wasn't the usual uninterested nhs one) and she said it probably wasn't harmful cos it contained such a low amount so if I felt better, then to keep using it. (She's never heard of it before) but you need progesterone to implant and I think that's why my implantation was so late this month.

I thought of you @Boboelephant where you said you temps aren't too high off coverline. Mine were really erratic. I've attached my last few months charts so you can see the difference. Could be total bullshit. Could be complete coincidence. But if any of you wanna give it a go, thought I'd share my secret.

Meant to say my bfp was the orange line. It has a much steadier temp rise. Then I stopped the cream at 12dpo for 3 days (to let AF show) she never did had temp drop. Then got bfp on 15dpo and started using it again.

Pearcrumble Sorry for your loss

I'd echo what others have said and suggest you do whatever feels right for you. After my first mc I didn't initially take a break, I felt a huge urge to get pregnant again immediately. After that cycle I realised it was becoming overwhelming and I did need a break, only to mc again on restarting. I suppose my rambly point is that there are so many variables and dice rolls that it's best to set your own limits and go with your gut.

Boboelephant It's true you shouldn't count yourself out yet. Any clues from the chart?

no idea which dpo I'm on! I tried using opks for the first time and didn't get a positive, but I put this down to incompetence rather than non-ovulation. I used pricey boots opks and only tested once daily with fmu They were darker 15/16 days ago, but from symptoms I think I usually ovulate on day 21 (35d cycle). So on day 32 I'm 10dpo? Who knows.

Cakelaur That cream looks interesting. Do you think it helps with bean stickyness (as well as the bottle of wine! )? What did you do after your bfp, carry on with it?

@BabynameEdie i can understand that your tentative, but i have everything crossed for a sticky sticky bean.
I also got a bfn 10/11/12dpo when i was pregnant before mc. So you never know, and its still so early. However im not that hopeful this month.

@dulwichdays you are only 3days behind me!

@PassTheAfterEights come on in the middle.
I actually had a wobble this week, which I surprised me. Im pleased for your friend. Im sure will understand.

@Anyday88 i use glow, its pretty good. Fertility friend is good too.

@Cakelaur I liked the post of our envelope, thats nice.

@MrsLCW Welcome hope you find what you
Need here. You have been through so much. Sending hugs.
Good luck for FW

@Boboelephant Get out from the back of that cheesy shelf, its not over yet! Are 12dpo?
I was stark white at 12dpo. I didnt get a bfp until about 15dpo and it was faint.
Sorry you have had to go through bfn its always a shit shit feeling.

@SerenaOverjoyed Sorry for bfn. Not over yet though.

@Pearcrumble sorry you are going through this. I had an early mc too. I tracked my cycle from when bleeding stopped and ttc on the first ovulation i had.
Yes I think there is truth in that.
I dont think there is any right or wrong answer to when ttc just when you feel ready too.

@SerenaOverjoyed yup. I'm still using it now. I think it defo helped. But I was desperate to try anything. I actually thought I wasn't getting AF because the cream had messed up my cycles and I was panicking. And then bam... bfp! You literally rub a tiny bit on somewhere "fatty" bum, thighs, belly, arms, etc and rotate the position each time twice a day. Once in the morning and once at night. I would defo use it again. But I don't wanna push anyone to use it. I was convinced I had progesterone deficiency. And I was desperate. But there seems to be loads of women On MN that have had success with it.

@Boboelephant sorry for the bfn!! 😒 but you’re definitely not out yet. Remaining very hopeful for you 🤞 fingers, toes, everything crossed

@MrsLCW I’m so sorry for your loss. This thread is so supportive, definitely in the right place. Lots of baby dust for FW!! 🤞

@Pearcrumble welcome, you’re certainly not hijaking! I’m so sorry for your loss, I hope you’re doing okay. I had a MC in December at 12 weeks - I started TTC again right away. I couldn’t wait, I was desperate to be pregnant again. What kept me going was TTC again and having something else to think about other than the MC. Everyone is different though, you’ll know yourself when you feel ready! Good luck for when you do start TTC again 🤞

Cake where did you get the cream from?

@Pearcrumble I'm so sorry and welcome. TTC again is a very personal thing but most people get cracking again quickly. I've had to wait as didn't get a period until 4 months later but TTC again now. Many don't even wait for their first period so do what's right for you.

@MrsLCW I hope you're doing ok after your two losses. It's good that you seem quite positive moving forward.

Sorry for all the BFNs. We will get there!

Sorry @boboelephant & @serenaoverjoyed, huge hugs. BFN here too.

Thank you lovelies @hidcat @babynameedie @strawberrye @eastend2015 @yellowdaffodils86 🐧🐧 put on my big girl pants this morning and trying to look forward to June. Will think of a plan to come clean to my friend(s), been such an awful distant friend the last few months with no good news to share, realise I'm only going to end up isolating myself and hurting them for keeping it buttoned up.

Welcome @mrslcw @pearcrumble and very sorry for your losses. Start TTC as soon as you feel ready Pear - no medical grounds not to get going again whenever you want to, the only case for waiting for AF is for dating a new pregnancy (and - er - none of us here care about dates)

Iv gone for some brunch before work this morning, and the place i have come to runs alot of classes/groups upstairs for mums and babies. So im surrounded by women and little babies coming and going.
I gotta say with another cycle coming to an end, mo doubt ending in bfn/af, it stings slightly.

Thank you all for your advice/input into ttc before wedding 👍🏼 We’re basically in the mindset of a honeymoon bonkathon & will be fw so hopefully change of scene & sun sand & cocktails 🍹 will help us 2 both be relaxed!!
Sorry for bfn’s they are so poxy awful sending hugs ❤️

@YellowDaffodils86 find the cutest kid and steal it!! 😂 that's teach em to hand around broody women!!

@weasledee just google wellsprings progesterone cream. Comes up from their website. It does take about 10days to arrive but you use it once if ovulated (I waited until 3 dpo for ff to confirm ov)

Thanks cake!
Can't believe it but I've got an appointment for the recurrent miscarriage clinic on Monday!!! I only went the docs 2 weeks ago. That's pretty quick! I was expecting it to be longer than that....
Feel nervous now though

Hi ladies, I’ve been reading your posts since I miscarried a few weeks ago. Hope you don’t mind me joining. I’ve found reading your stories has really helped me understand my miscarriage and seeing the BFPs each month gives me hope. The support you give each other is amazing! 😊
I am trying for my first baby and had MMC confirmed at the 12 week scan on 30th April, I was devastated. I opted for a natural miscarriage (this is my 2nd miscarriage) and after a tough couple of weeks I passed the pregnancy in A&E after a dose of morphine. I am now waiting for my first AF.
I hope that my story can help someone going through the same and that I too will eventually get a BFP that sticks!! xxxx

@maydot and @pearcrumble so sorry for your losses and sending hugs. You’ll find lots of support here.

This is our first month TTC again after RMC tests and not using opks in an effort to relax mean i’m not sure how many dpo I am, maybe 7/8. Boss still being an utter twat so had interview for another job last night. Would be a bit difficult to move if this month is my month and/ or may mean pausing TTC again. Argghhhh!!

Sorry for thread spam and TMI, have pale pink / brownish spotting, either AF is now fking fking fking three days early or could it be implantation??? But as late as 12dpo?

Caveat - never had spotting with implantation in the past, cycle went haywire last month, 4 days late after lifelong regularity so could now just be banjaxed (although don't know why, unless stress is a factor) and have developed lower back ache this morning which obviously had attributed coming to AF in three days. It's AF isnt' it? desperately don't want to get my hopes up. Suppose the next couple of hours will tell? or does implantation bleed last a while?

Also very big welcome @maydot and sorry for your loss, and @eastend2015 argh you poor thing, have so been there. hope interview went well. do you have to pause TTC? or could it just be bad luck for your new employer if you did get lucky?

Hi ladies how are you all doing.

I'll confess I'm a little worried ( I'm a poas freak ) so I did another frer with fmu today but it stark white bfn do you think the other test was wrong or it is a chemical pg. AF due in 5/6 days anyone else ever had this before.

@lilimum4 not happened to me but sadly seen it a lot on the boards its one of the reasons i try not to test early tbh i did say try. Then again some peoples hcg is higher in the aft. Ive seen that too.

Update: it's Flo 😫 as you were.

Ahh @lilimum4 no experience but just seen your post (all about me today it seems 🙄) didn't want to read and run - i reckon if it were me I'd do another FRER and a CBD to see what they said. Your line was so good I can't imagine HCG would have dropped altogether by now?? Huge fx for you xx