TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

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Another thread for us all - I'm hoping I've got everyone's details in the list below, I copied it from our previous thread.

PassTheAfterEights 33 C6 TTC#1
BadBadBeans 33 C1 TTC#2 (1 cycle ttc pre MC)
hayleyfx 24 C4 TTC#1
Claire138 28 C4 TTC#1
Lovewinemorethanhusband 37 C3 TTC#3
Blondcat 36 C8 TTC#1
Sweetpea0318 38 C1 TTC#2 (7 months TTC pre MC)
Dulwichdays 34 C4 TTC#1 (4 cycles TTC pre MC)
Weasledee C3 TTC#3
BabynameEdie 30 C2 TTC#1
Yellowdaffodils86 31 C2 TTC#1 (1 cycle pre mc)
Boboelephant 35 C4 TTC#2 (9 cycles TTC pre MMC after EP)
Wellthisisunexpected 34 TTC#2 awaiting AF
Sloeberrygin 36 C1 TTC#2
Hidcat 35 C1 TTC#2 (3 Cycles TTC pre MC)
DaisyMay25 27 C8 TTC#1
Rdm10 34 C2 TTC#2
Zarala 36 (to be) TTC#2
SerenaOverjoyed 28 C1 TTC#1 (ttc 1 cycle pre mc)
KnitKitty 30 C1 TTC#1

Blood test done. Results tomoz or day after.
Daily hcg poas was still pos. A little lighter than yesterday. The opk was also lighter. Feel sick 🤢

Just the kind of informatiom i needed @Boboelephant and everyone else. Thanks so much and thanks for some a warm welcome.

Oh better luck for tomorrow @weasledee.

I noticed clear stretchy ewcm sometime at the wkend dtd fri. Sun. Tue so hopefully in with a shot. Started weight watchers last week too which im hoping is a good thing as i am well into the 30s bmi wise.

@Sloeberrygin wow congratulations!!! Fx for a healthy and easy pregnancy for you!

There's a lot to catch up on!

I'm also on a whole concoction of pills too since my last MC.
I have been following Dr Shehata's advice - take pregnancare max, 2000iu vitamin D and vitamin C 1000mg from 3 months before TTC
I've also started taking floradix to up my iron levels as I really feel like the MC drained so much out of me- and since I started taking it I've really been feeling a lot better- emotionally and physically.
And then I'm on these Chinese pills which I have no idea what they are but I have to take 10 every night!
Hoping all of this will make my body strong enough to make a healthy baby!
CQ10 sounds good I may also go and add that to the cocktail!

Yes i think cq10 is for either egg quality or cwm i cant quite remember now.

10 pills all worth it if it gets that happy ending tho. One of my b vitamins is like eating a teaspoon of salt. Eugh.

Forgot to say, those trying for a long time have you heard of or tried preseed?always see lots of good things about it on here. Have a lool at 7 seas conception vits too. I got mine because tjey were cheap and have been taking them about 4 months now but i saw something on here about people saying they got their bfps when they started them. Probably coincidence i knowm

@L1zz13 I'm praying it's good news for you tomorrow hun.

@DBoo I'm also taking Seven Seas, not too much difference in them to Pregnacare but a fair bit cheaper. Good luck at Weight Watchers! I've heard good things.

I have just done frer obviously I am not sure of where my cycles are at but if I take the mc as 1st day of period Ovia/Flo have predicted it will be 13/14th.
I am sure there is the faintest of lines! As I said yesterday I haven’t done once since the mc because when they confirmed the mc at the hospital they did one and it was negative!
I feel like I’ve just brought about a whole new level of torture by doing a test! I told myself I wouldn’t until atleast next week but I suddenly found myself in boots this morning!!!

@l1zz13 I hope it’s good news for you!

The seven seas are only 2.99 in savers just incase you didnt know. I paid almost 5 for them in morrisons.

Thankyou. Into my second week and feel so much better - its been a long time coming.

@Anyday88 I would sit tight unless you see line progression in a day or two. The hospitals use a standard test so FRERs can still be positive a couple of weeks later unfortunately. On the plus side you may be entering FW if it is residual.

What are FRER s please

Aw big congrats @sloeberrygin hoping this is a happy and healthy pregnancy!!
@boboelephant your post ovulation symptoms are cruel as they are very like pregnancy symptoms, but at least you now know the swing of your body. Hope the dreaded TWW doesn’t take too long 🤞
@primrose16 what a great milestone! I know there are still many to go but it’s nice to get over one 😊
@L1zz13 all the best for your results. Hope it’s a little miracle 🤞
Fingers crossed for you too @weasledee 🤞🤞

@Lilimum4 they're are a type of pregnancy test - First Response Early Response. Not to be confused with First Response Rapid Response! Basically they are super sensitive.

@HidCat how early can they be used

Thanks @Cakelaur I've never really noticed the big dip before O but just looked back and the cycle I got pregnant also had that dip so maybe it's just my pattern. Hope it's not a bad thing 😬😩

So I'm now 5dpo and have such tingly sore boobs and lump in tummy kinda feel. Have had it so many times before that I think like you @Boboelephant they aren't nec pregnancy symptoms but simply the symptoms I seem to get after ovulation post MC. Anyone else 5dpo?

@L1zz13 fingers crossed for your results, it's so hard this waiting game isn't it.
And to you @weasledee 🤞🤞 I'm 5dpo - too early to test?! 😂 I'll be right there with you testing at 9dpo don't worry. Try again tomorrow?!

According to flo I'm 5days post O @BabynameEdie I guess I don't count tho lol

Yes babyedie I'm gonna crack open a frer tomorrow morning, just ordered 2 more from amazon

Hi all, hope you're all having a good day. Anyone testing soon?

Just a question RE your partners' attitudes to TTC after MC...
What are your OH's opinions on the matter?

Only asking because I mentioned today that I wanted to be pregnant before my due date would have been (October) because I can see myself feeling less upset if I have a new pregnancy to look forward to. My partner said he doesn't want to rush anything. He said he'd be happy if I got pregnant straight away but if it doesn't happen that's fine too. I think his way of thinking is a healthy attitude to have and I'm touched he's concerned about allowing my body to heal and everything, but I feel slightly frustrated as well that he doesn't seem to feel or understand the need I do to get pregnant again.

Anyone else have a partner who doesn't really 'get it'?

I know everything will happen when it happens and I am making every effort to be chill and relax about the whole thing because I know stressing is the worst thing to do, but I just feel like my partner's main concern about the MC was for my health; and while that's lovely, I don't think he understands how I feel about losing a baby and how it affects my readiness for a successful pregnancy.

@KnitKitty I know exactly what you mean and I think its really common for women to get frustrated or upset at our partners when they don't seem to "get it" after miscarriage. I guess at the end of the day it was us that was carrying the baby and then lost it - I think especially in the earlier stages of pregnancy the woman has a deeper connection with the baby, therefore feelings and emotions regarding it are a lot more intense! Also, although both DH and I desperately want a baby together, I don't think he understands the very basic desire that I have to carry a pregnancy. Not sure if that makes sense?

@Lilimum4 up to 6 days before period is due is the official line.

@KnitKitty my OH is happy to try again straight away but isn't as concerned about milestones as I am. He was worried about me not being ready but it's taken so long to get back to normal that we're both ready to get back on it. I also want to be pregnant again by my due date but I've taken 2 weeks of annual leave around it just in case so hubby took a week off as well. He hAs said he's gutted at losing the baby but he's definitely not as affected by it as I am. I think it's partly hormones for us tbh and they just can't grasp that side of it.

@sweetpea0318 sorry you think you might have missed your window. It only takes one though. Have you dtd in the last five days? At least if af arrives you'll be out of limbo and can move forward.
@hayleyfx fingers crossed it's back to normal this month! I was so relieved to ov on 16 not 22!
@weasledee fx for tomorrow.
@L1zz13 will be thinking of you tomorrow too.
@DBoo hopefully you'll get lucky!
@BabynameEdie I think it's a very good lucky sign. Means that going forward as soon as you get that dip you'll be ready for ov the next day!! Hopefully not for long but could be useful for future pregnancies too!
@KnitKitty yep I think it's a man thing. My DH desperately wants another one too but can remain super calm with a just let it happen attitude whilst I turn into a crazy person. He also isn't affected by milestones like me. I agree it's hormones! We attach when baby is in womb and dads don't until baby is born.

@Boboelephant thank you, hopefully! I’ll be relieved to just have a normal cycle this month!
@KnitKitty absolutely, I totally agree with the others - it’s a man thing I think. My OH was devastated after the MC and he wants me to be pregnant again so much however he doesn’t stress like I do. I want it to happen right away, I don’t want to wait, he has the mindset more of “it’ll happen when it happens” he still cares as much but he’s so much calmer than I am. I really want to be as calm as he is!!
@weasledee ooh fingers crossed for you 🤞

@KnitKitty my other half said after the MC that he didn't want us to fall pregnant until 3 months so my body had time to recover. I was so angry at him. That he didn't want to fall pregnant straight away!! He said he just knew that it would be the third month we fell, to relax!! Of course I ignore him and did everything we could to fall. And weird enough he said to me on the third month, this is the month, and weirdly it was.
Anyway my point is, I think they guys have a lot of pressure on them to "fix" the situation. To make us whole again to make us happy again. I know emotionally I wasn't ready much before we fell again.
So you need to do what's right for both of you. 🤞🏻 it is your month

strawberrye yes, that totally makes sense. Carrying a pregnancy is such a special feeling and I don't think I even got my head around it before I lost it which makes me feel even more like I want that experience again to fully take it in.

HidCat It's nice that he's take the week off with you. I think it must be hard for them trying to find the right thing to do since they don't know what it's like to be the mummy in these situations.

Thanks Boboelephant & hayleyfx it makes me feel like I'm not crazy. (Or I am, but I'm in good company ).

Thanks @boboelephant. Have dtd but nowhere near enough if fw was last week. The crazy has def hit me today! Going to put Friends on Netflix and hideaway until tomorrow!

@knitkitty same as others have said, my husband def doesn’t have the same urgency about getting preg again quickly. But I’m kind of glad as it balances things out a bit - don’t think I could cope if we were both going loopy with all this!

Thanks Cakelaur. Really interesting that your partner had a feeling about the third month. Maybe he has some weird mind-control over his sperm!?

I've got a mantra going of "it'll happen when it happens" whenever I find myself over-thinking things now. I had been wondering about starting OPKs and/or temping to try and figure out my cycles, however I didn't do this the first time round and feel like it might stress me out more than it helps me and make me overly obsessive. So the plan at the moment is to try and let nature take its course and trust that things will happen at the right time.