TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

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Another thread for us all - I'm hoping I've got everyone's details in the list below, I copied it from our previous thread.

PassTheAfterEights 33 C6 TTC#1
BadBadBeans 33 C1 TTC#2 (1 cycle ttc pre MC)
hayleyfx 24 C4 TTC#1
Claire138 28 C4 TTC#1
Lovewinemorethanhusband 37 C3 TTC#3
Blondcat 36 C8 TTC#1
Sweetpea0318 38 C1 TTC#2 (7 months TTC pre MC)
Dulwichdays 34 C4 TTC#1 (4 cycles TTC pre MC)
Weasledee C3 TTC#3
BabynameEdie 30 C2 TTC#1
Yellowdaffodils86 31 C2 TTC#1 (1 cycle pre mc)
Boboelephant 35 C4 TTC#2 (9 cycles TTC pre MMC after EP)
Wellthisisunexpected 34 TTC#2 awaiting AF
Sloeberrygin 36 C1 TTC#2
Hidcat 35 C1 TTC#2 (3 Cycles TTC pre MC)
DaisyMay25 27 C8 TTC#1
Rdm10 34 C2 TTC#2
Zarala 36 (to be) TTC#2
SerenaOverjoyed 28 C1 TTC#1 (ttc 1 cycle pre mc)
KnitKitty 30 C1 TTC#1

Im not temping but using flo and ovia apps. Cycles pretty regular give or take a day so thats good. Im taking a concoction of vitamins in my quest for a healthy baby too but god knows if they work.

According to flo i should have ovulated yesterday i think but im feeling a bit out of sorts today so im wondering if todays the day. Suggested dtd just incase weve managed every other day so far and today us the other day so hopefully haha!

Do any of you have ovulation symptoms? I never check cm either unless i actually see it iyswim.

@DBoo I'm pretty new too. These gals are amazing. There's always someone about to offload on. Sorry for your losses xx

So blood test is tomorrow. Yikes! Literally have no idea what to expect.
I'm almost certain it's not a new preggo. Random nausea would be my only symptom. The hurty boobs and dog tired comes before that! I have neither! I'm ttc #4 and have been pg 6 times. Bit of an 'old goat got the tshirt' sort of person. Prone to cynicism and reality/anxiety checks. Lol
Wine has relieved my back ache this evening. That's a positive. The peanut butter Haagen Dazs ice cream was pretty awesome too along with cheapo burger bite crisps!

Thank you @L1zz13. Sounds like you have some great coping techniques there wine and ice cream yum.

Good luck with the blood test. I guees its good news you have 3dc can clearly get to the finish line so fingers crossed.

Congratulations @sloeberry gin! Fx all goes well x

Sorry still catching up! Good luck with blood test tomorrow @L1zz13.

@dboo - I'm taking a ridiculous concoction of supplements! I went a bit mad in H&B after the mc as wanted to feel like I'm doing
Something positive. It takes me 5 minutes to take them all each night!

So my opks have been getting lighter and lighter until the one this evening was completely blank - do you think I've missed O? I only started with them last thurs (negative) missed sat and then done sun-tues. I didn't think I needed to bother before bfn on preg test but now I'm wondering if I messed it all up & should have started much earlier? Or could I just have not ovulated at all?! I'm cd39 now since start of mc.

Oh gosh ive no idea with opks sorry.

What vitamins are you taking sweetpea?

Ive got folic acid 5mg on prescription
7 seas conception vitamin
Coq10
B6
B12
Omega 3,6 & 9
Evening primrose oil
Vitamin d

Have a stash of baby aspirin and pregnancy vitamins for when i get bfp.

@sweetpea0318 I'd keep going as it's always possible you picked up leftover LH from your MC. My opks got lighter first then darker after.

Speaking of opks, I know that the recommendation is to start testing at about CD 11 but given this will be 2nd cycle after MC I thought I'd start early in case my cycles are out of whack. It's not too obsessive to start as soon as AF clears up is it? 🤫

@Dboo I’ve got a similar list to you - pregnacare conception, ubiquinol, selenium, omega 3,6&9, zinc & evening primrose. I did try bee propolis for a bit too but the smell put me off!

@hidcat yep i think will keep going for a bit just in case they do change again. Before mc they just got darker so this is all new! I think if you’ve got a big stash of opks then just test away from end of Af!

Whats ubiquinol and selenium for? I debated zinc but think its in my conception vitamin. The b vitamins are as well tbh im just covering all bases ha.

I did want to take niacin too but ive seen mixed revies on that.

Hi ladies, I've just been trying to catch up after a weekend away from screens, so much has been going on!

Have been struggling a little bit the past few days with first AF since MC. Just feeling so much like I'm back to square one and worrying about not getting pregnant again or losing another one if I do catch again. I know worrying doesn't help though, so trying to take my mind off everything. Had a lovely weekend with a friend who came to visit which helped a lot.

Sloeberrygin Congratulations! Fingers crossed for a healthy pregnancy. xx

Laney79 I'm pleased you've finally got a negative. It might feel a bit easier emotionally now; I felt relieved after mine and like I could start to look forward again. The bad days have been getting further apart and easier to handle since my BFN, but you will still have to ride the waves. Getting back to work may also help you feel more back to normal. Good luck with TTC again.

Primrose16 Congrats on getting the furthest you've been. I have everything crossed for you that this little bean continues to be sticky and healthy. Would also be nervous and wary in your position, but I hope all goes well. xx

@dboo ubiquinol is a form of coq10 that’s easier to absorb apparently. I found a page on the Marilyn glenville website that listed things that women who miscarry may be low in - selenium & zinc were both on there. I’m not sure I’ll keep all of these going once my supplies run out as I am self medicating here! But hoping they may give me a bit of a boost.

@knitkitty sorry to hear you’ve been struggling. I can’t imagine the ups and downs end until we actually have the longed for baby! Sending hugs x

Hi all, just popping in to say I'm 9DPO tomorrow! The tww has actually gone quite quick! :)

@HidCat obsessive! On here! What would give you that impression lol 😂

Test away. Only be prepared to have a notebook that has a mild waft of wee every time you open it! Anyone else relate to that?

Lovely thank you.

Im enjoying the combo im taking something is really helping with tiredness think maybe the b12 and coq10 but i dont look forward to popping 8 tablets at a time lol.

@BabynameEdie so chart advice I'd say seeing as you have roughly a 26day cycle, then you've o'd around the right time. Your temps are mega low before ov. In terms of DTD you've got LOADS of good ones. Plenty of swimmers to catch that egg. 🤞🏻our of interest are you temps normally quite low?
But from memory your opks line up as does fertile cm.

@weasledee eek!!! How exciting! When are you testing!? Surely you'll test before POAS Friday?!

@L1zz13 good luck with the bloods tomorrow babe. I have everything crossed for you!

@DBoo so sorry for your losses. You see so upbeat and strong. Fingers crossed you get your happy ending soon.

Cake I'm going to waste a stick tomorrow! I know 9DPO is way too early and I'll spend all morning looking at it from different angles and in different lights!! Then convince myself there's a squinter, when's there's clearly not!

@DBoo I mostly have leading up to ovulation symptoms but for me the cm is the biggest telltale sign. That and I get more in the mood. If you can do it I find since checking my cm and cervix I am much more in the know. My cm then changes very quickly after ovulation.
@L1zz13 wine, peanut butter ice cream and burger bites... are you sure you're not pregnant!? 🤣🤣 on a serious note, good luck today!
@sweetpea0318 I'd keep going too. Mine often get lighter and then bam positive! How many times a day are you testing? It's also possible you missed it if you missed a day. Hopefully not. Are you checking cm too?
@HidCat test away!!
@KnitKitty sorry you're having a tough time. I can relate to to the worry. But you'll get there! Keep doing nice things so life doesn't become all about ttc. Sending hugs.
@weasledee ooh good luck!!

If you dont mind me asking @Boboelephant how does it change?

I should check but tbh its a bit of a no go area for me after interventions i had when miscarrying so i just don't fancy it and im trying not to get too obsessed but month 3 and im not doing a great job of trying not to .

weasle that was me first month. Poas days early when i promised myself i wouldnt then absolutely convinced there was a line when there really wasnt. Told myself i wouldnt do the same the next month. Yep i really stuck to that although tbf i think i only tested twice that time.

This month im going to try my best to wait until af is due. Good luck today cant wait to hear how you get on.

Thanks @cakelaur. I think weve talked before when i've popped onto the board. I'm always hopeful but once i get bfp ill be a mess im sure.

TMI Alert!!
@DBoo ok I have found the past few months that I get watery cm for about 4 days leading up to fertile week. This is pretty obvious and I can pretty much feel it especially when wiping. My cervix feels high but firm and closed during this time. Then I get about 5 days of EWCM. The last two days this is visible when wiping but the others it is up around my cervix. When I start getting this I can feel that my cervix turns soft and open. I ovulate on the last day of the EWCM so I have it right through the 5 fertile days and then it immediately stops being stretchy and either turns sticky or creamy. The past few months it has been quite sticky and tacky. This month it is creamy like lotion. so of course I am stupidly getting my hopes up
I have found this really helpful and the opks and bbt support this. But tbh I get where you are coming from and if you can hold off obsessing I'd do that! I have been trying for 18 months since my first loss and had an EP so lost a tube reducing my fertility. So now I need every trick I can get!

@boboelephant - TBH I think I've messed it up as my cm has turned sticky today which is the normal sign that it's game over for the month. Now kicking myself that I didn't do more to track things from the mc leading up to this. I was freaking out about doing a preg test to monitor hcg over the past few weeks and was sticking my head in the sand a bit. Now I'm looking back and wondering why I was being such a wuss!! Especially as it looks as though I've counted myself out for anything happening before first af... My head is such a mess with all this!! Arrgh!

@weasledee so??? Squinter????

I can tell cm @DBoo but have never found my cervix!! Weirdly though, both months that I thought.... right I'm gonna find it and figure it all out, I got my bfp haha!!! But I'm still none the wiser!!

Just catching up now ladies!!
Started getting EWCM yesterday (CD11) so I think I might actually ovulate normally this month around CD16 and not super late like last month! 🤞
@Sloeberrygin wow congrats!! Fingers crossed for a very sticky bean 🤞
@DBoo so sorry for your losses. Definitely in the right place, everyone here is so lovely!!

To everyone in the TWW good luck! So many of you. Hopefully I’ll be joining you all in a few days!

Unsurprisingly cake there was no squinter!! Bright white BFN!
But at 9DPO it was never gonna be positive ha ha
Maybe tomorrow