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@Si1ver that sounds promising. Are you transferring one or two? Can I ask why a miscarriage means you can’t adopt?

@Paranormalbouquet local authority rules. Can't adopt for 12 month's post miscarriage.

We'll take the clinic's advice on how many to transfer. I think if we have two of the same standard then we'll transfer two.

Si1ver that’s really tough; I wonder what their reasoning is. I hope all goes well on Saturday.

@Si1ver oooh fingers crossed hun!

@LookingAtTheStars89 I gotta good feeling for you hun!

Treating myself to a red wine tonight. In two minds about this cycle obvs I'm only 2dpo so who knows but staying positive! Got a party next weekend af due 25th so to soon to test anyway but I might do one anyway!

@Spottyyellowdress @Si1ver I feel a bit better knowing I’m not the only one feeling like this thank you xxx

@Si1ver will cross all my crossables for the transfer for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Yammers - I've got my hysteroscopy next week, right at the start of fertile week. Anyone have experience of whether it's okay to TTC in week after? Finding conflicting advice online (eg risk of infection so no sex for 7 days). Will ask when at appt but at least one of you guys is bound to have been through this!! Also - how uncomfortable is it? Did you take painkillers before?

@BGDino - it's bloody tough, all this. You are in good company here! I alternate between sadness, frustration and hopelessness at the moment. Being told by a doc that there are fertility issues is a tough milestone in TTC but hopefully the start of figuring out the problem. X

@Chooklass I got told no sex, swimming or baths until 48 hours after any bleeding stops. I only had a bit of cramping an hour after but nothing after that but YMMV (also my anaesthetist gave me a script for 10 x 500/30mg paracetamol/codeine which are pretty strong which makes me think some people do get more pain)

Thanks @BG - will just have to see what happens but good to hear other people's experiences.

@BGDino yep.. me too. When i found out that I had low AMH and the IVF clinic basically said i shouldn't keep trying naturally for more then 6 months.. I felt devastated. It was like I was going through grief! My dreams of having a baby naturally felt like they had died! I'm still in the 6 month period.. but its slowly vanishing. :( June is the last month.

I am convinced that I'm out this month again (i'm due tomorrow or Sunday depending on which app you look at).. Got loose bowel movements today, a bit of crampyness... a major craving for chocolate yesterday... the biggest tell tale sign will be if I get very horny over the next couple of days.

If i was still temping, im sure my temp would have dropped by now. My resting heart rate seems to have dropped the past couple of days on my fitbit... dunno if thats a sign.

@Si1ver good luck with your transfer tomorrow!

@Si1ver Good luck for tomorrow:-)

@Si1ver Good luck for tomorrow!

@Pinkemi Fully understand the grief feeling. Also - horniness during FP, what IS the fuck that about?

My lovely sister text me today, in a lovingly diplomatic way, to ask if I wanted her steriliser/car seat/etc to be kept still before it gets sent to charity/tip. Don't know if I'm being obnoxiously hopeful by saying yes or weak for saying no and giving up

@wonkyDonk87 god knows.. but my OH always knows it's a sign.

However.. earlier this evening I had a bit of pink tinge when I wiped.. which resulted in me basically having a mini melt down. :-( was trying so hard to not let it affect me.. but knowing FP is due any minute is just heartbreakening. Especially seeing as this month I tried so so hard to be relaxed and all that crap.

It doesn't work when I try really hard and it doesn't work when I don't try at all and just have sex when we feel like it.

So fed up I've had a Bailey's. Sod it. Sod it all. :-(

@Pinkemi DH and I have an agreement that on the first day of FP (cos I always kid myself when I spot before that it's implantation bleeding which it never is) I'm allowed to wallow/sob/curse as much as needed. It's fucking shite and it's horrible to have to go through it each time. I'm having more than a baileys, so no judgement here

Ah yeah.. I had a moment where I was like.. ohh it could be! Then was like face it.. it's not and you know it.

Just hate feeling like such a failure. :-( never believed it would take this long.. never ever!

Glad to see I'm not the only one drowning their sorrows into alcohol. Lol

I read a probably fake quote by Beyoncé once that when she has a bad day, she allows herself one day to wallow and indulge in feeling crap, then gets her arse up and gets on with being productive/doing something to improve the rest of her life. No idea if it's a factual but I think it's a good attitude.

@Si1ver hope all went well today.

Everyone who is having a hard time try to remember it’s not your fault, it’s just really bad luck.

Hi all....im a bit frustrated my blood tests haven't came back yet and I'm sure they've got lost now! Bloody typical argh! It's because I had to go to a different hospital closer to work to have them done.

Does anyone know whether you can be tested for oestrogen dominance?

Hi @Owlpatrol , I'm not sure but interested to know too.

I did a clear blue opk last night and this morning and it was just a blank circle. I got the regular digi as I can't stand that flashy face lol. I'm cd 12 but it was negative. I have had thick, clear, somewhat stretch cm and yesterday I had some ovary pain.

I know it sounds pessimistic but I really don't feel as hopeful as I thought I would on it. I've convinced myself that I'm a bit chunky so I'm not going to ovulate lol.

I went to my graduation ceremony for qualifying as a medical specialist today. Lots of babies and baby bumps about. My soon-to-be boss was there and good-heartedly teasing me about not making any more big life changes for the next 12 months (graduated, bought a house, started a research degree, going to renovate house, changing jobs, husband sitting his final exams to qualify as a surgeon all happened/happening within 12 months!), hadn’t planned on telling him but said to him quietly that that was a bit of a sore spot since we’ve been referred to a fertility specialist, as I don’t think I can smile through several more months of this kind of thing... Hubby was being all proud of me and everything today but so much of me was thinking how this all doesn’t really seem worth it if I can’t give him a child... Oh and tomorrow I get to tell my current boss that I’m planning on leaving in August...

Ahhh sorry everyone having a rotten time
Join my club....cranping started today as usual cycle day 18.....probably out again when will i ever be pregnant

So it turns out....yams can fuck off 😢