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@SparkwoodAnd21. What's happened? x

Same old. FP arrived as I got back from a really wonderful wedding. Now I’m sad. Thank fuck there’s alcohol at home.

So it turns out that eating actual yams does not get you pregnant. Imagine that.

Congratulations @BGDino. Good luck with the boss-chat tomorrow

Sorry @SparkwoodAnd21 . Yams can fuck off indeed. Hope the booze is helping.

@WonkyDonk87 current boss was heartachingly nice about it, considering I’m the second of four senior docs to go. But seeing as my current workplace is a risk to my mental health, staying is out of the question.

@SparkwoodAnd21 @WonkyDonk87 yams can totally fuck off.

Sorry to hear FP arrived @sparkwood

Hope you get some ovulation news @looking mine seems to be cd16 so don’t give up just yet

How are you doing @si1ver?

@LexieJean. Still a O on my clear blue opk. I'm only cd13 so it's still fairly early. I think I'm getting ill which obviously isn't going to help!

Oh that’s annoying @looking- there seems to be so many colds flying around at the moment. Although hay fever too, I’m not sure which I’m suffering from!! 🤧

Well fanfuckingtastic! I just got baby bombed by my own fucking mother! No she's not pregnant lol but she called me to tell me that my shit head brother and his control freak of a wife are! The conversation went like this:

Her:"I HAVE to tell you something"
Me:........"Go on"
Her: "I'm going to be a granny again"
Me: "Good for you"
Her: "No, don't be like that"
Me: "I'm hanging up now because I'm not interested"

You're probably thinking that was shitty of me. My brother is one of those bell ends that does whatever the hell he likes and there are never any consequences . I was also pissed because I had phoned her to tell her that I've just been told my sweet 5 year old DD has at least moderate hearing loss .

I'm so fucked off.

Sorry for the baby bomb Looking my horrible cousin who nobody likes (so much so my grandparents have written her out of their will) and is just generally a horrible person is pregnant and for some reason, my youngest sister feels the need to update me on it and I said to her “I’m going to stop you there, I am absolutely not interested in what that horrible cow is doing so I’d prefer it if you didn’t tell me” and she replied “you can’t just ignore what’s happening in the world” to which I told her I can and I will and I couldn’t care less if she gave birth to a three-headed demogorgon (which wouldn’t surprise me seeing as she is part-monster). People just don’t get it. I think your reaction was actually calmer than I would have been. It’s just not fair. Sending hugs x

And I’m sorry to hear about your DD as well, bless her :(

@Bubblegum89. My poor DD. She's such a good girl. She always tell me I'm the best lol.

Yeah some people definitely do not get it. She sent me a txt afterwards saying she "had to talk about it". She knows me and DH are trying and how much my brother and I don't get on. Why on earth does she think I'd want to know? She reckoned she told me so that I didn't find out by bumping into them - we live in different places so it would literally NEVER happen!!

@Bubblegum89. If it makes you feel better, I can relate to the drip feeding of unwanted info! My brother is a golden boy to my parents so no matter how often I say stop they will mention it and it'll be over Christmas time - how lovely

Sorry to hear of your baby bomb, Looking. And re. your daughter's hearing loss (which I'm sorry to hear about too); I've worn aids for a few years now after suffering unexplained loss as an adult. It'll all be a bit odd for a few months but you'll all get used to the aids and her world will be TRANSFORMED! I couldn't believe it when I got mine, I was thrilled to be able to hear all the little things again! All I can say is, have her learn BSL if she wants, it's an amazing language and there are lots of job opportunities out there if she works her way up to fluent. Best do it before she gets as old as me, though, so she's not trying to qualify as an interpreter while working full time If you want to chat about it all just pm me, I'm happy to talk about it. hugs

@LookingAtTheStars89 omg do we have the same brother?! My mum is sooooooo excited about becoming a grandma and how she's going to do the back bedroom up as a nursery for him/her to stay (my brother visits once a year)! However she has never once suggested we do that for her EXISTING grandson who belongs to me and is an absolute legend!!

She's on it today about how beautiful their baby will be and how excited she is. That's ok mother I'll smile and nod and hope that their child fucks up as much as its father has done all his life so you can forgive them constantly and pretend it didn't happen. Wish I'd stolen her car to go joy riding whilst stoned and maybe I'd get some positive comments!

Anyway... hi. I'm back for a bit. Only because I'm fed up of this menopause crap. My FP is due at the weekend and I'm already getting through three pairs of scrundies a day because I seem to me completely unable to control my bladder 🤦🏼‍♀️ tmi I know but it's annoying me because I'm so tired and it's embarrassing really.

All the baby news I've missed is exciting and big hope givers for everyone else. I'm adopting some guinea pigs 😆

Oh my days ladies! My day literally went from bad to shit to explosion!

Do you remember me telling you a few months back that my mother in law had that big to do with DH one night where she said loads of shitty things about me and told me to get over losing the baby? She was pissed at me because I had decided not to attend a christening because it was on the day that our baby should have been born.

Well, that was in March and I haven't spoken to her since, neither has DH. Out of the blue his Dad (my father in law) came to see DH, basically saying that the falling out needed to stop etc. So DH told him everything that she'd said about me and told his Dad that the only way forward would be for her to apologise to me.

So, off he goes back home and we think things could be on the way to being mended maybe. At 23.30 the letter box goes and two letters are shoved through the door - one for me and one for DH. DH's was mostly sweetness and light with the odd guilt trip thrown in - it was like a four page essay! But mine, Oh yeah, mine was a crumpled up shitty piece of paper that said that I played manipulative games and I had caused irreparable damage and that she hoped that people found out what I was really like

I'm absolutely gobsmacked. My own mother in law is sending me fucking hate mail!

@starwishing. Yes It sounds very much like we have the same brother! The all loved - all golden boy who can't step a foot wrong. I was a teenage mum when I had my eldest DD (11) and I think I've always subtly been punished for it.

My Mum was delighted both times when my brother and his girlfriend told her they were expecting, even though the first time was because she'd "forgotten" to take her pill She told me I was ruining my life any time I've ever told her I was expecting. Families are fucked up!!

@SoozC. Ahhh thank you :-) I will bear that in mind. I will see what the audiologist says first and go from there. I'm going to reiterate to her teacher tomorrow that she has to make listening easy for DD by letting her sit near the front and looking at her when she's talking to her. The GP said that's what I should be doing for now so that's what I will do.

I've tried to make small adjustments - I speak louder and in a slightly lower tone so my words are more obvious. I've started to touch her arm lightly so that she knows I want her attention and make eye contact when I'm talking.

My DH can be a bit of a mumbler and my big DD can talk really fast so I've talked to them about it too. I've explained to DD that she's going to see a special ear doctor who will help but and it's going to be ok because I will be there all the time.

Man today has been tough!

Oh man @LookingAtTheStars89 - just read your post about your Beast-In-Law. What a joke. Couldn't even come to you in the first place, sent her DH, then wrote letters? Ugh. She had an opportunity to repair the relationship and chose not to. Clearly not that interested/committed to fixing things then, was she? How's your DH?
Hope things improve for your DD soon, how serendipitous you've got Sooz on hand for advice (props to you for doing the BSL btw Sooz, I could only ever manage a handful of Makaton!)

@LookingAtTheStars89 oh hun just caught up sending hugs your way.....lots of love and support

The two women who baby bombed me have invited me to their baby showers....politely declined I am not putting myself through that shit

@WonkyDonk87. She's a whack job! DH has told me before that she was like it when he lived at home, picking fights and being callous for no reason. I think DH is hurt but not surprised. I hate it when people say things about you or your personality etc because even though you know it isn't true, you start to doubt yourself.

@Owlpatrol. Thanks for your support x x I couldn't do a shower either. I well up down the baby clothes section in ASDA lol. Mind you, the after effects of my clomid this month, I well up at everything!!

Er. I had fallen off thread again. Looking that is literally shit. What a horrible, manipulative, narcy COW your MIL is. And I say that as someone who spent years as the DIL to the most evil woman in the home counties. Put it in the bin and never talk to her again. My DD had hearing loss until she was about 5 (undiagnosed / mistreated glue ear) which was resolved, but we did most of the same things, and she caught up again very quickly once it was sorted.

Sorry for the baby bombs too. I too have that brother - leaps head first in to a bucket of shit, blames everyone else and then waits for the parents to bail him out, mop him up and pay for the damage. Still, at nearly 40. I refused to have him at our wedding and DPs were furious with me, until his latest outburst where they basically said ah, we get it. Him and his partner don't have kids, so no baby bombs from them but I probably would have committed hari kari if there had been while TTC.

Wow looking your MIL sounds like a bloody nightmare!

Hope everyone is getting on okay(ish) I’m kind of in and out of here these days. I genuinely don’t even know what CD I’m on right now lol hope to see some more bfps from you all very soon :)

Wow @Looking sounds like you’re better off without her harsh though it sounds 👿