TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 18: Christmas cake for Christmas babies

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Argh that was meant to be 'being' not banging or whatever else that autocorrect suggests

@Cakelaur thanks so much. That's really helpful. And nice to think it could have gotten really dark when I was asleep! Your last one was definitely positive!! Yes I do have the cm and the cramps so I'm 99% sure I do. I guess that's the downside to getting tests- you start doubting yourself.
@hayleyfx I'm so sorry the line is not getting darker. Hopefully it's just a late implanter and the line will darken soon. Enjoy your holiday!!!
@zarala I'm so sorry this is dragging on so much for you. I hope the next few months give you and DH some quality time and gives your body the rest it needs in order to get your sticky bean soon.
@Beck1988, @clairehr and @ApplesTheHare sorry for all the pregnancy announcements. It is really tough.
@Claire138 hope the witch arrives quickly so you can move onto next month. Also glad the acupuncture is relaxing. Fingers crossed indeed!!

@Kingy2910 how are you feeling?

Hi bobo I'm doing good so far. Trying not to think about the darker times and feeling quite positive at the minute. I think I'm 5 weeks today but nhs are dating from mc (I know that's not right lol) so 7 weeks from mc. I have my booking appointment towards end of April and think I'm gunna book a private scan for just after weeks (that's when I mc) so mid April. Really really hope this one sticks due date is end of November so keep them fingers crossed for me xxx

@Kingy2910 everything crossed for you!! 🤞🤞 Glad you are feeling positive. Yeah I guess dating from the MC is the same as when they date from the last period. At least it gets you two weeks closer! Hope it all continues well for you.

@Bobo thank you! Sadly I started to bleed today but I expected it, I’m guessing it was a chemical but there’s no way to really tell I guess. However my SO and I are staying positive, despite this we have had a great day today and will be up for our 7am flight to Tenerife tomorrow, can’t wait to get into the sun haha! I’ve also promised him that next month I will not test early, I think I’ll actually stick to it this time lol
Hope you all have a good next few days, I will be catching up with this thread at the weekend!

@hayleyfx sorry for af! Hope you have a fab holiday tho an can keep ur mind on happier things! I'm gonna try not testing early this month too, just wait an c, if we do get pregnant least we will be a few days or week further along if we wait! 🤞

@hayleyfx sorry to hear AF arrived. It's great you have a nice holiday to look forward to though. I hope you have an amazing time and enjoy the sunshine!

@kingy2910 so glad to see you are feeling positive about things. I hope your scan dates come up quickly.

How was everyone's weekend? i've found it hard this weekend as on Friday we would of had our 12 week scan and told everyone this weekend :(

@Zarala I wish that was the case for me too! I did a test this morning though and it's negative. it would be too early to get a positive from my last ovulation peak though (i've had four) and a flashing smiley today so not sure if i'm going to be onto a fifth soon.. hmmmm

@ApplesTheHare haha yeah banging also works! (Def no baby dance for me for a while so...) lolll

Thanks @Boboelephant - despite random outbursts of tears I am actually looking forward to this time "off"

@hayleyfx sorry for AF- but enjoy the sunshine!!! Definitely needed!!! Plus you can have cocktails by the pool! Always a silver lining!

@PumpkinPatch000 uh that 12 week milestone coming up sux and I'm sorry this weekend was hard for you xx
I have never tested with OPKS so I have no idea how you can have 4?5? Peaks?!
It must just be the body regulating - I hope it settles soon- i can imagine that is really annoying-

@zarala yeah it's rubbish :( I only used them the month I got pregnancy and then only got 1 peak but since the MC my body seems confused. To be honest I didn't know you get have so many either but i'm assuming maybe the egg has been released so my body has tried again. Thanks I hope so too, it's really starting to get to me being in this limbo arghh

@hayleyfx so sorry af came, enjoy your holiday though!

@Kingy2910 fx for you! Please let us know how your scan goes.

PumpkinPatch000 so sorry, that must be so hard. I find milestones like that surprisingly upsetting each time.

hayleyfx sorry it turned out to be af but enjoy your holiday and hopefully a cocktail or two!

Sorry the witch came @hayleyfx but enjoy your holiday
@Boboelephant Try not to doubt yourself. The body does remarkable things. BBT helps me see that. I've watched my body come back to normal over the last 3 cycles since mc and i seem to be back to normal now but remember how much an mc can mess with our bodies.

@PumpkinPatch000 I really struggled around the 12 week mark too. Hopefully your body will begin to right itself soon. But I've seen people get several surges even without an mc so you could just be having a crazy month. But your body will hopefully O soon.

I'm on day 6 of the marathon... peak was this morning so hoping for O tomorrow. And 4 more days of DTD. There is NOTHING more I can do this month. Saw my puppy today, so thought I'd share again! Just for smiles!!

@cakelaur Oh my!! Puppies just make everything better! Thank you for sharing!

Hope everyone had a good weekend! Had the step children this weekend, egg hunting (ironic!) and lots of crafts complete. Even managed to get them to bed early so we could DTD! Not in FW yet, but every little helps right?!

Cakelaur your puppy is so, SO gorgeous! That pic has made my morning. When does he/she come home?

clairehr you have to laugh at things like egg hunting don't you!

Cycle day 39 no AF and no BFP. Really struggling at the moment. Had a proper cry yesterday, not because I wasn't pregnant but because my cycle seems screwed now. I would have been fine if my period had come. I'm not expecting to get pregnant straight away. But to not have a period is a kick in the teeth. I'm a midwife and constantly surrounded by successful pregnancies. I love my job, it keeps me going (along with my OH!) but it's sooooooo hard. I feel like I'm moping...anyone else have an irregular cycle following MC?

@MrsMac Sorry you're having such a rough time right now!

Mine went the opposite way after my first MC, I was having a period every 8 days. I remember how draining it is, can't imagine how difficult it is for you being surrounded by pregnancies. Stay strong. Our bodies are amazing, try to remember it's healing ready for a successful pregnancy :)

@MrsMac1489 I still haven't had my period after my miscarriage, I'm on week 10. So frustrating. I have had a BFN now so almost there. Just hoping my cycles go back to normal fairly quickly. I can't imagine going through all this whilst working as a midwife. I guess you just have to push it back which must be exhausting.

@MrsMac1489 mine were messed up too, I had three normal ones then completely missed my fourth. Then my sixth was four days early now I'm on my seventh when they should've gone back to normal but I'm having AF like cramps on CD21
I hope she turns up soon for you so you can move onto your next cycle

@MrsMac1489 sorry to hear you're having such a rough time of it, that sounds really tough. I work on healthcare too and it's really tough being surrounded by pregnant women and young babies. Being a midwife must be so so hard when going through this. I don't have any useful advice but just wanted to send my hugs and best wishes.

@Cakelaur your puppy is just too much, I just wanna cuddle him!

@HidCat @clairehr My work pals and are amazing. So supportive and so many of them have faced loss themselves. I know it makes me a better midwife when caring for bereaved families because now I can empathise with the women experiencing loss. I'm extremely lucky to be part of their stories.

I had a period last month, so we carried on trying this month. Feels like we're going backwards. It's devastating. Thanks for your support girls. Xxx

@strawberrye I just looked back for you and my fourth one was 54 days long, my doctor assured me it was normal after mc though unfortunately, I know hearing that doesn't make it any easier though

@MrsMac1489 you are most definitely not wallowing. It’s so tough and I found that I needed my AF following the MC for closure and to know that I was ready to start again. I was about 5 days later than my pre-MC cycle and I’d managed to convince myself I was pregnant 😳....!

I’m a Physio and shortly after going back to work I had a pregnant client who had my exact due date. Not really sure how I managed to hold it all together - but I felt stronger for doing so.

I’m still holding on in my TWW, expecting my period anyday this week. But of course could be longer still. I’m hoping that the longest I’ll have to wait is day 33 which is what my cycle was last month. I’ve told myself that if it’s not here by the weekend I’ll test. Trying hard not to symptom spot, google estimated due dates and resisting the urge to convince myself I’m pregnant. Wish me luck!!