TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 18: Christmas cake for Christmas babies

[Daffodil77]

Here you go

Is it ok to join? Had a miscarriage earlier this month. Trying again now.

@Brodiee welcome, although I’m sorry you’re here. I hope you find this thread as useful as I have x

Thanks dulwichdays xx

@MrsMac1489 you are definitely not wallowing. I'm amazed you're so positive, especially for the families you're supporting. I'm in a similar position to you having had af come since the MC (in October!) but then I've had nothing since late Jan. I feel like my body really needs to come on now and I don't feel like we can properly try again until things are back to normal. I'm seeing the GP on Weds and will let you know if she says anything interesting about ongoing irregular cycles.

Welcome Brodiee and sorry you're going through this too

@clairehr my stepson is away on holiday at the mo with his mum. So we've have an awesome FW! Haha. Every little helps!

@ApplesTheHare he comes home in 18 days!!! I am literally not even bothered about getting pregnant I'm so excited!!!

@MrsMac1489 so sorry yours struggling. How long are your usual cycles? How long since mc? I'm on cycle 3 since and it's only JUST seeming to be back to normal. same goes for hormones. I feel a bit more stable this month. Stay strong. Being a midwife must be hard in this situation. Sending hugs.

@HidCat 🤞🏻now you have your bfn you get AF soon. I ovulated a week after my bfn and AF 10 days after that.

@DaisyMay25 honestly it was the best day of my life seeing him! His personality is really starting to show. I've never given birth and held my baby... but if holding my puppy was this amazing I can't wait!! Haha sending puppy cuddles your way!

Welcome @brodiee sorry you find yourself here. Was it your first pregnancy?

Sorry @hayleyfx the tests are lighter. Good timing to get away to the sun and stock up on some vit d! Hope you have a good time!

Welcome @mrsmac1489 and @brodiee sorry you guys find yourselves here.

@dulwichdays good luck!! TWW is the worst!! Hold tight 🤞

@cakelaur love a puppy update!! Won’t be long till you have him home with you?

AF is here and I’ve worked out I should be ovulating smack bang in the middle of my sister, BIL and niece staying with us 🙄

@Claire138 either go out with them, get DH drunk and pounce on him. OR send your guest out and pounce on DH!! Haha! Where there's a will there's a way!! 👍🏻

Most definitely @cakelaur I will not be wasting FW! Might just need to be more ninja like though 😂

@Claire138 🤣😂🤣😂🤣 🤺

@ApplesTheHare @Cakelaur thank you. It was my second pregnancy. I have a DS.

Hello ladies, some of you might remember me from the last thread? I got my bfp in Feb but sad to say I found out yesterday that I’d had another mmc (at 10w2 measuring 6w and no heartbeat). I’m devastated and while not ttc - just sat at home waiting for the inevitable- wanted to check back in...

I remember you @ek78 I'm so so sorry for what's happened. Rest up and take care of yourself

@ek78 oh I am so so sorry. That’s horrible, and so unfair. How are you- I know a daft question.

I a GP appointment at 3:20 today. Im a little nervous what to say- well how to say it. I feel I need a few weeks off work. I support vulnerable families and think I need to make sure that I’m right so that I can support others. Then there’s the asking for support after my second mc this year. I’m hoping they say yes but a feeling it will be a no. I don’t know what I will do if they say no. I will either cry or get arsey!

@ek78 I am so so sorry
It's just such a punch in the gut isn't it? It's the worst.
Sending you hugs right now.

@Primrose16
I just got teary and told my gp I've been really suffering from anxiety (even though I haven't) and play the age card 35+ and just insist you want at least blood tests done-

My gp was really resistant and then said well you won't qualify for IVF until you've had 3 MCs - I told her I didn't want IVF I just wanted to check mum hormones and thyroid - and I insisted that I am 36 this year and my mum couldn't conceive after 37 and I've been having anxiety attacks etc

Anyway I haven't managed yet to test my hormones yet - but just see how it goes!

Good luck and keep us posted xx

Thanks @daisymay25 @zarala and @primrose15. Lovely to get those messages. Not a daft question at all Primrose. I’m quite shocked, even though it’s been on my mind the whole time after my last pregnancy ended the same way. Last time the mc kicked in as soon as I had the scan but this time the bleeding started and then stopped. Ive rang the EPAU and a nurse is ringing me back soon. I think i’ll try and get medical management to get it over and done with. The limbo stage is just awful.

@Primrose16 good luck, I often find honesty is the best policy

@ek78 so sorry to hear about your loss, that's so horrible and unfair. Hope you have lots of support in real life

@brodiee welcome and sorry you have found yourself here - it's a really nice group who I'm sure you'll get some comfort from

To check my hormones - not my mum's! Sorry autocorrect

With regards to time off work I would definitely ask for that too- it's not unreasonable at all!

@ek78
I went for medical management this time- it was quite gross and horrible, and then I needed the ERPC after all anyway 🙄
There is a thread on NM which is called something like - the practicalities of dealing with miscarriages- and it was really so helpful- gave me a really good idea what to expect, I don't know how to share the link of it here? But if you can't find it I will try and figure it out

ek78 I had medical management at about the same stage as you for my last mmc and it was fine. I went in the night before and then got the doctor to insert the pessary for me so I didn’t balls it up. Then I waited, about lunch time it started and it was over a few hours later. It was a little grim at times but personally for me felt cathartic to pass it myself. I was allowed home that eve. I ate a lot of chocolate drank loads of tea and sat in the ward bed reading the crappiest magazines I could find. It was ok and I’d opt for it again if I had too.

@zarala Thanks for the thread tip! Loads of good suggestions there. Really helpful.

@ek78 I am so sorry to see this! Hope you have plenty of support! I had an ERPC so no advice on medical management but if you have any questions on ERPC, ask away!

@primrose16 it can be so dependent on what kind of gp you get. Some are just arseholes no matter what you do. Just be really honest with them about how you are feeling and don’t leave until you have said your piece and you feel you’ve done everything you could. Let us know how it goes!

@zarala it must be so hard with things dragging on. The limbo tome when you're waiting for your cycle to regulate is just rubbish.
@Kingy2910 fingers crossed for a sticky bean.
@hayleyfx really sorry for AF. At least you have your holiday as a good distraction. hope you have a wonderful time.
@MrsMac1489 I'm really sorry you're having such a tough time. And being a midwife too, it must be so hard. After my mc I had to go back into hospital briefly and I saw one of the midwives who I'd seen a few times in the previous few weeks when I was having some complications with the pregnancy. She was so kind, didn't bat an eyelid when I burst into tears on her, and just commiserated with me about how awful and unfair the whole thing was. I obviously have no idea whether she'd experienced mc before but her kindness and compassion made the biggest difference to me, and is one of the things that stands out when I think about that time, even though she has no idea how much she helped me. I'm sure, like you say, everything you're going through will reflect in how you relate to women experiencing loss.
@ek78 and @brodiee sorry for you losses

Just ordered some ovulation tests! Was gonna just leave it but couldn't help myself! 🙈Think I should be ovulating around this weekend so will start testing as soon as they get here! Is it best to check in the middle of the day? Read it wasn't good to do it first thing in the morning? How many do u guys do a day? 😬