TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 18: Christmas cake for Christmas babies

[Daffodil77]

Here you go

@hayleyfx so sorry hope ur ok! It might be just to early to tell for sure, just see how the next few days go. No af means ur still in with a chance! Xxx

Hi all, checking in properly.

@primrose and @hayleyfx sorry things are so crap for you both.

I was thinking about it yesterday. Being in this special group is so unfair (despite all the lovely supportive people on this thread). But also staying here is sometimes harder. Naively I thought by the time my due date came, I'd be pregnant again, like that was something I was owed. But 7 months on, I'm still here. I can't imagine what it's like for those of you who've had multiple MCs.

I've convinced myself that if I can get PG again that it will work out. I thought it'd take about the same time as last time (3 cycles), but I'm now at the start of cycle 6. With each cycle you lose a bit more of the positivity of "this is going to be the one".

Sorry, this is a bit negative for first thing in the morning! I'm hoping that if someone else feels like this they'll know they aren't alone. Xxx

P.s. it's ok to have cake if no Christmas baby happens right?

@Primrose16 I'm so sorry to read what's happening to you 😢 I can't even imagine what you're going through when you've already had 3 miscarriages xx

@zarala I don't really have an answer as I can't really remember! I stopped bf when DS was 12 months and I think the milk dried up pretty quickly. But I don't think it's unusual to still have a bit months later. I also have a friend who still bf's her DD and just had another baby so I don't think you can blame yourself! She did have 3 MC too so there can be a silver lining!
@Cakelaur good luck for your marathon!!!
@hayleyfx oh no!!! I'm so sorry!!! Hopefully it's just a rubbish test and you're not out.
@Daffodil77 I'm sorry. It's crap isn't it. I know exactly how you feel. Every time I see a bfp on here I think 'yes it can happen! It'll be me next time!' And then it's not. So gutting every time af shows and it feels like another month over where all you've done is think about getting pregnant!

@Primrose16 how are you feeling today lovely?

@Boboelephant horrendous, I have caught DH cold, I’m gushing so it’s over. I feel so drained and burning up.

@ApplesTheHare @Beck @Daffodil thank you all! Trying to stay a little bit positive but it is hard
@Bobo thank you, I’m trying to be a little hopeful still but feeling pretty gutted. I’m glad I have this board to come to and moan about all my problems lol! The support really is so helpful!

I’m sorry @hayleyfx x

@Daffodil77 sorry you're feeling shitty. Cake all round of course! And only this morning have I clocked the name for the group!! Haha. I just clicked the link yesterday.

@Primrose16 sending massive hugs babe. Xx

@hayleyfx sorry for the bfn.

What a shitty day for everyone so far. I'm just hungover 😵 from way too much prosecco last night!! 🙈day three of the marathon today. Estimated ov day is Sunday/Monday. High reading on CBFM and my temp is back down so I didn't ovulate early. Whoop. That's about the best news I can think of. But I've added a puppy pic of our boy just cos he's cute and hopefully he'll make you all smile a little!! 🙂

Oh @Primrose16 I'm so sorry!! xx
@hayleyfx it really sux but I'm glad we can provide some support.
@Cakelaur sounds like you had fun! 🥂 Go get yourself a burger! 🍔🍟 Glad you haven't ovulated yet and hope the sex marathon works!
Cd6 here for me. Af over and time to get the sex energies back up! 💪

Oh and @cake teddy is adorable!!!

@primrose16 and @hayleyfx I’m so sorry for you both. Sending big internet hugs. We’ve all been there unfortunately!

@cakelaur teddy is gorgeous! Good luck with the marathon!

@zarala ditto what bobo said, I gave up when DS was 12 months and milk dried up pretty quickly but I know plenty who it took a bit longer for. It has nothing to do with miscarriage- Try and ignore that sort of “helpful” advice as it’s not very informed. Doctors used to say that sort of thing years ago- my mum has repeated the same to me. Many women BF throughout pregnancy and go on to tandem feed.

Thank you all. @Primrose so sorry that you’re going through such a rough time
@CakeLaur he’s absolutely adorable! My dogs always manage to put a smile back on my face too lol!
@Eastend thank you!

Just want to ask, I took the test about 2 hours ago now and I don’t think there was a second line. Now there’s a faint red line. Do I totally ignore it? I know it’s invalid now but does an evap ever have colour?
Trying not to think about it too much but wow it’s so hard. Keep going back to the test and staring at it lol

@hayleyfx - I’m so sorry. Unfortunately I had a similar thing with a FRER last month. Nothing within the time frame and then a line about 2hrs later. I got my hopes up and was convinced it just meant I tested too early....but AF turned up a few days later. Hopefully that’s not the same for you, but wanted to share my experience in case it helped.

Love the thread name - Would love love love a Christmas baby.

We are starting ovulation testing from today and paws crossed for this month.

@hayleyfx I would do another FRER tomorrow morning. It seems strange as I saw a line on the other photos. Put a pic up of the FRER and we can have a look too.

@primrose16 I’m so sorry! Hope you are doing ok ❤️

@cakelaur teddy is just so cute! ❤️ Him! Good luck with the sexathon I’m tired at the thought of it lol!

@daffodil77 and @boboelephant I can totally relate to what you guys are saying! This is my fourth cycle, albeit third cycle trying but I honestly thought I would get pregnant so quickly because of what everyone was saying. It really is very hard to keep positive but since getting BFN yesterday I am invoking the law of sod and booked a lot of trips over the next year! If I have to cancel I will do so happily because of being pregnant but if not at least I have a nice trip to look forward to. Love to all you guys ❤️

@dulwichdays okay thank you definitely helps! I know I shouldn’t look at it after 10 mins but couldn’t help myself lol, keeping my FX so we’ll see
@Claire yeah think I’m going to have to go grab another FRER today! Just want clearer answers now I’ll uploads photos of the test - first one was the test at the 5 minute mark and second one is the test 2 hours later

@hayleyfx I would test tomorrow morning and see what happens. Fx!
@Patienceofatoddler good luck!!!
@Claire138 Good on you!! Was just chatting to therapist last night about not putting things off 'just in case'! It's a win win for you now!! 😀

Thanks @Bobo will be testing first thing tomorrow, very nervous lol!

@Boboelephant & @Eastend2015
Thanks- yeah I guess that's just what old school mums do...

@Primrose16 I'm so so sorry- be kind to yourself and rest up.
Are you on any treatments for recurrent miscarriage? Are you seeing any specialists?

@Cakelaur your puppy is tooo much!
And enjoy the marathon haha- I know my husband can't wait for me to get back on the game...🙄
Hope it bears lovely little angel fruit(s) for you!!! FX

Hmmm seems a bit of tricky one if I’m honest @hayleyfx I guess not much you can do but test again tomorrow. When is AF due? Sorry it’s so up in the air.

@hayleyfx I think you should never trust a squinter on a FRER. They are so sensitive that they will give you a clear line early on for a BFP. This was my FRER last week with hcg at 50, and the comparative cheapie (same sample). The FRER is so clear by comparison. Definitely retest though as you'll see progression quickly on a FRER.

@Primrose16 I'm so so sorry. That's heartbreaking. Sending hugs. Hope you've got lots of support x

@hayleyfx I'm sorry that's rubbish. I must say I don't really believe the whole "a line is a line" mantra if the line has shown up outside the timing window. Believing those lines to be true in the past has just led to disappointment for me. As agonising as it is the best way to tell is time - and if AF shows up or if your tests start to become positive in the timing window. Fingers crossed for you that the tests start to become positive.

Well AF caught up with me yesterday as I thought might be the case, so onto hoping for a Christmas miracle for me and the rest of you lovely ladies x

Thanks ladies. I guess I’m just trying to cling onto any hope I can get. I’ve never had an evap in the past, on the many many pregnancy tests I’ve done lol, so I don’t know what they look like really. In my last pregnancy my lines were so faint at first but got dark quickly within 2 days so I guess I’ll just see. Keeping everything crossed but definitely not got my hopes up. AF is due in 3 days, the day we’re going on holiday so I hope she stays away 😩😂

Forgot to say sorry that af got you @strawberrye it’s rubbish hopefully there’s better news next month x