TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 18: Christmas cake for Christmas babies

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@Daffodils86 in terms of trying again immediately my bereavement midwife and consultant have both said medically there's no reason at all not to try again immediately if you want to. It just makes it a bit harder to date the pregnancy. As for the anxiety, that's a huge problem for me too, I don't know what the answer is.

Evening all, for those I was sharing my temp data with I had a small increase today (0.2) so I'm assuming I ovulated yesterday/day before!

So I'm in the tww! (Again!)

@Sloeberrygin
Thats nice to know, thanks for sharing that with me. It makes me feel better that medical professionals have offered you that information. Mmm anxiety, thats the tricker part. I can suffer from anxiety or worry a bit anyway. With the recent events, its turned everything on its head. It was a massive decision for me when i was thinking of starting a family, i never expected it to go like this, despite worrying about it, and knowing it can happen.
I want to try and enjoy the next pregnancy and not get suffocated by fear and worry, how to do this i dont know.
I work in an environment with an ultrasound, can you imagine how tempting it will be to pop the probe on every minute lol!
I guess you cant change the outcome, so try and focus on being pregnant day by day when it happens again and enjoy it.

I’ve only missed a couple of days on the thread but apparently I have 281 comments to read, so it might take me a while to catch up. Whilst I am doing so, I hope everyone is ok as we can be.

@Daffodils86 I am sorry for your loss. I tried straightaway after my mmc, where I had an ERPC, and it took me three cycles. I also tried straightaway after my last miscarriage (which was a natural one) and I conceived in the immediate cycle.

@Daffodils86 the worry is horrible. I didn’t enjoy my pregnancy with my daughter, after 2 losses I was convinced I would loose her too. I was frantic and detached myself in a way to protect myself. But I missed out, I didn’t have many pregnancy pictures, I was too scared of taking bump shots etc. I didn’t enjoy the shopping for baby and left most until last min and only got minimal stuff.
Next time round if you can take one day at a time, I seriously regret making those memories

@cake your puppy is just gorgeous I want one buty husband is scared of dogs so point blank refuses ! .
Today I've had a bit of sticky egg white discharge I started my period 10 days ago first one after MMC I've never really tracked cycles and stuff so confused is now a good time to try ?

@Lovewinemorethanhusband I usually start around that time time, do you use opks? If so start tonight

@tefiti2 I'm so sorry. I think it depends a bit on your age and how long you have been trying for. It can't hurt to ask though.
@strawberrye oh my gosh yes, have the wine!!! You have 9 months ahead of you of no drinking and no hot tubs, let yourself have some fun now. Alcohol is definitely better than stress. Let loose, I am this holiday! I'll stop as soon as I see those two lines!
@Daffodils86 I'm sorry for your loss. I started trying straight away too. Didn't happen for us but we were also told by the doc that there was no reason to wait.

I'm only 9dpo and just had some spotting so looks like AF is on her way again. My luteal phase before MC was 11-12 days so looks like another messed up cycle 😭

@peachesarenom you can follow him on Instagram! 🙈 @sirtedwardbear if you like!! Haha

@Primrose16 how comes you get your husband?

@DaisyMay25 I know I'm more excited for pup to arrive than I am my bfp... which makes a nice change!!

@Boboelephant Well done! Fully stocked. I hope you O soon and you can get some nice Tenerife baby making done!

@strawberrye I ban baths until AF. But any time once we start DTD up until end of TWW I keep out of baths. But alcohol I just drink when I like. I try to cut down coffee and alcohol, but I've had so many disappointing months I'd be bored without wine!! Haha where are you going on holiday??

@Tefiti2 so sorry for your loss! Sending hugs.

@Claire138 he is getting big. He doubled in size from when we last saw him. And he'll probably double again before we pick him up! 😍

@Daffodils86 so sorry for your loss. There is nothing to say it will happen again. But nothing to say that it won't. The main reason for not trying straight away is for dating purposes. If you feel ready then go for it and 🤞🏻for a sticky bean.

Congrats @weasledee TWW!! Whoop! May it go quickly and smoothly!

@Llondbol..... IMPLANTATION BLEED!!!!

Do you think it could be @Cakelaur ? I didn't get that the first time I was pregnant. PS your puppy is lush!!

@Llondbol it could be! 9dpo is apparently the most likely day for implantation to happen so maybe! Only time will tell I guess, I’ll keep everything crossed for you
@Cakelaur I had to have a look at his Instagram and oh my goodness I want another puppy now, he’s so cute. I have puppy fever! Lol I have two dogs I don’t think one more would be too much hard work but my OH doesn’t agree... 🤔😂

Haha @Cakelaur and @Llondbol I read your post and the first thing I thought was ooh maybe an implantation bleed...Then saw @Cakelaur message. Fingers crossed @Llondbol!!

@Llondbol I had it with my first bfp... but every pregnancy is different. I have friends who had it with one and not the other, friends with both and friends with neither. So I say DEFO implantation!!! How long usually is your LP? Do you temp? I have everything crossed for you! When are you gonna test?

@hayleyfx what dogs do you have?? We considered two of them. But for now we're gonna do one and hope for a baby. Then move to a bigger house. Then get a second maybe.

@Cakelaur we have chihuahuas! Tiny dogs lol size wise we could definitely have more but it would be such hard work as they’re very needy dogs, can’t be left outside alone for even a minute, have to always watch them near the stairs incase they fall, trying to make sure people don’t accidentally stand on them etc. So we can’t get another 🙄 they’re so worth it though, such loving dogs

@hayleyfx aww cute. Teddy is literally the total opposite! Ha ha!! Maybe you need a medium size dog that you can tie the 2 chihuahuas to!! Then that dog can lead them round outside and watch them on the stairs and be their protector!! Haha

So yesterday evening I had light pink spotting once when went the bathroom. I no u can get ovulation bleeding, think I might of got it last month too? I had pos opk on Thursday an then Friday & Saturday it had faded loads to almost nothing on saturdays one? Do u think I ovulated Thursday or Friday? Or even Saturday with the bleeding but neg opk? Not sure when to start counting from now? X

@Beck1988 the positive opk is a sign that you will ovulate in the next 12-48 hours. So a pos on Thurs would normally mean ov on Friday or Saturday. If you had the bleeding Sat I'd say you ovulated Sat and today is 1dpo. Still worth getting 1 more bd in today if you can. Good luck!

@TheDinosaurRoars thank you, where are with the pregnancy that you conceived straight after? It nice to know others have done the same. Sorry for your losses.

@Primrose16
I can imagine how the worry would stop
You doing those things. Before I miscarried i bought some baby books and one little piece of clothing and that was all i was going to get. Turns out when i had bought those it had already gone, makes me feel stupid.
Next time im not sure what i will do, I think i will wait to at least 12 weeks to buy things and relax but i will still worry something will happen.
Im glad you managed to have your daughter after your losses.

@Boboelephant Thank you.

@Cakelaur This is true, you cant control the outcome no matter how much you want to. Yes definitely hope it's a sticky bean next time.
Congrats on your little pup.

It makes me feel better to be in the TTC period again, try not to think that iv already done this and that i should be 8weeks already!
I also have a new perspective on things, which i think is for the better, so at least one positive to take from it all if nothing else.

@Beck1988 I agree with @Boboelephant. It does make the TWW longer but you'll have a more accurate hpt test result.

Thanks @boboelephant & @cakelaur least if today is 1dpo I won't be due af on Friday 13th. 😬 Let the tww commence! X

@Cakelaur absolutely! It would be perfect but just have to try and talk my OH into it... 🤔 haha!
@Beck1988 yep I would also say you’re 1dpo today! Good luck with the TWW

@hayleyfx @Cakelaur @Boboelephant I hope you're right ladies!! I temp but had to deviate today because I had a lie in 😴 LP is normally 11 days so I guess if no AF tomorrow then I'll test on Tuesday, but I'm not feeling hopeful...
Where are you all in your cycles? X

Keeping everything crossed for you @Llondbol 🤞🏼I’m on CD8 right now, fertile week starts in a few days so I’m relaxing while I can 😂 I’m managing to stay calm, I’m not thinking about it 24/7 this month, keeping myself occupied with other things! It’s going well so far but that’ll all go out the window during the TWW I’m sure haha 🤦‍♀️