I yam what I yam

[Bubblegum89]

Thread 6... 😑

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

(Just realised that reads weirdly. I meant thanks for the excellent welcome to us new lurkers, not welcoming you !)

I seem to be very lucky (or simply old!) but my friends don’t over share on Facebook!

sooz 😂

I’m getting bored of my family on The Sims, maybe I’ll make the yammer house next..?

Also, soz for the tmi you guys. I’ve got no filter between my brain and my mouth

Also, what’s the deal with low-dose aspirin (aka baby aspirin even though babies can’t have aspirin) I’ve heard loads of people raving about it as it’s meant to help your lining and implantation it also seen some people saying it’s no good, it messes up your cycles etc. This next cycle is our lads natural one so thinking of anything I can take that might make even an ounce of difference

I've heard that too @Bubblegum89 about baby aspirin and half a soluble aspirin. All it does is thin your blood and fluids. TBH my first was conceived on a bottle of wine!

@Bubblegum89 I’ve looked into aspirin fairly extensively with my miscarriage history. Jury is out but basically taking it before implantation seems to reduce BFPs; taking it after BFP May reduce miscarriage risk (probably only in a subset of people though).

So I’ve decided I’ll take it next time I get a BFP (if I do!) as what harm can it do. I’ve also started high dose folic acid and upped my vit D as am severely deficient. None of these things can help my shit uterus but who knows, might help something else!

My GP has actually recommended 75mg aspirin to me this week - something about flow to the womb. But I have read things on both sides for it.

Bubblegum how are you feeling about fertility treatments? Do you have a plan in place?

I'm taking 75mg aspirin. Started that with double folic, 1000 vit Ds after bleeding from miscarriage stopped. Midwife cousin suggested it, and said it can't do any harm. I also stopped the pregnacare after someone mentioned possible vitamin k issues on another thread. No idea if it's helping, will speak to midwife next week but I sure ain't stopping it any time soon...

See, I’ve not got a history of miscarriage (fortunately) but my period is fairly thick when I actually get a half decent flow, kind of clotty and dark. I don’t know whether it could be to do with lack of healthy blood flow or something?

Paranormal yep, we are trying naturally for another month and then stopping for the summer then looking into IVF in the autumn

@Bubblegum89 I have funny light periods now, since my c-section. We’ve been assuming it’s adhesions/scar tissue causing it (and miscarriages).

Welcome to all the newcomers, this thread is a sanity saver.

Sat here in floods of tears because DH is away again over my fertile week so another month where we don’t stand a chance. I’m not usually this emotional straight after fp, just another kick in the teeth.

Paranormal my periods are getting slightly better since my SIS/HyCoSy in Feb. I had a 3D US done alongside them to check properly for scar tissue but my entire cavity/tubes/cervix are all perfectly fine. Asherman’s has been a worry for me for a while but when I think back properly, my periods have been like this since having my DD and so my d&c isn’t what has caused them to be rubbish

That’s good @Bubblegum89. I have very clear adhesions in my cervix and my lower uterus. Had a rough delivery last time- emcs at 10cm and they sliced into my cervix (it happens more easily when fully dilated).
Then I got a bad infection afterwards, and another bad infection with miscarriage 3. My most recent period is the heaviest I’ve had in a long time so I’m hoping that the d+c might somehow have helped (my gynae friend says it can go either way).

@MynameisJune it’s fine to be emotional at times. I was incredibly down when I got my first period after last miscarriage, cried for 3 days straight and completely fell apart. Think it all just hit me. This whole journey can be shit.

@Bubblegum89 snap this time don't think I've ovulated as ewcm Saturday but no positive opk and cant be arsed to temp anymore so think it's an anvoluntary cycle as no cramps nor sore boobs!

In the spirit of nothing is tmi...bow exactly does dh give his SA does he have to do it in a clinic or can he take it in? He's not happy about it at all!

It's still syncing in we don't qualify for IVF but I haven't told dh yet I'm too scared!!! Yammers I need your advise how do I tell him?!?!

@MynameisJune  I had a big sob last night too - let it out and have a good glass of 

@Owlpatrol My DH was given a cup and a time slot to bring it to a dept in the hospital. Wanked at home then popped it in a pocket and drove it over. I think given the invasive procedures we have to go through... having a wank is pretty easy going 😏

Bloody pics not showing.
and for June

Shitty isn't it @MynameisJune. Big hugs for you.

Hugs to you June it’s so unfair :(

wonky omg I thought when you said pics weren’t showing, you’d uploaded photos of your OH’s SA 😂

owlpatrol same as wonky’s OH, mine did his at home then took it up to the hospital (very carefully lol) You can’t have sex for four days prior so best to book it for when you’re not in your FW

Ha ha! Def not! It's on a canvas on a wall in the bedroom

Thanks all, just had enough of feeling like this. Of life being so shitty and unfair.

June I had a breakdown a few months ago when fp showed up AGAIN. I’m not a particularly emotional person but I’d just had enough and sobbed and sobbed for hours. My eyes stung and were all swollen. I just kept saying to OH “I don’t want to do this anymore, it’s not fair” etc. It’s so shit. I wouldn’t wish infertility on my worst enemy, honestly. Sending lots of love your way

@WonkyDonk87 @Owlpatrol mine was given a pot at the gp and released the boys at home before whipping it to the hospital. All done whilst I was at work.

Given I have had a tank of co2, four entry points for cameras and tools (my bellybutton will forever be offcentre now and is ocd inducing), a bag of dye and a million blood tests, scrapes and probes shoved up my vaj for my part - pretty sure knocking one out on a Wednesday afternoon watching the golf was the better side of the deal!

@MynameisJune it's a f-Ing dark place fighting infertility and dealing with the 💩 that goes along with it all. The emotional journey feels never ending. You can just complain here unlike on the other threads. Negativity is allowed from my lurking experience and it's a relief!

@MynameisJune. No going to lie, I have a little cry every time my period shows up. I just for there on the loo and feel this wave of sadness/disappointed rush over me x

I sobbed the day I got my last fp - not good as I was on a lunch break from work with DH and we were in a local independent café. Good thing I wasn't teaching in the afternoon.