I yam what I yam

[Bubblegum89]

Thread 6... 😑

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

@FairyAnn I constantly have that feeling. It's the last bit of hope left in me. Every time I have an appointment I think "maybe this will be my month just when I don't need it" like when I had my surgery I had such a hopeful month the month before of being over two weeks late and it was just a super heavy FP.

paranormal I’m not getting ewcm but watery cm. I think my brain would explode if I was getting ewcm because then I’d be thinking all sorts haha. It’s highly likely it’s my body just being a dick

june it’s just “odd” as I’m usually either dry as a bone or getting very thick lotiony cam at this point in my cycle. I know it’s not a preggo symptom so wondered if maybe it’s my body attempting to ovulate. Who knows, my body literally does whatever it wants 100% of the time regardless of whether it’s something totally different!

Oh and fp isn’t due until Monday so I’m still miles away anyway

@Bubblegum89 I have watery CM too and FP due at weekend. It’s not unusual for me before FP though, get it a lot of months Also get it when pregnant though.

Hi yammers, I read yesterday about yams being good for fertility and had a little chuckle. Does anyone else have days of feeling "if it's meant to be it will be - and maybe I'm just not destined to have kids" to "why the fuck isn't it happening?! I'm losing my mind - Arrrgghhh". Anyway, I saw friends last night who normally always ask me about ttc but they didn't say a word. Am paranoid people don't want to bring it up as they know I'm a big infertile failure.
I had my second round of prolactin results back last week and they are now in their normal range which is some good news.
Hubby did his SA last week after a stag in Vegas and the doctor said it was the worst time to test as alcohol is so bad for swimmers. We find out the results next week - he is nervous but I think it will be ok as I think we had a chemical pregnancy in July last year so am assuming he has some good swimmers. Am now on cycle 8 and have pretty much convinced myself I have blocked tubes. Am hoping the doc will do that test next...@LimpLettice huge congrats to you! Do you mind me asking how long you'd been ttc? It's comforting to see people getting their bfp. There is hope! Xx

@bridget33 I get that feeling all the time. Starting to think I must have done something in a previous life, or maybe the universe thinks I would be a terrible, terrible parent and doesn't want to inflict that on anyone (but child molesters are OK?). Ugh!!

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This month sucks. Hubby was away over what was meant to be fertile period. Cue wacky cycle where I attempt to ovulate day fricking 6 and actually ovulate about day 14 and there was some sex in possibly vaguely the right time. So I do my usual routine of peeing on a stick day before FP is due so the stark whiteness eases me into it (somehow this makes me less depressed). Except, I'm a moron and manage to mix up inherited cbfm ovulation stick with cbfm preg test because they don't say which is which on the packet and I'm doing by eye because inherited old machine... So for about three hours I thought I had my first, albeit faint, line ever.

Retested, wasting FRER I've been saving to stark white, followed by same on internet cheapie. Totally confused then mistake slowly dawns. And have basically been blubbing for about 2 days.

Meanwhile FP is deciding I'm only going to have incredibly pale brown spotting. Obviously the Great Stark White continues.

I'm just about done, I really am. Can I be a boy please? It would be so much easier.

Hello lurkers! 👋 sorry you find yourselves here. Have some yams! 🤣

@bridget33 totally! The swings in emotions are so difficult to manage! Every month I move closer to complete insanity.

Good luck deciphering a new body trick @bubble. Perhaps this is your body getting into a new normal after your tests etc?

Aww @HotCrossRabbit that's sounds so frustrating! I normally test every month but am not going to this month as it's too depressing. Normally I do pregnancy tests and then hold them up against the light in our window (prob in full view of all the neighbours) convincing myself I see the faintest of lines then I like to keep them like a weirdo to check if they've magically changed to a positive later on. I actually like doing ovulation tests as it's great to see a second line - how sad is that?! Anyway, am trying not to beat myself up too much this month as I think it's so easy to blame ourselves and feel hopeless. If I do get my bfp this month I will be going on a hen do in Spain up the duff - which wouldn't bother me one bit but I do think I'm out again.

@bridget33 hopefully you'll be under a better Nhs service than us. We waited 18mths for the dye test and that was only because I snuck in on a cancellation. Otherwise it would have been March 2019 I was book in for!

@bridget33 I do the holding them up to the window too and the keeping them for magical changes and ovulation tests are wonderful for second lines. Thought it was just me!

Hen do in Spain sounds fun, upduffed or not.

I'm off on holiday this evening so just wishing for FP to get on with it now rather than in mid air. Over the blubbing now though.

... Never used to think I was particularly bothered about control until ttcing, and realising there really is none. Yoga and mindfulness. Yoga and mindfulness.

@bridget33 I can relate! Last month even though I’d not tried at all I POAS and held it to window! Just desperately hoped my contraception had failed secretly!

This month I’ve acrually enjoyed a month off TTC. We’ve had sex at the “wrong” times, using condoms (which we do hate!) and DH was away for work immediately followed by stag party during my fertile window. Got a bit sad when ovulating but as DH wasn’t about couldn’t jump him anyway!

I have been temping to get a baseline normal month so I see a pattern (and hopefully will stop me from frantically POAS at 11dpo in future!).

Will do the same April/May until I’ve recovered from surgery. Although I won’t temp as I’m sure surgery will mess it up massively!

I thought about testing but to be honest Im not sure I could face a negative result. Ive been 3 or 4 days late before in the past.. but with my reflexology and accupuncture.. I thought we had sorted my cycles out! Meh.

My boobs have stopped hurting as much as they were.. Just a dull ache now where as before I could hardly touch them! I have a heavy feeling in the bottom of my stomach.. I think FP is on her way. :-(

To be honest.. with my cold and cough, its kinda hard to know which are FP symptoms and what are not!

meh meh meh. Today will be known as a meh day!

@Paranormalbouquet what surgery have you had? X

Haven’t had it yet- booked for early May (hence the condom use). My problem is recurrent miscarriages probably due to uterine scarring and cervical issues. I get pregnant within a few months each time but can’t get past 10 weeks- 3 miscarriages in a row now.

So having a hysteroscopy and attempt to remove adhesions followed by an attempt at a cervical repair.

Gynae say it may help, but no guarantees. Equally a 4th pregnancy might stick but no guarantees. I have a adhesion free area away from my cervix so if I could only force them to implant there! Either way I’m at high risk of miscarriage early and late or premature delivery.

In fact I don’t know why I even pee on sticks. I’ve had loads of BFPs, they really don’t give me much joy anymore!

Hi Bridget, not at all. Actually we've only been ttc a yearish which is not that long compared to other yammers. I don't seem to have a problem getting pregnant however, it's staying that way that's causing the issues. I've been upduffed for what feels like months this last year, this has been my 4th bfp, but this is the first time I've got past 6 weeks and a heartbeat since my dd was born 8 years ago.

I fell pregnant in January in Las Vegas with no concept of ovulation as I was so sick of it all. Lost that one in Feb, and seem to have caught 10 days later again without trying to, as I assumed it would take a lot longer to ovulate. Which seems to show me it's easier for me at least when I'm not doing military planning. Just trying so hard to believe this one will stick.

Hi everyone, been lurking as usual. But today I finally got round to seeing the GP (over 35, 16 months and 19 cycles in). Organised blood tests (and instructions for OH to have SA) with a rough plan of referring me on if results aren’t positive. Just the right level of interest for me - wasn’t fobbed off and also wasn’t thrown into a panic.

Also, my blood test will include a check for rubella immunity. Has anyone else had that? The explanation was v sensible but I was surprised because I hadn’t seen anyone else mention it...

@LimpLettice I have that feeling of being pregnant a lot with no result. I’m sure I’ve had a few chemicals too as period has been a little late and not tested (this was earlier before I turned into a maniac!). I’m so glad you’ve seen a heartbeat this time, gives me hope. The MMC really hit me hard as I had awful nausea and strongly positive tests so it was devastating.

@justmeonly that’s a standard test if TTC. If negative they’ll talk you through vaccination timing.

Welcome lurkers!

Great to see your positive news @LimpLettice !

I'm in the pre-FP pit of impending doom. All symptoms suggest she is imminent. Got dates for hysteroscopy and hycosy in May and June, so at least that's something to focus on! My spotting has been much lighter this month so really think my low sugar diet is making a difference. Will take a few months to be sure though.

I just can't actually imagine it ever happening any more. This thread keeps me sane!

Hiya - hope it’s ok to come late to the party? Been TTC off and on (as in different degrees of opk use, checking dates etc) for a year and had two v v early (sub 5w) miscarriages. Feeling ok just really up for somewhere outside real life to talk about this as normally very open but for some reason not keen to be with this - best friend getting married, lots of happy things happening and want to and mainly focusing on those but this does pop into back of mind quite often so saw this and thought looked like kind and fun group, so hello!!! Xxxx

Welcome to the Yammers house, lurkers! Take your shoes off and find some slippers.

Sugar-free kitchen to the left, sugar-full to the right. Please place poas piss-pots on the designated shelf in the bathroom and LABEL IT CLEARLY. We don't want anyone using someone else's by accident.

Untrained counsellors are on hand most hours of the day to listen to your moans, no practical advice is given as we've tried it all before but you're welcome to just send hugs and positive thoughts.

Upduffed Yammers are welcome to remain (no bfp photos though, please) and there's no such thing as tmi (except maybe in Bubble's case ) so don't bother writing 'tmi', just let it all out.

Questions?!

@SoozC thanks for that.. it made me laugh!

Just had a thought that I remember a while back having a 3 or 4 day delayed FP.. and I remember feeling pretty crappy back then too. (Shaky etc like I am now.) Turns out I had a 34 day cycle that month (which would mean FP was roughly 5 or 6 days late.) That month was horrible.. i really thought I had a bun in the oven!

So.. my point.. sorry Ill get to it eventually.. Is I am still on day 32.. So if my FP has not arrived by end of play on Sunday.. Im taking a damn test. (If i can hold out for that long.) Just hate the thought of wasting yet another pregnancy test.. they are too expensive to be just getting BFN all the time. Not sure i can face the start whiteness of a negative either.

Excellent welcome Sooz !

I saw my heavily pregnant friend last night who was lovely and told me she's been avoiding telling me things about the pregnancy because she didn't want to make me feel bad so naturally now I feel AWFUL that she felt that way, even though it actually has been nice not having constant bump videos and photo updates. Wondering if I've been a hideous cow since she conceived.
I'm over the moon for them and can't wait to meet their little one but her bump growing is just a reminder of that my stomach has remained flat(ish!!!). Meh.