I yam what I yam

[Bubblegum89]

Thread 6... 😑

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

@just they say things come in threes!

Are you not, Sooz? I didn't realise. Hahaha. The loud comments about my boozing are not new to me. Usually from my mum though....

Er, Just, have you tested?

justwaiting have you taken a test??

I have not, i was in Sainsbury’s earlier but bought tampons instead of a test

Blinking well go back! Ha. I mean, if you want to.

I know Wonky and it's much appreciated. Just feels a bit weird.

AF today, that would be cycle 20 and no 2017 or 2018 baby for me. Hubby left a voice message thanking me for staying for even considering doing the ivf for him. Was such a sad little message, I cried my eyes out. I keep thinking I might get our appointment letter and am now obsessed with the postman. Hope he doesn't think I'm into him

My holiday has come to an end sadly. I did enjoy sampling gin last night!

@ LimpLettice I have an equal fear of being pregnant and not being pregnant if that makes sense. I feel I’ll never be excited by a positive test ever again.

@Justwaitingforaline good luck with test.

@catherine1988 I’m sorry about FP. I hope you get your appointment soon. Your husband sounds lovely.

Had a long chat with one of my oldest friends last night (visiting her town). She’s been TTC for over a year now without a hint of a line; in that time I’ve had a run of miscarriages. After a few drinks we tried to decide which is worse and came to conclusion that both situations are shit!

Coming to join the party. AF arrived today, marking month 10 of TTC. Work colleague announced she's pregnant today too, which made it all that bit worse. Trying to increase my Metformin dose to that prescribed to me (was at 2/3rds the prescribed dose before) and I feel hideously nauseous too.

Sorry my first post is so doom and gloom... I'll try and be a bit more cheery in future but just needed a vent!!

I got my bfp yesterday and wondered if anyone who is a graduate yammer would want to join me in the pg board?
I'd been ttc for 14 months

I've created it in the antenatal clubs section x

I wish I could join you there mama! Hope you pop back in here from time to time :)

Hi bubblegum I will see you over there at some point. I know I will. But yes I'll pop in. Hopefully it will be a sticky bean xx

I hope you’re right! I’m not feeling very hopeful these days. Got everything crossed for you :)

Wish I could join you too! Have fun and fx for a sticky bean.

Not ttc related but I feel so sick right now. My stomach is burning and I feel like I’m going to hurl. OH is at work now until 6am and my kiddo is asleep so can’t go and pick anything up. Anyone know any home remedies I can try? I’m emetophobic so really do not like being sick 🙈

@ LexieJean - thank you so much for your kind words. Glad it’s not just me but also really really not for your sake!

@LG Sorry you’re here but also welcome.

@Paranormal Sorry you’re back to reality with a bump after your holiday but bless you and your lovely friend. I have found it does help to talk to close friends in some ways, even though a lot of the TTC mystique sort of says you shouldn’t.

Loving the idea of Sooz drinking all Limp’s drinks! Can I be first reserve for that role?!

Heartening to see a graduates club!

@Bubblegum - Strong mints? Ginger biscuits? Massaging in between your thumb and index finger? Distraction as best you can?

Hope you’re feeling better this morning @bubblegum89

Welcome @LG93

RHR dropped like a stone overnight so I’m expecting FP any day now.

FP arrived in full bloody force this morning, just like I thought she would! Onto cycle 19, this month giving CB ovulation sticks a whirl because having something to pee onto makes me feel like I’m actually doing something

Took a first response early test this morning and it came out negative.. FP is due on Tuesday. I know they can give false positives.. but I was kinda expecting this result. :-(

Thanks diane and I’m feeling a little better today, thank you june

Ugh, sorry for all FP’s showing up :(

Just came to rant. My youngest sister (not the one with the baby) keeps insisting on sending me updates on my pregnant cousin. For example, she sent me an instagram photo the other day where my cousin was complaining and saying how sad she was when she looked in the mirror and saw stretch marks on her bump. Then she told me what they were thinking of naming the baby so I replied saying “please stop telling me about her. We’ve been ttc for 18 months and have to start looking into ivf and that vile person just got pregnant by accident and is complaining about it when she should be grateful” or something along those lines and my sister replied “I get that but you can’t just ignore everything that’s going on in the world”. Well fuck you. She’s lucky she’s in America at the minute or I would have slapped her

@Bubblegum89 my mother keeps telling me about people I don’t even know having babies. Why would she think I’d want to hear that! And my mother in law has spent the last few days saying we need to give my DD a sibling. You’d think with the growing age gap you might recognise there’s a problem!

DH just WhatsApped and asked if I needed to have sex today. I said I'd like to but don't want to force him. He replied with "It's a desperate situation with both of our futures at stake. Doesn't really matter if I'm up for it does it?"

It makes my heart break.

Oh Sooz that is so sad, I am so sorry you both are going through this.

Paranormal the minute I announced we were getting married the world started going on about babies. Colleagues, relatives, the woman on reception...so annoying.

Bubblegum so annoying. If you wanted to know you would follow on IG. Ffs. Let her hope she never goes through this.

@SoozC I'm sorry. I can completely relate - I know that doesn't help. My DH has said "Its not about want" or "it doesn't matter if I want to or not" - I couldn't do it on those occasions because it made me feel like shit. Last night I told DH I didn't want to have sex on a schedule this month as it was making me miserable - not the sex obviously. I also told him that I'm starting to save for IVF and that if we aren't pregnant by the time we hit the two year mark then I want to do IVF abroad. He said he agreed. It's very hard.

@Paranormalbouquet and @Bubblegum89. My mother/other family members do the same thing. It's fucking annoying. I'm always sat on the other end of the line rolling my eyes.