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TTC #2 - March BFPs

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Cariad2017 · 23/02/2018 19:54

If you’re ttc #2 and due your AF/ BFP in March then this is the bus for you.

For my sins, I’m a bit of a veteran of the ttc circuit, and ironically if we get a BFP this month, my EDD is likely to be DS’s 3rd Birthday. Stats are as follows:

Age: 35
Cycle: 18 (without a hint of a BFP - yawn)
AF due: 15 March
DS: Aged 2

Desperately hoping to invoke the law of sod this month as we have a fertility clinic appointment on 26 March to get the ball rolling on IVF. You have no idea how much I’d love to cancel it!

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MynameisJune · 09/03/2018 09:26

@cariad thank you, the more time goes on the less hopeful I am that this will happen naturally. It’s possible I didn’t ovulate until the second time I had EWCM although that was only for one day and is much later than any cycle I’ve ever had but it’s definitely not impossible. If I did then af is due Monday. I’m expecting it anytime between now and then to be honest.

BadBadBeans · 09/03/2018 09:59

Thanks for the congratulations everyone. Still feeling slightly stunned. I've been going back to check the test approximately every twenty minutes. DH gave it the barest glance (not in the light) and said he couldn't see a line, but that's exactly what he did when I tested pregnant with DS. And I have you lot confirming that I'm not going mad!

June thank you, yes, I'll test again over the weekend and see if it gets stronger. Yes, try and hold out till Monday and then use your FRER. I really hope you did ovulate late. I have my fingers crossed for you.

Paranormal - that's so frustrating and disappointing. I'm glad the GP is on your side and being helpful.

TwittleBee · 09/03/2018 10:33

BadBadBeans maybe he doesn't want to get his hopes up! Do another test tomorrow morning though so you get a darker line to show him. So excited for you!

BadBadBeans · 09/03/2018 11:03

Twittle yes I think that's it; he was quite pragmatic about the whole thing first time round too. To be fair, he did say that he was excited when I came back into the room at 5.50am and confessed to having taken a test and that I thought it was positive!

TwittleBee · 09/03/2018 12:30

Well I have my usual monthly acne breakout and EWCM today so I am assuming that means ovulation is soon, I'll take an OPK later.

Reckon this month is out for us as only managed to DTD twice, last being Monday. Doubt we will be up for it tonight as we will both be getting back so late from work/visiting Nan. I'll hope that tomorrow our DS lets us DTD in the morning haha.

Fififiesta · 09/03/2018 12:51

I'm calling myself out this month. Cramps and spotting so AF will be in full swing by tomorrow I bet.

Gutted. Trying to keep myself together until I can have a good sob later. I shouldn't have got my hopes up. Sad

I just don't understand what we are doing wrong. We DTD every other day all month for the last two cycles. If that doesn't do it then I don't think anything will Sad

TwittleBee · 09/03/2018 12:59

fifi I am sorry it looks like AF is turning up! Make sure you have a good cry later over some wine or something and have a good weekend with the family. Really sending you lots of luck for next month!

Paranormalbouquet · 09/03/2018 13:00

In four pregnancies my DH has only believed a strong line or a digital!

Paranormalbouquet · 09/03/2018 13:03

@Fififiesta you aren’t doing anything wrong, it’s all a bit of a lottery. My DD was conceived around an hour after thinking we might try. This time around it’s been 9 months, multiple miscarriages and no sign of a baby despite doing everything by the book. It’s just shit.

Fififiesta · 09/03/2018 13:10

Paranormal It is shit. Truly shit. I've had a previous early MC so even if I do get pregnant I have to stay pregnant but I can't even get pregnant at the moment so Sad. 4 weeks is so long to wait and hope and hope and hope.

MynameisJune · 09/03/2018 13:26

@fifi you most definitely are not doing anything wrong. TTC is just a lottery or like playing bingo. Some people win really easily and multiple times. Others have to wait ages to win and only ever once or twice. TTC is also so hard because we don’t have any control over it. Have a good cry, I also intend to sob my eyes out when DD has gone to bed. DD took 6 years, but we got her eventually and she was worth the wait. You’ll get there too.

As for me, no idea what my body is doing. I think I got my hopes up because my boobs have started leaking. One of them I still expect to leak but the other one has never leaked since DD stopped feeding from it over 18 months ago. They are also huge, they usually inflate a bit during tww but go back down a few days before af. I’m so confused, and so annoyed that after months of normal cycles this one is going wonky again.

YassQueen · 09/03/2018 13:36

I've been delaying using an OPK. The thought of peeing on a stick makes me feel sick at the moment. I had a breakdown at work so now I'm off again, 2 weeks post mc was too soon for me to go back to that job. I want to hide away from the world but I'm desperate to be pregnant again and for everything to be ok.

Fififiesta · 09/03/2018 13:37

Thanks everyone. I have had something to eat so I'm feeling a bit better. It is crap and it is not having any control over it that is the worst part. I am very aware that I am being overly dramatic because many women have it worse than me, I blame the hormones. But I also feel like I need to be sad for a while. I want this so much.

MynameisJune · 09/03/2018 13:42

@fifi you aren’t being over dramatic. I remember when my sister announced her surprise pregnancy. We’d been trying for around 3 years at that point. I made it through the phone call with her and then basically slid down my kitchen cupboards and cried for ages. Just let yourself feel however you need to. There is no right or wrong way to deal with it.

@yass so sorry for your loss. I had an early loss in Oct last year. Went back to work the next day, I have no idea what I was thinking. Take care of yourself.

Paranormalbouquet · 09/03/2018 13:48

@YassQueen I went back way too soon. Last miscarriage was physically easy enough and I worked through it.

This time I went back to work a day after discovering MMC, ended up passing sac at work (a hospital at least!) 2 weeks later, then took a few days with infection as I was feeling so unwell and went back properly straight after ERPC. I really wasn’t ready though, couldn’t focus properly and was very inefficient. I wish I’d taken more time. Take as much as you need.

TwittleBee · 09/03/2018 14:31

Fifi you aren't being over dramatic at all, it is such an emotional toll TTC!

Bless you Yas please take care of yourself, sending you so much love

June so frustrating and confusing! why are our bodies so strange! urgh! Hope you get some sort of regularity back or a BFP!

Boboelephant · 09/03/2018 17:07

Hope you get a chance tomorrow morning @TwittleBee! It can be hard when DC come wandering in!
Sorry it looks like you're out @Fififiesta. You arent doing anything wrong. It's so totally random. I also got pregnant without thinking about it with my DS and have been trying for 18 months for number 2 with 2 losses. Unfortunately there seems to be no pattern. Don't give up!
Rest up @YassQueen. Take as long as you need.
I'm 6dpo here and can feel the craziness kicking in!!

FountainOfYouth · 09/03/2018 21:11

Thanks for all the nice messages, and huge congratulations to you @BadBadBeans!

Best of luck to anyone waiting to test, and fingers crossed next month for anyone who is out for March xx

TwittleBee · 10/03/2018 06:40

We actually managed to DTD last night woop! Paying for it now as so tired.

BadBadBeans · 10/03/2018 10:05

Twitter - Top work on DTD - hope it was the lucky one and worth the effort!

Fifi - I'm so sorry that you feel awful. Does it help at all to read those stats about it being normal to take a while, even with regular sex? You are totally within your rights to feel sad and have a cry. It's so frustrating that when you are completely ready to be pregnant, you can't just choose to be.

Paranormal - yep I think my husband needs a strong line or, you know, a 12 week scan before he will be on board...! I did speak to him about it this morning and he said he wasn't going to get excited yet because it's so early, but that obviously he was pleased that things have at least started. I get that. I've not bothered taking a test again this morning because it won't change anything!

June - so horrid to have your body adding extra confusion to the situation. Really hope everything settles back into some kind of order soon. And wow, six years for your DD. That must have been incredibly hard. She must be extra specially precious.

Yass- so sorry you're struggling. Do you have support? Take it as easy as you can.

Knittinggurl · 10/03/2018 10:47

@BadBadBeans huge congratulations on your BFP - what wonderful news!

LopeyLopez · 10/03/2018 12:26

Massive congratulations fountain and bad - gives me lots of hope and always lovely to see BFPs on here 😊

Happy and healthy 9 months to you both xxx

Fififiesta · 10/03/2018 13:15

Thanks everyone. The stats about it taking a while help but I'm already wondering what is wrong with me, am I infertile, will it only ever be the three of us etc I am a worrier anyway. I just want this so much.

YassQueen · 10/03/2018 17:08

Thank you for the kind words [flower] I feel a bit daft having taken so much off (as if 2 weeks is a long time) but I work for an ambulance service so we do deal with miscarriages, I've had to deliver a baby over the phone before and I'm not sure how I'd cope with that at the moment so I think time out is the best bet.

Peanut1980 · 10/03/2018 17:32

Congratulations @badbadbeans xxx

I’m out for this month I think. I have no idea what my body is going at the moment. Was due to ovulate this week but seem to be having a light period so don’t think I’ve ovulated which would be a first for me. Saw the docs about my bleeding after DTD. She did an internal (joy!) and sent off some swabs for tests. Also being referred for a scan to see if they’re are any polyps or fibroids. I don’t think they’ll find anything as I had some fertility tests done in November and I’m sure anything like that would have come up then. I had two types of internal scans. So my body is quite the lady of mystery at the moment. Hopefully will settle down or can resolve with these other scans. Just have to wait for an NHS appointment 👀⏰

Good luck to everyone else still holding out for a bfp 🤞😘