TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 17. New Year, new hope for all!

[Primrose16]

Oops the other one got full before new one made. Kept the same name to make it easier to find.

@boboelephant you are definitely cheating 😂 I’ve only been pregnant once so don’t have much to go on but at 8dpo I felt implantation...it was a really sharp pain in my left side. It quickly went away. Then 10dpo I felt like I was in a daze all day...a really weird symptom but at the time I obvs didn’t know I was pregnant but I was being really clumsy and almost felt like I wasn’t in my body. Then on 11dpo I woke with really sore boobs and cramps and that morning I got my bfp. Can’t teally remember any signs before 8dpo but everyone is different and I’m sure every pregnancy is different too...which is prob why we crack ourselves up!

Thanks @Claire138! I know I'm being naughty. And a bit crazy. And that you probably have no symptoms at 6dpo anyway and anything I would feel would be progesterone related. I had a weak moment!! 😂 hopefully I get some of your symptoms in the next few days!

@llondbol so sorry to read, dreading that update & so hope this cycle goes your way. Felt the same about raising hopes first cycle post mc, feeling a lot more cautious this month. TTC is a beast.

3dpo here, eating the pineapple, trying to think about other things. Also waiting to hear on house sale & new mortgage - perfect distraction but everything is out of my control right now!

@bobotheelephant 6dpo with my bfp I was EXHAUSTED, couldn't properly wake up til lunch time, had back ache, a blocked nose (January, though) and was clumsy as fk.

@cakelaur just a big squish to you really. So sorry. Hope tomorrow and the coming weeks will be a huge and lovely distraction.

@zarala crikey, awestruck - seven years! I reckon you'll be a pro at TTC-lite ;) hope some good comes of the investigations for you.

@Sloeberrygin & @TheDinosaurRoars can't imagine, so glad you found the thread - welcome and good luck to you both x

Thanks @PassTheAfterEights. I am trying not to symptom spot but it's hard!

I just decided after my last post that I was going to stop obsessing and see what happens. And just now (sorry tmi) I went to the loo and had lots of stretchy cm? What the?? I freaked out that I hadn't actually ovulated and did another opk but that's negative. Is this a normal pms symptom I've missed before?

@boboelephant strangely that happened to me last month. I was on 3/4dpo and I noticed ewcm...it really confused me and I’m still not entirely sure why it happened as I had my temperature shift. I would cover all bases and just BD just in case!

Thanks for your reply @Claire138. Yep it's really weird as I'm 99% sure I o'd last Sat! My cm changed after that like it usually does and then this. Our bodies are so confusing!

Thank you for the welcome and support everyone.

I was on the pregnancy after mc thread, under a different username, in 2014 and it really was the most helpful group of kind women who got me through those dark days. It’s awful we are all here because of what we have gone through but I am thankful to have the understanding that shared experience brings.

Bobo I usually get ewcm a couple of days before a positive opk. I’ve also had a cycle where my body geared up to ovulate (positive opks etc) but didn’t do so and then went through it all a week later (more positive opks). I was taking my baby and get really bad ovulation pains, so I was able to be quite confident of what was going on.

Thanks @TheDinosaurRoars. I am pretty certain I ovulated last week. Opks, cm, cramps etc... I really feel it all since my losses so I had no doubt. This cm is odd though. I don't usually have that a week after ov. I'm secretly hoping it's some implantation symptom although I know I'm wishing!
I have found this thread so unbelievably helpful so I hope you do too.

Woah you ladies don't mess around!
So much to catch up on and I only have a couple of minutes to write!

@Sloeberrygin hi and I'm so sorry to hear about what you went through- I can't even imagine- strength and hugs to you

@Cakelaur POAS Friday?! Lolll
You're definitely going to take me to dark side! Hahaha- I'm going to try and stay lite for a while lollll

Your blog post is so raw and sad- sending you hugs I haven't fully been there yet but all I want is to have a pregnancy that sticks; it's crazy that it's become so difficult

@Boboelephant I am considering starting acupuncture- would you recommend?! Should I get my hormones tested first so I know what to tell the acupuncturist? Or can I just rock up and say help!?

@Primrose16 Sorry for the negative 😑 it sucks

@PassTheAfterEights Haha thanks. For ages I thought my success was due to being infertile but thankfully so far we haven't had any issues in conceiving- it's the sticking that been the problem.

I just can't wait to TTC again. I might just leave this group and come back after I've seen dr S end of April- I feel like I can't join the fun! (Fun? Hmm)

I'll pop in now and again to see how you all are doing- I know I only joined yesterday but there is a lot of intimate knowledge shared and I already feel connected to this crazy crew!

Hugs and baby dust to all
Good luck!!!

Thank you for all the welcomes.

@TheDinosaurRoars I'm sorry to hear what you went through, that must have been so hard.

@Cakelaur I did actually POAS this morning, before I even knew it was POAS friday BFN though, not even the slight glimmer of a line that I've been getting the last few days.

More spotting today too, slightly heavier today though nowhere near a normal AF. I wish I knew what was going on with my body any these days!

@Boboelephant did you eat that pineapple? I can't remember what you said about them but I'm gonna try it this month is it after ovulation you start eating it?

Hello all, tentatively dipping my toe in the pond.

Brief history: first pregnancy ended in mmc at 10 weeks.
Second pregnancy ended in a termination for medical reasons at 22 weeks, after a heart condition non-compatible with life was found at our 20 week scan. Doctors thought it could be genetic and DH and I were tested.
Got our results back on Monday, doesn't look like we carry a gene, looks like a new mutation which is the best outcome we could have hoped for. However these tests are never 100% certain, and they've also said next time they won't be able to definitely say whether everything is okay before the 20 week mark again, so there's the chance I could have to go through that whole experience again :(

Although it's kind of positive news, I've felt sick and teary all week, as I just don't think I could go through it again, even though I know realistically I would if I had to, of course.

So, this is it now, we're going to start trying again and just hope against hope that it was a fluke last time, and that this will be our third time lucky. I'm terrified and torn between wanting to leave it for a bit and just getting pregnant again.

Luckily we've been offered a lot of extra scans and support, although obviously there's nothing they can really do super early other than guarantee something is in there and the size it should be!

Sorry for the essay. Good luck to everyone on here. Starting folic acid and multivitamin tomorrow as recommended by consultant.

Sick, full of dread and excited/hopeful all at the same time.

@whyistherumgone welcome and I'm so sorry. I cant imagine how you're feeling. The ladies on here are amazing and I'm sure will be very supportive and help you through.

thank you so much @hidcat :) It was threads like these that kept me sane before, so I'm sure I will be popping on often.
The positive is my cycles have gone back to normal, so hopefully that will make it easier. Rubbish that we all find ourselves here, but I'm thankful to have somewhere that people genuinely understand the mixture of emotions...

Hello @whyistherumgone. I’ve name changed, so you won’t recognise me, but I was the admin of the FB group for your last pregnancy. I’m sorry you couldn’t get definite answers although I am glad the doctors don’t think you carry a gene. I really hope you get pregnant again quickly and things go smoothly for you. I gave birth prematurely and my baby died the following day. I’m also terrified and absolutely should wait a while, for my mental health if nothing else, but so desperately want to have a baby that I have found myself here. We can be worried together.

Sorry i'm a bit behind ladies!

So sorry to see some new faces here. I'm sorry for your loss. It's not nice how everyone has been brought together in this way but the most amazing ladies are in this thread. Without them I wouldn't be in such a positive mindset post MC as I am.

@Boboelephant so sorry to read about your ectopic. It sounds like such a scary experience. You are a very brave and strong lady.

@primrose16 it's so hard to hear of other pregnancies, particularly people you are close to. I've been finding that difficult too.

Well it's test day for me tomorrow and i'm scared. Totally freaking out up until now we've been able to hold on to that hope that maybe it's BFP and we're both going to be so sad if it's not. I'm also losing my mind if no pregnancy hormones cos i just found myself crying at Crufts because some of the dogs didn't get chosen to run around the ring

Evening all and welcome to the new people! Sorry you find yourself here....
Sorry to the ladies who have had still births, I can't begin to imagine what that must have been like :(
Pumpkin good luck.l for tomorrow!

As for me I'm in bed at 9:20pm as exhausted! I'm obvs thinking that this is a symptom at 7 DPO

Thank you for the warm welcome.

@thedinosaurroars I am so so so sorry to hear that. Genuinely devastated. I was really hoping I was all the bad luck for that group. There are no words - but I completely understand your feeling about getting pregnant again, it left a real void for me and I can't even imagine how you must feel. I am so sorry you've had to go through all this.

Fingers crossed for you tomorrow @PumpkinPatch000.

Thank you @whyistherumgone. Bizarrely enough I almost messaged you last week to see how things were with you and the tests but thought you might think it a bit odd. It has left a real void for me as well. DH was of the view that we probably shouldn’t try again but I just couldn’t not. I’m glad you will be getting extra scans and monitoring. Hopefully it will be unnecessary because there won’t be any concerns, but will be good for your peace of mind.

@zarala I have enjoyed the acupuncture. If I get my bfp this month I'm sure I'll think it's the best thing ever. But even if not it's been relaxing so that's something amidst all the anxiety ttc can bring. I looked up a fertility acupuncturist and just told her my history when I arrived. She didn't need any more info beforehand.
@DaisyMay25 I have been eating the pineapple. The ingredient bromelain in pineapple is supposed to help thicken your uterine lining. They say eat it after ovulation up until af/bfp. So about one slice for 14 days (roughly). Also don't get rid of the core- eat that bit too.
Oh @whyistherumgone I'm so sorry for your loss. I am so sorry that you have had to experience this. Sending hugs and I hope we can provide some support for you.
@PumpkinPatch000 thankyou that's so sweet. Fingers crossed for you for tomorrow.
@weasledee fingers crossed!!! Your exhaustion and my sneezing- we're set this month! 😀

@Boboelephant 😂🤣😂!! Defo cheating!!! But I had a tickly cough from 6dpo last time. Implantation bleed at 9dpo and 11dpo. Not much else.

@PassTheAfterEights thanks Hun. Fingers crossed with the TWW. Oh how I was at the start of it rather than the end. Haha!! 🤞hopefully the pineapple works.

@zarala we'll have you POAS in no time!!! Just you wait! Come Friday next week.. you'll be well up for it!!! Haha. 😉

@Sloeberrygin glad you're a part of the POAS Friday. I shall be trying again tomorrow!! Haha. No AF signs yet. Due tomorrow or possibly Monday. So we'll see. Sorry it's a BFN for you. How many dpo are you?

@whyistherumgone sorry for your loss babe. Welcome to the group. I think it's safe to say we all feel that crazy scared/excited/nervous/terrified feeling about what lies ahead.

@PumpkinPatch000 🤞 for testing tomorrow. I'll be right there with ya. Testing away.. again!!! Haha.

@weasledee I've been knackered the last few days!! 🤞it's gotta be something right???!

@PumpkinPatch000 and @cakelaur any testing this morning?? 🤞🤞

Thanks to everyone for their support. Not good news here I'm afraid. BFN and I feel like a total fool. I know people say you can imagine the symptoms but I 100% don't believe I have and this month has been completely different to any other. Confused, sad and disappointed.

I felt really rough on Thursday with heightened symptoms and barely anything yesterday Do you think I tested too late and it could have been a CP or am I totally losing my mind?

@PumpkinPatch000 I’m sorry. That’s shit, especially with the strong symptoms. Has AF come yet?