TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 17. New Year, new hope for all!

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Oops the other one got full before new one made. Kept the same name to make it easier to find.

Thank you....sorry it's such a short post my head is all over the place. Terrified is the word I am using today 🤤

Yay for all the BFPs! Congrats everyone!!

Congratulations @kingy2910 hope you have a smooth 8 months!

@funkyemzie I have so far managed to hold out! I think it’s because I have very little symptoms. Going to test tomorrow at 12dpo so if it’s a BFN I’ll be fairly confident I’m out then. To be honest I don’t think I am pregnant but I still have this pang of hope that I will get a BFP. When are you going to test?

Congratulations everyone with bfp! X

@pumpkinpatch000 I feel really similar.. no idea where I am in the cycle, decided not to keep doing OPKs as I was getting obsessed but now wish I had been! I did one and it was positive about a week ago, so now wonder if am in the TWW but also pretty sure I'm not because MC was only about 4 weeks ago. Luckily keeping busy with work but just wanted to say I hear you & feel v similar. Can you talk to a doctor? Even just to get some reassurance or guidance. I'm no doctor but I have heard so often that whatever happens after MC is normal - i.e. anything can happen to your cycle so just to go with it. But it's so hard to stay sane & patient, well it is for me.

@hope - congrats!!
@kingy2910 - congrats to you as well! I imagine I would be terrified too, be gentle on yourself xx

What does everyone feel about coffee drinking (1 a day, sometimes 2) while TTC?

@PumpkinPatch000 I had a cycle once where I got two lots of ovulation peaks and signs but only ovulated the second time. It was as if my body geared up to ovulate and then couldn’t or wouldn’t for whatever reason. I conceived the following cycle though so it didn’t cause any long term fertility problems for me.

@Kingy2910 Congratulations!

I’ve got loads of spots today which I am taking as a good sign that my hormones are getting back to what they should be. No sign of ovulation yet though.

Hope everyone’s day goes ok.

@TheDinosaurRoars that’s good to know as I’ve been really panicking about it. My cycles have always been irregular so I was expecting they would be all over the place after the MC but I’m still worrying about it. I think because I’ve done the tests and know I’ve got peaks but things aren’t happening. So good to hear you conceived the following cycle!!

@BabyNameEdie it’s so horrible not knowing what’s going on isn’t it? I’m torn between doing OPks too, I can’t make up my mind if it’s a good idea or not. I feel like I need to know though because I’d i do get BFP the date they give us is going to be so wildly wrong they’ll think I’m far further along than I am.. if I get BFP that is. It sounds like a good idea to keep busy! You have the right idea! I’ll probablh talk to EPU as my GP doesn’t tend to be particularly helpful. Like you say though they’ll probably just say there are no rules and to just be patient however long it takes....

Congrats to kingy and hope wonderful news on your bfs!

babynamededie i didn't worry about caffeine, knowing i would limit it as soon as i saw a bfp. in the few weeks leading up to my bfp and successful month after ttc for a year i drank plenty of tea and coffee. i know many others who give up and also have success though so do what makes you happy.

Babynameedie.......you can have 2 cups if coffee a day through pregnancy I believe it's 200mg of caffeine. My midwife says not too worry about what you take in up to 6 weeks as most people don't know they are pregnant until then and also baby is getting everything from the sac not placenta. Obviously because we are monitoring like crazy ladies We, maybe think about what your drinking eating etc but I certainly (havent) am not going to worry about the wine etc I've had. With my first pregnancy I found out at 6 weeks (I stopped here as it was unexpected lol) had smoked,drank a lot of wine (it was Xmas) and ate soft cheese lol and that pregnancy was fine. This time (mc) i stopped immediately and look where that got me.....so everything in moderation until either you get a bfp or af (hope she doesn't come get any of you). Sorry for the essay but it winds me up so much when you read one minute you can't eat eggs the next minute you can........ggggrrrrrr.

And it's perfectly fine to eat eggs any way you want........!!!!! Ok rant over in think 😤😤😤😤

Congrats @Kingy2910 & @Hope137

Sorry to those who are waiting on AF & to those who are on a new cycle - good luck for this one 😬😬.

I started drinking decaf if its available for past 5months or so however if theres no decaf i dont panic drinking regular!

Thanks @Kingy2910 and@NoCatsHere
I think I'll just keep going as normal. I was on honeymoon drinking tons more than normal (booze and coffee!) when became pregnant but then MC so am nervous about what caused that..I know everyone says it's much more likely to be chromosomal (sp?) problems but can't help but worry.
Thanks both for help x

Contests on the bfps, fingers crossed for sticky beans!!

I'm CD15 and no sign of ovulation, last month my cycle was only 25 days so fingers crossed it goes back to its 28 days!

How's everybody else doing? I'm waiting for some more test results today
Had an ultrasound of pretty much my entire body and everything was fine (apart from tilted cervix which I was already aware of) but Irvine sample showed urine, white blood cells, protein and lucozites (?) all present. So they had to send it to the hospital. I'm scared that whatever this is makes my body too weak to get pregnant.

Babynameedie.......I think we all look for something to blame I certainly do and it annoys me that there isn't anything specific so us ladies just blame ourselves (No matter how much anyone says it's not our fault we do blame ourselves). Life would be so much easier if there was a specific cause of mc!!!! I say carry on as you are until bfp you have enough to worry about with life in General!!! 😘

*congrats not contest, 3am was to early to get up today...

@kingy2910 @hope congratulations on your BFPs!

@funkyemzie congratulations on the house news! Very exciting and a great distraction I bet!

I am now a day late for AF which never happens, felt really sick and headachey yesterday but another BFN today...when I was checking said BFN my test from Sunday caught my eye and now has a faint line. No idea what is going on!

Chucking, not checking!

Strawberrye are you using those little strip tests or a frer/digital?

The one from Sunday was a cassette type and today was a strip test... admittedly this morning's urine was quite dilute but I feel I'm clutching at straws by thinking it's a false negative because of that.

I have given up on using frer/digital until I get a BFP as they are so expensive!

Strawberrye if there is a line even faint one and even after the time allowance has passed it's still a positive hunni

@strawberrye get a decent test and FMU, fingers crossed for you!

@funkyemzie good news on the house!

@daisymay25 what’s an Irvine test?! Intrigued by your tests as i’m having the same done.

@BabynameEdie I don’t tend to drink much coffee. I carry on with tea and chocolate - the occasional coffee. Now got BFP I will have one/maybe 2 teas and if I fancy a coffee it’s decaf! I save my caffeine for chocolate! 😊

@Kingy2910 congrats. @strawberrye I will keep fingers crossed. Good luck

Eurgh so it starts again.

Just wanted to say thank you to those on this thread!

It so helps having somewhere to tear your hair out and share the emotional rollercoaster that is TTC after a loss.

We are trying OPK this month (At least il feel like I'm doing something different).

Il likely be back with loads of questions though as if feels bamboozling currently 🙈