TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 17. New Year, new hope for all!

[Primrose16]

Oops the other one got full before new one made. Kept the same name to make it easier to find.

@Panoramarama thank you and yes it is so shit! . I've still been getting intense cramping today but no more clots-really hoping it's not going to ramp up again
Hoping you don't ever have to experience this - in fact I don't wish it on anyone!

@Claire138 thanks! I am a little bit worried about joining you guys because I I can imagine crazy is encouraged! I think I'll drive myself and my husband mad if I start peeing on sticks everyday- I think I'd rather just dtd every other day! That way husband is happy and I don't need to worry so much about it...am I being naive?! Lol

@PassTheAfterEights Thanks for the message ! I think I will also stay lite! I have been charting my cycles since I was a teenager and have been using apps for 10 years. My oh and I used the rhythm method for 7 years successfully but now the "danger zone" has become the "fun zone" lol
But now I just want 3 months off - want to get everything tested and try and fix anything before we ttc. Because of these back to back MMCs we're introducing condoms into our life! 

@Cakelaur thanks for the info- I think I will wait a bit before getting on the temp game- if we don't manage a BFP after 3 months of TTC (after a 3 month Hiatus) then I will start getting more proactive!

@Boboelephant thank you
Yes fully intend on getting everything checked out. Have already got my blood forms but need to wait for AF. I feel so blessed having my LO and she is the only thing getting me through this

@Lovemysparkle thank you, and I'm sorry you went through this too
Ah! I think I would be so frustrated if all my tests came back normal! I really don't want to go through this again and would feel like I'm rolling the dice again! I want to find something wrong so we can at least treat it! But also being told you're perfect must be nice. Have you guys done the sperm comet test?!
What is the genetic test called? Is it kareyotyping?
Did st George put you on anything? Aspirin? Progesterone? Or?!

@NoCatsHere thank you yes it's awful and I can't imagine going through 6! Your friend is a soldier!!! I am leaning more towards dr s as he seems more diverse in his approach but his fees are scary.

@Primrose16 fwiw I did not see any line on your pic! Your friends are bad influences 😘
Sorry af turned up. I know how frustrating that is...

Good luck to all you ladies!

@Primrose16 well I've always managed to wait until my period is at least 3-5 days late!
I just never want to believe it's going to happen and then get that disappointment
But also it's most probably becoz I'm a miser. Those cheapo sticks never work for me - I've always had false negatives with them and the clear blue ones are expensive! So I try and be economical about it.
So I always tell oh when I'm about to buy a test and when I'm about to do it....

@Primose16 yes, whenever i've tested it's been when my husband has been there too so we can sweat out the three mins together waiting for the result lol

@Llondbol sorry AF showed!! She's such a b*tch!!

@Primrose16 sometimes! 🙈 I don't tell him that I take the test out the bin!! But generally he asks!!! Silly man! He knows I'd tell him if it was positive!!! Hahaha!

I've also bought shares in hpts! So I may as well use them all!!! Haha

@Primrose16 nah, I think he knows I'm a poas addict he asks now and again if I've tested but he knows I'll tell him if it's positive

I have always tested with hubby. I am not sure he will be up for testing tomorrow. 🤔

@primrose16 nope i always do the first test on my own then I can get my thoughts and feelings together....I know it sounds bad now I'm typing it. It's just if it's negative I can have a cry or whatever on my own without having someone else's feelings to worry about. If it's positive I leave it for him to find......

Can I join this thread? So sorry to read about everyone's experiences.

I had a second trimester loss 4 weeks ago and am currently just waiting for my cycle to sort itself out. But of course that doesn't stop me also desperately hoping that I've somehow become pregnant again already. I've had a tiny bit of spotting the last couple of days which my rational brain knows is almost certainly just part of the miscarriage. However my TTC brain is trying to convince me it's implantation bleeding. So I'm thinking this thread could be a good place to channel some of the craziness!

@Sloeberrygin sorry you have found yourself with us. Feel free to rant, moan, act like a crazy person - no judgement here.

@kingy2910 love that you just casually just leave it out 😂

Primrose last time he was on night's so I pee'd on a stick got positive shit myself and left it on his pillow and went to work early hahahaha actually I did that with my first pregnancy too. He knows I'm a funny onion with all the touchy feely stuff.....good job he loved me eh🤣

@Sloeberrygin sorry you're here cos it's sh*t. But all these ladies are amazing. Also now we've done introductions.... POAS in the morning!!! Could defo be implantation. This is so exciting.

Who's testing tomorrow? I'm in... @Primrose16 has GOT to be in!
Maybe we should just all POAS!! We could call is POAS Friday!! We could do it every week!!!

@Cakelaur haha poas Friday, no point in me doing it but I send you all baby dust that are!! Can't wait to be in my tww again

That's what I'm saying @DaisyMay25 EVERYONE should poas Friday! Irrelevant whos in the TWW!!! Just for fun!! 😂

Welcome @Sloeberrygin. So sorry for your loss. Definitely a great place to channel the craziness!
Haha @Kingy2910!! 🤣🤣 that cracked me up. And DH too!
@Cakelaur 🤣🤣 POAS Friday. Good luck to all of you! I will be joining this next week!

Meanwhile I went to acupunture tonight and told her I'd had increased EWCM the day after I saw her last week and ovulated the day after that and shes now like 'ah I think you're pregnant'. Haha I hope so but not sure it's that easy to tell!! I think it's more her belief in acupuncture but here's hoping!!! 🤞🤞🤞

@Boboelephant it'd be so good if it was true though! Do you feel more relaxed after having it? I'm debating whether to have it or not.

Also let me see these sticks!!

@Sloeberrygin I'm so sorry you had a second trimester loss. I know how you feel - noticing symptoms, hoping its pregnancy related, driving yourself nearly mad. It's exhausting!

@Primrose16 I've tested without telling my husband. If I feel something is happening, I can't resist!

Best wishes to everyone today. I'm 4 or 5 dpo. No new symptoms to speak of.

It would be @DaisyMay25!! She did tell me she's treating someone else who fell pregnant straight after it so here's hoping for a miracle! I do find it relaxing and feel good after it so that's a win.
@Primrose16 I forgot to say DH usually knows because I get my hopes up and rabbit on about when I'm going to test. But I do it alone in the bathroom and then he knows from my reaction! He does excitedly wait so often I wish I hadn't said anything but I can't keep my mouth shut! I have definitely done a few extra ones in secret though and just thrown them away! Funnily enough my last bfp was a real squinter and he didn't believe it until the next day when I tested again. Just do whatever makes you more comfortable.
Have you tested this morning???

@Hope137 fingers crossed for next week! You're just behind me. 6dpo today 🤞

I have tested. I’m sure mine is BFN. I’m due today (if I’m back to my 28 day cycle) and I should have a clear line

@Boboelephant Fingers crossed x2!

BFN 👎🏻

@Primrose16 Sorry about the BFN. Hard to tell with cycle lengths though.

@Primrose16 I'm so sorry for the bfn. I do agree though that your cycle length may have changed. You're not out until the witch shows. I'll still keep my fingers crossed for you.