TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 17. New Year, new hope for all!

[Primrose16]

Oops the other one got full before new one made. Kept the same name to make it easier to find.

Ok so then I went back and looked at your pic @Primrose16 and there is DEFINITELY something there. OMG OMG OMG! I'm so excited for you!! 100% Test tomorrow!!!!

I honestly can’t see anything @cakelaur

Sorry got distracted by the pic!!! Haha. With bbt the app that I use takes all your data (opks, cm and temps) and tells you when you've ovulated. So we took a break from DTD the day after temp shift. And now it's gone and changed it. (It had registered it as the day I got peak on CBFM) it's now saying it's two days later. So we only DTD the day before O. Which I know is still possible. But before we had the 3 day lead up to O and the day after.

Circled it! I've got everything crossed for you!!! I so hope I'm right!! I've been staring at my own BFN all morning trying to make a line appear and nothing...

Hi everyone, could I join too?

TTC again for the first time since a MMC at 10 weeks in Jan. Anyone else really unsure of when ovulation was after their loss? Bleeding following ERPC stopped for a week or so, I then had what I thought was a period but it was mostly brown blood for 5 days. Then another couple of weeks of nothing, during which time I got a positive opk but a day later I had what looked and felt like a proper period for a week...since then have only had a v faint positive opk, during which time we went for it! Is it possible that I didn't ovulate?

If I did, would now be about 5dpo and am feeling slightly sick and have had awful heartburn, which were the first symptoms last time. Telling myself it is probably all in the mind.

This is all so gut wrenchingly confusing and I don't want to get my hopes up. Honestly I don't think I'll ever enjoy being pregnant again, following the loss. It's so anxious making. Trying to stay calm and sane and not symptom spot but it's so hard not to.

Sorry we all find ourselves here. Hugs and support and best of luck to everyone!

Mine in comparison! 🙈 don't judge!!! Yes I did fish it out the bin! 😂🤣 we've all done it!!! Haha

Welcome to the mad House @Panoramarama sorry you find yourself here!! But we've all been through it. And we're all more crazy than the rest of them!! Have you done opks or bbt or any kind of tracking? X

@Panoramarama I’m sorry you are here. But welcome. I’m honestly the most rubbish at ovulation questions- do not have a clue. I’m sure someone will be able to help. That’s why I prob didn’t get picked to for the Clearblue trial 😂

I fished mine out of the bin @cakelaur but I still can’t see it. I’m no good at this squinting game.

Thanks @cakelaur :) sounds like I've found my people.

I have loosely tracked by doing opks leading up to the time I expected to ovulate. This last time, they were only faint positives. That said, I wasn't strict with it and didn't test at the same time every day or each day. Was trying not to let myself get obsessed but ironically am now obsessing anyway! Haven't done any other kind of tracking, ever.

What do you recommend? X

Hello @Primrose16!

Totally have fished out of the bin before too!

Have got quite good line eyes though, hope they can be of assistance!

Thankyou @PumpkinPatch000! It's all about taking back a bit of control for me at the moment so I don't feel governed by this huge part of my life that I can't control! Oohh I think it sounds really positive for you!! I have everything crossed for you for the weekend 🤞🤞
@Cakelaur boo for the bfn! I don't understand how your dates changed either? Even if o date was different though you still could have caught in the lead up 5 days! You're not out yet!
Sorry about the bfn @Primrose16 although could be because of the teeny amount of wee! I would defi test again on Saturday. Funnily enough I got a darker line last time on one of those cheapie than I did on a more expensive one. You're not out yet!
5dpo here. Only a week til I can test!!

@Panoramarama I recommend it all. But I'm a total utter control freak. So this conceiving malarkey has me climbing walls. I pee on about 3 different kind of opks each day and the cheap ones I do 3 times a day. I do bbt, which has pluses and minuses. And I track cm. but to be fair it all leaves me just a confused as the next gal. Haha. But it gives me confidence that my body is ovulating and doing what it should. If only it would just get pregnant and stay pregnant.

@Cakelaur - that sounds like a lot of work! But all will be worth it in the end!

To be totally honest the only reason I've tried to stay non obsessive so far is because the moment I start, it will take over for me too. Where do you record everything? Do you use an app or write it down etc? Also what is bbt?

@Panoramarama bbt is basal body temperature. You measure your temp as soon as you wake up. And before ov you have low temps and after ov you have high temps. It doesn't predict ovulation but it confirms it. So I use opks and temping so I have a rough idea it's coming and then proof that it's happened. And technically if your temp stays high for 18days it's confirmed pregnancy. No need to test. 😂 but who am I kidding I don't make it to 8days without testing. Let alone 18 days!!! 🙈

Oh and as for recording data. I use fertility friend (a paid for app £25 a year) this one tells you when you've ovulated and give you info about how your chart is doing. And kindara (free app) but I like the community on this one.

So weurdly i just looked back and there seems to be a bazillion messages that I missed before mine just popped up! So sorry if mine made no sense. I do hope it is a line for you @Primrose16!! I'm rubbish at the squinters too.

Thanks for that cake! I've been taking my temp and it's been following the pattern you described.
5 DPO here...... :)

I don’t know how you all find time to temp and pee. I’m drowning in washing and other house things. Need to sort my life out!

Hi ladies
Can I join your gang please?!
I am currently going through my 3rd MMC.
I don't think I need to tell you guys just how awful this is

@Panoramarama I had an ERPC on December 13th and I ovulated on Jan 18th.
The only reason I know is I had some spotting on the 18th- I presumed it meant that my periods were about to blast! I was so happy because we had planned to give my body a 3 month rest and to get tested and everything before trying again. So I was happy to have my cycles back. I'd had 2 back to back MCs so just wanted to have a mental and emotional break.
Anyway we had celebration DTD unprotected thinking I was infertile
But Lo and behold my periods never showed up. 3 weeks later took a pregnancy test to rule it out- definitely didn't think it was possible (I had no idea ovulation spotting existed!) but boom BFP.
Pregnancy symptoms came on very strong. Went to EPU saw lovely strong heartbeat baby measured exactly 6weeks which fit the ovulation spotting date.
2 weeks later went back for a dating scan but alas it had stopped growing a few days after the previous scan and no more heartbeat.
This was last Friday. Started bleeding on monday and the worst of it (I'm hoping) came out yesterday.

Anyway sorry to have just given you my whole life story

Did any of you ladies find getting tested helped?
Are any of you seeing dr quenby? Or dr Shehata?

I really hope to find a reason for this!
I have a 16month old who we conceived with no issues and had a very simple and easy pregnancy. Feel like I took it all for granted and now feel so blessed to have had such an easy time with her

Anyway wishing you all success and hope I can join you on this magical journey to meet our rainbow babies

Hugs and strength

Thanks @Cakelaur! Will check those apps out. Slippery slope to it taking over everything but I think I knew that was coming!

Last time (before the MMC) I was peeing on any stick I could get my hands in the run up to the BFP.

@Cakelaur

Hi
When you take your BBT do you use a regular thermometer?
Like it doesn't need to measure temperature in "there" does it?! I have always wondered so I am sorry for the ditzy question!

Hi @zarala, just seen your message.

Hugs to you too. It's shit, isn't it? I've only had one MMC and that was hard enough. It must have taken enormous strength to go through what you have been through and are going through. No experience with Dr Quenby or Shehata but I've read the names before on here and heard positive things.

I'm glad it sounds like you are over the physical worst this time around

@Panoramarama welcome and I'm so sorry you're here. It can take a few cycles after MC for your cycles to get back on track. I've used opks this month- 3 months post MMC- but was using them 3 times a day as I clearly have a short surge. The line got darker and lighter until it was positive. I also pay attention to my cm.

@Primrose16 I see the line too! I'm a bad influence though and think you should take another tomorrow...
@Boboelephant I think so, I don't temp or pee on things but my boobs get super sore, that's how I know
Tempted to start temping but don't want it to take over my life too, might just stick to DTD every 3-4 days like doctor suggested

@primrose16 I did think I saw a squinter! Maybe take another photo in a different light?

@boboelephant acupuncture went well. It definitely chilled me out. Fingers crossed it’s working wonders in my uterus!!

Hi @zarala and @panoramarama sorry you find yourselves here and what you are going through. The good thing about this thread is everyone knows how you feel...even if you think you’re being crazy...we have all been there!

My latest crazy is opk!!! I tested Monday and it was a faint line, tested Tuesday and Wednesday and they were even fainter!! I had ewcm yesterday and I am supposedly meant to ovulate today/tomorrow so I am just really confused because my body is showing the right signs but I haven’t had my surge on the opks!!! Just very confused! I thought the opks would help me but they are making me worse I think!