TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 17. New Year, new hope for all!

[Primrose16]

Oops the other one got full before new one made. Kept the same name to make it easier to find.

Oh @bobo that's so crap! I'm not sure there's any way of dealing with it other than accepting it's normal to feel jealous and resentful. And moaning to everyone else on here!

I've given up OPKs in an attempt to stop obsessing about TTC but I'm not sure if that's having the opposite effect...now I'm just over-analysing my CM! Not tried temping yet and it's not really possible at the moment as I work so many weird shifts. I'm wondering whether taking up the OPKs again would make me feel like I had some control over it all and therefore make me feel better about it? Dunno

@BohoElephant @cakelaur I took 1 test but it was negative. Too early I think. I'm holding out until the weekend to test again! Still got lots of symptoms so feeling hopeful. i'm 17 DPO today.

@Cakelaur your puppy looks so cute! I bet you can't wait to get him home. Love him!!

How are you both doing?

@Claire138 awwww your dog is so sweet! He looks so cheeky!!

@nocatsinhere to be honest I can't believe I haven't caved and tested. I think at the moment although it's hard not knowing it's worse seeing the that negative so for the time being we can keep being hopefully that because AF hasn't turned up we are in with a chance. I guess i'm also putting it off because I had my MC at 6 weeks and this is the first month of trying since so the later I find out (if we are) then the less time to be paranoid about something going wrong up until 6 weeks as that's where everything fell apart last time.

Hope everyone is okay. Sorry to see some new people in the thread. Sending love x

pumpkin I’m totally with you, that white glare of a bfn is so horrid, I prefer to be caught out by af. And you’re right the later younleave it the less time to worry. Good luck!

Hi, can I please join? TTC 15 months before BFP that turned into a CP. Absolutely gutted. Currently having quite a bit of pain. Does anyone know if this is normal?

Hugs to everyone in the same boat. It's shit.

@nocatsinhere sorry for all the typos in that message. I was rushing to type before dinner was ready Yeah the negative tests makes me so sad. Thank you! Not long until the weekend now to find out either way eek

@Thumbellini of course. So sorry to hear of your loss and that you are in pain. I had a MC at 6 weeks and it felt like really bad period pain for one day and then average period pain for two weeks. Sending love and hugs xx

Oh @DaisyMay25 that's so tough!! No judgment here, we all have a past. I think because there is a lot of confusion about the long term effects of ED on fertility you should absolutely ask GP to refer you for some tests. I cant remember so sorry if I'm wrong but I think you've said before your periods are regular now? If so that's a good sign. But defi ask! Can't hurt!
Thanks @strawberrye. To be honest I've used opks this month and it definitely helped me feel a bit more in control as I wasn't second guessing when ov was.
@PumpkinPatch000 fingers crossed!!! Symptoms are promising- which ones do you have?? I'm ok thanks. 4dpo here and feeling optimistic- because I don't want to imagine the alternative! But I did ov 3 days earlier than usual which I'm putting down to seed cycling so feel great about that! I hope this weekend brings your bfp!
@Thumbellini welcome but I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't know about the pain but maybe speak to gp if it continues for much longer.

@daisymay25 no judging at all love. I think get as much support as you can- worth a visit to ask for tests defo. X

@thumbellini sorry that you found yourself here. What kind of pains are you having?

OKAY today’s symptom- sooooooooo bloated. I feel like a balloon and need a good squeeze. But im pretty sure that’s a AF sign! Damn it!

Something that's bothering me is that I have pains / an aching feeling around where I imagine my right ovary is. I had it while I was pregnant but since the mc it hasn't gone away properly. It isn't a strong pain but it's quite persistent. I'm sure it wasn't there before. I'd like to ask my doctor but don't think she'd have much to say as it's only been 3 weeks since the mc. Oh well, guess I'll just get on with it! Its not easy not knowing what's going on with your body and why.

@Thumbellini Sorry you're in pain. I'm sure it is normal, but I know that's not much comfort. It's so difficult when you don't know what's going on.

@DaisyMay25 no judgement at all hun, was a bit of a rascal myself in my younger day!! @Hope137 i had that as well - strange! Mine went away at my next ovulation after mc which was a strong one, hope urs does too!

@keepinghopeful Thanks, that's good to know. I had strong pains a few days ago which I assumed were ovulation related - hopefully the aching will get better after AF (or BFP!). Good luck to you too.

@Boboelephant this one was four days early, just a 25 day cycle, so hopefully next cycle they will be normal, I know I'm gonna talk to my doctor on Monday.
@Primrose16 oooo fingers crossed it's a sign! Although bloating is super uncomfortable, how many dpo are you?
@Hope137 I've had pain in my left ovary since mc too, it comes and goes, getting it looked at on Monday via a scan. If it's still there in a few weeks I'd get it looked at, hopefully it's not an infection for you

@Primrose16 it just feels like sharp period pain, I've never had any problems with period pain so guess it's just the cp working its way out.

Thanks for all the lovely replies, I didn't think posting would make me feel better but it actually has. I have been having issues with raised prolactin prior to my BFP so need to have a chat with the GP to see what the next steps are. Obviously it didn't stop me from conceiving but I'm wondering if it could have contributed to the miscarriage? So many questions...

@thumbellini quite possible, I struggled with pain for a while after my mmc. Think it was just my body getting back to normal. Plus I had cysts on my ovaries that I was told will just slowly go.
Not sure @daisymay25 in cd 26. I don’t track. I was using opk prior to conceiving my daughter I stopped due to being frantically testing, I fell pregnant once I stopped and relaxed. Clearly didn’t work fit me x

@DaisyMay25 ah that's right, I remember now. Very short cycle. Hopefully it does sort itself out soon. You think you're ovulating though yes?If so I think that's a good sign that you can fall pregnant. Doctors are not always right. 🤞🤞

Ooh fingers crossed @Primrose16! Although I did laugh picturing a balloon 😂
@Hope137 and @thumbellini hope the pain goes away soon.

Thank you @Boboelephant will keep my fingers crossed. It’s good to know you have ovulated and are feeling optimistic. I think it gives the sense of more control when you know you have ovulated. Good Luck!

I’ve got lots of symptoms and don’t get many before AF if any at all so they are unusual for me but you just never know when TTC. AF likes to sneak up when you least expect it so I’m still doubtful. Some of my symptoms are nausea which is getting worse every day, lack of appetite, bloated, absolutely exhausted, headaches, larger heavy boobs. Painful boobs but only slightly to the touch, it’s more of a throbbing achy pain that comes and goes. Also heightened sense of smell and weird dreams every night. My eyes are red and strained too and I got that last time. More CM sorry TMI! To the point where I think AF is here but it’s not.

Keep your fingers crossed for the weekend.
xx

@daisymay25 Thanks, I will go to see the doc if it continues. Good luck with your scan on Mon. I'd be interested to know how it goes.

So of course BFN!! And ff changed my O date to cd13 (was cd11) which means that we DTD at the wrong times!!! 😭 so now apparently I'm 8dpo and just willing this month to be over!!! But it doesn't stop me staring at the IC HPT hoping that the magical pregnancy fairy has delivered me a second line.

@cakelaur I’m sorry- I’m really confused how has your ovulation date changed?

Big hugs @cakelaur why do you think your ov date has changed? I hope you are okay. Are you sure about the dates? You aren’t out until AF shows up x

Forgot about testing so squeezed the tiniest one out. BFN too, not due til tomorrow or Sunday if I have another 30 day cycle. Is it worth doing another like Saturday? Plus see these crappy tests? I have wasted so much money in the past I got cheapies 🙈

@Primrose16 THERES A LINE ON THAT TEST!!