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When the going gets tough, the tough get Yams

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SoozC · 10/02/2018 13:24

Thread five!

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

  • Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shalt not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

  • Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.
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Milknosugar1 · 13/02/2018 16:01

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Bubblegum89 · 13/02/2018 16:03

Limp you’re really going through it right now and I think I speak for everyone when I say you can be as self indulgent as you want here, this is EXACTLY the place for it. I wish you weren’t having such a shitty time, it’s just not fair, especially having it all dragging out like this too. I feel for you, I really do. I pop on here every day just to see if you have updated. I’m sorry this seems to be happening to you again Flowers

LexieJean · 13/02/2018 17:16

This wonderful group of yammers is exactly what I need when feeling angry/sad/self-indulgent/stupid/puzzled etc as I hope it is for everyone else.
Yes @limp what @milk and @bubble say is true we’re all here feeling the unfairness for you and wishing you well 💐

lucy2204 · 13/02/2018 17:21

Can I join, been trying 7 months now :(

Chooklass · 13/02/2018 17:34

Found the new thread! Have realised I mostly ignore MN at start of cycle then leap back in at 2wW when it's all on my mind again. Relentless baby bombs just now, sigh. 5dpo here and hoping the next 9 days pass quickly with no fake symptoms please. Still no word on when our first fertility appt will be so just keeping on trying! Sorry some of you are having such a crap time - this is such a lovely supportive group though Flowers

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SoozC · 13/02/2018 17:54

Glad to see you found us, Chook. Fx for your fertility appt. to happen soon.

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LimpLettice · 13/02/2018 18:29

Thanks yammers. It does actually help. So few people know and DP is upset enough. I've literally just started bleeding, so hopefully it'll pass quickly and I can start to think forward a bit. I'm just so lost and angry.

Pibbee · 13/02/2018 18:31

Hi all

Went a bit AWOL as I was on holiday last week. Hope everyone is OK...

I have got my next appt at the fertility place on 16 April. Prior to that I need to have an HSG (And for that I need to call them on day 1 of the inevitable next AF to get it booked in shortly after AF), and an ovary scan which is booked in for end of March. I also had blood tests to check AMH etc, they said they would call if they were concerned about any of the results, and they haven’t done so far....Will call them some time next week to get the actual results regardless.

One of my IVF friends has just found out she is pg (via ivf). Very pleased for her.

Everyone seems to be pg at the moment except me. Even my nails lady had a ‘baby on board’ badge on her coat yesterday....

Pibbee · 13/02/2018 18:32

Awwww so sorry to hear what you are going through Limp. It really really really sucks Flowers Flowers Flowers

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SoozC · 13/02/2018 18:57

I'm so sorry, Limp. Please feel free to post whatever you need to on here - I know how hard it can be to vent to people in RL. No-one on here will mind, we all want to support you and help you through this difficult time as best we can. We are totally here for you xxxx

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DoAsDreamersDo · 13/02/2018 19:05

Limp please feel free to rant away on this thread, or post to our Facebook group. I find that writing down how I’m feeling really helps. Sometimes I write down my thoughts and then just delete it all because just getting it out of my head is enough.

DoAsDreamersDo · 13/02/2018 19:09

I thought I was just about to enter FW but then I’ve been getting EWCM since Sunday and today FF changed my cycle to show that I ov’d on Saturday and I’m currently 3dpo. This would fit with my shorter cycle last month but I feel a bit caught out. We only dtd twice over the weekend and then I was having yesterday off and back on it —literally— tonight. Now I feel that we’ve missed out this month. That’ll teach us not to wait for FW 🤦‍♀️ Although FF might be wrong so I’ll have to keep at it this week anyway just in case!!

WonkyDonk87 · 13/02/2018 20:39

Just checking in (because I'm a child who uses up her data looking at Instagram at work so now have to wait until I'm home for WiFi so I can use the Internet).
Limp I'm so sorry - this is so shit for you. Rant away and be as self indulgent as you need. We're all rooting for each other and get how crap it is x

MynameisJune · 13/02/2018 21:03

@limp so sorry to read your latest update. We are all here if you want to talk, rant, or just incoherently type whilst screaming at the screen. This TTC journey is just too shit for words xxx

RhiBee29 · 14/02/2018 06:43

Bfn @ 11dpo . Tomorrow is my due date if I hadn't mc. This fucking sucks!!!

Happy Valentine's Day, I plan to buy a bottle of cheap fizz for myself.

@Limp really hope you're ok x

WonkyDonk87 · 14/02/2018 07:09

Sorry Rhi - 🥂+🍫 for you to get your Valentines Day started x

DoAsDreamersDo · 14/02/2018 10:08

Happy Valentines Day Yammers xx

FF has changed again this morning to show that I haven't OV'd yet so I'm back in the game Wink

LimpLettice · 14/02/2018 10:11

Not a good day. Feel for you Rhi. Next month would have been my first EDD. Now the 3rd is over, I have a feeling it will be very tough.

In one of our satellite offices today full of blokes who actually are better than the girls in my main office purely because they take no notice of my obvious misery and are just leaving me to it.

Going to start a thread on the m/c board - not able to concentrate on work and honestly need to get some perspective.

QuietTime · 14/02/2018 10:49

Oh @limplettice I am so so sorry. I know that's not enough; the others have said it so well - rant, scream, cry, whatever, we'll be here and we'll listen. Talking with others who have gone through a mc sounds like a good step. I'm just so sorry it's so shit; take care of yourself xxxx

rhi I'm sorry about the bfn, hope you're doing OK - fizz sounds like a good plan

Hey Lucy, chook and pibbee - sorry you find yourself here, but hopefully some good support

Congrats Biscay lovely yammer news x

QuietTime · 14/02/2018 10:50

@milknosugar1 hope you're doing OK xx

LookingAtTheStars89 · 14/02/2018 10:52

@LimpLettice. Flowers I'm so sorry. Next month, the 18th, was supposed to be my EDD. I am quite honestly dreading it. I'm suppose to be my nieces godmother that day and I don't know if I'm going to manage to keep it together x

LimpLettice · 14/02/2018 11:01

18th EDD here too LookingAt. It was shit enough without knowing there will be a couple more in the next few months. We were all bit 'Happy Fucking Valentines' this morning - recognise it doesn't really matter but that just feels like another shitty slap when we were so happy. Gah.

LookingAtTheStars89 · 14/02/2018 12:08

@LimpLettice. Yeah, I know how that feels. We had been back from our perfect Disneyland Paris honeymoon for two weeks when we got our BFP, we'd just moved into a new house and I thought to myself "This is is so perfect".

It's been months now and I still feel crushed. Not getting pregnant again soon after hasn't help. I spent my Valentine's morning at the blood clinic having yet another ttc blood test - cortisol this time and then progesterone on Friday. You keep thinking to yourself, what an earth is coming next to shit on you a bit more!

Bubblegum89 · 14/02/2018 15:52

Sending all of you big hugs. Feeling pretty low today myself realising this is probably never going to happen. How can there be nothing wrong but still have 17 months of ttc with zero pregnancies under my belt? Hope you’re all getting treated to something nice for Valentines Day anyway, we don’t do to V Day so I’ll be treating myself to half price chocolate tomorrow

LimpLettice · 14/02/2018 16:32

Hugs back Bubblegum. I hope it just happens somehow, so much.

Do you think it would be awful to have a big glass of red with my dinner? DP bringing home one of those dining in deals with a bottle of red, I have missed my wine and there is literally no hope at all now. I just somehow feel like maybe it's wrong?