Anyone else waiting to TTC?

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I thought we could keep each other company while we wait!

Your age/DH age: 29/39
Baby #: This will be #2
When are you TTC: I think we should start in June when DS is 2 but we are so broody it might be sooner
Why are you waiting: We are doing some house renovations at the moment & sorting out some stuff financially. Everything seems a bit up in the air & I can only stress about a couple of things at a time. I'm looking forward to life settling down only to have a newborn mess it all up again
What are you doing to keep busy?: I'm project managing house renovations & enjoying one-on-one time with DS before he (hopefully) becomes a big brother. DH & I are having a huge joint birthday party in September for my 30th & his 40th so I'm enjoying planning that!

Hi to all who have just joined!

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever I'm taking Rigevidon at the moment

We use condoms all month. I bloody hate them!

Can’t believe it happened for you too @flapJackered! I wonder if there will be lots of ruby babies born in 9 months time.

Unfortunately @NoseringGirl the last time Scotland beat England at the 6 nations it was 10 years ago... so I might have to wait a while till that roles around again!

🐝xx

@BeeKeeping you might want to get him into another sport

*rolls

Good to see everyone is sticking to their waiting schedules

We had some bad news today which has set our financial plans back ALOT (all still on track but will take longer than we thought). I should have been gutted about that but really I was just so sad it means delaying TTC even further. I explained this to DH & he said this didn't have to delay anything - I'm so pleased!

Hi can I join in?
We're thinking of TTC- due to moving house last year our mortgage is bigger than we wanted when starting a family- it's manageable on one income but we can't decide whether to wait to refix and get it lower before ttc!
I came off the pill the day we sold the old house (a year ago now) but have only just got cycles starting again.
Hubby is really keen to start trying- he says we will manage but I'm not so sure!

Hi Pinkrose! 🌸

It sounds like you're in a good position. Most of us here and waiting for big reasons, weddings, degrees etc. But it sounds like you're in a better position than most of us (me anyway!) Sometimes you have to follow your heart not your head.

Thanks @Hofty.
My sister in law had her daughter last year just after she finished her degree- they had no home, no job and they have still managed- sometimes I think I worry too much but just want to do what's best thankyou :)

Anyone have nights they just cry over this? I'm so teary. 22 months is so far away.

@luelle For what it's worth I think you're doing the right thing getting your finances in order. You have time on your side. However, I understand how frustrating waiting is. I was desperate to TTC for DC1 but felt we should get married. That meant I had to wait 2 years while we saved for a wedding. Then we decided we'd rather have a house rather than a top floor flat without a lift. So we saved for a house. When we found the right one it took 6 months to complete. All in all we waited about 4 years from when we decided we wanted to TTC. Now we are waiting to TTC DC2 I am grateful for what we achieved in those 2 years & know we did the right thing. This time around I'm sure I'll crack & TTC earlier than planned but in your situation I'd do exactly the same as what you are doing.

@luelle

Is there any other way with the loan?

It's such a lot of money.

Do you have an expensive car you could sell to help reduce the loan?

Would the loan company due a payment holiday when you are on maternity leave to help and mean you can take more than 2 months off?

If you have a mortgage you can sometimes take a mortgage holiday when you've had a baby too?

I'm just trying to think of ways that makes it happen as if financial reasons is the only reason to be waking it's just one thing to try and sort.

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever - I came off the pill about 6 months ago and have been using Natural Cycles and condoms to prevent, and so far so good...except for my minor slip up on Saturday!
I think they say if you follow it correctly it is as effective as using the pill, but its just when the heart (or drunk brain) takes over where the problems arise!

@luelle - Although it is so hard, I think you're right to wait until the loan goes down a bit. You don't want the excitement of having a baby to be ruined by anxiety over finances. You've got time and 22 months will go so much quicker than you think too.

@FlapJackered @wintermonster @happytobemrsg Thanks all. There's not a chance I'll do it any sooner, I'm okay waiting. I know it's the right thing to do and that's why I decided to wait and I know it'll fly by. Just some nights it all seems so far away and so impossible and it makes me a bit emotional.. wine doesn't help either... patience is a virtue that I do not have

Another loan payment made today.. 21 months left! Ongoing countdown/joke with DP to announce it every month and he turned and said - well that means in 12 months time you'd only have 9 months left of the loan.. so let's just starting trying in 12 months? You can still make payments working through the pregnancy and if you stopped work we could find the cash for one or two final payments....

12 months is still so far but it feels like a LIFE TIME sooner! Couldn't be happier I actually burst into tears

Luelle 12 months is so much sooner and I'm sure it will fly by!

Yay @luelle! 12 months definitely seems a lot sooner than 21 months

Going to bring the tone down now (sorry!), I came off the pill in January and according to ovia should be due my first real period soon. Feeling really rough, including some slightly unnerving stabbing pains in my lady area!

Yay @luelle that's great news!

@dottydally get a hot water bottle on those lady parts. Hope you feel better soon!

@luelle that's fantastic news!

We'd probably be TTC about the same time!!

@luelle that's lovely news!
@dottydally hope you feel better soon

I had some blood test results back earlier in the week for a condition that if I had it would hugely affect conception and pregnancy, but according to these results I don't have it! 🎉So plans are on track to ttc from 1/09/18

Hi! Age 24/28 TTC #2 from September because: I am waiting 18 months since my EMCS to increase my chances of a natural birth next time. Do you think this will be long enough?

So excited to have found this thread!

Your age/DH age: 29/33
Baby #: 1
When are you TTC: actively trying March 2019 at the earliest.
Why are you waiting: I have to graduate (longest degree ever), then we have to move to the other side of the world and get stable jobs/accommodation first.
What are you doing to keep busy?: Said degree, sorting emigration, brooding!

I'm excited about this thread! I've been on the pill for 8 or 9 years nonstop (literally skip placebos every month on doctor's recommendation) and I'm so scared about what could happen when I go off them. I have great health care at the moment and I'm wondering if I should go off a few months before leaving in case I still have very painful periods and want to get checked out by a gynae here rather than in the new country where I won't understand the system.

So excited I said so twice apparently

I'm excited too! I forgot to say what I'm doing to keep busy: going back to work FT next month and getting in the best shape I can!

Also going for laser hair removal so my DH doesn't have to shave my legs next time I'm pregnant!!!

@salukish I would definitely try coming off the pill beforehand. Some people come off it with no bother but even then it can be useful to get to know your cycles first.

@Hofty great news!

@natureshaped that's a great idea about the laser hair removal! My DH was too scared to shaved my legs so I I had to do some strange contorting to get them done! Did get him to paint my toe nails though.

My AF is late. It was only meant to start today so not proper late but I still tested even though we didn't DTD in my fertile window. I'm already in TTC mode!
Obviously it was BFN!