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Anyone else waiting to TTC?

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happytobemrsg · 09/02/2018 12:53

I thought we could keep each other company while we wait!

Your age/DH age: 29/39
Baby #: This will be #2
When are you TTC: I think we should start in June when DS is 2 but we are so broody it might be sooner
Why are you waiting: We are doing some house renovations at the moment & sorting out some stuff financially. Everything seems a bit up in the air & I can only stress about a couple of things at a time. I'm looking forward to life settling down only to have a newborn mess it all up again Grin
What are you doing to keep busy?: I'm project managing house renovations & enjoying one-on-one time with DS before he (hopefully) becomes a big brother. DH & I are having a huge joint birthday party in September for my 30th & his 40th so I'm enjoying planning that!

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FlapJackered · 26/04/2018 13:39

I think men in general can be quite funny about ttc. My DH is the same and we don't have any kids yet, but when pressed he says he doesn't feel old enough to be responsible for a child! He is 34! He also says that he wants to start ttc despite this worry though. phew! To be honest I don't feel completely ready either.

NoseringGirl · 26/04/2018 13:56

I don't think anyone ever feels completely ready, it's huuuuge life change! Best thing I ever did though. My eldest is 4 and I still wonder if I'm ready 🤣

FlapJackered · 26/04/2018 16:10

😂

Pinkroseuk · 26/04/2018 17:01

@BusyBee27 I have had pcos and came off the pill about 15 months ago no- had no periods till 2 months ago after getting provera(I think?!) but pretty sure I'm not ovalating. Definitely wish I had come off the pills earlier!

Pinkroseuk · 26/04/2018 17:05

My DH is two years older than me and he has been desperate for a child for about 2 Years now! I made sure we moved house before I came off the pill though- but each day he asks me if he thinks I'm pregnant yet! He needs to be a little more patient really!
He has a twin brother and younger sister so definitely wants a larger family with small age gaps :)

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happytobemrsg · 27/04/2018 16:59

Welcome @rollerskaterdata! A new profession, a new house & a second DC! You & your DH will be kept very busy!

Oh that's so exciting @BusyBee27!!! Definitely keep posting here, we would love to see how you're getting on. We can TTC vicariously through you!

Glad you're trying too @Pinkroseuk. Sorry you have to wait so long for your Dr app.

Welcome @MaGratgarlik1983, I hope you & your DH are on the same page soon.

As for me; House renovations are really getting me down. The house is a building site & our kitchen has only just become habitable again. Starting to think I might be crazy to TTC in the middle of it all

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Pinkroseuk · 28/04/2018 22:26

Thanks @happytobemrsg.
We have started some work in our garden today so trying to take my mind off things.
We were planning on going to a baby show at the NEC in a few weeks but not really sure it's worth it now :/ has anyone been to anything like this? They only here once a year so it could be relevant or not sure whether to wait till next year!

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happytobemrsg · 28/04/2018 22:29

@Pinkroseuk I was supposed to go with my bff who was also pregnant but I had a trapped nerve in my back & literally couldn't move the morning we were supposed to go! My friend still went & settled on her buggy after trying it out there

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Pinkroseuk · 28/04/2018 22:32

@happytobemrsg oh no that was bad timing! Hope it's okay now-
Yes I'm thinking to be able to physically see a lot of stuff all in one place would be good but as we're still ttc would it be too early?! Each day we try and decide and keep talking ourselves in and out of it lol!

rollerskaterdata · 28/04/2018 23:00

@happytobemrsg, thanks for the welcome! Just like you I'm also wondering if I'm mad to TTC while trying to buy our first house. The aim is to move at least a month before my due date (if everything goes to plan which it probably won't ha ha!). I spoke to a friend of mine yesterday who was quite condescending although I don't think she intended to be. She said she would never dream of having a baby while moving as it's too stressful and a risk to the baby which made me feel like I'd be a bad mum for considering it. If we were having our first I would wait without question until we had moved but DS1 is already 3 and a half, we didn't want a big age gap and waiting until September next year rather than this year would put the age gap at 5 1/2 rather than the 4 1/2 it's already going to be. We can't really move any earlier either for various other reasons. Now I'm worried other people will judge me too Sad

AssumeItWasSomethingClever · 29/04/2018 09:50

@rollerskater I think becoming a parent opens you up to all kind of judgement. You breastfeed-Judged. You bottlefeed- Judged. I could go on and on! What’s right for you isn’t going to be what’s right for someone else. If you wait until everyone thinks you’re doing the right thing, you’ll never do it. Do what’s right for you as you’re the ones that are going to have to live with the baby. Grin That being said, an age gap isn’t a massive problem IMO. I was 5 and a half when my sister was born and I think you’ve got to try a bit harder to make sure the older sibling doesn’t have their nose put out of joint but me and my sister got on famously and my mum was happy for all the nappy changing assistance.

MaGratgarlik1983 · 29/04/2018 09:57

Well ladies, after almost 30 months of discussion, DH agreed this morning to see what happens... Grin

NoseringGirl · 29/04/2018 14:37

Great news @MaGratgarlik1983 good luck!

TheOneWithTheBaby · 29/04/2018 17:22

MaGrat, great news!

I wondered whether you all have started taking your vitamins? I tead somewhere on here you should take more folic Acid if you're overweight, but my GP didn't know and suggested just taking the normal dose. I'm also wondering whether DH should start taking some vitamins.

rollerskaterdata · 29/04/2018 18:02

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever very good point thank you, it's easy to lose sight of that when you're really excited about something and someone rains on your parade! I like to think I normally don't care what people think but know in reality it gets to everyone sometimes.

@MaGratgarlik1983, that's great news, GL! Let us know how you get on, it's really exciting when someone gets their BFP!

September feels so far away Sad, good thing I've got a glass of Wine to cheer me up until I have to give it up!

rollerskaterdata · 29/04/2018 18:04

@TheOneWithTheBaby I'll start taking vitamins in June when I get my coil out. DH will also be taking some, we'll probably use the him/her conception pregnacare vits. I think getting my coil out and taking vits will make it seem more real and calm me down a little LOL, right now TTC seems like an abstract concept

FlapJackered · 29/04/2018 19:44

@rollerskaterdata my brother and his wife got the keys to their new house 2 days before she went into labour, they kept renting the previous house for another month and gentle moved bits over. Yes it wasn't ideal but definitely not the worst thing either. Definitely manageable!

@MaGratgarlik1983 that's great! Good luck!

@TheOneWithTheBaby I took Folic Acid and vitamins for about a year (since I have been off the pill) just in case we had an accidental pregnancy. I don't think there is any harm in getting going with them.

AssumeItWasSomethingClever · 30/04/2018 09:09

My Natural Cycles App is finally showing October.. If all goes to plan, I should be AF free for the wedding and Ovulating during our Honeymoon! Really hoping it happens! I'm like a kid on Christmas Eve. Although, I've got 6 months to wait....

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happytobemrsg · 30/04/2018 18:29

@rollerskaterdata moving house won't put your baby at risk! What a stupid thing to say to you. I personally waited until the month we exchanged to start ttc. We were in a tiny flat which really wasn't practical for a baby. You should ttc when you feel it's the right time. Oh & I agree with @AssumeItWasSomethingClever being a parent means a huge amount of judgment (including from yourself!). Just do what YOU think is best. My decorator was painting DS's nursery the day I went into labour!

I was taking FA religiously but then we started renovating the kitchen & my routine went to crap & ive forgotten to take it. I need routine or I forget everything

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Mum2fourrugrats · 30/04/2018 18:45

We're waiting about another 3 years. I will be 40. DH will be 43. It will be my 5th and his second.
Waiting because life is hectic right now. Paying off 2 3 year loans. Having a loft extention soon too. And the whole house needs decorating. It would be very stressful if we had another right now.
I hope were successful with age not being on our side fertility wise. My 4 were all conceived the month I came off the pill.
I've got a list already of diet, supliments eye for us both to start 6 months before we start trying. Really excited already

TheOneWithTheBaby · 30/04/2018 19:54

Thanks everyone. I've started taking folic Acid today and will just do so. I am worried that some people seem to take more due to weight and I'm not, but some must be better than none. Feeling really impatient at the moment which isn't good for my mood. We're thinking of planning a summer holiday, so maybe that can be my project.

Welcome Mum2

rollerskaterdata · 30/04/2018 21:37

Thank you @FlapJackered and @happytobemrsg, your words have helped to put things into perspective and reminded me I need to do what's best for our family. I went through far worse stress during my pregnancy with DS1 (DH made redundant, no money and no prospect of it at the time), our circumstances are much much better this time round so I'm sure I'll be fine! DH has offered to do most of the leg work during the house buying process to try and reduce the stress and told me I'm not allowed to lift a finger so I'll be well taken care of!

Welcome @Mum2! That sounds really exciting, I'd love a big family (currently thinking 3) but also terrified of it at the same time, some days I can barely cope with the one!

@TheOneWithTheBaby, I've never heard anything about taking extra FA if someone is overweight, can you ask a GP? I'm also planning a summer holiday which I would like to say is taking my mind of TTC but it's not, I still find myself staring at pregnancy tests/baby clothes/women with baby bumps items on my shopping list when I'm in the supermarket Hmm

NoseringGirl · 30/04/2018 22:15

@TheOneWithTheBaby I had to take a higher dose in my second pregnancy due to a history of gestational diabetes. The midwife said that they advise it for BMI over 30 as well. It's 5mg (rather than the usual 400mcg) but I just took a regular TTC multivitamin when trying and switched to the prescription 5mg when pregnant. I'm doing that again.

FlapJackered · 01/05/2018 08:59

@rollerskaterdata where are you off to on holiday?
We are going to Croatia in August and slightly worried about having morning sickness on holiday (although not enough to delay ttc any more!).

I just looked at my Natural Cycles prediction for this cycle and it says I am not likely to ovulate until June! Stupid long cycles!

I am on 400mcg of FA.

rabbitrabbit12 · 01/05/2018 11:07

I'm waiting for my partner to have a vasectomy reversal which is like waiting forever then we still don't know if it will work after that. He has 2 grown up boys and my youngest is 12. I'll be 40 next year. I'd just like it to be a 'happy accident' iykwim.. sometimes I think I'm mad doing it l again but I'm in a better place now.

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