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TTC #2 February BFPs

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LopeyLopez · 28/01/2018 16:05

For all those hoping for a lovely Valentine's BFP, and a sibling for their LO!

Welcome back all those who've been on this thread before, and welcome Newbies. I've been on here a while (sigh) but here are my stats...

Age 37
DS is 2
TTC #2 properly since March 2017; ntnp since Sept 2015!
Cycle 12
BFP due 6th Feb

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Cariad2017 · 05/02/2018 22:38

P.s. Amazing work on the lack of spotting Lopey it definitely sounds as though your new diet is paying off. Fx that now you’ve sorted your LP, a BFP will be just around the corner...

That’s rubbish news on the length of the waiting list for a fertility referral. What was your progesterone result like (only asking due to the spotting)? Would you consider going private just for some further investigations in the hope they spot something simple that’s easy to fix?

CatRen27 · 05/02/2018 22:54

Hey @lopey fingers crossed there's still hope this month, great news on the spotting, amazing what a healthier diet can do. I second @cariad - could you go privately just for a scan or initial consultation to see what might be in store?

Sorry you're feeling down @cariad, i get the same feeling in my tww- did i do enough, is it ever going to happen etc. For me its probably the loss of control that is hardest. Hope you can distract yourself in the next week or so

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LopeyLopez · 06/02/2018 06:59

Thanks cat and cariad. Well, af arrived right on time yesterday.

I hadn't thought about going private because part of me - stupidly, I'm starting to think - just keeps thinking it will still happen naturally, as there's nothing obvious wrong.... but now I am considering it. How do you go private anyway? Anyone any experiences? Do you just go online and find somewhere near by with a reasonable reputation? I imagine there are lots of places eager to accept me as the infertility industry is, unfortunately for us, such a lucrative business....

I think it would put my mind at rest if I had the scan (the one that was rejected on the NHS). Dh has been referred for his sperm analysis but again, long waiting time. Haven't found out when the appointment is yet. The first fertility clinic app with the NHS is meant to be within 8 weeks; it's just the follow up and actual treatment that should begin in 10-12 months. Would mean I could be in my 40s when I deliver my next baby (if ever).

Gah, why can't I just get pregnant???!!!! So frustrating. I am doing everything right. Yes cariad the unfairness of it all is getting to me too... stay strong ❤️

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LopeyLopez · 06/02/2018 07:03

Cariad, just seen your question....progesterone was not great but I don't know the actual number to compare, and the doctor didn't give me a print out of the results (I asked but it was a faff to do with reception or something or other and I never managed it. And when I saw the doctor again more recently together with dh, the computers at the surgery were down, so...,!) Doctor was quite dismissive of it though...said these things vary so much month to month and that another time it could be higher. I would still like to know what it was though. No doubt the clinic will do another test anyway. I think it is just me getting older....😞

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RhiBee29 · 06/02/2018 18:29

For those of you that have been to gp did you have good experiences? I'm worried I'll go and the gp will be dismissive as I already have DS and had a mc last year. Also as AF is due 17th should I book an appointment around then so if gp agrees to do bloods I'm in at the right time? I don't know why I'm so apprehensive about going maybe it's like admitting there's a problem.

Cariad2017 · 07/02/2018 07:30

Lopey - I’m in London so I’ve ended up plucking for one of the few clinic I’ve heard of that have a fairly good reputation without subjecting you to daily tests during the process and guaranteeing bankruptcy at the end of it.

In terms of choosing clinics, I’ve heard that the Fertility Friends website might help and that the HFEA publishes data on each clinic’s success rates...

I also have quite a few books on IVF (although admittedly I’m currently going through a phase of denial so haven’t read them all), some of which may well have clinic recommendations as appendices so if you PM me letting me know where you live I can look these up tonight if you like...

I can totally identify on the burying head in the sand and praying for a miracle front - it’s so very very difficult. Xxx

Cariad2017 · 07/02/2018 07:38

Rhi - Your GP’s attitude is difficult to predict but from personal experience, they were dismissive when I went to see them 5 months after an ectopic pregnancy on the basis that any conception at all is a positive and they’ve been dismissive again this time round (despite DH’s fairly gloomy SA results, he was told that having fathered a child already, it was pretty likely to happen again).,,

They should as a minimum book you in for the 3-5 day FSH blood test (which they ought to use as an opportunity to check other things that can impact fertility such as thyroid function) and the 21 day progesterone test. Your OH will probably need to make a separate appointment if he wants his SA done.

What happens beyond the initial blood tests/ SA is largely a postcode lottery. We weren’t even eligible for a follow-up appointment to discuss DH’s gloomy SA results as we have a child already.

Good luck my lovely. Here’s hoping you get that sticky BFP very very soon. Xxx

CatRen27 · 07/02/2018 08:33

Hi rhi i didn't have a great experience, beyond the blood and sperm tests they didn't have funding for any further tests (like ultrasound) because i have a child already, and i was told I'm on my own. The tests were all normal and it was only through a scan and diagnostic surgery that they found all my problems, including a polyp, adhesions and endo. I wish i could have gone back 12 months and just paid privately.

Hopefully you'll have a better time

RhiBee29 · 07/02/2018 10:11

Thanks everyone, I need to pluck up the courage to make the appointment. I feel different after the mc, periods are heavier and painful and I get sore boobs from ovulation to af which never happened previously so I think something is up Hmm

CatRen27 · 08/02/2018 11:42

Good luck rhi, tell us how it goes.

Im feeling unusually calm at 8dpo but I'm sure its bc i have no access to any tests and I'm on a family holiday so distracted. Obviously been symptom spotting, noticing yellow cm (sorry tmi) for the first time and sensitive boobs. If we conceived this cycle my due date would be near my birthday so for some reason I'm seeing that as a ridiculous sign... ohhh I'm in for a rough time if/when af rolls around on the 15th!

How's everyone doing? Anyone poas soon?

MynameisJune · 08/02/2018 12:53

@rhi good luck at the GP. I was dismissed the first time and then I went back to see a female GP and she was fab. Fingers crossed for you.

@cat I’ve been much more relaxed this month due to being away and not doing opk’s. It actually feels quite liberating.

I’m 10dpo today, no symptoms to speak of so I’m sure they are all made up in my head on other months. Not going to poas just going to let af arrive and then test if she doesn’t.

Bambamber · 08/02/2018 15:43

Think I may have actually ovulated this month as had some light spotting the day after a positive opk so hoping it's some ovulation spotting! My wedding anniversary is coming up and I'll be 11dpo. Tempted to test with a FRER at 10dpo as that would be the best gift ever. But then again If it's negative I don't want to be gutted for our anniversary. No point thinking about it too much now though as I know the chances are I'll cave and test at 10dpo then kick myself when it's negative Blush

CatRen27 · 08/02/2018 22:53

bambamber great news on ovulating, and fingers crossed for you when you do cave.. I'm the same - no point denying it will happen..!

So i was feeling okay about things until this morning when we had not one but two baby bombs in a row.. one of them is having number 3 - they've had number 2 and gotten bfp all in the time weve been trying for number two. The other one is their first so doesn't feel so bad..

And a close friend just had her number 2, who told me she was pregnant after I'd been talking about all our troubles and she's avoided me the whole pregnancy. I have been contacting her but i must be making her feel guilty or i don't know what.. this is all so shit..

RhiBee29 · 09/02/2018 06:44

Ugh @CatRen27 baby bombs suck! It's so bloody unfair, I feel horrible for being jealous when I should be happy for the preggo person.

Bambamber · 09/02/2018 10:57

Thankyou @CatRen27 I'm sorry your e having such a shit time of things at the moment Flowers

sarahhh1984 · 09/02/2018 17:59

Sorry to hear so many of you are having a rubbish time. Flowers

AF has finally finished here so it’s time to get on with BDing as much as possible. We conceived DD really quickly, on our second cycle, but I’m trying not to get my hopes up that it’ll happen that way this time.

I had a traumatic delivery with DD and I have something of an irrational fear that it will somehow cause problems conceiving #2. I’m trying to keep those thoughts at bay but it’s very hard.

CatRen27 · 10/02/2018 03:04

Thanks guys it was a rough few days, sorry for being such a downer!

@sarahhh good luck this fw, are you following any plan in particular or just dtd loads?

I'm planning to pop to the chemist today in prep for tomorrow mornings poas. I'll be 11dpo - the longest I've waited in months to do it. Progress i say!

SecondGo · 10/02/2018 08:32

Sorry to hear about the baby bombs, I really struggle with it too.
I feel like I'm on a conveyor belt. I have short cycles so I've only just got over my period and now it's time to go again. I know I'm lucky to get lots of chances but it feels relentless!

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LopeyLopez · 10/02/2018 09:05

Hi folks,

Solidarity with the baby bombs and relentless slog of ttc.... I am surrounded by people either pregnant or with a new baby. Many of my NCT friends are now on their second....

I am now seriously considering going private.....I have some money saved up that I could use. After the usual week during and after af of feeling depressed and desolate, I'm ready to take positive action again to do something about this situation. I want to get moving before it's too late....I will only regret it if I don't. Someone on here said they wish they'd done all this (testing, starting consultation with gp, etc....) 12 months earlier....so I think it's pretty clear with my age that I need to start now!! I know I have started the NHS processes but I feel it is going to be too slow/too late for me. So private it is. Cariad I will on you (if I can work out how to on my phone....!)

I already take all the recommended pills and potions but was wondering about progesterone supplements as my progesterone was found to be low. Could suggest that some months I have conceived but I just never have enough lining or hormone to implant or sustain a pregnancy. Does anyone take or use progesterone? I guess they may prescribe it privately (or even on the NHS, when I eventually get my consultation, in 10 months!!) but I don't know if I can wait....

Good luck all. I think we all need a bfp to cheer us up!!! X

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sarahhh1984 · 10/02/2018 09:26

@CatRen27, thanks! Plan is just to DTD loads at the moment as that worked last time. But if it doesn’t work after a few months then I might start following a plan. Keeping everything crossed. Except my legs, obviously! Wink

Good luck with poas!

SecondGo · 10/02/2018 09:46

Oh no! I've got period style crampy feeling. Stupid question time. Does that mean I'm ovulating already?! I hope not otherwise will never be Pg again as I am grumpy and tired straight after af!

SecondGo · 10/02/2018 09:50

And lots of ewcm. Aargh. This explains why not working so far!

Cariad2017 · 10/02/2018 14:08

Sorry to hear about the baby bombs CatRen. It’s so very difficult. My only female cousin announced her first pregnancy earlier this week (she’s due in August), and I’m naturally delighted for her, but it’s tinged with sadness as I’d always assumed I’d be done done on the newborn days before she got there (she’s 4 years younger and only got married last Summer), and that she would be a natural heiress to all my hand me downs! 😂 Ah well, it wasn’t to be...

8dpo at this end and despite feeling completely exhausted 😴 I have literally no symptoms (I had this particular symptom this time last year and it didn’t lead to anything...) Feeling pretty meh about the whole thing - planning to test on Valentine’s Day (12dpo) but I’m pretty sure that as with the past 16 cycles I know what the outcome will be...

Cariad2017 · 10/02/2018 14:11

Lopey - I can totally identify on the NCT group front... I went through a 2 week period in May last year where practically everyone I met/ corresponded with announced a pregnancy. It was incredibly tough... Thankfully practically everyone I know has now had No2 so my chances of baby bombs are much lower! 😂

Do feel free to PM me. Xxx

Cariad2017 · 10/02/2018 14:15

P.s. Amazing work sitting on your hands on the POAS front CatRen. I shall be keeping everything crossed that this is your month.

Waves at Mynameis. I hope you’re having a lovely weekend. Fx AF stays away. Xxx