TTC after recurrent miscarriage thread 2 - we're not giving up

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Oh @Miami81 I'm sorry you're so on edge. It makes me so sad that none of us can just enjoy this stage! My symptoms didn't start this time until 6weeks and I was nervous everyday that the nausea wouldnt start. Now I'm nervous it will stop.

@AnneLovesGilbert glad the nausea has started, it's a good sign. I've found drinking milk helps mine but I know everyone is different.

I'm feeling better today (or I think I am, it's hard to tell with the nausea!). Thankfully the sickness bug is over quickly, in laws came to help out with DS. Hubby gets back tonight and I don't plan on lifting a finger all weekend!

@AnneLovesGilbert Plain rice sounds perfect. Although the way nausea comes and goes you could be keen on something else by then!

@Miami if it helps with my pregnancy with DD I had precisely 2 days of nausea at 8 weeks and 1 day at 11 weeks. With my MMC I had horrendous nausea from 4 weeks, which didn’t fade until 2 weeks after I started bleeding. This time I’ve had intermittent nausea coming and going until 11weeks. With my first pregnancy and my 3 miscarriages I had loose bowels all the time; this time I’ve had terrible constipation. I’ve decided that every pregnancy is totally different!

@Labmum glad you are feeling better, how long until your next scan now?

@Paranormalbouquet scan will be next week sometime I think. I see the RMC on Monday and they'll book me in for I suspect the Friday.

I'm the opposite, all my pregnancies have been nausea and constipation, all exactly the same. With DS nausea lasted until 16 weeks. All the others it started to fade around 9-10 weeks.

It was fleeting in the end! Went from wanting to actually die to feeling fine by early evening and ate buckets of rice, veg and tofu. Slept well, woken up feeling full of beans - might be rocking a bit of a steroid high to be honest.

This time round I've got super smell with the odd bit of nausea, mega bloat 24/7, slightly tender but normal sized boobs, gone right off bananas and a bit more tired than usual but with bursts of energy in between.

Didn't have any nausea last time but did have massive sore boobs and was exhausted. Each one has been different same as @Paranormalbouquet. Absolutely no chance of constipation here either, not while I'm sticking a lump of vegetable oil up my butt twice a day

I feel like I'm on uppers and downers with the pred and cyclo and I'm lucky to maintain some balance in between. 5 weeks today. 4 weeks to find out if there's been any point to the drugs. Scan next Wednesday just under 6 weeks.

Glad you're seeing RMC next week @Labmum Do you get to see the same person each time? Glad you're feeling better today and have had some help. Warn him he's in charge for the next few days, you're having a rest!

@Miami81, sending love, hugs, reassurance, and some nausea if it'll help. Is DH being supportive? And when are you likely to be able to get an early scan?

Have you carried on doing your hypnotherapy exercises? I loved your one about pushing a pram and momming. When I let myself dream I see myself propped up in bed in the early morning, light filtering through the curtains, cuddling a sleeping baby, feeling its weight and softness in my arms, and bending to smell the top of its head, with DH lying sleeping beside me.

Maybe one day

At the moment I'm not connecting this pregnancy with an possible outcomes, we'll just ride it out day by day and see what happens.

Big love to everyone.

(I really do feel high as a kite today )

Anne sounds like the steroids have kicked in alright! Prednisolone can help with nausea for some women (although can also go the other way if you get a lot of acid reflux with them) so might be why it’s fleeting. And assuming you take them in the morning you’ll have peak effect afternoon/early evening.

Got the go ahead to do some gentle exercise so going to go to yoga. More to help manage my significant anxiety than to exercise!

I have left work and come home to lie on the sofa. I'm so tired - didn't sleep well at all last night. Think that's probably all that is wrong with me.
DH has come home to work from home and make sure I am ok.

Are you alright? Glad you've got DH with you. A bad night's sleep can fuck up your whole day, hope you're resting and feel better soon

Fab news para, enjoy your yoga! Take it easy

I'm ok. Slept for 2 hrs. In the middle of the day. Ace.
I think the reality of embarking on another pregnancy is setting in, feeling a bit overwhelmed.

The first trimester exhaustion is a total bitch. And that’s just the physical stuff, your brain must be in meltdown love so sleep when you can, hope you have a better night tonight and just take it one day at a time. Do you feel a bit excited as well as overwhelmed?

Funny one here tonight. DH was putting the kids to bed and DSD asked if I was pregnant. He said he didn’t think so as he was completely caught off guard. Apparently she had a very strong dream I was last night and it seemed real.

It’s either the mega bloat giving me away as they got here this evening and she was trying to be diplomatic or the child is touched...

Be nice if we ever got far enough to tell them one day!

Hey I'm also on the trying to conceive post 40 thread although I'm not quite there until February. I had a MMC at 10 weeks (bubba only measured 6 weeks 4 days) devastated as we had only seen the heart beat at what we thought 7 weeks 2 days. Had a chemical pregnancy (hate that term) very early at 4 weeks 2 days the next month with no period in between. Feeling very lost right now. Doc was extremely good and have been referred to Gynae straight away. Hormonal bloods and thyroid done which have come back normal. Body playing all sorts of tricks as I only miscarried the 'chemical pregnancy' on the 25th and again my boobs are sore, very tired and I could eat a horse! We only DTD ON 1st July so unless my cycle is very out there is no way I am pregnant again but my body seems to like playing with my head and emotions! Has anyone any experience of phantom pregnancy symptoms post MC? My head is truly pickled! I have no children and we started trying in November.

Hello and welcome to our friendly group. Yes, I had the same post mc and it turned out to be another pregnancy though this time ectopic. Have you tested? I'm sorry you're going through this too. It's such an emotional rollercoaster.

Is it wrong that I am very excited to see a 2-3 weeks on the clear blue digi this morning? 4 + 2 (ish) I really need to work that out. I promise not to test again until next week. Strange to think that in normal circumstances I might only be testing today.
My gp never rang me back about getting my bloods done, I really want hcg's done. Hoping Tuesday and Thursday for bloods.

Hey @Hopefulforourrainbow. No I haven't tested yet. I've a week to go before af is due so it would be too soon anyways. I truthfully think it's my body playing cruel tricks and just wishful thinking. @Miami81 that's great news. There's nothing in the world better than that feeling when you see a bfp!

Welcome to the thread leezo and I’m sorry for what you’re going through Good to hear you’re being supported by your doctor.

That’s awesome news miami! Can’t remember when I got mine but it also felt early and it’s a great feeling. I haven’t stopped poas and it does help. Definitely chase bloods. You can google the CB digi thresholds for an idea of where you’re at numbers wise.

I can’t let go of why my boobs don’t hurt While my symptoms have altered a lot across pregnancies I’ve had reliably agonisingly painful norks and they’re pretty much normal. Why?! Given the heat it’s a blessing but disconcerting all the same.

How’s things hopeful?

Hey doing ok here thanks. Have decided on a break for a couple of months and we're planning a holiday. I have more bloods on 23rd July and I think i need to know if I definitely have this clotting thing or not. I really hope I do and it'll be an easy solution. It's the right time to be trying just now so it's strange using contraception! I've also started a diet. Think it would do me good to try to lose a stone or 2! Still lots of baby bombs. So many of my friends are having babies and those who had fertility problems or miscarried too are now also having successful pregnancies. Not that I grudge them but I can't help but think why can't that be me.
Maybe not having sore boobs for you is a good sign. Every pregnancy is different. I'll keep everything crossed for you and Miami 🤞

@Miami81 that's good news on the digi. I'm a cheapskate and never bothered with them. Sounds strange but it's not the early stages that worry me, cos all my miscarriages are at the 8/9week stage it's now when the panic sets in. I just took a couple of internet cheapies a couple of days apart to check it was getting stronger then haven't bothered since.

@hopefulforourrainbow holiday sounds perfect, time away to relax and enjoy yourselves. I'm sorry about the baby bombs, there's been a few here too and it's so tough. Especially knowing if things go wrong with this little bean then there'll be future reminders running round all over the place of what should have been.

Have had a horrendous couple of days for sickness, trying to force myself to eat small amounts more regularly today to fend it off. The post-bug loss of appetite is playing havoc with my nausea (or I think it is, I keep panicking that my nausea has disappeared and I just haven't realised cos of the sickness bug!).

Really nervous about this week's scan. I just want to fast forward to Friday and have it over with.

Hope you're all enjoying a nice sunny weekend ladies.

Welcome @Leezo, sorry you find yourself here. Afraid I've no experience, when do you plan on testing this cycle?

O wow, the thread has moved on really quickly! I’ve not had any notifications - must try to join ‘officially’. I was wondering how everyone was getting on over the weekend as I thought it had gone quiet!

I’m really glad that everyone’s pregnancies are going well so far - is anyone planning to book in an early scan soon, or be seen by the EPAU? Exciting thy milestones are being hit! All the nausea will be worth it, although it is rubbish!

Yes, it’s strange joining the group ttcing but relieved to see a negative result this month. It took over a month with mmc 1, with the second and third one I’ve got negatives in 2 weeks. My cycle seems to come back pretty quick after, so expecting AF in a week or two. Hopefully I’ll be able to join you all with a positive soon.

I’m back from a family weekend, my sister has 3 DC and it’s a bit of a crazy house (I am exhausted) but lovely, my DD loved every second of being with her cousins. It breaks my heart she doesn’t have a sibling at home (or on it’s s way soon), she’d absolutely love it.

My own cousin baby bombed me last week with her announcement of her DC2, she’s due the same week as I would have been with mc 3 - my 12 week scan would have been last week. Do you ever stop counting the weeks you would have been? I roughly know all of the ‘significant’ dates of all 3 my mc now.

I admit I started snivelling a bit about my cousins news, but DH had no patience for it. I know I should be happy for her - it’s wonderful news for them. I know I shouldn't be comparing their experience to mine, but is so flipping hard not to feel sorry for myself!

DH and I haven’t been in a good place since the mva, I think the stress is getting to us.

My uterus still feels a bit tender and ‘bruised’ esp if my bladder gets to full. It’s a strange sensation, which make me think it’s the right decision to wait a bit longer before ttcing. Has anyone else had this feeling after medical management for pregnancy or miscarriage?

Strangely enough last week I had a gut feeling I might_ be ovulating. My sense of smell has been super strong, boobs super sensitive and I swore that I had an ache on the right side of my uterus. It’s been like very early preg symptoms! I’ve NEVER noticed ovulation symptoms (always used opks) - Lol! I’m obsessed!

I did have that feeling of ‘argh - an egg going to waste’!

I’ve booked my initial fertility acupuncture Anne for 26th July (the first available appointment) the lady has ‘an interest’ in fertility and is a GP 3 days a week, I can only try 🤷‍♀️. I’ve definitely think theirs something in treatment that are ‘a bit woo’. I go to yoga, and take natural remedies where possible, however never tried anything specific to help my (in)fertility yet. I’m going to give it a go!

No opks, no ttcing for a month, I’ll try and focus on our relationship (making of better), my body (healing it) and relaxation! Good tips Anne on passing time, hopefully we. An enjoy some shagging too, ha ha ha!

Hope all is well!

there is definitely something in treatments....

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I know that feeling very well! I'm wasting an egg just now! I think we sometimes need to give our bodies a rest though

Hi Ladies,
I've been lurking for awhile and thought I'd join if you don't mind.
I'm 32 and DH and I are ttc #2. I had an mmc June 10 that passed naturally, though I went to the emergency room bc I had full labor pains. They gave me misoprostol afterwards, but it didn't do much as everything had passed already.
I was 14 weeks along, but the baby had passed at 8+3.
We have a DS that just turned 2. We had a miscarriage at 6 weeks prior to my pregnancy with him.
Having him has blunted this last one for us a bit, and maybe the hope of knowing we went on to have him after the last one.
The baby bombs still hurt though.
Thank you all for your stories. You've been keeping me optimistic when I get sad.

@Labmum I have tested positive the last 2 times at 3 weeks + 2 so I might just leave it to Thursday to be sure. Kinda afraid as the last time we found out early I had the chemical pregnancy and if I hadn't tested so early I probably never would have realised. I am 99% sure I'm not pregnant as the dates are all wrong but there's just that wee lingering hope I suppose!
Welcome @TaylsN I am also pretty new in the group. I am sorry for your losses and wish you all the luck as you progress your journey

I had my first hcg bloods taken at my doctors earlier. I'm hoping to hear from them tomorrow. Second lot of bloods due to be taken on Thursday.
6wk appt booked at pregnancy support centre for next Friday. Then hopefully meeting consultant straight after that to discuss plans going forward and get heparin etc.
Welcome @TaylsN and sorry to see you here. Mc and particularly recurrent miscarriage is just awful. It makes you feel so alone, but you are not, we are here with you.

Welcome @TaylsN, sorry you find yourself here, it's crappy but at least you know you're not alone. We're here with you.

@Miami81 fingers crossed all goes well with the bloods. Really hoping it can put your mind at ease a bit.

I saw the RMC yesterday, they did nothing, just checked I had enough cyclogest to get me to 12 weeks. Then booked me another scan for Friday. Baby was 8+4 at the scan 11days ago, furthest any of our miscarriages got was 9+1 so am extremely nervous about what we'll see.

Good news @Miami81, keep us posted. Are you feeling better in yourself?

I felt like absolute crap yesterday, my office sweltering, I had back ache all day, then period type pain on top in the evening, not bad at all but properly freaked me out and I was just wiped out, massive hot flushes, really fainty, horrible. Barely slept and feeling fine again today, it's just coming and going.

Will you get a scan next week?

How are you finding the cyclogest @Labmum? Hope Friday comes quickly

Got RMC appointment and scan tomorrow. Dreading it.

Welcome @TaylsN

Enjoy your acupuncture @CurlyTwirlyTwos Sorry about your cousin's baby bomb. I'm usually happy and relaxed about other people's pregnancies and babies, but there was one woman at work who basically stole my due date for one of mine and the rage and injustice I felt was extreme! Not her fault of course, and it was the only time it really got to me. Suck though, sorry. And it sounds like you've been having a tough time at home too. Are you usually able to talk about things together and are struggling with this in particular?

It's a special kind of utter fucking awfulness going through multiple losses, a lot of relationships take a battering as you're both grieving in different ways, throw fear into the mix and it's all too much. Wait as long as you need to resume marital relations! Better to wait till you're completely ready and up for it than to push it and be sore or tense.