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TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 16. New Year, new hope for all!

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NoCatsHere · 18/01/2018 14:31

Hello to anyone TTC after suffering pregnancy loss at any stage. Supportive group for all hoping for their rainbow babies.

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UnicornsandRainbows1 · 02/02/2018 19:48

Well I thought I got a negative last week. Bloods were 12 on Monday (last week - 22nd).

I was thinking this but AF started on the 12th so I'm expecting it on the 8th or so. Surely it'd be too early. Got a surge (I think) the day after my test looked negative/veeeery faint positive. Something doesn't add up. Unless I'm seeing something no one else is Hmm

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 02/02/2018 20:20

I'll need to ring the EPU on Monday as I couldn't get a hold of them before work

weasledee · 02/02/2018 20:27

Hi everyone, been lurking, trying to decide if we're gonna have another try. (We lost a baby to patau's last year,
followed by a Mmc at 8 weeks)
But I've decided to have 1 last try cause at 41 we really are running out of time! But this really will be the last attempt! Fertile this weekend, wish me luck Grin

Cookiefiend · 02/02/2018 20:34

@UnicornsandRainbows1 how frustrating for you. I'm sure we all secretly hope it's a new pregnancy, but it all seems very soon.

@peachesarenom and @Mimilicious013 sorry you have both had a hard time.

Good luck to those that need it. Nothing to report here.

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 02/02/2018 20:41

@Cookiefiend it does seem a bit too good to be true tbh

Oh wonderful @weasledee!

peachesarenom · 02/02/2018 20:46

Thank you Cookiefiend after all my excitement no AF to report!

Good luck UnicornsandRainbows1 and weasledee

Claire138 · 02/02/2018 20:58

Hi all, hoping I can join in too.
I found out I had a mmc at my 8 week scan on December 20th, baby only measured 6 weeks 3 days. I had an ERPC the next day and seem to be falling back into a normalish cycle so DH and I have decided to start TTC again. Pretty anxious about it all and trying to keep positive but it seems to help to hear other people’s stories and knowing I’m not alone. I’m conscious not to talk about it too much with friends as I don’t want to drag them down but it’s all I can think about! My “best friend” got engaged a few days after I had my ERPC and I tried to be as happy as I could for her considering that I had only just lost my baby but apparently I wasn’t enthusiastic enough and she had a go at me for not being happier for her. So at a time I need my friend the most she’s not there...obvs now no longer a friend.
Sorry for the rant...needed to get it off my chest. Hoping to see a lot of positive stories on here! GL to all!!

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 02/02/2018 21:06

So just got home, had a look at the test I know, I know (I have used the same cheapy brand throughout the last couple of months) and it's definitely dried up darker than the last couple of weeks Hmm

Just shoot me now

keepinghopeful · 02/02/2018 21:13

New nane switched from di626 .... @UnicornsandRainbows1 unless u ovulated earlier!?? If wasnt new preg lines couldnt be darker surely!!???

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 02/02/2018 21:23

One on the top (left?) is from the 27th Jan. One on the white bed sheet is now (today)

TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 16. New Year, new hope for all!
TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 16. New Year, new hope for all!
UnicornsandRainbows1 · 02/02/2018 21:24

Am I being really fucking stupid? I feel like I'm being full-on dense

peachesarenom · 02/02/2018 21:32

Looks so much darker, can't even see the first one! Exciting!

keepinghopeful · 02/02/2018 21:35

Flip me @UnicornsandRainbows1 has to be new preg!! It couldnt be like that otherwise!!! Eeeeeekkkkkkkk 🤞🤞🤞🤞

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 02/02/2018 21:56

I'll see in a few days I guess. This hurts my head so much.

These were taken around the 22nd or so, so I guess there's a difference? >__<

I will stop in a mo. I just wasn't expecting to come home to this massive headfuck

TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 16. New Year, new hope for all!
DaisyMay25 · 02/02/2018 21:59

@UnicornsandRainbows1 how confusing yet maybe exciting for you! Did you say you're calling the EPU on Monday? I'll be looking out to see how it goes for you! Fx it's a lovely twist in your journey!!

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 02/02/2018 22:17

@DaisyMay25 Well there's no way I can't now and leave you all hanging! Grin

Always knew I could make a grand enterance

Cakelaur · 03/02/2018 00:29

@UnicornsandRainbows1 I really hope it is your bfp. What a great way to start fertile February!!

Cakelaur · 03/02/2018 00:31

@Claire138 sorry you’re having a shit time. The last thing you need is bullshit from a friend. Give it time though. In the heat of it all and the midst of grief and things it all seems worse than it is. And give her time to understand how you’re hurting and it’s hard to be super excited about anything when you’re losing a baby. Sending hugs. X

Hortonlovesahoo · 03/02/2018 07:36

Hi all, this is a thread that I was hoping never to come on. I’ve just lost a baby at 10 weeks and had my d&c yesterday. I have pcos so I’m just trying to work out what to do and if there’s anything I need to be aware of before trying again?

Flatwhite32 · 03/02/2018 07:41

Hi ladies just checking in to see how you're all doing. @UnicornsandRainbows1 I have been thinking of you. I so so hope this is a new pregnancy, as the line is definitely darker! Have you done another test today?

MrsMac1489 · 03/02/2018 08:48

Looks like I'm not going to ovulate this month. Even Natural Cycles has rules it out. Just got to wait for AF now. I WANT TO TRY AGAIN! #uselessuterus

peachesarenom · 03/02/2018 08:52

Hi Flatwhite32 How are you? It's 34 days post mc for me and still no AF! Getting annoyed as I want to know which part of my cycle I'm on so that I can join in with things! Is there anything I can do to bring it on do you know?

Hi Hortonlovesahoo I felt that way too! You're very welcome though. I lost mine at about 11 weeks but didn't have a d&c.

The specialist Dr at the epu said I could try again immediately.

I have pcos too. I found the inofolic sachets helped me get my bfp originally.

I'm really sorry Claire138 it really is an awful time. It's doubly tough that is has coincided with an amazingly happy time for your bestie. I suggest sending a little message saying something like: I'm taking a bit of time out to recover and grieve but I really am looking forward to celebrating with you in the future.

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 03/02/2018 09:30

@Flatwhite32 I have but it looks pretty squinty (if there's anything there today) :/

Decided to just wait it out until AF is due

Hortonlovesahoo · 03/02/2018 10:30

@peachesarenom: thank you. I’ve been using a few different things that seem to have helped. I’ll have a look at the inofolic, thanks for the recommendation

Llondbol · 03/02/2018 11:39

Hey @Hortonlovesahoo xx I'm so sorry you're here; I had a D&C at 9 weeks on Wednesday. I don't have any experience of PCOS but everything I've read and been told suggests that for dating purposes, it's sensible to wait for one AF before TTC again but there's no reason why you can't start as soon as you're ready. We have to wait 2 weeks before we can have sex because of the risk of infection with a D&C, but I'm not really feeling up to being intimate anyway just now. I think we'll start TTC after my next AF - I don't want to wait because I'm scared it's going to take longer than the 10 months it took for the pregnancy we just lost. Is this your first pregnancy? X

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