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TTC #2 January BFPs

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Cariad2017 · 24/12/2017 22:45

For all those ttc #2 and hoping to banish those January blues with a new year BFP, this is the bus for you! All welcome. Let’s hope for a flurry of BFPs before the month’s out. 💕💕💕💕

My Stats are as follows:

Age: 35
DS (2 in November)
Cycle: 16 (groan!)
AF/BFP due: 20 January (my Grandma’s Birthday)

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JoJoyorker · 07/01/2018 14:16

I am terrible for symptom spotting and convincing myself it is going to be a BFP. This month in the TWW I've been making a note of every symptom on my app so in future I can look back and see I had it before and it ended in AF so unlikely to mean anything.

Funkyemzie · 07/01/2018 15:22

Thanks guys. I'm actually trying to find symptoms this month but nothing, the only thing I have today is what can only be described as griping. I don't know if any of you have suffered with IBS but it's a bit similar to that kind of pain low down at the front but doesn't come in waves like IBS, it's just constant. Nothing else though. Haha, suppose I bloody am symptom spotting now! 😂 Damn it!

LopeyLopez · 07/01/2018 17:00

Thanks cariad and secondtime.

All this talk of symptom spotting is driving me crazy!! Google has become my Sunday afternoon companion...! Thank goodness I am at work tomorrow to take my mind off it!

11 dpo and weird lower back ache on left hand side - not like af cramps but sometimes descends into them....and I think, uk oh, but then it changes again. No spotting, dizziness, slight nausea, racing heart beat, excited feeling, occasional boob pain but nothing to write home about. One thing that's really odd is I've had a mad urge to clean and organise the whole house the last few days!!! I mean like manic cleaning! Has anyone heard of this?!

I think I feel more pregnant than last month, but who knows anymore. I think I am setting myself up for a fall here but it would be so fabulous if it were true!!!!

I will test tomorrow if no af as I would like to be able to tell the doctor because of the pelvic exam, just in case they would rather not do it....

Good luck all xxx

Peanut1980 · 07/01/2018 20:09

Oh I try so hard as to not symptom spot as I’ve talked myself into thinking I was pregnant so many times and then had the disappointment when I’m not. I do know if I get the heavy painful boobs then I’m preggers but other than that I dismiss everything else.

PeoniesforMissAnnersley · 07/01/2018 20:38

I have heavy large boobs atm - due AF in 5 days tho, so too early for symptoms?? Argh!!!

Peanut1980 · 07/01/2018 20:51

Ohhh sounds exciting!! Not too long to wait. Good luck @peoniesformissannersley xx

Secondtimelucky1980 · 07/01/2018 20:52

Peonies - it's around 5dpo that symptoms kick in for me, so could be a good sign?

I've started to get that aching feeling way down below today which is always a sign of my period and has never been a pregnancy symptom so... but I am only 5dpo so who knows.

Lopey We'll all have everything crossed for tomorrow! What time is your appointment? Do you mind me asking what it is for?

MynameisJune - does progesterone ramp up before your period too? I guess it does?

xx

PeoniesforMissAnnersley · 07/01/2018 21:06

I have heavy large boobs atm - due AF in 5 days tho, so too early for symptoms?? Argh!!!

CatRen27 · 07/01/2018 22:12

Good luck testing tomorrow @lopey! Have fingers firmly crossed for you x

LopeyLopez · 07/01/2018 22:14

Thanks secondtime. Like everyone else though it seems I convince myself I'm pregnant every month, and then the disappointment when I'm not is so horrible...hence I am trying not to get tooo excited.

The doctors app is just the standard follow up for when you go to see your gp after being unable to conceive for a period of time; you can go after 12 months if under 35 or 6 months if 35 or over. I didn't get to go til we'd been ttc for 8 months even though I am nearly 38 😞 because of work and just generally fitting in a suitable app with the right gp around life....

Anyway the first thing they do is check your bloods on days 1 and then 21 if your cycle for things like lh (day 1) and progesterone (day 21), just to make sure you are ovulating. I know I am anyway due to temp rise and many other signs, regular cycles etc, but the doctors need proof and the blood tests give them this. They can also detect lower than normal levels of some hormones too which could indicate a problem, eg due to age.

Next, after the bloods, is pelvic exam and then scan to check for any abnormalities and blocked tubes etc. So I'm onto the exam stage.

You can imagine having to engineer appointments on particular cycle days, also around work and childcare.....! Which is why I am only onto this bit even though my day 1 bloods were taken way back in mid November!!

Next steps oh and me have to go in together; then he has to give a sample; then referred to the fertility clinic to see what is next - dependent on the outcome of all these tests and investigations, obviously. Could be ivf; could be clomid or other drugs for me; don't know yet.

The whole thing will take months which is frustrating and anxiety inducing when you feel you are running out of time....but at least I've got the process started. I wish I had done it sooner but honestly I kept the faith and kept thinking it would eventually just happen...and I still do, strangely enough! I think, well why not?! Although i am older as far as we know there is nothing wrong; we are both fertile and I ovulate every month, and most months our timing has been spot on.

I think I am probably deluded and need to stop thinking this way. Hope I get some answers with the test results tomorrow, or at least make progress with moving to the next stage of the whole long long thing...!

Gosh, that was a long one, sorry!!!

Cariad2017 · 08/01/2018 08:14

Popping on to see whether you have POAS yet Lopey. Keeping everything crossed that this is it for you. Xxx

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Flybynight1 · 08/01/2018 10:41

Lopey following too!! The back ache sounds positive!

LopeyLopez · 08/01/2018 16:48

Gah yet another bfn for me again this month folks 😥

I POAS this morning but already expected the worst as my temp had taken a dive to the cover line upon waking. Now I know why I never test!! So depressing and soul destroying. Upset is not the word. Can't believe how sure I was this month - yet again. Not sure how I can do it to myself month in month out.

Had a really busy day at work so at least that distracted me. Some spotting so will expect full af tomorrow, right on cue.

Drs app is in an hour so will let you know how that goes / for anyone interested in seeing what happens when you go for investigations into infertility, and the hoops you have to jump through...!

LopeyLopez · 08/01/2018 16:49

I really thought I would be coming on here with good news. A pregnancy now and a baby in 9 months would make everything so right for so many reasons. Ah well. Nothing to do but carry on...

MynameisJune · 08/01/2018 16:58

Ah @lopey I’m sorry for the bfn, be gentle to yourself. I know there is little we can say to make it better. Hope the doctor has a plan of action. I know after my investigations the next step was a SA for DH before they’d do anything else but I’d already had a pelvic scan at that point. Huge hugs xxx

Cariad2017 · 08/01/2018 18:03

Sending enormous hugs your way Lopey. Some BFNs are definitely harder than others. I was so convinced last Spring that I’d end up conceiving another December baby (similar to DS) that I was in bits when it didn’t happen. Indeed, it took quite a long time to sink in.

I hope your GP appointment is helpful. Do let us know how it goes. Here to hand hold. Xxxx

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SB2017 · 08/01/2018 18:12

Can I join?

Age: 30
TTC: #2
Cycle: 1
Have 2year old boy
AF is due tomorrow but no signs yet. Fingers crossed for bfp! Had no brown CM yet either which is a good sign I hope

Secondtimelucky1980 · 08/01/2018 19:16

Oh lopey I’m so so sorry. It’s so horrid and I know the disappointment is soul destroying but it’s good you are being tested and are in the system? I hope you can treat yourself tonight or over the next few days.

Xx

Peanut1980 · 08/01/2018 20:06

I’m so sorry @lopeylopez. I feel your pain. I’ve been there so many times thinking and hoping I was pregnant. It is really soul destroying. I paid to do fertility tests privately. I need to wait 5 months now before they test hubbys sperm. I miscarried last year and baby would have been due in March. I was really hoping to be pregnant again by then but I’m really just starting to think it won’t happen.

Dust yourself off lovely and pick yourself up for another month of trying. Good luck xx

RhiBee29 · 08/01/2018 21:20

Sorry @LopeyLopez, hope the dr appointment went well x

CatRen27 · 09/01/2018 11:37

Sorry to hear it @lopey I was really hoping this was it for you. I hope your appt goes well, let us know what happens? You're so so strong not to test early, I wish I could do that..

I caved and POAS at EIGHT DPO. Yep that's right ladies, how early could I get.. obviously a bfn that I'm staring at and willing a shadow of a line to appear... I wish I didn't buy any ICs last month, I literally cannot live in the same house in them without peeing on every last one..

AF not due until the 17th.. in 8 days time.. seriously losing my mind to this ttc lark

MynameisJune · 09/01/2018 12:21

@cat step away from the tests!!!

@lopey hope you’re doing okay this morning. How did the Dr’s go?

albanie · 09/01/2018 12:28

Hello everyone,

Great idea for a thread I feel like I'm driving myself crazy with TTC number 2! Everyone seems to be getting pregnant except me!

I'm 28 and have a 2 and a half year old DD
(Who was a surprise after missing a couple of pills in 2014)
Came off the combined pill in September 2017 and have been trying ever since

Started ovulation tests this month & have been DTD across the whole of my fertile period

I start off the month with being chilled and thinking 'it'll happen when it happens' as I get closer towards ovulation I turn into a Sergeant Major in the bedroom and demand sex every night 😂

My daughter wasn't planned & I was very much enjoying life drinking and partying which is adding to my concern of why I'm not getting pregnant as fast as my lifestyle is 100 times healthier this time round

Any words of wisdom for me?

Thinking of you all...at least we aren't alone Biscuit

Foodylicious · 09/01/2018 12:31

@lopey
Sorry , it's shit isn't it Flowers
In the middle of this too.
OH has am appt to make his 'deposit' next week. And we need to get an appt together to get referred to fc then I'll have the internal checks etc. My bloods were just about ok and I seem to ov fine, if a bit late and sometimes with a short luteal phase.
Every month I try to be more relaxed and less disappointed. Neither happens though.
Going to start taking b6 again to try and improve luteal as last months was only 9-10 days and periods are pretty light and shirt so i just don't think thete is enough lining there.
Going to get some pommegranite juice too!

Foodylicious · 09/01/2018 12:33

Hi albanie

I know this isn't that helpful, but hang in there. 3-4 months isn't that long (Though every month af turns up is very disappointing)

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