STILL TTC your first baby

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Thought someone better start a new thread as we're getting close to the 1000 mark!
Ready - what's your question?

i only lurk cos i 'met' you all on here first when i first started ttc!

so pleased for you, hoow are you feeling??

HUGE congratulations Bella, so pleased for you!!

oooh blimey what a load of smileys!

Scorpio I love that you lurk on here!

Am feeling ..... odd. Almost posted on an antenatal thread then stopped myself. Met a GP today (watching our respective husbands play cricket) and that was good, had a little chat about things, poor woman, accosted by me. I have to cancel a smear test next week, as well (talk about a tempt of fate, setting that up!) But I think the key thing is (and I will regret this if it all goes wrong) I am feeling really really positive whereas last time I really didn't, so that in itself is making me feel even more positive. It is the opposite of a vicious circle!

Much love to you all
x

cityangel and seaside and knew I forgot to say hello to someone before. Hello!!

And ready whenever she returns (you are missed!)

Apologies to anyone who's come across this before but I was just browsing the web and on another ttc website (yes, i strayed, sorry!) I found -

EPS: Evil Pee Stick. The kind that jumps out of your bathroom cabinet and goes "wee on me, wee on me, and all your dreams will come true". Simply, a pregnancy or ovulation test, but known to have the mind-bending psychological persuasive power of a Jedi Master.

Thought that would amuse you, it did me!

ha ha!

Sorry, seeming to be a bit hit and miss in my posting as have to do it from work - dh in IT so our home computer hasn't worked for 2.5yrs now... (he brings work laptop home so isn't troubled by this)

Anyway - some sharing.

I can sympathise with issues when get to edd - I ended up having my last chemo injection following molar pregnancy following mc on my edd - so its not a good day. I was very glad when that date passed and my ds was not born on it - he arrived 6 days later 2 years on. Even now get gloomy sometimes, but then I look at ds and pull myself up - and, despite being accepted for IVF, still managed naturually in the end!

In terms of time taken, ds is 6 yrs on after starting ttc... Got to the top of the NHS IVF treatment list twice and conceived just in time both times - I think I work well under pressure. I do think that the last time resigning from my job and moving on was a good idea, so Gilly - you never know your luck...

I also am a working mum and it works well. I went back 3 days a week, this was OK but I couldn't get enough done so I was bringing work home but not getting paid for it - so my bosses agreed that I could work 4 days in 3.5days which means that ds in nursery for 3.5 days. He loves it and runs in with a big smile every morning (although he runs out with a big smile every evening too) and work seem OK. 4 days seems to make all the difference in terms of management considering me full-time enough to take on the full range of work. Colleague has just come back on 2 days and this doesn't work too well...

Kensgirl - yes, I would like to ttc, but its a bit difficult if dh has a bit of a hang up - not sure whether its the worry following last years' mc, or the thought of the financial burden that's putting him off, but its a bit difficult ttc when he's not cooperating... Anyone else with this problem?

Will try to keep up with this thread a bit better so that its not just every two weeks or more that I manage to post!

Good luck to everyone

HI everyone, posting in haste but in case you've not seen this.
here's a thread about things to do

have just had a look - good thread for novices like me!

Hi everyone!

Bella - hope you are feeling very nauseous... but otherwise fine!

Mistlethrush - hello again, hope you are ok as it sounds as though you have alot on your plate at the moment. Still, you seem to produce the goods under pressure so maybe it will work for you this time. My edd is fast aproaching (1st July), and I had hoped to be pg by then,even though I shouldn't be, so its going to be a difficult time. Still, I hope so soon. I got pg the 1st month possible that time, and now worry that the mc or erpc have caused a problem that is preventeing me from conceiving now.I know its probably unlikely, but I do torture myself with "what if...."s.

nomore - how true is that?? It brightened up my day!!

Gilly - Good luck with the job and the house move. I.m sure your dad will be OK too, it maybe that it takes a little getting used to for him, if he thought you were settled and ttc again, and doesn't quite undestand that the new challenge will help you channel your energy until the bfp arrives. I think your fertility prayers have been working overtime for all us first timers lately, so I hope they have enough power left to deliver for you and the rest of us still here very soon.

hello woodmouse! You have been quiet lately, hope you are Ok! City and Scorpio ( I know you lurk.....) are you both busy? Not seen you for a while...

Pink martini - I like that thread too, but am in danger of trying to do them all......not sure if thats just obsessive overload . I kkep on seeing you on threads I'm reading tto, did you decide to keep your name?

How are we all doing this month? I'm on cd 21 but I don't think I will be this month,as dh has been ill and we had 2 big arguments over trivia , so unlesss we have been extra lucky....nada. Oh well, I can pretend symptom spot until af arrives, and then try a bit harder next time .

(i'm fine thankyou, CD3 and doing this ttc business all over again!)

(Bella - hope you ok )

Hope this is your month Scorpio x

no nausea! (must not get stressed about that!) but veeeery sore breasts and insomnia. and weeing a lot. it's great! (and I'm not being sarcastic)

I've got the insomnia and weeing a lot - don't know what's causing the former (3.15am this morning) but the latter is probably as a result of the large quantities of tea that I'm drinking (very weak I hasten to add) as a result of the insomnia...

Fingers crossed that there is a better explanation for your symptoms Bella!

there is mistlethrush - I'm pregnant! (see below). I'm just hanging around here because I am too much of a wuss to join an AN thread.

Bella - I know - congratulations - just hoping that all goes well for you. Fingers crossed!

Hi all
I'm pretty new to all this TTC and to mumsnet but I would really like to join this thread as I've been following it for a while on and off. Hope that doesn't make me sound like a crazy stalker! You know what it's like when you are just thinking about starting TTC and want to read up on all the info and other people's experiences.
Anyway, have just come off the pill and going to start TTC after next af. On the one hand extremely excited, can't wait, looking forward to being a mum, but on the other am worried I'll never be 'me' again or that my dh and I will never be 'us'. Does that make any sense?!
Lots of people who post on mn seem to be absolutely desperate to have a baby and while I feel like that sometimes, other times I wonder if I will love it or if i'll be one of those miserable, harrassed mothers you see looking exhausted and fed up?
Does anyone else feel this way or am I weird?
Don't get me wrong, fully intend to TTC and really want a family, but also a nervous wreck about all the changes.
Any thoughts?
x

Welcome Treenie! (I saw you on your other thread, glad you came here!)

Thanks Bella. This seems like the best place to be as I think your ttc your first baby is quite different to 2nd, 3rd, etc.
Feel a bit of a fraud as not actually ttc for another month yet, but hopefully this will help prepare me!

Hi Treenie! Welcome! I know just what you mean about feeling terrified, its such a huge decision to conciously make. When we first decided to ttc I dithered and woried as I felt it was a bitl ike losing my identity. Plus, we had just got married, had a name change, and I lost my dad just 4 weeks after we got married, and 5 weeks before I first became pregnant. I felt as though I was going from being me, to being a completely new person, somebodies wife and mum etc. However, once we made the decision to start to ttc, I knew it was exactly the right thing to do, and wanted it more than anything in the world.Even when I found out I was pg I still felt a bit panicky over the enormity of it all, but then love for the baby I was carrying pushed all of thse thoughts out of the way, and was wonderful. Sadly, I went on to lose the baby, but now we are trying again I have lost all the negative felings and just know it is the right direction for my life to take. More than that, it feels completely natural, like it is calling me (now I just sound weird......) Sorry, I didn't mean that to be this long but hope it helps!

How is every one else this fine day?

Thanks Kensgirl it really helps. I'm really sorry to hear about your misscarriage. Let's hope this is the month for you.
Glad to hear you had the same sort of worries.
The way I look on it is that I can't imagine my life with out children so I may as well get on with it. That's not meant to sound flipant but I just think what's the point in hanging about for much longer.
I'm 27 by my dh is 32 and most of his friends have babies. We're standing on the edge of that life stadge so we may as well jump I think. Also I really do believe my friends who are mums when they tell me it's so worth it. They all seem extremely happy.
I'm sure I'll be just like you when I actually get pregnant and that the love for the baby will make me forget all my fears.
Hope so anyway!
x

Treenie - can agree with the sentiments. If it helps now I have ds, I feel 'complete' - hope that doesn't sound strange.

(I know this is probably the wrong thread to be on, long story - followed Kensgirl...)

And yes, sometimes I am that harrassed mother, but other times more than make up for the problem patches.

Its a big decision and a big change, but I knew when I was ready (mind you, it didn't happen quickly, but it did in the end).

Kensgirl - I know exactly what you mean - that's how I felt, although I wouldn't have done eg 18months before starting ttc.

Hi Treenie, welcome to the weird and wonderful world that is TTC no 1.
I totally understand your feelings about having kids, I'm not the most maternal person in the world but I knew I wanted kids one day, so we started ttc in Jan 06 with no joy so far. When dh and I talked about the possibility we couldn't have our own (still only theoretical at the moment) we agreed we'd adopt, so I guess in my heart I do want to be a mum, as I can't really imagine not being one. (Warning: daft logic follows) My reasoning/feeling is that I love my cats to bits, even when they throw up everywhere and bring home dead birds, so how much more could I love a child whether it's genetically mine and dh's or not.

Nomore that's not weird logical at all. What you are basically saying is that deep down you are a maternal person - in that you are caring and want to love and be loved back. I suppose looking after pets shows that and is a precursor to looking after kids. Does that make sense? You're just not earthy mothery - neither am I.
Kind of like your cats, I always think about how much I love my dh so a little version of him I'm bound to adore.
My heart really is in the ttc thing and I don't mean to sound negative. I supose it's a good thing to go into it with your eyes open instead of being to idealistic.
And have just been looking at some fab maternity jeans - the thought of a lovely new wardrobe motivates me no end! x