Thou shall not tell everyone to eat Yams

[juneybean]

Welcome all anti-fertile fuckers! This is our clique for those trying longer than 6 cycles and are pretty fed up.

Here are our Fucked Off TTC Commandments

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
• Thou shall not give advice to other when TTC for one month only
• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
• Thou shall not be offended by strong language
• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

Our spreadsheet which includes what supplements (and potatoes) we are trying in our journey to motherhood.

Haha that sounds like a fab idea @micropig! I am going to carry on as norm until AF starts & then kick in with my research/meal plan!

That's so hard about your DH - it's such a tricky one. Mine is very involved & likes to know everything, but then he thinks every twinge is pregnancy & get's his hopes up! I hate dissapointing him each month.

Sorry to hear your BFN @Mrsjones17!

Welcome to the moaners club @Sej!

Welcome Sej having a partner who works away must be tricky - I thought shift work was bad!

Thanks both.
Yes working say is a total nightmare!

Also, I’ve just read a few threads where people mention leaving your pee to cool to room temp for 20 minutes before dipping an OPK... is that a thing?!

@mamabooksbabynumber2 LOL love the idea of sex waking up my vagina!

Dunno why people think yams are good for fertility, but in Grace & Frankie one of the women makes a lube out of yams lol. Maybe its an aphrodisiac :P

@Sej1981 welcome to the thread, and sorry for your loss.

@lovepinacolada I would actually prefer him to be more involved just so I have someone to suffer with lol :P Nah I am glad he doesn't have to feel the way I do, but it also sometimes makes me feel like he's not overly bothered about having a baby, when its something I really really want. He just doesn't want to get excited before it happens.

@Justwaitingforaline never heard of that one! Do they think the heat affects the reading? :S

My DH is involved but then has go away for months at a time because of work. He is in the military. It's shit. Were on 12 months TTC when he's actually here but because of deployments etc were probably nearly the 19 month mark!! Agh!

It's a toughie for sure @micropig - not sure which is best tbh!!

Feeling a tad ill this afternoon, right on cue for AF! Boo! But - I stil want to use my FRER tomorrow, even though I hate seeing BFN's I think I would be more sad not to use it at all.

How are you doing @Bubblegum89? Haven't heard from you in a while! May just be a day lol but feels like agesssss x

Omg have I not even understood the advice I've chosen to ignore?? I assumed they meant actual yams (with the coarse skin and white super-starchy middle), not American 'yams' (i.e. sweet potato)! Oh well...

Sorry to hear about the AFs, impending or arrived...what a fucker. sej Jones you're amazing for staying sane TTC when partners work away from home

Keen to hear more about the meal plans...not sure I'm organised enough...

Hope you're OK bubblegum

@lovepinacolada the FRER manufacturers are going to be gutted when we all finally conceive!

@MrsJone17 that must be so frustrating with his job. I realize how lucky I am to work with my DH, he can never escape me! He is usually too tired to TTC on weekends though, which is when my fertile period seems to like to pay a visit.

@QuietTime lol oh dear, I am so confused as to which yams we are named after here! I like sweet potatoes, not so keen on the other ones though. Can't say they've ever done anything for my fertility :P

Lol I am not organized at all when it comes to meals, thats one of the main reasons I am trying this as I really need to get more organized!

Haha they definitely are! 😂 We WILL all get there - I know it. This group is definitely due another BFP sometime soon.

My meal plan today includes a roast with no Yams in sight!!

Evening, still a bfn today but no af, stabby pains low down on the right?! Been on a bouncy castle at DS Birthday party today so probably pulled something

I avoided dtd this morning in case it brought on af as if that would change anything.

Lots of babies at the party and lots of ‘about time for another one now’...I’m bloody trying you insensitive knobs!!!

Hi @Sej1981 and sorry for your loss.

It's been a trying day here all round. Inlaws who mean well, but who's idea of support is to suggest a stiff upper lip, and coming out with lines like - well it doesn't really matter etc... which makes me more grumpy.

We are on alternate days dtd from tomorrow as it's CD10 and CM is turning sticky. Annoyingly Groupon have just sent me an offer on Clearblue OPKs Grrr

Sorry to hear you have had insensitive comments today @RhiBee29! Will you be testing again in the morning? Join me!

Aww @Tiredofbeingsotired - sounds flipping awful, but sending good luck for your fertile week!

So, my exercise today has been running up & down the stairs to see if AF has shown her ugly face.

Can I join? Ttc dc2. 18 cycles so far. Initial tests all clear, waiting for appointment at the fertility clinic.

Many many friends and family with new babies. The babies are lovely. The comments from everyone else telling me to get on with giving dd a sibling are really getting to me.

@LovePinaColada yep I’ll be joining you in the morning POAS! I’ve been on knicker watch all day for af. Overthinking the stabby pains now, swinging between af arriving, pg stretching and ectopic pg...why do I do it!

Welcome @NickMarlow, I’m also TTC #2 and pissed off with the “get on with it comments”, had early mc in June so I know all is in working order thankfully. Hope you get an appointment soon x

I'll POAS tomorrow too because I just love to see that line-less white result I get half the comments to get on with having DC2, and half comments like 'oh well it's probably best to just stick with 1' because DC1 has special needs.

Pleased to have morning POAS buddies @RhiBee29 & @Unicornberry! 🤞🤞🤞

@LovePinaColada @Unicornberry I’ll show you mine if you show me yours 😂

@lovepinacolada and @rhibee29 and @unicornberry still no sign of AF here so would also like to POAS tomorrow with you all but I don't have one at home so probably best to do it on Tuesday. Might get two and do one tomorrow anyway. To be honest if AF isn't here on Tuesday and no BFP then i think I will have to call the doctors anyway as I have never ever had a cycle this long before.

Never know though, she could still arrive yet, it certainly felt like it this morning!

Good luck to you all!!! Hoping for BFPs all round!

Join us @micropig! What cycle day are you on? I'd give you one of my FRER's if I could!

@micropig join us! I didn’t get a bfp until 3 days after af due last time even with a FRER!

Oh gosh really @RhiBee29 - that gives me extra hope tomorrow then if I get a BFP!

I have googled itchy nipples pregnancy sign... 😂

@lovepinacolada I'm on day 40 currently, arghh. Usually consistently have 35 day cycles but two cycles ago I had a freak 39 day one, so maybe this is my new normal.

Hahaha hope your itchy nipples aren't bothering you too much (And that its a pregnancy sign). Mines have just become itchy since I read that, and my boobs are seriously painful, but they always get like that pre-AF since the first cycle I started TTC. Maybe its all in my mind!!!

I once got AF and still wanted to test afterwards haha as I convinced myself that it was just really heavy implantation bleeding :P thankfully I saw sense.