TTC after pregnancy loss - Love is the Drug - and lots of vitamins - thread 14

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Shiny new thread. Hugs and supportive chat for those TTC after miscarriage or pregnancy loss ♥️

@LookingAtTheStars89 I also miscarried in August. Found out at the 12 week scan. I should be 23 weeks now. No luck here either. So many women on other forums I am on seem to have got pregnant a month or two after miscarrying. I guess everyone's bodies are different. Doesn't make it any easier though. Sending hugs. Xx

blue that looks great! Eeeeeekkkk!!!! Keep us updated, am so excited for you!!

looking, that will be so bittersweet. Does your SIL know about your miscarriage? If so, she will be very understanding I’m certain. The day we lost our little one, a very close friend gave birth. I left it a few days but wanted to support her and meet her newbie. I told her about our MMC and arranged to go see her-we both wanted to catch up with each other. I had a cuddle with her baby and cried and she totally understood. It was really good, for me, to be able to congratulate her but not have to hide my grief. Maybe speak to your SIL beforehand. It’s so very hard...you must do what feels right for you. Xxx

Flatwhite32 I'm sorry for your loss. Was it your first loss? Not that I'm saying it makes a difference, just curious as it was my first and hopefully my only loss. Aunt Flo was a real teasing bitch after I stopped bleeding, I'm fairly sure I ovulated two and a half weeks after but six weeks after the miscarriage I got a period :-(.

I'm 12DPO today and testing negative so we will see x

Sorry been crap at keeping up but tested negative again today and I’ve hit a wall of depression. I honestly can’t take this anymore. I was supposed to be 36 weeks this weekend. Cannot get pregnant again. Totally hate my body and my life. Calling doctor on Monday but even that feels impossible.

Purplepjs Yeah she knows. She's my husband's SIL but we talk loads. I don't want to shit on her parade so when my hubby wants to go and see the baby I will bite the bullet and smile my biggest smile and if I need to cry then I will excuse myself to the loo lol.

TheGrumpySquirrel -Hugs- I'm sorry you are feeling like that x x x

Oh grumpy, I’m so sorry. It’s just an awful, all consuming, emotional rollercoaster. I’m so sorry you are struggling; it’s completely understandable. When you go to the doctors, please talk to them about how you are feeling as well as fertility things. Are you able to talk openly with you other half? How is he coping? Wish I could say something to make you feel better, but just know that you are not alone. We get it. And I’m sending hugs your way. Xxx

Yes it was @LookingAtTheStars89. I do think losing your first pregnancy to MC really sucks, as you don't have the security of a previous successful pregnancy to fall back on. It also means any subsequent pregnancies will be fraught with anxiety instead of enjoyable. That's what I'm now trying to come to terms with. Baby steps!

I've had some seriously weird bleeding since my MMC. My first bleed was 26 days after the ERPC surgery, and it was so bad I had to take a day off work. I then spotted on and off for ages.

26 days later I got my second period, which was a bit more normal in terms of flow, but was only 2 days long. I then spotted afterwards for days. I also felt like my hormones had mostly disappeared, as I had no AF symptoms apart from bleeding - no sore boobs, no cramps, nothing.

Who knows when this period will show. I ovulated later (I think) than in my previous cycle, so who knows. Pretty sure I'm not pregnant, as I just don't feel pregnant at all. I have felt a bit more hormonal this cycle though - slightly sore boobs, sore nipples around ovulation time, little spot outbreak the other day etc. I'm convinced I'm low in progesterone, but the NHS isn't interested in that after one loss.

@TheGrumpySquirrel going to the doctor is a great first step. I hope your GP is sympathetic, and a good listener. Ask for some tests (even if it's just bloods) and don't leave til you get them. I got bloods done, and I'm going in on Tues (3 weeks later - couldn't get an appointment!) to discuss them. Have you had any counselling? I've heard very positive things about it. Sending lots of love your way. Xx

Thanks guys :) bloods came back normal today.

@thegrumpysquirrel I'm so sorry, it's so disheartening I'm pretty much at the same stage as you. My due date was the 5th December and now I won't be pregnant on that date. It's shit and so not fair And time's ticking by and I'm having to think about when I need to accept it isn't going to happen.

But the reason we care so much is because the prize is so great. It took me 21 months to conceive DD (I know I'm greedy wanting another!) and so many times I wanted to throw the towel in. But i'm so glad I didn't. Statistically, the most likely outcome for all of is is a happy one. And when it all works out, every tear will have been so worth it.

Thanks guys :) bloods came back normal today.

Thank you everyone. @Juancornetto that’s lovely - did you conceive her naturally in the end? There is hope 💗 you are so strong! My due date was 10 Dec so I’m in the same boat, depending on when AF arrives I could be testing again on that date, but I don’t even want to try next cycle tbh. The due date and Christmas are too much for me to cope with and I think adding the stress of another failed cycle is not a good idea for my mental health.

@TheCatsPaws good news on bloods. I’m so sorry for your losses What’s the next step?

@BlueeSpottyTiger congratulations love 💕

DH is sad too and we can talk openly.. my gp is really nice I just need to check if he still works there as IIRC someone said he was leaving, really hope not! He’s been great in the past with my anxiety

@LookingAtTheStars89 I’m sorry for the bfn. It’s so horrid. I hope it happens for you soon x

Squirrel they want DP to do a sperm sample and then they’re going to refer me to a specialist. These bloods didn’t check for clotting issues so they said if these were fine, they’d look into doing that but it would be with a specialist.

@thegrumpysquirrel I conceived her on my first month of clomid. Our consultant said there wasn't much point trying it because I was ovulating fine but I wanted to try it before starting IVF. Not sure if it's what made the difference, or whether it was just sheer dumb luck. I conceived my miscarried pregnancy in 3 months of trying with no Clomid so it's all very confusing!
I kind of feel like I want to take a break from it for a couple of months to stop myself obsessing over Christmas but my biological click is ticking away so I don't think I'll manage that - too worried about missing my chances. Hugs, we'll get there x

Thanks Juan best of luck to you too xx

Calling doctor today. Got to take some action.

13DPO and BFN this morning :-( Am I officially out?? x

@teaandbics I know it was a few days ago that you posted now but just wanted to say I was so sorry to read of the terrible time you’ve had. Sonny is just such a lovely name for a no doubt darling boy xxx I so hope you get some good news soon and I’m sending all the best wishes I can for you xxxx

@looking it’s so hard to see a bfn :( are you sure of your ov day? xx

@grumpy good luck for your call to the doctors today, I hope they can provide some help xx

Fillybee No I'm not 100% sure. My period if it's on a 28 day is three days late but sometimes it's 30 days or 35 :-/ x

Oh man :-( I think Aunt Flo might be knocking at the door. I just wiped and there was dark brown tinged mucous (Sorry tmi)

Agh. Have come back to work today think i felt better and feel really dizzy again.

Maybe not flo? There's nothing there now! I have just read that brown blood can be a sign of implantation? Is that true?