TTC #2 (November BFPs)

[Cariad2014]

If anyone is ttc2 and expecting their AF/ BFP in November then this thread is for you.

Let’s all give ourselves a fabulous excuse not to drink at Christmas!

My stats are as follows:

Age: 35
DS: 2 (in late November)
Cycle: 13 (lucky for some?!?!) I have short cycles so this is month 11 (yawn!)
AF/ BFP due: 2 November

@cariad have you tried pre seed? I’m not feeling hopeful for this month because I keep reading about CM which I didn’t really have much/any of when I ovulated so I’m thinking if ordering some having read the positive reviews.

@kit I use pre-seed, not sure it’s done much so far but anything is worth a shot!

Oh really :( anyone else tried it? It’s quite expensive but as you say worth a try.

Kit - I could have shares in pre-seed at this rate, so I’m not convinced it’s making a jot of difference to our chances this time around. That having been said, I know lots of MNers who swear by it (including some long term ttcers who think it made all the difference) so it’s definitely worth a whirl.

I really hope you get your BFP this month Mynameis but can totally identify with that feeling of knowing it probably isn’t your cycle.

Here’s hoping we’ve both got our sticky BFPs by the end of January. Xxxx

Sorry for the bfn Cariad. I’m due to ovulate this weekend or early next week but myself and oh are both ill with streaming colds which doesn’t bode well.....😐 I guess we’ll try anyway, as we always do....I feel a bit like you do by now: that we try every month anyway and nothing seems to work; I almost expect nothing to happen whatever we do.

And to think of the times I took a morning after pill in my 20s after even slightly risky sex, so scared was I of accidentally getting pregnant! As if!!

Good luck all. Anyone due to test? X

Sending enormous hugs your way Lopey - if it’s any consolation, I conceived DS two days after a weekend spent almost entirely in bed with a horrid cold... I am conscious that I was at a stage of my life where I had the luxury of being able to stay in bed whilst unwell...

That having been said, I’m still semi-convinced all the Benilyn with Guaifenesin I downed may have helped so do run out and buy some if you’re not already stocked up! 😂😂

Long term ttc sucks, not least as it makes you feel guilty about not wanting to dtd when you’re exhausted or unwell (which let’s face it, evolution surely would’t want to encourage!)

I totally identify on the morning after pill front, although having lost count of the number of people I know who struggled to conceive first time round (and by that I mean those who tried for 18 months +) only to get upduffed accidentally/ incredibly quickly second time round, I get the feeling that if I hadn’t been trying it would have happened!

Anyone testing soon? I’m trying to hold out until Monday/Tuesday bring 12/13dpo. Sore boobs but no more so than before af, no other symptoms. I’ve had reflexology and taken vit b complex this cycle so hoping it may have helped.

Good luck all!

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Sorry to hear it was negative Cariad. Mynameis will keep fingers crossed for you. RhiBee fingers crossed for testing on Monday.

Both times I conceived I knew straight away as didn't get my usual sore nipples after ovulation. Or my usual pre-menstrual irritation!

I started spotting on Thursday, period started properly yesterday. Very light compared with pre-DD. I'm sure I have uterine adhesions/scarring which is causing my inability to conceive/early miscarriages. It's often associated with cervical scarring and I know i have a very scarred cervix. I think I will request a hysteroscopy in January after 6 months trying. Although I'm quite sure I'll be knocked back.

Feeling quite down about things at the moment- I know 6 months isn't that long in the great scheme of things but I have been sure for a while there's a problem as my periods are incredibly light compared with before. And then I need to face up to the fact that even if I do conceive I am at very high risk of miscarriage/premature delivery (have a very short cervix- 15mm compared with average of 45mm).

Another glass of wine is in order I think!

Paranormal that sounds incredibly hard. How do you know you have cervical scarring and where does it come from? Please forgive my ignorance!

Sorry for the BFP Cariad

Good luck Rhibee!!

CD16 here and no sign of O. So much for me being worried about early ovulation with DH away! DS has been poorly and bfing like a newborn so I'm wondering if that can put me out of whack again...?

Well I had a bad uterine and cervical tear during my emcs when DD was born. Recent smear test found abnormalities so have had a lot of gynae input which has detected the scarring and shortening.

Sending enormous hugs your way Paranormal. No advice I’m afraid but I really hope you get your BFP very very soon. Remind me, how old are you? If you’re over 35 you should definitely push for tests after 6 months of trying. That having been said, it strikes me as though the amount of assistance on offer for those who already have a child differs greatly depending on where you live and the attitude of your GP. Very little is funded where I live if you already have a child.

Sorry O has gone AWOL Fly. Here’s hoping she rocks up soon before you did of boredom waiting!

That was meant to read die of boredom!

I’m 34. Think I can push for investigations from an abnormal bleeding point of view rather than fertility perhaps though. Think given it’s been caused by complications of EMCS I have a case for it! I know I ovulate, I have a very regular cycle and get ovulation cramps followed by tender breasts and acne in my literal phase.

Fly sudden increase in breastfeeding will definitely interfere with ovulation. Hopefully things settle soon!

Luteal phase not literal obviously!

Can I have a moan, I know you ladies will understand.

There has been another pregnancy announcement in real life but this one like many is accompanied by moaning and complaining of how bad their symptoms are, how sick they, how exhausted they are etc.

I know they can moan, but in a group where they know there are people struggling to TTC just seems a bit insensitive. If they had any idea how shit long term TTC is I doubt they would moan at all.

It just really annoyed me this morning, probably because af is on the way and once again we’ve failed.

Sending enormous hugs your way Mynameis. That sounds incredibly tough.

Some people just don’t know how fortunate they are. I’ve come to realise through bitter experience that as with most hardships in life, people just don’t get what it feels like to experience infertility/ long terms ttc unless they’ve been there. That having been said, there is no excuse for a complete failure to show any compassion.

Please don’t feel like a failure my lovely. I know I’m a good one to talk on this front. You will get there. Xxx

Oh @MynameisJune, you can definitely have a rant on here, we do understand and it is a bit insensitive. Sorry to hear it hasn’t happened this time, chin up and fingers crossed for next month for you. Sending hugs.

Thank you cariad it was the 2nd pregnancy I’d heard this morning, the first being unplanned and then this the second.

I try to be positive but some moments just overwhelm me with ‘why me’ when I know in reality it’s ‘why not me’

You’re right, we will get there xxx

@kit thank you 😊

Mynameis that’s very hard, I hope you are looking after yourself. I’m hearing pregnancy announcements all round too and it’s hard. Although several have come from friends who have been trying a long time and therefore give me hope at least!

On the other hand I do understand the moaning- it’s not sensitive especially if they know your situation but pregnancy can be hard and stressful too. My first pregnancy was high risk (abnormal 20 week scan so scans every 2 weeks), my husband was working away and I had SPD, while working in frontline healthcare- 12+ hour days on my feet. I did feel really miserable! Didn’t moan generally but felt terribly guilty for not enjoying it.

I'm sorry about the lack of sensitivity mynameis Ive found that people are way more blasé about ttc #2, those on the outside anyway. Apparently it's everyone business to be asking when you're going to have a second, to 'hurry up' and assume it's just going to happen because you've already got a DC. Nope. Same anxiety and worries second time, if not more because you're tired and it's more difficult to find the time/energy to BD!

CD17 and finally had a good +OPK. Just as well as I think DH only has a couple of goes left in him...!

Arghh spotting and AF due Thursday/Friday. Negative test :(