TTC #2 (November BFPs)

[Cariad2014]

If anyone is ttc2 and expecting their AF/ BFP in November then this thread is for you.

Let’s all give ourselves a fabulous excuse not to drink at Christmas!

My stats are as follows:

Age: 35
DS: 2 (in late November)
Cycle: 13 (lucky for some?!?!) I have short cycles so this is month 11 (yawn!)
AF/ BFP due: 2 November

I use clue but have just downloaded FF and added my AF data and it gives me a slightly earlier predicted ov date... which may be where we went wrong this month.

HI

Just to let you all know I have been using FF for a year nearly and I’ve only just found out since using OPKs that it’s been predicting me nearly a week earlier than I do.
It does predict AF correctly.

Thanks for that Cupcakesandlove Im gonna invest in some OPKs for the nexr cycle. They easy and obvious to use? Never even thought of need to bother with these (considering how easy #1 was for us) but starting to think I should look more into improving my fertility and chances as I'm nearing cycle 4

Well as predicted AF arrived this avo. Only tiny bit of streaks but my back is in bloody pieces, don't know what to do with myself. Ah Well, I'm off to buy chocolate!!! Fx to everyone yet to poas! X

Sorry to hear that funkyemzie. Welcome to the club of wine and chocolate

Thanks babes, just been shop, chardonnay, Corned beef ash then Ben & Jerrys, nothing finer! X

Sorry to all those who’ve been hit by AF.

In terms of fertility prediction, I’ve never got on with apps but love my Clearblue Advanced Fertility Monitor. It’s not cheap and the sticks are expensive, but it definitely takes a lot of the guesswork out of the equation.

We had our follow up at the fertility clinic earlier today which was broadly positive. She pointed out that although DH’s sperm morphology is poor at 2% his count and motility are very good, so theoretically there should be enough good quality sperm to fertilise an egg. He’s also currently working hard to keep his alcohol and caffeine to a minimum and taking various supplements, so hopefully this will reap its rewards soon.

Our current plan of action is to keep trying naturally for the time being and then make another appointment at the clinic in the Spring with a view to doing an IVF cycle (in all likelihood with ICSI) concluding in June/ July. I figure that by March, we’ll have been ttc for 16 months (which will be around 16/17 cycles).

It feels good to have a plan of action in place. Waiting until Spring is also likely to be better for me work-wise, and I’m reluctant to spend a fortune on IVF when success isn’t guaranteed if we can avoid it.

I’m slowly making my peace with having a 3 year gap between children (I appreciate that the gap may end up being much bigger if it happens at all - I will have to make peace with those eventualities as they arise), and can definitely see the benefit of a late Autumn 2018 baby (for a whole raft of reasons), so we’ll see...

Sorry for the mammoth post!

Sorry been a bit awol lately.

Sorry to all those with BFN and AF.

Congratulations @Secondtime.

Got a 🙂 yesterday and think I’m ovulating today, lots of ewcm, pain on the left and cramps like AF. 3 days earlier than last month on cd16 so looks like the vitamin b6 is working to lengthen the luteal phase for me. Going to do an opk when I get in. Trying SMEP this month, it worked with DS.

Good luck all

@Cariad2014 glad to hear was fairly positive news at your appointment and that you have got a plan. We are also looking like having a 3+ year gap, I wanted to try earlier but DH wasn't in the right place for it (still don't think he's fully there but anxiety is a bugger) and work for both of us was busy, also kind of got wrapped up in enjoying watching DS growing up too.

Re apps I'm using ovia and ff, used them both last time so figured would go with what I know. Have had backache and right lower tummy pain today.

Thanks for your kind words everyone. I have my second blood test results tomorrow which should show whether it is a healthy start. I'll let you know. V nervous.

xx

Good luck for tomorrow Secondtime. I have my fingers and crossed firmly crossed for you.

It must be frustrating having an OH who isn’t on the same page re: ttc Mini. It must be a relief to finally be trying. I really hope you get your BFP very very soon. Xxx

Sorry Secondtime - that should have read “fingers and toes firmly crossed for you!”

Cariad2017 glad to hear you had some positive news today and glad you've got a plan to make you feel more in control of this process of TTC! Fingers crossed for you. If it's any consolation, a 3 year gap will soon close in terms of how far apart they feel in age. Xx

RhiBee29 good luck to you!! Get busy ;)

MiniMinions hope you get that BFP soon! Glad you're both on same page now for you

Secondtimelucky1980 hope the test goes well for you tomorrow. Let us know.

AF due tomorrow, done another test and BFN again. OPK arrived today along with conception vitamins. Hoping this might help (although we've been trying every other night so pretty sure we've been hitting ovulation surely!)

Met my sister today for coffee, her #1 is same age as ours and she's due with #2 in a month. She ended up talking about how easy they were both to conceive. Very hard not to say something a bit bitter but of course so happy for her. Hate feeling like this!

@cariad so pleased you had a fairly positive meeting with the clinic. Sounds like there is still lots of hope for a natural conception. Keeping everything crossed for you!

@second hope everything is good tomorrow

@rhibee happy bd’ing 😉

@mini it must be frustrating knowing your DH hasn’t been on the same page. Hopefully things are better now, anxiety is a shit so I feel for your DH.

@dino I’m sure your sister didn’t mean anything by it. I think people who haven’t had a hard TTC journey think that everyone is the same as them. So annoying though!

Thanks all. We've always said we would love another little one so we were on same page but his anxiety flared up again earlier this year and he's only in the last couple of months admitted to himself that its happening and needs support from drs. I wanted to bring up trying for another at the start of this year but didn't as I was selfish really I suppose as didn't want to be potentially pregnant with a loose cannon and end up tipping him over the edge even more. Am hoping now he's been back to the drs and is accepting it that things might improve.

Hope all those testing get big BFPs soon xx

@cariad, that’s great you have a plan and things sound positive. My fingers and toes are crossed for you!!

@secondtime, I hope you’re keeping well and the results are all as they should be tomorrow.

@dino I think people just don’t think... my sister keeps telling me to relax and enjoy my DD and stop thinking about TTC... she then reminds me it took her 1month/ an accident to conceive her 3 😡 it is hard not to get irritated but I don’t think it’s intended, just thoughtless xx

Yeah you are right, she never meant it horribly just sharing her own experience.

AF arrived this morning. Onto cycle 4

Just resurfacing from AF-land...

Congratulations secondtime!!! Really hope this is a good sticky one for you!

Ems sorry for AF! I had everything crossed for you!

Cariad I'm glad you are getting some positive results and feeling good about your plan my first DS is an August baby so in biased but it was really just lovely having a baby in the nice weather of late summer/autumn and the early constant night feeds felt more do-able when it wasn't dark all the time!

Mini sounds tough. Hopefully he starts feeling better soon

Dino hugs. People don't think a lot of the time!!

Lets be seeing some more BFPs! Who is next to POAS??

@dino sorry to hear AF showed up. Fingers crossed for next cycle.

Has anyone tried acupuncture? I’ve started but DH thinks I’d be better burning the money! Xx

So don't know what's happened to Af... was super light yesterday then last night and so far today there has been nothing! 🤷very unusual for me. Still getting BFN though

@DinoMania how confusing! Fingers crossed AF isn't here and you get a BFP soon

So we had a new experience this morning, whilst DTD DS started murmuring in his room so was a race to DTD before DS started shouting out for us this morning...we managed to beat him haha

Haha oh mini had that too many times now 🙈

Mini congratulations 😂

So according to the flo app I’m ovulating today, I’m feeling crampy and my boobs are tender but no CM, anyone had found this too?