TTC MAY-be, maybe not.... lets try again with the May thread

[yum03creameggs]

Roll call for all interested in the May ttc

Mum03 - cd1 af due 3/5

Jhyesmum, I hope you and your family are ok and coping with your loss, it is awful to lose anyone, even harder being your mum, but from I can gather she is at peace now. Its good she had her family with her in her last moments. Thinking of you x

Oh jhyesmum. I'm so sorry.

I just want to say to jhyesmum how sorry I was to read your post. I'm a newbie to MN but felt I had to post as my mum died after a long battle with breast cancer when I was 17 (I'm now 30) and MIL died last August from bowel cancer so I have some idea of how you are feeling although it affects everyone differently. Look after yourself and don't feel guilty about any of your feelings even if its anger or something else you are not 'supposed' to feel. It sounds like you have a lovely supportive family, they are what will get you through and you will do the same for them. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time x x x

jhyesmum - i am so sorry, and hope you keep your chin up .i dont treally know what else to say

i am cd34 today (WTF) but i have a discovery to ponder....last month i got to cd40 before af came, and i was just looking back through the dcs babys books, and i didnt know before, but it appears my cycles are about 35 days long, they have been before both pgs anyway, when im not using contraception....every time i have a dating scan they put me back 10-14 days too, so i must ov late or something? around cd20? that would also explain when i tried opks that they were negative until cd18/19 when i gave up. so its obvious then that im back to normal now? just dont think i timed it right for cd20, dp was away around that time, but i mau have just caught it! if i dont have period by a week i'll test again.

What does everyone think??

Hi Scorpio - it sounds as if you could be right. I didn't realise your cycles were long anyway but as they are it stands to reason that you would ovulate later. If you are pregnant, it would also mean that you had tested too early before. In my case the opposite is true as my cycles are 11 days shorter so I get a bfp at only 3 weeks from last period. Maybe if you're not pg this month you could try the ov sticks around the time you stopped before? Hoping af doesn't turn up though. It would be great if you could join the due in new year thread. I haven't put my due date on there because I'm still apprehensive. It's 5 weeks on friday and I have to get through the next two before I have a scan. I wish I could time travel

jheysmum sorry to just pop in but i have been watching over this thread but never posted as i have now graduated to the due at new year thread.
Not sure of your full story but just wanted to let you know i lost my mum to cancer 6 years ago. When she left she sent me a gift my ds now 5. Life moves in funny ways but as you on this thread am sending prayers that the same will happen for you.
It's such an odd feeling but it sure got me through the first few years without mum around. x

That's a lovely story lily

tbh plummy i didnt really realise either until i remembered i thought i was late last month. and then i checked my baby books that have lmp dates and previus cycle lengths in, and they're all 35 days ish, the shortest being 33, longest 40.im cd34 today. i am a bit silly! so its stands to reason that i may only be around 14dpo at the latest, if i have a 35 day cycle. which means when i last tested (Sunday) i was only 11dpo at the most!!! oh well, time will tell at the least i could only be 8dpo today, if cycle is 40 days again like last time. weird.....

plummy, i hope the time goes SO fast for you to see your happy healthy baby/ies on the scan and that you have a lovely happy pg.

jhyesmum - just seen your post. So sorry for you all at this time. There arent words to console such a loss but we are thinking of you. lots of love xxx

Thank you Scorpio - I'll keep you posted Fingers crossed for you.

Scorpio, long cycles are a pain cos it takes 6 months to have 4 tries at pg! My cycles tend to be quite long too but I always ov 14 days before af. I read somewhere that the length of the first half of your cycle can vary each month, but the second half (ov to af) will be the same each month, with maybe a day shorter or longer at most.

You can get about 30 ov sticks on ebay for about £6. Start at day 12 and just keep testing! And keep going even after you get a positive, until it goes negative again - you probably ov the day after the last positive one. I got 3 days of positive this month. I'm hoping that means I took a while to push the egg out and not that I popped 3 eggs and am having triplets .

But what am I saying, you might be pg this month. Are you going to test, or wait?

i am the waiting queen

will test in about a week if no af, making me cd41, which will be longest cycle in my memory! dont want to test before because dp is away til monday night and i want him to be there with me if it is bfp.

thanks for your help

LOL at triplets. That would be natures way of getting one back for moaning about ttc . I secretly long for twins but I am being totally naive about it and it must be bloody hard work. My mum has twin siblings (brother and sister) and I am tall and an older mother. Thats means I am more likely than some to have twins, however, I doubt it will happen. If it did I would totally freak out

Dear jhyesmum. Words cannot say anything to comfort you at this time, I am sure. But please at least know that you and your family are in the thoughts of many, many people. Lots of love. xx

Hi Scorpio, hope this helps even though everyone varies a bit. Im normally every 35 days, it was estimated that my normal day to ovulate would be on cd20. I did a pg test on cd30 which was negative, then did a another test cd35 and was positive. So it is still possible for you

Hello ladies,

I'm so so sorry Jhyesmum, words cannot describe how it feels to lose someone so precious. My thoughts are with you and my only advise would be to treasure every single memory with all of your heart..

Hi Scorpio, it certainly sounds like you're back to your usual cycles, which is good. At least now you can be sure where your up to if this months not a lucky one. But like Fruitful says there's still a good chance!

I'm wishing away the next 2 weeks for you plummy!!

Lol at you Frutiful - Popping out 3 eggs, I know have a very strange image in my head!

Well CD1 for me today I'm afraid. Yesterday was CD33, and af reared it's ugly head this morning so I assume that means my cycles are 33 days and today is therefore CD1? Have I got that right?

I kind of knew, I just didn't 'feel' pregnant but I couldn't help that little niggle that there just might be a chance. Well not this month
I was so so gutted this morning and must confess that I had a little cry in the shower.. I feel a bit better now but still so sad. Af arriving this morning has just made me realise how much I so want the chance to be a real mummy rather than a mummy to an angel.

I'm going to go now because I'm making myself cry and someone might come into my office..

Thanks for listening to me waffle on all month..
(Flumpy picks up her things and shuffles off to the June thread)
xxx

Flumpy, your post made me too.im sorry to hear its cd1 - i think we all have a little cry when af omes, i know i do.i normally snot and cry all over dp!!

Your cycles sound like they are around 33 days - so if you get later than 33days on next cycle, you could in theory test if you wanted!

Hi there everyone. I am so annoyed, I have just tried to send a message updating you all and my computer went bugshit!! So here goes again ...

DS was off school again with nasty stomach bug but is much better now. DH very happy bunny as the house has been tidied, dinner was prepared before he got home, ironing done and I was quite relaxed so loads of bding (so I´m also a very happy chappy )

Anyway, sorry not to send individual messages this time but I haven´t yet caught up with all your messages

Should I be moving to June thread?

Yr post made me feel sad too Lots of luck for June. Try and treat yourself to something nice to make you feel better.

That last one was for flumpy.

Jhyesmum - I am so sorry sending you hugs. I really hope you get some happy news soon.

Flumpy huge hug for you too.

Hang on in there ladies, your time will come fingers crossed for you all.

Plummy - there is a parent at ds's nursery who has a dd a bit older than mine, a ds a bit older than mine, and is having twins next week. I too think "ooh wouldn't that be lovely" about twins (particularly since I'd like 4 kids but this might have to be my last pg). But then I look at that lady and quake with fear that it might happen to me!

Oh Flumpy! Phtooey. Ratfinks. And other polite swearing!

Morning all

Fruitful - one of my main fears when I found out I was pregnant with ds was having twins. Mainly because twins are quite common in dh´s family (don´t know whether that would mean we would have twins!) All I could think of was "how would I cope" and having to buy two sets of everything (lol), but now I think it wouldn´t be too bad

(slinks away to think about that last statement!)