TTC #2 (September BFPs)

[LopeyLopez]

A new thread (following on from our July and August ones!) for all those trying for number 2 and hoping for a September BFP. Welcome aboard!

Cariad thanks x it's nice to hear from people who understand. So sorry to hear you're struggling too, you've really been through it haven't you with ttc your first as well. The feeling that you may never have a baby naturally again is really terrifying isn't it?

I really l am hoping acupuncture can offer something. I've had a few tests at GP (lh, fsh, progesterone) and all 'normal'. And obviously we've proved we can conceive... so not sure what else to do other than keep trying for now. We really are dtd enough as well, talking every day throughout fertile window so what more we can do I do not know?! Twice a day through fw ?!?! Think he'd have a heart attack :)

I am also thinking we should set a deadline, e.g. Xmas, and if we haven't conceived just find the money and pay for it to be implanted or even just IUI because time is not on our side at 36 and 44! (And I'll be 37 at Xmas.) I know that doesn't make it impossible but just harder...

Have you had any initial tests or is the first appointment to discuss all of that?

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Ladies maybe I will wait until im 40 as apparently that's when you release a flush of eggs!! Lol....I have to believe that I will get my bfp when the time is right...even if it is at 40. Keep smiling and keep trying. I say this as I continue to remain in Limbo. ..with severe cramping and back ache last night maybe today is the day she shows up.

Baby dust to all you beautiful ladies still waiting xx

Baby bomb last night from a close friend BUT, she credits me with her conception. She'd been trying for a year when I recommended the TCOYF book and she was preggers next month. I also set her up with her husband so I feel a special warm glow that I've helped again.

Now just to apply some of this to myself! 5dpo. Ovuview reckons I'm due BFP/AF next Tuesday but I think that's early, I ov'd late this month.
2nd acupuncture appt this week. The diet she put me on is quite strict but I do feel great from doing it (and lost half a stone already). She seemed an expert at charts, she doesn't think there's anything wrong there so that's good.
DP doesn't really want us to keep trying indefinitely, he's mentioned an Xmas deadline but I think we'll just talk then if it still hasn't happened. I am super grateful for my amazing DD so need to stay focussed on that.

Curlie - Sorry to hear that you're also on Cycle 12. It really sucks doesn't it? CPs can be so incredibly cruel, particularly when you've already been trying and hoping for a long time. I shall be keeping everything crossed that you get your BFP and a happy, healthy pregnancy very very soon.

I also got completely confused with my cycle the month I was due to have my day 21 blood test and ended up taking the test a month later, only to discover that I'd ovulated on say 13 of my cycle as I nearly always do!

Impatient - I can totally identify with the feeling that we couldn't possibly have done more each month on the dtd front (although I have to confess that the last few cycles we've been pretty rubbish at dtding the day after ov (mainly because we're typically so exhausted by that stage) so there may room for improvement!)

The appointment next week is our first private one. My day 3 and 21 bloods came back clear (although my FSH levels were borderline which might suggest that my ovarian reserve isn't as great as I would like). DH's sperm results weren't great (less than 1% normal form) but they've just been re-done so we'll see....

Our GP/ local CCG has refused to fund any further tests so the appointment next week is a private one (which will include a pelvic scan for me to check that it doesn't resemble a car crash down there). My hope is that they'll be able to help us maximise our chances of conceiving naturally (or at the very least tell us what the likely implications of DH's poor test results are, as our GP couldn't even do that). If that fails, I think we'll seriously consider IVF next Summer.

I'm 35 and DH is 37 and our parents, in particular aren't getting any younger. DS is already the youngest of his cousins by quite a margin so I'm also feeling that time isn't on our side.

Here's hoping we both get there very very soon. Xxx

Nubian - Sorry to hear you're still in limbo. I really hope you get an answer very soon. You're absolutely right - we have to keep believing that it will happen.

Ladydolly - It sounds as though you're doing all the right things. Your new diet sounds interesting. What does it involve? I have to confess that my diet was so much better when ttc #1 than it is now. My BMI is still healthy (just) but I know I eat too much sugar and I often stare longingly at my pregnancy-preggo wardrobe wishing I still fitted half the clothes in it!

Meant to write pre-pregnancy wardrobe. The joys of autocorrect!

cariad you've had a tough journey :(
The diet cuts out sugar, wheat, gluten, dairy, alcohol, pork and peanuts.
It's to see which one I have the issue with, I suspect it's the sugar. I had already started weightwatchers a few days before but tbh cut out the above and it's easy to stay in within the point limit! I'm only a few lbs over my pre preggo weight but that's because I was too heavy before!

Nubian I like that, let's do the total opposite and just chill, and wait for 40!

My SIL had her babies at 38, 43 (both IVF) and 47 (natural, total surprise since thought they were infertile!) Another close friend tried for years and finally had her 2 naturally at 39 and 41. So surely we still have hope?

Lady I am really interested in the Acupuncture. I start mine next week. I actually thought I might try 2 for a consultation then go with the one I'm happiest with. Any advice?!

Curlie so sorry about the CPs... that's so cruel on top of everything else x glad you're getting some tests from GP and hope it sheds some light for you.

Cariad love it: "there may be room for improvement"! - I sit for ages after a bfn looking at Ovia and analysing when we dtd, looking at how we can do better next month.

I think we should form our new thread for October: "ttc #2 (October BFPs): we're still here, we've tried everything, but there's room for improvement!"

The grandparent thing has been on my mind too, OHS are 84 and 80 (mine 64). Actually I've started to worry about ME (and OH) being old grandparents in 305+ years time. Never let it be said I can't find something new to worry about.

Hope everyone's had a good day. I've been a bit emotional and fed up but started to look fwd to the next attempt in a week or so, so that's a good sign I guess x

I am keeping my fingers so crossed for people, especially those of you who are on a longer path and wishing your magic baby dust comes soon xxx

I'm already 42 but conceived easily at 37 so don't give up hope!

I did a FRER this morning and it was a BFN but was not fmu. I am 14 DPO and AF due Sun and would have totally given up except i keep feeling nauseous. I don't know if it's my reaction to losing my family member, funeral tomorrow. I've given up trying not to test and just letting myself test whenever I want. Will try and get it under control for next month! Good Luck to everyone still waiting xxx

Wow Impatient babies at 43 and 47 for your SIL. That gives me soooo much hope. Let me know how acupuncture goes xx

Impatient - I'm loving that for the title of the new thread!

I totally hear you on the topic of being a geriatric grandparent myself (and that's on the assumption that DS gets himself into a position where he can multiply and finds that he can, neither of which are guaranteed)...

Sorry to hear you've been feeling emotional and fed up - be kind to yourself my lovely, you've been through a lot in the past month.

I think the hardest thing about ttc is the not knowing. If someone came up to me today and said "sorry love, you're not going to have another DC for another 5 years, but it will happen", I would be delighted and I could just get on with my life in the meantime but the not knowing whether it will ever happen and that feeling that everything is on hold until it does is so so difficult.

Hedgehog - Your symptoms sound promising. I shall be keeping everything crossed for you.

I hope tomorrow's funeral goes as well as it can do. I shall be thinking of you.

Ladydolly - That diet sounds hardcore but I'm so glad it's working for you. Xxx

Thanks @Cariad. Hope you get good news soon x

Sorry for your loss happyhedgehog xx hope for some good news for you if af stays away on Sunday, Nausea was my first symptom both times I've conceived and your test may just have been too early yesterday fingers crossed x

Cariad you're right, it's the not knowing & the fear it may never happen. If I knew it would for sure I'd relax!

Trying to get in at the GP this morning. I want the AMH test and will have to pay for it if they won't do it... which I'm sure they won't but worth a try.

Next step I suppose is OH sperm test although I don't think he would at this stage. He sees the fact we had a baby in 2014... (and the fact he had tests in 2004 which showed high count and motility, he has an older child who's 12 who was IVF and the problem was not him) ...and of course the fact we conceived 9 weeks ago, as proof there's no problem on his side.

I believe in men any decline in fertility doesn't happen with age in the same way it does with women, but I'd still like to rule it out. If it doesn't happen this month I'll have to broach the topic I think.

Have woken in absolute agony with af cramps, rubbish start to the day!

Have a good day all x

Joining although might be brief as I test at the weekend. Cycle 1 , ttc #2, and I already remember how much I hate waiting!

Thinking of you today hedgehog.

Impatient and cariad - hoping for good news for you both soon.

Sorry some of you are having a hard journey ttc, I hope you all get your bfps soon. It's so hard not to stress over it and agree, if somehow you could know for sure that it will happen at some point, it would make life so much easier!

Hope funeral goes ok @hedgehog x

Sorry for af @impatiently hope the cramps have eased

11dpo for me, I think! Pre-DD I'd be due on today but don't know how long my cycles are now so will hold off testing, maybe I'll pick one up tomorrow if no sign of af

Been sat at work dreaming of maternity leave all over again

Any sign of af @nubian?

Hi. I'm hoping I could join here as well. 4th cycle trying, but up until now I have not used anything to track ovulation. This month I am using opks and was planning to temp next month if nothing happens.

I think I might have got a positive opk today and will hopefully be testing on the 27/9.

We are at it like rabbits this month. Fingers crossed it will stick :)

Haven't posted for ages. Tracked cycle meticulously and have now had AF after 20 days. Last month it was 17. OPK picked up positive on day 8 and ultrasound confirmed on CD10. Luteal phase is under 10 days and I feel upset

Just caught up on lots of reading on here and nice to red some of the stories....sorry that others at having a hard time, but I do feel supported that others take a while to conceive too!

I'm somewhere between 9-11 dpo (unsure due to messed up o day on ff due to crap temps!) and feeling nauseous with no spotting as yet.

Dare I get excited???!!!!

These opks are from today and yesterday. First time for me so I am not really sure when which one would mean positive. I'm pretty sure it's one of the two at the top.

What do you think?

I think the second one down looks the most positive. I'm not using opks at the moment, but I seem to remember from last time that the darker the line, the closer to ovulation you are.

A girl I know announced she's pregnant today. She got pg first cycle trying, and she did with her last baby too. Makes me feel very envious although I am pleased for her too.
Cycle 2 of ttc2 for me, cd8 so not ovulated yet. Have got conceive plus this month as we need to use something and I read Vaseline etc isn't good for conception.

Dragons how long is your luteal phase? Mine has always been 9/10 days and we conceived dd with that. My acupuncturist said lp should not matter.

Lopey we are at a similar place I think I'm 11dpo, bought a test on way home from work so might use in the morning if af doesn't come over night

Mondray, I think the second one looks near enough positive

Freezing, it's so hard to hear how easy it is for some people to get pregnant. Felt like I was constantly baby bombed first time round. We started ttc a few months before my best friend, she ended up pregnant and having the baby before we got our bfp

Thank you for the well wishes @beansprout @impatient and @elephant. The funeral was so hard but so lovely. All the family followed the coffin in and my dad did a lovely eulogy.

I got another negative FRER this morning and given AF now only due 3 days away assuming it's v v unlikely I'm pregnant as it says their accuracy is over >99% 3 days prior. Also did lots of reading like a madwoman last night that says the nausea doesn't normally kick in under 4 weeks so guessing maybe it's my reaction to grief (first time I've lost someone this close to me). Still watery mouth phase this morning though. Can't seem to make myself give up last sliver of hope til AF dashes it.

Welcome to the newbies. And fingers crossed for @lopez

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